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When dealing with an emotional breakup, it is more beneficial to show your actions and engage yourself in positive activities rather than pondering and worrying about what happened. It may have been devastating but the healing process is largely dependent on taking the right steps to clear your minds and move on. To handle the breakup, there are certain things you should never discuss after the breakup.

1. Was it a mistake?
Trying to reflect on the relationship to understand what went wrong or to place blames can be counter-productive as the very thought of it will bring memories you would rather stash away and according to psychologists, every time you bring back a memory, you make it more difficult to be forgotten. It was not a mistake; it was an experience to make you a better person.

2. Why me? Why is life so hard to me?
Pondering over your past relationships with a self-pity attitude is not good for you; it only makes the breakup even more painful. The best way to handle it is to develop an attitude of “there is a way out for better things”. It works and dissipates negative energy and channels it into doing something useful

3. Who is the new person in her/her life?
Never discuss about your ex new girlfriend or boyfriend. The instinct to inquire further will further deepen the emotional breakdown. It is best your leave them to their sh*t.

4. Can we still be friends?
You can never be friends with someone who you see as being responsible for your emotional bruises. Seeing him/her will be reminding you of the intimate past and once the emotions takes over, it can affect you mood and everything. There was a reason it is called “EX”.

5. Am I too emotional?
It is part of been a human being that you possess some emotions. Being over emotional is not comfortable but the right partner for you is the one who understands your emotions and manage it well. Therefore don’t make them less human by thinking they should care less about your emotions.

6. I should have known
No one knows what to expect in a relationship when two different souls comes together and that is ironically the spice of any relationship, exploring and knowing about your partner should be a relationship-long duty. If you had already known, where is the fun in it? The best is to expect good and work towards it, if it didn’t work out, yo learn a lesson and move on

7. Such is life
No, such is not life. What brought you into relationship initially must have been a picture of couples having a great time together, so if they can have it, so can you WITH THE RIGHT PERSON. Maybe he/she was not the right person, see the brighter side


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once a Congo has been shined once (C 1 ) , it can always be shined (C ∞ )

i accent wit 2&7 only

d rest i totally disagree

Most of these relationship advisers are still virgins.

At times...it is good to be heartbroken....it makes you strong and arrogant in relationships until you are ready to settle down...

Some tins r easier said dan done

Bia, cutehector....
Kwue ihe doro gi anya o

Are u well

MrsPhyno:
Bia, cutehector....
Kwue ihe doro gi anya o

Are u well

hahahahahaha u want to seduce me na ryt?

Cutehector:
hahahahahaha u want to seduce me na ryt?

What is this one saying

When I quote u u no fit ansa me
Na to disgrace me on a nonsense thread u dey enjoy? Hapu'm aka o otherwise ife geme nabania

MrsPhyno:
What is this one saying

When I quote u u no fit ansa me
Na to disgrace me on a nonsense thread u dey enjoy? Hapu'm aka o otherwise ife geme nabania

chei wat is d ife dat u will do to me dis nyt ooo? I can't wait

Cutehector:
chei wat is d ife dat u will do to me dis nyt ooo? I can't wait

See dis one o

I give up

MrsPhyno:
See dis one o

I give up

hahahahahahahaha.... Chei.. Hector! Bad boy..

Cutehector:
hahahahahahahaha.... Chei.. Hector! Bad boy..

Why are u hailing yourself Today na Sunday o. Fear God.

MrsPhyno:
Why are u hailing yourself Today na Sunday o. Fear God.

eh so u knw today was sunday and u were showin us ur sexy cleavage abi?

I agre with all