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Over the past ten years, I always had a man by my side. I was always in a relationship.
I was in a relationship for eight years before my ex and I got engaged, then broke it off because of the distance—my ex’s reason.

Not long after that I got into a two-year relationship with a man who loved, yet cheated on me. It was a messy breakup.
So after ten years in relationships, I found myself alone.

I’m 31 and single!

Recently some questions have bounced around in mind: What happened to me during those years? What did I get, gain, achieve in these two relationships? Why am I now alone? What will I do? How do I do things by myself?
Now what? Where to start?


I started to panic, to hyperventilate—until I found this quote:
“Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.”
Yes I am scared. I was so used to sharing everything. I was so used to having someone around.

But the reality is you are unique, and if you can’t enjoy being single, how can you enjoy being with someone else? And this is why you must do away with these self defeating thoughts at all cost

1. Everyone else is coupling up – i must be doing something wrong.
2. All the good men are taken.
3. If I were sexy, hotter, smarter and more interesting, I’d have someone by now.
4. Am not significant.
5. I’m too picky- I should just settle
complete post on: http://www.syfur.org/2015/08/5-self-defeating-thoughts-of-single.html

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For the women whose time has expired

can you be explicit about the word expired @donholy28

very true. They also say... Guys will want me only for my money. (thats the rich ones)

syfurian:
can you be explicit about the word expired @donholy28

those who formed so much that they didn't see him walk past

So true! The earlier they get rid of this thought, the better their life would turn out.

CC: Lalasticlala, Ishilove, Seun !! Do the needful and move this to front page na! save our single ladies from self deafeating thought