What a useless man with a useless family. As if taking care of 4 children is not enough. Why can't the family take care of their son's child. Is the child's mother dead or crippled? Very thoughtless bunch of people.

They are the custodians of the beautiful tradition.

Onegai:
Dear Naija Wives,

UNA DON TAKE YA "ENDURANCE" MEDICINE TODAY

Leave a cheating husband mmbbaa! Dey there dey "endure". Even her in-laws joined hands to beat her up for her "disobedience". No-one will blame the man, they will ask this battered wife to get on her knees and pray for forgiveness and submissive spirit and more power to endure.

Oniranu

Jimmy just did to this woman what most women hated most and also battered her for it!
I just hope there's more to this story though!

whirlwind7:
Traditional African customs have put most women in a disadvantage, especially those with randy husbands. If it were not so, this man wouldn't dream of bringing a love child to his matrimonial home.
To beat up his wife on top of it, is just too much to stomach. It is disheartening to learn that your spouse is cheating on you. But suddenly bringing home a child you fathered with another woman, and still expect your wife to "act obedient and responsibly" is the height of insensitivity.

And for the policeman who said its purely a family affair, that's nothing strange. No one expects animals in uniform to suddenly become human.
Battery and physical assault is clearly involved in this. It has become a criminal issue. Plus a helpless and innocent child who would bear the brunt of the entire episode.
Such a pity!

Well written

i pity woman dat allow there husban to turn them into a drum simply because ther want to save ther marriage

harbeedaymee:
She deserved it. Why did she reject the love child? What has the innocent child done to warrant such a harsh reaction?

What has the innocent child done to deserve to be taken away from his mother just like that? So it's his mother's rival that will take better care of him than his own mother Abi?

I don't believe you're female.

harbeedaymee:
She deserved it. Why did she reject the love child? What has the innocent child done to warrant such a harsh reaction?

d woman shouldn't be blamed for her reaction... every woman in her shoes will do d same...and secondly you don't even know if the man provides enough for his family...if nt accepting another responsibility is a big no to me...

Another patriarchal 'excess'.
Patriarchy keeps on killing itself day by day with its excesses. TV01 where are you?

Onegai:
Dear Naija Wives,

UNA DON TAKE YA "ENDURANCE" MEDICINE TODAY

Leave a cheating husband mmbbaa! Dey there dey "endure". Even her in-laws joined hands to beat her up for her "disobedience". No-one will blame the man, they will ask this battered wife to get on her knees and pray for forgiveness and submissive spirit and more power to endure.

Oniranu

Lmao!

What would it cost the woman to care for the child...

no need to batter anybody... but if she was my wife... she knows she's packing out that same day...

Shay me way get plan to even adopt children... that aren't even mine... just to care for the child... e don turn to work...

Fucking witch... women are women's greatest enemies... it's obvious she would turn the girl to housemaid sef... she as she resemble kirimanje...

mARRIAGE HMMMMMMMMMMMMM. ITS TAKES THE GRACE OF GOD AND UNDERSTANDING OOOOOOOOOOOOO

cococandy:
They are the custodians of the beautiful tradition.

Lmao!

whirlwind7:
Traditional African customs have put most women in a disadvantage, especially those with randy husbands. If it were not so, this man wouldn't dream of bringing a love child to his matrimonial home.
To beat up his wife on top of it, is just too much to stomach. It is disheartening to learn that your spouse is cheating on you. But suddenly bringing home a child you fathered with another woman, and still expect your wife to "act obedient and responsibly" is the height of insensitivity.

And for the policeman who said its purely a family affair, that's nothing strange. No one expects animals in uniform to suddenly become human.
Battery and physical assault is clearly involved in this. It has become a criminal issue. Plus a helpless and innocent child who would bear the brunt of the entire episode.
Such a pity!

whirlwind7:
Traditional African customs have put most women in a disadvantage, especially those with randy husbands. If it were not so, this man wouldn't dream of bringing a love child to his matrimonial home.
To beat up his wife on top of it, is just too much to
stomach. It is disheartening to learn that your spouse is cheating on you. But suddenly bringing home a child you fathered with another woman, and still expect your wife to "act obedient and responsibly" is the height of insensitivity.

And for the policeman who said its purely a family affair, that's nothing strange. No one expects animals in uniform to suddenly become human.
Battery and physical assault is clearly involved in this. It has become a criminal issue. Plus a helpless and innocent child who would bear the brunt of the entire episode.
Such a pity!

You've said it all

dominique:


What has the innocent child done to deserve to be taken away from his mother just like that? So it's his mother's rival that will take better care of him than his own mother Abi?

I don't believe you're female.

we know the type of woman you are... so if I came home with an adopted kid... you'll turn the child to a maid... more reason why I do baby mamas than wife...

harbeedaymee:
She deserved it. Why did she reject the love child? What has the innocent child done to warrant such a harsh reaction?

bless you..

iPopAlomo:
What would it cost the woman to care for the child...

no need to batter anybody... but if she was my wife... she knows she's packing out that same day...

Shay me way get plan to even adopt children... that aren't even mine... just to care for the child... e don turn to work...

Fucking witch... women are women's greatest enemies... it's obvious she would turn the girl to housemaid sef... she as she resemble kirimanje...

She is not obliged by law, culture or religion to take care of illegitimate kids

When paying her dowry did they add extra to take care of another woman's child?

Since you are a philanthropist and huge on adoption why don't you go adopt that baby
Empty vessels make the loudest voice, I rest my case

iPopAlomo:


we know the type of woman you are... so if I came home with an adopted kid... you'll turn the child to a maid... more reason why I do baby mamas than wife...

