So much has been said about sex in recent time, particularly on this forum why don't we channel our research efforts to more productive and creative issues than sex sex sex, little wonder why the number of paedophiles and cases of rape is on the increase.

coolsix:
93.75% Of Average Nigerian Male Youths and Adult in a relation tend to request for sex and desire it 2x more than the female!

Its a fact that Many Hypocritical males on this forum would want to deny!

The males on this forum claiming 'Ladies ask for sex' .... a simple question, the first Lady/Woman/Girl you had sex with, did she ask you for it? or you asked her? The answer to the questions says it all

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Back to topic:

Now, Sex before Marriage is Illegal, Sinful, Immoral and Wrong! No matter how much you love your self! Which is not love because if you love somebody you would not make the person commit sin!!

Sex is for Married people!!!!

WORD!
God created sex to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage ALONE.
Believe it or not, PREMARITAL SEX IS A SIN. It has not just physical, emotional but also, eternal consequences.
NO FORNICATOR/ADULTERER WILL GET TO HEAVEN!

prettydiva89:
Yes we can

I love the irony.

bamac:
It is a long one, please bare with me..

Through conceptual clarification i could deduce that "relationship is the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other.
It is also a romantic or sexual friendship between two people: the way in which two or more people or things are connected".

Sex on the other hand is the "physical activities in which people touch each other's bodies, kiss each other, etc. :physical activities that is related to and often and often includes sexual intercourse".

Many youths of today have likened relationship to be sex which shouldn't be so.

Relationship and sex might work hand-in-hand but it shouldn't be incorporated at the wrong time.

The opportunity for courtship is being abused on a daily basis just because we try to make relationship work through sex.

So many young girls have involved themselves in premarital sex which has led to unwanted pregnancy which some will abort while some will be forced to give birth at a tender age.

Everything in life is by stage. Yes, it is not possible you wake up one day and conclude that you want to get married without having someone you are dating that you have known for some months.

But the fact is that relationship and sex are two different things that should only be linked at the appropriate time.

So many men made their lady believe that if the lady did not have sex with them then she doesn't love them.

See, if you want to love, nobody will stop you from loving anybody, but don't pretend to love when your ultimate goal is to get under her.

Don't make her believe that sex makes relationship stronger.

Premarital sex doesn't make any relationship stronger, it kills the relationship especially when the intention is not for marriage.

Even at a stage, couples that didn't involve in premarital sex get tired of having sex with each other, then if that is the case, are you not making it a bit faster to lose thirst for sex?

I think ladies of this generation should have become wiser enough to decide about their life earlier than 18years.

Some men will only have sex with a lady ones and that's all. You should be able to keep your precious self away from the beast in men.

Many men out their are no more interested in staying with a woman for so long, they will tell you they don't like eating a particular food twice but love to eat different kinds of food.

They will come to you and give you all the sweet words and you will gladly accept them and even release your body to them like sheep without Shepherd.

You are the only one that can destroy yourself. You only go into wrong hands if you did not say yes to the right person.

During courtship you are free to decide if you can cope with each other or not, and you can choose to continue or discontinue your relationship.

But now a days, ladies find it difficult to leave the beast they are into relationship with simply because they have engaged in sex which has made her emotionally attached with the man.

That way, it will not be easy for her to say no when she should have said it.

Some men change immediately they have sex with their lady. The sex will automatically be an eye opener for them, they will want to explore more, thereby exposing them to any other things in skirt.

I am not saying it is not good to introduce sex in your relationship, but it is necessary to introduce it at the appropriate time to avoid the series of disadvantages associated with it.

It makes relationship stronger but this is for the couple and perhaps serious minded couple-to-be. Biblically it is not for those who are not married, in fact, it is a sin.

Some men are only interested in getting under a lady, but how will you decipher the true man from the fake? You can be safe if you keep your precious part till the right time.

Those that are even married can get divorced anytime let alone those that are not.

Though, some ladies are the cause of their own fall. They cannot do without sex, and so many reasons got them so attracted to that which we might not blame them for some, while some are due to covetousness and love of money.

Sex in courtship can mar your marital life more than it can make it.
Be wise and never give yourself room to regret your impatient.


