14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. - Romance (2)

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Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by redgem(op): 10:19am On Sep 30, 2015

pickabeau1:
Hehehehehe.......
I hear

Check it out...

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by pickabeau1: 10:20am On Sep 30, 2015

MizMyColi:
I catch your drift, still it doesn't always pan out that way.
However, it's not an absolute. There are people who happened to be into the wrong person at the right/wrong time.

I also know of people who in my worldview, aren't worthy of the kind of guys/ladies they have in their lives.

That's why I maintain that everyone deserves better and a chance at being better.

These people..... They made a bad decision?
What did they do about it..

When u say not worthy.. Can u expatiate

What do the people in the relationship feel about their partners

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by spartanian(m): 10:21am On Sep 30, 2015

I know say na woman go write this one

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by MizMyColi(f): 10:21am On Sep 30, 2015

The wife beater is mostly a product of brokenness.

when people exert negativity on their partners, they need to understand that they are merely projecting their insecurities and what nots on those who love them.
If I met a guy today who abuses me for no just cause, having the understanding that he is simply projecting his issues on me in a bid to deal with them would help me figure out ways to help him....or just leave if I can't deal.

You cannot change that which is within from without.
Let that which is within change that which is without.

Pickabeau1

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by misspicy(f): 10:21am On Sep 30, 2015

pickabeau1:
And where is the guy now?

UK....he left Nigeria
Why did u ask

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by redgem(op): 10:22am On Sep 30, 2015

spartanian:
I know say na woman go write this one

It doesn't matter who wrote it....

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by pickabeau1: 10:24am On Sep 30, 2015

MizMyColi:
The wife beater is mostly a product of brokenness.

when people exert negativity on their partners, they need to understand that they are merely projecting their insecurities and what nots on those who love them.
If I met a guy today who abuses me for no just cause, having the understanding that he is simply projecting his issues on me in a bid to deal with them would help me figure out ways to help him....or just leave if I can't deal.

You cannot change that which is within from without.
Let that which is within change that which is without.

Pickabeau1

Youve made it about wife beating.. That is an aside

The statement is "we deserve what we tolerate'

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by pickabeau1: 10:25am On Sep 30, 2015

misspicy:
UK....he left Nigeria

Why did u ask

Yor statement was he was macho outside but butter in your hands...hence the ideal man?

Wanted to know if you were still together
One question please?

Did u respectt him

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Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by wristbangle: 10:28am On Sep 30, 2015

redgem:
Story... If a lady don't do such, the male folks call her names

I won't call her names. I will tell her to turn deaf ears to people's gossip.

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by wristbangle: 10:29am On Sep 30, 2015

misspicy:
What

Am breaking up right now,so u cnt loose hair,u cant wash undies,how else do u wanna show u love me

Buh i blv guys pretend,i once had a guy dat forms macho outside buh he does all dis tyns for me,even his friends will never blv it.

Darling, I can do such for u when we get married tongue

but for now nope cheesy

That Your bf try gahn oo

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by MizMyColi(f): 10:30am On Sep 30, 2015

pickabeau1:
These people..... They made a bad decision?
What did they do about it..

When u say not worthy.. Can u expatiate

What do the people in the relationship feel about their partners

Ever felt stuck?
Like you got no where else to go?
No one should be made to pass through such harrowing experience.

Well, you see a guy who drinks himself to stupor, hits his babe and does certain inanities...
The expectation is that the girl should leave, but somehow she stays with him...
Loving him as much as she can muster.

Sometimes, life throws certain people at us who do not in anyway epitomize who are what we are at the core.

The faint of heart can't deal, still, it's not okay to generalize by saying we deserve em all.

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Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by redgem(op): 10:30am On Sep 30, 2015

wristbangle:
I won't call her names. I will tell her to turn deaf ears to people's gossip.

Ok.....

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by MizMyColi(f): 10:32am On Sep 30, 2015

pickabeau1:
Youve made it about wife beating.. That is an aside

The statement is "we deserve what we tolerate'

But there are people who tolerate such.
And it was a thought that came to mind while I subconsciously searched for an analogy.

I really don't agree with you statement.
Not in totality.

Sometimes we tolerate because we've learned to make peace with things we can't change.
At the mo' at least.

