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Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by chamberlin1(m): 6:31pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
In this 21st century, some people are still poke nosing in other people's homes, OP go begin ur home first and see. Ur just a cousin and it's like this, what if he's ur brother. If ur family can't unite with this girl, leave her alone to enjoy her home or mess it up as she likes. Minding your business takes u ahead of people's shortcomings 6 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Shemmyglo(f): 6:33pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:I can help my MIL but we are not the same because we came from different background. |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by MsGlobalwonder(f): 6:34pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:ermm... but u can easily pay maids to do those chores naa. to me this is a no-issue. Just saying... 2 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ndigbo: 6:35pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: I pray that you will get old and have daughter inlaws, who will treat you in like manner. And that you can make that statement you dropped above, afterward in future! 3 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by idrissunny: 6:38pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
This girl in question completely has nothing to write home about. I hope you don't have a sister that is still single. ismart: |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by MsGlobalwonder(f): 6:43pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:who will be with ur Aunty? Hian! What if her son doesn't have a fiancee? A gf? How will she live? Na wa oo. So the wife-to-be shouldn't have a life because of her MIL-to-be's health? If u love her so much, leave ur job and family (if any) then stay with her. That will be practical "love". I think u're expecting too much. It is good she does those things you mentioned and more, but if she doesn't then DO IT! She is ur aunt not hers! Arghhh!! 6 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by gidjah(m): 7:02pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
If this is all you can deduce /make outa this matter,then you must be a pretty shallow minded individual,can you do this to ur MIL?,can u permit ur SIL to Do d same to ur Momma?? Chillisauce: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 7:22pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:Na yeye dey worry you. You serious dey argue with this generation females, most controlling and fierce than men are. They are told by feminists that they can do things however they want. If material gain dey, dem go shout "Equality" everywhere. If no material gain, dem go shout "Man up" and do the heavy lifting. So what do you expect, your cousin bought her a car, oversea trips from nigeria to jupita to south africa to dubai to estonia to every every.. Now you dey complain abi....if she's got those ill traits you claimed and your cousin is really feeling that vagina there's nothing anyone can tell him for now.... Only time will tell. Op...Mind your business.. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by tivta(m): 7:28pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
See how so called women are supporting the lady, well I know for sure that 99 percent of them only have courage on a faceless forum. May God save men from such ladies, amen. |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by edwife(f): 7:29pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
freecocoa: That is why i like you,always objective even when i don't agree with some of your ideologies(we know which) you always say it like it is. If one knows what it takes to see your mother or even someone close to you mother's in a very deplorable condition and turn a blind eye......hmmmm.It is well.I presume she,the DIL eats everyday but will it be a problem to share that same food with the woman? 1 Like |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by icym241: 7:31pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
i wonda wat ya cousin is still waiting fr...d foolish gal isnt ready fr marriage yet..abeg pak ha load throway outside....fr d gals supporting ha i pray God gives u guyz wicked mothers in-laws dah will torture u 1 Like |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by tivta(m): 7:33pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
chamberlin1:Is that so? So until it leads to murder he should mind his business abi? Haven't you heard a stich in time saves nine? It is people like you that unfortunately go through hard times just because you refused to help a soul, blessed is the peace maker... Never ever say it's not his business cause he is family. Just imagine is Jesus didn't help us because it is not his business? You have a lot to learn about life... 1 Like |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by streetzdreamz(m): 7:39pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:geez! Bro you really a gentleman, replying this worthless females speaking from their ass, most of em are from broken homes with no ethics or morals, they ain't difficult to decipher cuz they give themselves away with their insolent words, quit replying em cuz their brains won't comprehend a thing you saying, the fault is solely your cousins, God!! How I hate men acting like sissies around ladies, he prolly failed to draw the lines betwixt his mum and his wife, perish the thought heavens forbid, the woman that will try half of this poo with MA mum will not spend the night under me roof, I wonder the kinda ladies Nigerian families keep churning into the society, irritating bloody creatures, and when you see but a few of them, with good attitudes, and good morals you ask yourself if she ain't a lady too. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by freecocoa(f): 7:45pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