This is not even an adoption case, no wander people fail exams tremendously, read the article three times if you are slow

Do you even know if the man can take care of the four she has to just show up one day carrying another one,

Then what will the babies real mother do, fix her nails and sleep with some more husbands.

Miami11:

She is not obliged by law, culture or religion to take care of illegitimate kids

When paying her dowry did they add extra to take care of another woman's child?

Since you are a philanthropist and huge on adoption why don't you go adopt that baby
Empty vessels make the loudest voice, I rest my case

Culture...?! Religion...?! nigga please... I'm a yoruba man and a muslim... meaning I can marry up to four women... you really should read more on culture and religion...

Apart from culture and religion... what happens to humanity... caring for one another... it's your type that pray for peace in the world... and won't show love to your neighbour...

the father of the child isn't shying away from his responsibility... if the woman did not act a fool... we wouldn't be reading this on nairaland... and yes... I am a huge fan of adoption... deal with it...

whirlwind7:
Traditional African customs have put most women in a disadvantage, especially those with randy husbands. If it were not so, this man wouldn't dream of bringing a love child to his matrimonial home.
To beat up his wife on top of it, is just too much to stomach. It is disheartening to learn that your spouse is cheating on you. But suddenly bringing home a child you fathered with another woman, and still expect your wife to "act obedient and responsibly" is the height of insensitivity.

And for the policeman who said its purely a family affair, that's nothing strange. No one expects animals in uniform to suddenly become human.
Battery and physical assault is clearly involved in this. It has become a criminal issue. Plus a helpless and innocent child who would bear the brunt of the entire episode.
Such a pity!

Beautiful

Well, let them sort themselves out.

iPopAlomo:


we know the type of woman you are... so if I came home with an adopted kid... you'll turn the child to a maid... more reason why I do baby mamas than wife...

Why on earth will you spring that kind of responsibility on me without discussing with me first? It's better you stick with the baby mama option, since you will clearly have no regards for your partner.

you can't force a woman to take another woman's child... she might even maltreat the child.

Miami11:

This is not even an adoption case, no wander people fail exams tremendously, read the article three times if you are slow

Do you even know if the man can take care of the four she has to just show up one day carrying another one,

Then what will the babies real mother do, fix her nails and sleep with some more husbands.

Did he complain that he can't cater for his children... and even if he cant... can't the woman help... yeah he has a love child... the other woman is probably still fucking around... he's probably learnt his lesson... then the woman acts a b!tch...

dominique:


Why on earth will you spring that kind of responsibility on me without discussing with me first? It's better you stick with the baby mama option, since you will clearly have no regards for your partner.

You're being to dramatic... he found out the baby mama is irresponsible... otherwise he wouldn't have brought her home... besides... what's herculean about taking care of another human being...

enieme:
This is bad. battery
but on another note, she vud have just kept her cool and reach some understanding. Afterall iys just a baby not the mistress

Talk is cheap , its easy to ask her to keep her cool and reach some understanding, whats stopping him from even bringing the mistress home?

dominique:


Why on earth will you spring that kind of responsibility on me without discussing with me first? It's better you stick with the baby mama option, since you will clearly have no regards for your partner.

dominique ignore him his kind seeks attention

enieme:
This is bad. battery
but on another note, she vud have just kept her cool and reach some understanding. Afterall iys just a baby not the mistress

...you are so untruthful! If it were your sister, daughter, you would okay her being cheated on, forced to care for a child she knew nothing about and beaten by her hubby and a few relatives over? Who knows what might have made the man take the child from his Mum? You saying the other woman is happy over her child being taken away, where she is? You don't have to support this man. He's been abusing her, she claimed, remember

iPopAlomo:



You're being to dramatic... he found out the baby mama is irresponsible... otherwise he wouldn't have brought her home... besides... what's herculean about taking care of another human being...

ok, he found out almost 3 years later after fooling around with her that she is irresponsible and you think its fair to bring the result of that fooling about home to his wife who has her hands full already?

so what you are saying is that its ok for him to bring all his illegitimate kids home to his wife and she should because she is she -woman recieve them with open arms , no questions asked?

harbeedaymee:
She deserved it. Why did she reject the love child? What has the innocent child done to warrant such a harsh reaction?

Babes na wa 4 u o. It is easy to say because you are not the woman in question. Its possible that if u find yourself in such situation, you may even do worse. The issue here is not about what the baby did to the woman. The man should have told her from the onset that he has a child out of wedlock and he is bringing the child home because the mother can't take care of him/her (though that's a flimsy excuse anyway). At least the shock and betrayal would have waned down a little..instead of suprising her like that. She reacted the way 99% of women would have reacted.

Omg! When love and mutual respect is outa the window...take the long walk. Geskia

Traditional man right? Sad judgment day will come for his soul

I applaud that woman for standing her ground

A man sleeping with prostitutes then carrying the product to your faithful wife

No wander women turn into gold digging

This does not happen if you marry dangote or dangotes son

Only in some punitive village, esp if you are unemployed housewife married to some yeye clown like this

obi123:


ok, he found out almost 3 years later after fooling around with her that she is irresponsible and you think its fair to bring the result of that fooling about home to his wife who has her hands full already?

so what you are saying is that its ok for him to bring all his illegitimate kids home to his wife and she should because she is she -woman recieve them with open arms , no questions asked?

The deed has been done... you don't cut off the head to cure headache... if the woman had been virtuous... I still insist we wouldn't be reading this news in nairaland...

harbeedaymee:
She deserved it. Why did she reject the love child? What has the innocent child done to warrant such a harsh reaction?

Sweetie, pls read again. Then you would know that the child isn't the real bone of contention. The act, the breach of the marriage contract, the disrespect, the assault are... Sweetie pls read again. I'm sure you would love to have peace when the wind of marriage blows your way. May God help us get it right.