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by wristbangle: 10:32am On Sep 30, 2015

redgem:
Ok.....

Yes na. Though once in a while I can loose ur hair (maybe once in 6mths tongue

) but every month, hehehehe

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by redgem(op): 10:35am On Sep 30, 2015

wristbangle:
Yes na. Though once in a while I can loose ur hair (maybe once in 6mths ) but every month, hehehehe

There's nothing wrong with loosing my hair every month....

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by pickabeau1: 10:38am On Sep 30, 2015

MizMyColi:
Ever felt stuck?
Like you got no where else to go?
No one should be made to pass through such harrowing experience.

Well, you see a guy who drinks himself to stupor, hits his babe and does certain inanities...
The expectation is that the girl should leave, but somehow she stays with him...
Loving him as much as she can muster.

Sometimes, life throws certain people at us who do not in anyway epitomize who are what we are at the core.

The faint of heart can't deal, still, it's not okay to generalize by saying we deserve em all.

Good

I like your example

She is stuck.... A metaphor for choice

Sugar coat it all you like
It is a choice which connotes tolerance of her situation

I know there are people who pretend and deceived but showed their true colours after..yes

But there is choice to stay or GO

There is a choice

Don't paper that over

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by tosyne2much(m): 10:38am On Sep 30, 2015

Cutehector:
chei redgen u for gv me tosyne2much part na, I don turn maga abi . Chei wristwatch role just dey burst my belle

roflwkmd

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by MizMyColi(f): 10:45am On Sep 30, 2015

pickabeau1:
Good

I like your example

She is stuck.... A metaphor for choice

Sugar coat it all you like
It is a choice which connotes tolerance of her situation

I know there are people who pretend and deceived but showed their true colours after..yes

But there is choice to stay or GO

There is a choice

Don't paper that over

Ever heard of the parlance, "Na condition make crayfish tail bend?"
Some people had to bring them selves to make the choice...whatever it is.
It does not always connote that they deserve it.

Humans will always have their baggage....good, bad, ugly.
If we walked out on everyone because we couldn't bring ourselves to tolerate them, where would we be by now?

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by 4X4: 10:46am On Sep 30, 2015

redgem:
He understands that beauty is evanescent and He falls in love with you because of your personality, intelligence, humor and the way you make him feel.

He takes responsibility for his mistakes cos he isn't perfect and is bound to make mistakes, he accepts his faults, makes an apology and means it. He doesn't shift blames or try to defend his mistakes.

He is confident, ambitious, passionate for other things besides his relationship and doesn't let the relationship define him.

He is honest and trustworthy, he values truth and lives by it. He always chooses to be honest no matter what the situation may be.

He is always ready to provide financial support and doesn't see you as a gold digger, he sees you as special and takes much pride in the way he treats you . Cutehector

He is hardworking and always strive to be the best in all he does.

He is willing to fight and wait for the woman he desires cos he knows nothing good comes easy..

He stands up for himself and defends his relationship even when he is among his family and peers, he speaks up and stands his ground in defence of his relationship with you.

He knows the value of his woman and never hesitates to appreciate her.

He is always ready to satisfy her sexually, he can risk his life just to give her the pleasure she desires tosyne2much

He doesn't use past relationship failures as an excuse to why he doesn't want to commit to a woman. TheSonOfMark

He doesn't see sleeping with women as fun and a game, he commits to a relationship.

He doesn't derive joy in degrading or ridiculing a lady.

He doesn't care what people say or think about him and finds nothing wrong in washing his woman's undies and loosing her hair. Wristbangle

GIRL U MUST HAVE BEEN SLEEPWALKING WHEN YOU WROTE THIS because ITS ALL FANTASY YARNS . BTW UR BEAUTIFUL ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by Cutehector(m): 10:47am On Sep 30, 2015

redgem:
Lol..... Accept your part jejely

no wahala... I go accept am in good faith cheesy

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by redgem(op): 10:49am On Sep 30, 2015

4X4:
GIRL U MUST HAVE BEEN SLEEPWALKING WHEN YOU WROTE THIS because ITS ALL FANTASY YARNS . BTW UR BEAUTIFUL ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

Fantasy you say.....that means men like that don't exist? Thanks for the compliment

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by daveP(m): 10:49am On Sep 30, 2015

redgem:
Lol.... Whatever you think

ah what's with the moniker mentions, its distracting now.