edwife:Thank you, this isn't about being a slave, how do we then show love? It's just showing each other a little kindness that will make the world a better place. 2 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by wandyvirus(m): 7:50pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
I was very shocked reading the post. What 1960ish thinking. The aunt likes to be nice right? nice to her son's girlfriend and baby mama. The girl has every right to decide not to get too close or interfere with the poster's family business. So robbers came abi? did she send the robbers? she is not even a relative yet. She simply gave birth out of wedlock. She is the "ale" and has given birth to an "omoale". the girl is minding her business my dear poster least she been seen as too forward. Poster, you and your aunt need to know their place. It is not your place to "re-train" the lady. It is not your place to judge her by your outdated custom and tradition. it is not your place to decide who loves who and for what respectable resaon. It is bad enough that that have a child outside wedlock. Don't compound it by looking for tactical endorsement. You want your cousin to marry an "ass licker"? or a hypocrite? cococandy: 8 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by gidjah(m): 7:51pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
Bros op,you trying to get into open confrontation with women??,hahah,you cant win this war o, it is their world bro, loive wit it. So so ,many angry women out here, they just blinded to the reality on ground and attacking th op.none have(save my only sis cocoa candy)have tried condeming the SILs atitude,haba na wetin na?una children and even brodas will get married some day o, will ya all react this same way too??.pls op keep helping your mother,she is your mum.ignore the small girl, she obviously lack caing attitudes and might not want to be corrected for now, leave dat to her hussy. We gat lots of womn on this forum who aint good for wifey materials o,pls run away for ur life,most of our ladies of today are not well brought up and it shows in the way they see things, too bad, education(Half EDucation)aint helping the situation now.If you pray to have this kind of SIL pls 'LIKE' MY COMMENT,and if you do NOT wish for her type,pls 'SHARE' 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by cococandy(f): 7:54pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
Lol this one you're quoting me. Are you agreeing or disagreeing with me? wandyvirus: |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by freecocoa(f): 7:58pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
MsGlobalwonder:I don't mean to sound judgemental but I seriously find it hard to understand how people are okay with such behaviour from the girl, I know it's not by force to be nice but atleast, this woman was kind to her, doesn't that count for something even if you say that, we aren't ordinarily supposed to be kind to humans? Plus the MIL is elderly. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Kimoni: 8:03pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
freecocoa: Why do you think otherwise? |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by wandyvirus(m): 8:03pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
Agreeing with you. Read my response. cococandy: |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by freecocoa(f): 8:10pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
Kimoni:I don't think it's fair of the lady to treat her MIL like that, she ought to show a little kindness, I believe as an adult, somethings come to you naturally, you can't teach a grown woman kindness, she knows what it is and refusing to show it to someone, who was kind to her, elderly and also her MIL, is not something to be made excuses for, it should be frowned upon. I get that the OP is meddlesome and feeling like they have an edge over the lady(I blame culture), still, his concerns can be understood. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by cococandy(f): 8:11pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
wandyvirus:Okay. It was kinda unclear because I mentioned at some point that the girl should be more compassionate and that's kind of opposite of what you said. So I didn't know if you were disagreeing with that or agreeing with the rest of my post that their condensing attitude towards her is not nice. But I get it now. |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by cococandy(f): 8:14pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
I don't think any right thinking person will say the girl should never be kind or help her MIL. It's just that his condescending attitude towards her makes it hard to sympathize with him. Nothing in his post shows he even regards the girl as family. freecocoa: 2 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by freecocoa(f): 8:27pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
