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My ex and i worked for the same company before i switched over to my present company(about 5 months ago). We finally ended the relationship about a month ago and she has been stalking me ever since and reminding me of how wicked men like me will never know peace, cursing and even sometimes threatening me just because i felt we ain't compatible to hit the alter. Now to the crux of the matter... When the going was smooth, i was helping her source for jobs in my present company and everywhere else as she works in an isolated area and the work environment not conducive for women. Just today, i got a mail from my Operations Manager that I should recommend my ex-colleagues or anyone i know is competent to fill in an open position(same position as mine) in another city entirely. Am in a confused state right now as i don't know if i should recommend my ex or just pass the baton to a neutral person.

Please i want candid advise from fellow nairalanders who have experienced same or similar situation before. Do i help her get the job and this might mean that our path will still cross, or do i just recommend another so that with time the pain in her heart will heal permanently because am sure she still wants me.

no ...lol

To be candid, I will advise you look for someone neutral to man to position.

phrancky:
My ex and i worked for the same company before i switched over to my present company(about 5 months ago). We finally ended the relationship about a month ago and she has been stalking me ever since and reminding me of how wicked men like me will never know peace, cursing and even sometimes threatening me just because i felt we ain't compatible to hit the alter. Now to the crux of the matter... When the going was smooth, i was helping her source for jobs in my present company and everywhere else as she works in an isolated area and the work environment not conducive for women. Just today, i got a mail from my Operations Manager that I should recommend my ex-colleagues or anyone i know is competent to fill in an open position(same position as mine) in another city entirely. Am in a confused state right now as i don't know if i should recommend my ex or just pass the baton to a neutral person.

Please i want candid advise from fellow nairalanders who have experienced same or similar situation before. Do i help her get the job and this might mean that our path will still cross, or do i just recommend another so that with time the pain in her heart will heal permanently because am sure she still wants me.

I don bend my head, wash it very clean..

Pls assist her abeg... Life is too vast for sentiments... She will respect u more...

Get some other person to do the job.

Yes you can as far as it's going to be in another office. After that, then you should call her and let her know what you just did so she could get set for any call and above all see that you have no evil intentions towards her.

Yes and No

In all, follow your heart.

Or go for a neutral person by helping any nairalander who seeks job.

Recommend her for the job, that will show her u are not as bad as she's trying to make u feel

Guy don't. She doesn't deserve it. Find someone else. Someone neutral would be better.

If ur man enough to set boundaries...don't see why u shouldn't. Ur helping a human being.


U said there's bad blood? I think u should let her be. Helping her could give her ideas and she'll complicate ur life.

Abeg if the job is well paying, pass it on to me. Na me need am pass

Help her. After all is in different location.

You don't want to do that, women can gain influence in a company easier and faster than men (because of male bosses) . Since you can't get along, she will take revenge and try to have you kicked out. If you want to help you should look for another company that can take her. Your case is in the same category with having a girlfriend in your working place, if you fall out the guy will most likely regret it. Again women can gain influence in a company quickly, even a lowly placed staff.

not bad ..u knw d right thing to do is to help her, u just need reassurance from us dat it is not bad to help her.

thank God it's nt d same location.

Abeg recommend any nairalander jor..plenty of us day way need job badly

Op y not recommend me instead. Me 2 dey look 4 job oo

NOOO,

Bros, the heart of a woman is darker than that of d DEVIL, except my mum's + my sisters and my aunt.

I smell office sex

if she is competent for the post, recommend her. she will be in another state.

Since you said she won't be in the same office as you why not help her?




You once loved her