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by redgem(op): 10:54am On Sep 30, 2015

daveP:
ah what's with the moniker mentions, its distracting now.

Lol.....each one of them made a post concerning each signs mentioned with their monikers and I'm trying to let them see that their views were wrong

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by redgem(op): 10:56am On Sep 30, 2015

Cutehector:
no wahala... I go accept am in good faith

It wasn't a role sha.... Just trying to let you know that spending for your lady is worth it cos you are against it

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by daveP(m): 10:58am On Sep 30, 2015

redgem:
Lol.....each one of them made a post concerning each signs mentioned with their monikers and I'm trying to let them see that their views were wrong

oh you're taking up a front. Okay then. MegaLady

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by redgem(op): 11:02am On Sep 30, 2015

daveP:
oh you're taking up a front. Okay then. MegaLady

Lol..... So what can you say about it?

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by pickabeau1: 11:06am On Sep 30, 2015

MizMyColi:
Ever heard of the parlance, "Na condition make crayfish tail bend?"
Some people had to bring them selves to make the choice...whatever it is.
It does not always connote that they deserve it.

Humans will always have their baggage....good, bad, ugly.
If we walked out on everyone because we couldn't bring ourselves to tolerate them, where would we be by now?

Ok

So what do you think about the term 'real' man?

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by misspicy(f): 11:06am On Sep 30, 2015

wristbangle:
Darling, I can do such for u when we get married but for now nope

That Your bf try gahn oo

I know you are lying jor....if i show u true love ehn,u will do more than that.. tongue

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by gigdfhjjhvc: 11:10am On Sep 30, 2015

redgem:
He understands that beauty is evanescent and He falls in love with you because of your personality, intelligence, humor and the way you make him feel.

He takes responsibility for his mistakes cos he isn't perfect and is bound to make mistakes, he accepts his faults, makes an apology and means it. He doesn't shift blames or try to defend his mistakes.

He is confident, ambitious, passionate for other things besides his relationship and doesn't let the relationship define him.

He is honest and trustworthy, he values truth and lives by it. He always chooses to be honest no matter what the situation may be.

He is always ready to provide financial support and doesn't see you as a gold digger, he sees you as special and takes much pride in the way he treats you . Cutehector

He is hardworking and always strive to be the best in all he does.

He is willing to fight and wait for the woman he desires cos he knows nothing good comes easy..

He stands up for himself and defends his relationship even when he is among his family and peers, he speaks up and stands his ground in defence of his relationship with you.

He knows the value of his woman and never hesitates to appreciate her.

He is always ready to satisfy her sexually, he can risk his life just to give her the pleasure she desires tosyne2much

He doesn't use past relationship failures as an excuse to why he doesn't want to commit to a woman. TheSonOfMark

He doesn't see sleeping with women as fun and a game, he commits to a relationship.

He doesn't derive joy in degrading or ridiculing a lady. The sonofananimal

He doesn't care what people say or think about him and finds nothing wrong in washing his woman's undies and loosing her hair. Wristbangle

Its had to find such man accept the one u find

Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by MizMyColi(f): 11:14am On Sep 30, 2015

pickabeau1:
Ok
So what do you think about the term 'real' man?

My list is tall and long o cheesy

Well, a real man is someone I can respect.
One that I can look up to.

I know that I am a leader.
A real man has to be someone who can lead me....I actually desire someone I can follow as per leader/follower r/ship.
The equality shii doesn't cut it for me menh cool

Equity does it.

Every other thing on my list is secondary cool

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Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by pickabeau1: 11:16am On Sep 30, 2015

MizMyColi:

My list is tall and long o

Well, a real man is someone I can respect.
One that I can look up to.

I know that I am a leader.
A real man has to be someone who can lead me....I actually desire someone I can follow as per leader/follower r/ship.
The equality shii doesn't cut it for me menh Equity does it.

Every other thing on my list is secondary

So you also believe in the connotation real man

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Re: 14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life. by AfroKnight: 11:17am On Sep 30, 2015

Yet another thread created by a WOMAN telling us who a REAL MAN is. Really?? Come on.

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