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KanwuliaJara:
Meaning what?
To take care of young woman and to take care of A GRUMPY, OOOOOLD WOMAN na de same?

If you dey find "slave" to buy, una nor sabi wia "baby farm" dey?

The girl is smart o!
Never start what you can't finish!

ismart:
I just had to comment because I realised that there are so few "wife" around here and it's just complete waste engaging folks.

There seem to be a misconception in my writeup.

I didn't imply that she should become house help automatically. What mean is that she seem to lack complete home maintenance... The like that won't even collect a broom from her MIL if she saw her sweeping.

Come on people, is this how you guys treat your MIL or would like to be treated by your DIL?

There is what is expected of a wife to show she has proper home training. This girl is lacking in that department completely.

But since people here don't see anything wrong with such attitude, I do hope their future DIL treat them in same manner and even give them plates to wash or clothes to wash and fall back on bed watching movie. By then they will understand better.

To those who have been defending her act, do you go to your MIL's house, wake up in the morning and do absolutely nothing? You people should know that someone is reading what is posted and you might passing wrong message.

Can you swear that you have NEVER done anything in anyway to show your mother in law that you are well brought up or where you came from they don't have elders there?

Jehovah!

I rest my case.

ismart:
I just had to comment because I realised that there are so few "wife" around here and it's just complete waste engaging folks.

There seem to be a misconception in my writeup.

I didn't imply that she should become house help automatically. What mean is that she seem to lack complete home maintenance... The like that won't even collect a broom from her MIL if she saw her sweeping.

Come on people, is this how you guys treat your MIL or would like to be treated by your DIL?

There is what is expected of a wife to show she has proper home training. This girl is lacking in that department completely.

But since people here don't see anything wrong with such attitude, I do hope their future DIL treat them in same manner and even give them plates to wash or clothes to wash and fall back on bed watching movie. By then they will understand better.

To those who have been defending her act, do you go to your MIL's house, wake up in the morning and do absolutely nothing? You people should know that someone is reading what is posted and you might passing wrong message.

Can you swear that you have NEVER done anything in anyway to show your mother in law that you are well brought up or where you came from they don't have elders there?

Jehovah!

I rest my case.

ismart:
na u know. it's very obvious you not willing to contribute anything to a man... you want to boss him around and put him under your armpit. I pity the mumu wey go marry you. A smart guy will never give you the chance...

KanwuliaJara:
Meaning what?
To take care of young woman and to take care of A GRUMPY, OOOOOLD WOMAN na de same?

If you dey find "slave" to buy, una nor sabi wia "baby farm" dey?

The girl is smart o!
Never start what you can't finish!

marshalcarter:
If its dis ur 6ta inlaw dey wanna kick out...m strongly behind you....but from the story i dnt see who dey are kickin out..

TIDDOLL:
Buh seriously bro,their affairs Is non of your business..WTF.He's Just your COUSINE..just do yur best for your aunt nd bounce to yur cave!!....i rarely give a fvck bout ma cousines shit.....not with all diz hatred nd witches sniffing around.

ismart:
I swear, I did not add nor subtract from what I explained. I wish I had known, I would have made a voice not of my convo with my aunt.
The girl does nothing! absolutely nothing. she just sit and receive money from my cousin. My cousin is trying t be a good guy and take good care of her but you sef reason am na... I know you find it hard to believe.; i didn't decide to make vow of not giving a woman complete right even if she had 100 kids for me for nothing... what I mean is that I can not be manipulated.
My aunt is an extremely good woman and a mother.
Part of the reason why I had to stay with her for that 2 months was because despite the injury she had, she followed me to go see where her sister(my monther) was buried. I even told her to rest awhile. she said no that we should continue. I was touched that day I swear.

KanwuliaJara:
After all this noise, is the husband-to-be complaining?
If not, abeg carry ya mouth go bury for evil forest!

Lessons learned: NEVER EXPECT FRIENDSHIP OR LOVE TO BE RECIPROCAL!!!!

KanwuliaJara:
Meaning what?
To take care of young woman and to take care of A GRUMPY, OOOOOLD WOMAN na de same?

If you dey find "slave" to buy, una nor sabi wia "baby farm" dey?

The girl is smart o!
Never start what you can't finish!

ismart:
Why are you women like this? Why make it seem like the girl is unjustly being attacked? I am getting the vibes from y'all on here and it's really pathetic.
You guys are women and remember you will eventually grow old. Would you be happy to see your son in the hands of a woman with bad manners? Is this the kind of woman you want for you son? A woman that can't love/respect your family? A woman that is only there because of money she is getting?
Nobody is asking her to come and become a slave but there are responsibilities expected of daughter in law.
At least when she delivered, responsibilities of mother in law was well taken by my aunt.
So many men are reading your comments here and I am sure they are taking notes.

Tufia!

Naff24:
Wait, do u really have a mother
Do u pray for a lady like you to treat ur mother dis same
Do u ever pray for a happy home

I don't see any big deal in what they expected of this said lady, and am sure if it was her mother she won't dare ignore her a bit.

Well, I can see you are the type that always pray not to meet your mother- in-law alive.. And so shall your daughter-in-law will not meet u alive as well.

NB: ain't cursing you, but it's just a KARMA
You shall definitely reap whatever you sow.. Be it good or bad!!!

freecocoa:
OP I totally get your angle, lmao@ "jehovah" but then you are going about it the wrong way.

The lady is not really a nice person but I don't think it's fair to demand that from her, kindness or niceness is something one decide on their own to give, if your cousin knows she's not kind and still decided he wants her, then that's his business, you have no place saying she is supposed to be kicked out.