cococandy:That issue should be separated from the girl's attitude, I understand the OP's point of view because believe me in all honesty, we have a DIL like that in my family, we don't go about it like the OP everyone just gives her, her space after series of talks with no change, we keep playing our part(within reason) because of our relative involved, some people are a close knit family and can find something like this really strange, not everyone is exposed you know and may not know how to go about it. Not condemning the girl's attitude makes it look like there's no shame in her character. 2 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 8:27pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
well, I don't support these at all.Owing to the fact that her husband to be is abroad, she should do her best for her mother in law.The question I want to ask here is this, What if it is her own mother? What's there to cook once in a while? Or buy a washing machine? or at best employ a village maid that can help for some time? Abeg the lady na lazy woman jare! Mtchewwww! 1 Like |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by corisande: 8:31pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
edwife: GB you and frecocoa for saying the truth! I read the other responses and was beginning to think WRONG is now the new RIGHT! What the DIL Did/is doing is all shades of wrong and there are no 2ways about it. 1 Like |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by corisande: 8:35pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
EggovinMma: My sister I owe you one bottle. The lady no try,what's there in checking up on her Mil and doing little things for her. even if she's working? if we see truth make we talk. forget say na online everybody dey form one thing or another. |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Henricarter(m): 8:37pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
I dnt understnd ds story @ll |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 8:38pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart: I will advice that your aunt calls her to attention, to advice her as a daughter. No body big pass to talk to, because what goes around comes around. I don't even think it's fair that after omugwo she can't give her mother in law anything! !!Which kind person be that lady sef? It's not fair na.But then do not be quick to judge, especially when there's still room for repentance. I wont be happy if my mother is treated this way by someone I love and trust. Ask your aunt to talk to her and advice her.Theres no need to chase her out out of the house, remember it's not also easy for nursing mothers. 2 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by goodgate: 8:40pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:OP, I you 're so interested in you Aunts Welfare,then go get her a Maid. As for you go get a paid Job/enter street and Hustle, so you can get yourself a CAR and travel to DUBAI and SOUTH AFRICA too. 2 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Kimoni: 8:40pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
freecocoa: Freecocoa, in-law relationships are not your everyday type of relationships. They can be quite complicated especially for a new wife. It is even made worse when the husband is not around to guide her. Until she gets used to the family, she needs a lot of insider information on how things are done in her new family. They cannot be hating on her over things they assume she should know when she has not been told, it would only generate strife between both sides. Putting myself in the position of the wife. It's difficult to know the extent one should go sometimes. Example - the lady visited the MIL, she spent 1hr and left not knowing the MIL was angry she was spending just 1hr. How on earth was she supposed to know they would take offense with that? She might even have spent 24 hrs and they would still pick offense expecting her to spend one week Its a lose-lose situation for both parties until they communicate expectations. As per food and house chores; if I were a nursing mother, it would never cross my mind that my MIL would expect me to come cook or wash her clothes when I am also burdened and in need of help myself. Why should I take all the blame if she is complaining of neglect? She no get other family ni? We also don't know what the wife herself is going through. Is she finding it hard to survive herself? Is she also struggling to cope with her own house chores, remembering that she is a single mother taking care of her child alone? In all honesty, I find it difficult to blame the wife from all what the OP has said. 11 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by cococandy(f): 8:44pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
So far from his posts, the girl's crime is not coming to cook and clean for the invalid aunt. And not visiting long enough. Because people aren't typing "tufia evil girl. Send her away with the baby" doesn't mean they don't know it would be nice if she showed more compassion. I can tell you what the OP wants is more people to tow that line of thought so that his resolve to poison his cousin's mind will be stronger. from where I stand, most of the problem lies with the dude. For all the girl knows, they are all in good terms. Not knowing they've already plotted the downfall of the union before it even starts. When you expect some thing from someone, you tell them. Let them refuse first then you can blame them all you want. If the girl were here, most people would encourage her to be more caring to the MiL to be. But she's not here and lambasting her to satisfy the OP will only intensify their already hatched plan. To what end? we know he's not happy about what his cousin does for the girl, he needs to take correction too. At least he's here to read his own faults and take correction. freecocoa: 13 Likes |
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