Please your comments, criticism, likes and share will only encourage me, i will be so glad to see them coming...

http://bamisepeters.com/2015/08/sex-will-make-your-relationship.html

well you can write what you feel is ok but in today's world sex before marriage has alot to do after marriage. Sex has destroyed alot of marriages. So need to know if you can stay on marriage with the person you are dating by trying out what you will be doing throughtout your marriage live with him/her before taking a decision to marry to avoid the unexpected.

Op. Having gone through your post, I think I get your point. Having said that, you didn't stand firm on your initial point by suggesting appropriate time to introduce sex into a relationship. Is there any manual to operate relationship? What time is the appropriate time? I know you didn't mean after marriage because you post says so.

The truth is that you can't eat your cake and have it back principled. Most people just post comments to deceive themselves and others, though few refused the trend of buying into societal make-believe concepts. A typical example is this particular issue here.

A lady who is not a virgin, who had been in sexual relationships with different guys suddenly sees a serious minded guy and she declares no sex before marriage quoting the scriptures as her back up. Who is fooling who?

Who says it's a male's duty to demand for sex? Either sex could initiate the move. Or better still, a complete abstinence from sex and emotional relationships could be the answer. But, I strongly suggest we tell ourselves the truth and build a better future for our children than throw the truth under the bus.

On a personal note, the issue of sex before or after marriage is not an issue at all, it all depends on the two parties involved. I can wait as long as it is not forever and their is understanding. Sincerely, I've had my own fair share as well, hit the link and see for yourself.

https://www.nairaland.com/2368628/complicated-girlfriend-future-wife-frigid

Most people thinks that money equals sex, that the fact that you help out the opposite sex with money means that u re entitled to hv sex with him or her cos most comments i hv read states dt and that is sickening.
Does it mean that as i have a sponsor helping me with money like my dad or my brother or a relative that am supposed to hv sex with them to show appreciation? Some pple might say that am talking trash or been unreasonable bt i dnt mind.Am nt saying u shldnt hv sex or anything cos thats entirely ur decision to make and its absolutely none of my business but pls ladies and gentlemen dnt make it look like an entitlement because i still think that u can give someone money without expecting anything in return especially sex.

Feel free to disagree

Nice write up

HeartRobber:
Truth be told
Sex is good in a relationship, it nurtures relationship

Yea,it is_but nt 4 sme relationships

HeartRobber:
Truth be told
Sex is good in a relationship, it nurtures relationship

Yea,it does_but nt 4 sme relationships

HeartRobber:
Truth be told

Sex is good in a relationship, it nurtures relationship

Outside the right context it doesn't. sex without a commitment of love (marriage) will cause distrust and many other vices

It is the nature of men generally to request for sex.women should learn to say no to sex and also learn not to request or accept generous gift from men,else you will pay with sex period.

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Stephansmily:
Oh..I love this




Can't stop reading it



I believe in Chastity..

"I believe in Chastity" is 1 tyn " I practice Chastity" is another Tyn

steppin:
Sex dey get appropriate time?

question for the gods

ghostdvirus:
U can only listen to dis type advice only if nd only u never have sex before
But I don do am before nd I can't stop it,I ll share this link to my acclaimed virgin friend

yeye fowl na him u be

Atlantian:
bla bla bla bla bla. Now every brainless mofo is a PhD holder in sexless morality. Whoever indoctrinated you that sex at certain age is wrong, is the cause of your barbaric reasoning. And for the writer to tag men as beasts and the ladies as innocent is a very biased sense of reasoning. Most sex these days are initiated by ladies, at least to my knowledge and experience.

This is 2015 AD, not 345 BC. No one has the rights to dictate how another should use his or hex sex organs.

different blows for different cockz

MissAssy:
Most people thinks that money equals sex, that the fact that you help out the opposite sex with money means that u re entitled to hv sex with him or her cos most comments i hv read states dt and that is sickening.
Does it mean that as i have a sponsor helping me with money like my dad or my brother or a relative that am supposed to hv sex with them to show appreciation? Some pple might say that am talking trash or been unreasonable bt i dnt mind.Am nt saying u shldnt hv sex or anything cos thats entirely ur decision to make and its absolutely none of my business but pls ladies and gentlemen dnt make it look like an entitlement because i still think that u can give someone money without expecting anything in return especially sex.

Feel free to disagree

ofcos yes you can give someone money without expecting sex in return, i guess ppl r just like that this days, they want to give only wen they know they can get from you... Family is out of it...