Let your cousin make that decision on his own.

ismart:
na only you and a few here get sense.

As for the title, I had to be controversial to get response. I spent close to 10 minutes thinking of a more befitting title

you see it made front page right? When you know how nairaland operates, you can make front page 100 times.

It's been long I made front page so I felt I have to wave my wand again.

just see the kind of women so many men are housing....

You can bring people out of their shells by creating what doesn't even exist and see them go crazy.

Sometimes I create thread with different monikers and unfollow while folks argue their time away.

God bless you cocoa... You have never dissappointed since I knew you here.

Expect another controversial thread in a few days time

Chillisauce:
Diary of an angry black man

The hustle is real. OP is probably a 45yr old man who is still eating from hand to mouth and is angry that the small girl is driving car even before marrying their money bank.

Girl had a surgery
MIL had a surgery

Girl still nursing a baby
MIL nursing no one but weak and old.

OP had no surgery
OP not nursing anyone .
OP is still young
OP couldn't arrange for a maid for his BLOOD relation who is sick

And he is here ranting like a $#/@ when he should be in the market cooking for his beloved aunty and helping their in law to be with her baby.

Wickedness in high places.

Nigerian men Change o.
Wickedness won't do you any good.

KanwuliaJara:
After all this noise, is the husband-to-be complaining?
If not, abeg carry ya mouth go bury for evil forest!

Lessons learned: NEVER EXPECT FRIENDSHIP OR LOVE TO BE RECIPROCAL!!!!

ismart:
I remember saying having a child for me isn't a guarantee that a woman will remain in my house.

People attacked me without understanding why I made such statement.

Some 4 months ago, my cousin had his first child. My aunt, being the mother in law to be made sure she (daughter in law to be) got the best care. She took care of the daughter in law to be, bathed her grandchild every morning, afternoon and night.

After a month plus, my aunt followed her son to his house and continued with the care for another 1 month plus.

However due to an accident she had in 2012, she had to undergo proper surgery to straighten her leg because after the accident, no surgery was done but just traditional treament which didn't do much as the leg, a few CM above the ankle was bent and you can see the protruding bone.

Being hardworking woman, she did a lot of works with the leg.

I travelled to Lagos and when I returned, I was informed that she was in the hospital. I had to move to her sisters house same day so I can check on her.

On gettting there I saw her on the hospital bed. Few weeks later she was discharged from hospital.

This daughter in law to be was rarely around. When she comes, she would barely spend up to an hour before leaving. She has NEVER washed my aunt's clothes. Through out the 2 months that my aunt was discharged from hospital, the girl NEVER bought anything for my aunt as a mother in law to her. She NEVER stayed to take care of her. Absolutely NOTHING can be accounted for as a gain she contributes to the family system.

My aunt's only daughter died early 2000s and this girl could have easily played that role.

Last time she visited I was told she was around I didn't bother to come out to see her cos I was just to displeased.

While we were away, robber buggled into my aunt's house. This girl came, she couldn't arrange her mother in law's clothes nor sweep the room she occupied when she delivered. The best she could do was brought out her iphone, one my cousin bought, and started taking pictures of the damages and calling my cousin on phone to even magnify and exaggerate what happened.

In that two months I have been the one who would lift my aunt, get her crunches, wash her clothes, follow her to the hospital etc.

Today my aunt finally returned to her home after doctor told her that she can start putting the leg on ground while she walks. She had to call her sister's daughter to come and cook for her. Though I had wanted to do the cooking.


While I was with her in her room. She told me that the daughter in law was feeling pompous. I said to her that I have noticed but wondered why she kept quiet all along. She said she was just taking her time. So I told her what I expected of her daughter in law to be and that this problem had better be nipped in the bud before it's too late. I asked her what if she was quite older than her current age such that she can't move around. We talked more at length and she told me her mind. She also told me that she called the girl and informed her that she has arrived home. The girl didn't even bother to ask about cooking or gave any hint if she would come.

The son is currently out of the country. He bought this girl a car, took her South Africa and Dubai on vacation.

My aunt told me that while I was away at one time, they were making plans for introduction. This girl, though not yet strong cos of child delivery, made a decision to start business. My aunt suggested that wait for you to heal and you know you had this child via CS. She flaired up and I learned earlier she said what right does my aunt have to dictate for her. There was a serious quarel between her and my cousin.

My aunt has resolved that once her son comes back, they will discuss and possibly put a stop to her madness.

I have seen this game played over and over again. A girl brings out her real colours after a child or after marriage. That's why I said to myself, a child isn't a guarantee that a woman will remain in my house but her manners.

This girl in question is completely nothing to write home about...

Naff24:
Wait, do u really have a mother
Do u pray for a lady like you to treat ur mother dis same
Do u ever pray for a happy home

I don't see any big deal in what they expected of this said lady, and am sure if it was her mother she won't dare ignore her a bit.

Well, I can see you are the type that always pray not to meet your mother- in-law alive.. And so shall your daughter-in-law will not meet u alive as well.

NB: ain't cursing you, but it's just a KARMA
You shall definitely reap whatever you sow.. Be it good or bad!!!

LyfeJennings:
As much as I want to settle down and have the best of life. I AM SCARED OF SITUATIONS LIKE THIS. I do not support divorce or wife battery but devil knows if any girl treats my mother badly,I go beat am and divorce her.

MY PARENTS ARE MY LIFE.

I WOULD GLADLY LAY DOWN MY LIFE TO LET THEM LIVE.

despite having a job and being one of the most stupidest stubborn lavish idiot in the world. My parents don't fail to show me that love and care even though they never say it. Omo, I am who I am today because of that sacrifice they made to love me and If I don't reciprocate, I deserve to die