Abelsconcept:
Op. Having gone through your post, I think I get your point. Having said that, you didn't stand firm on your initial point by suggesting appropriate time to introduce sex into a relationship. Is there any manual to operate relationship? What time is the appropriate time? I know you didn't mean after marriage because you post says so.

The truth is that you can't eat your cake and have it back principled. Most people just post comments to deceive themselves and others, though few refused the trend of buying into societal make-believe concepts. A typical example is this particular issue here.

A lady who is not a virgin, who had been in sexual relationships with different guys suddenly sees a serious minded guy and she declares no sex before marriage quoting the scriptures as her back up. Who is fooling who?

Who says it's a male's duty to demand for sex? Either sex could initiate the move. Or better still, a complete abstinence from sex and emotional relationships could be the answer. But, I strongly suggest we tell ourselves the truth and build a better future for our children than throw the truth under the bus.

On a personal note, the issue of sex before or after marriage is not an issue at all, it all depends on the two parties involved. I can wait as long as it is not forever and their is understanding. Sincerely, I've had my own fair share as well, hit the link and see for yourself.

https://www.nairaland.com/2368628/complicated-girlfriend-future-wife-frigid

the appropriate time is when married, but what will you say of a lady that has been Disvirgined before she met another person? One thing i have come across is that once a woman has lost her virginity it will take God's grace for her to stay away from sex for a long time so also men. The right thing is just that if those that are grown up have done it wrong those that are coming up should be taught on how to do it right.

bamac:
the appropriate time is when married, but what will you say of a lady that has been Disvirgined before she met another person? One thing i have come across is that once a woman has lost her virginity it will take God's grace for her to stay away from sex for a long time so also men. The right thing is just that if those that are grown up have done it wrong those that are coming up should be taught on how to do it right.

Op, am glad we understood each other and we're heading in the same direction. Like you rightly pointed out that a deflowered lady and man may likely engage in sex every now and then without the infilling of the Holy Spirit. I am sure you answered your question yourself.

The way forward like you also agreed with me is that we should admit our shortcomings and try to leave a decent life henceforth to reflect upon upcoming generations.

Op, however, I may like to disagree with on the appropriate time being after marriage... But my reasons may lead us out of context. So I rest my case and just watch.

This post is so on point. I once heard of a man who told another man that "he doesn't trust his wife." According to him, "before I married her, I have been sleeping with her. So, I do not trust her that she can't sleep with another man."
Ladies, a word is enough for the wise!

you are too much for this wonderful message.

Stephansmily:
Oh..I love this



Can't stop reading it


I believe in Chastity..

But your signature sounds vile

Abelsconcept:


Op, am glad we understood each other and we're heading in the same direction. Like you rightly pointed out that a deflowered lady and man may likely engage in sex every now and then without the infilling of the Holy Spirit. I am sure you answered your question yourself.

The way forward like you also agreed with me is that we should admit our shortcomings and try to leave a decent life henceforth to reflect upon upcoming generations.

Op, however, I may like to disagree with on the appropriate time being after marriage... But my reasons may lead us out of context. So I rest my case and just watch.

i think i can also disagree as per after marriage but so many things might just make us deviate from the morals i op to bring out of the post if we lay emphasis on that, i know you overstand what am talking about.

prettydiva89:

Yes we can

my dear,life would have been better of,only if...I've seen so many cases on this particular tread, live, not that themsay.mayb some can but 98% can't not in this century mayb next or in d 18th or 19th century.

Abisoyeodebunmi:
And i no won call lalasticlala and Ishilove plus farano and Rocktation before o

now dat u've said it, what will apun?

Freshboi:

OP forgot his medicine

Are you a virgin?

1nc u're born again nd u dnt go back to d world then u're a new creation in christ

steppin:
Sex dey get appropriate time?

if u ar well educated about s*x, u'l knw apply term nd condition. Shey na evry toto u dey plug ur prick into?

steppin:
Sex dey get appropriate time?

if u ar well educated about s*x, u'll apply term nd condition. Shey na evry toto u dey plug ur prick into?

Thiz writeup touched my heart and soul



Yessssss i can feel it....


Op welldone, keep changing lives

Godskidmidas:
But your signature sounds vile

Yh yh..ah know

nairabetguru:



"I believe in Chastity" is 1 tyn " I practice Chastity" is another Tyn

Dats true