bestestgirl:
I know you won't cheat joor, you just want NL ranters to come and talk.
I totally support the ignoring and harmless flirting, give the dude the scare of his life and let him learn not to take you for granted but the forgive him and build you home together

chuksfor13:
Proverbs 20:6 Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?

Vikky014:
tell that to the cheating husband. she dnt need it

chuksfor13:
Proverbs 20:6 Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Are you married?

MizMyColi:
Waow.
I Love this plan.

When my Kids grow up, I'd really enjoy telling them how I fvcked the brains out of another guy because I wanted to get back at their Dad.

When they come to me asking for advice on the subject of forgiveness, I would so love to tell them that the saying Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future is for weaklings...people who gat no ballzzz.

I will encourage them, especially my female kids to adopt the eye for an eye principle...and go all the way.

Once again, nickibarb, thumbs up!
Great plan you got there, I hope it works out really well for you.


One advice though...As you embark on your revenge mission, be sure to dig two graves, four maybe.
You have my best wishes and support

crackhaus:

And what happens when 'the dude' doesn't give two shiits who she flirts with anymore?

bestestgirl:


Then I gues that they have kukuma evolved into an open marriage, she should come and ask Kanwuliajara or some tips
Many couples are enjoying that kind of marriage

MizMyColi:
Waow.
I Love this plan.

When my Kids grow up, I'd really enjoy telling them how I fvcked the brains out of another guy because I wanted to get back at their Dad.

When they come to me asking for advice on the subject of forgiveness, I would so love to tell them that the saying Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future is for weaklings...people who gat no ballzzz.

I will encourage them, especially my female kids to adopt the eye for an eye principle...and go all the way.

Once again, nickibarb, thumbs up!
Great plan you got there, I hope it works out really well for you.


One advice though...As you embark on your revenge mission, be sure to dig two graves, four maybe.
You have my best wishes and support

chuksfor13:
Proverbs 20:6 Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?

nickibarb:
So my husband cheated on me some months ago right, i realised this when i came across numerous flirtatious messages on his whatsapp (you might remember me from my previous posts). The drama resulting from that discovery was so complicated, i don't even have the strength to go there. Anyways, my reason for this post is that I am obsessed with paying him back in his own coin. I think i'm way too hot for that insult he meted out to me like does he think because i have two kids I am like totally off the market? The first two guys i flirted with as payback (via the same whatsapp) were falling over themselves to get with me. My husband saw the messages (i'm glad he did) and it drove him crazy, he was swearing fire and brimstone about what he'll do to any guy that messes with me. Right now, I don't feel any love for my husband, I kinda told him that already. He broke my heart and I don't think it can ever heal. I'm only here in this marriage co-habitation cause he has some money (i like the entitled life) and of course I would love to give the kids a two-parent home. (I have some cash of my own though but he has a lot more).

I totally ignore my husband now, I don't give a hoot about whether he comes home or not. Some days ago, after staying away for like forever, he came home ready to give a million explanations about his whereabouts but i wasn't interested, i just carried on a conversation with him like i didn't notice he had been absent (the same explanation i used to literally beg him for). It's making him so uncertain and shaky and i'm loving it. Looks like he enjoyed the attention i used to give him before when i used to whine about him not calling me and not coming home. Now i don't give a f*** and he knows it. Anyways, I probably won't cheat unless i meet a really classy, enlightened, well travelled young-man , the type i'm usually attracted to (like my husband), for now i just feel like ranting. Most Nigerian men are not my type anyway. I'm 27 so i'm not that old. This n**** messed with the wrong wife. Its been a slow boring day at work today maybe clients are already in pre-independence celebratory mode, so i'm available to read your comments. try and be nice okay *tougueout.

Tallesty1:

Sound like what whores and potential whores who do not know that they are whores would say.
Good points.

If someone is cheating on you then leave.

If you cheat back then it means you have always been a cheat and is looking for a good time to cheat and a reason too because you know the man will throw you out if you cheat on him first.

The op is just looking for a good reason to justify her cheating

nothing will make a person who's not a cheat to cheat......

Simple.

MizMyColi:
Waow.
I Love this plan.

When my Kids grow up, I'd really enjoy telling them how I fvcked the brains out of another guy because I wanted to get back at their Dad.

When they come to me asking for advice on the subject of forgiveness, I would so love to tell them that the saying Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future is for weaklings...people who gat no ballzzz.

I will encourage them, especially my female kids to adopt the eye for an eye principle...and go all the way.

Once again, nickibarb, thumbs up!
Great plan you got there, I hope it works out really well for you.


One advice though...As you embark on your revenge mission, be sure to dig two graves, four maybe.
You have my best wishes and support

Miami11:
I understand your pain

I always tell my husband if he cheats I will do exactly the same

Anyway for the sake of those kids, you be the grown person( don't compete with him)

MarvellousGod:
@ bolded, you really tell your husband that? Has he ever given you any reason to think he might cheat on you?. . I really don't think you should be telling him that. ..


Op, don't cheat back... You don't have to reduce yourself to his level... Besides, cheating back makes you a cheat too!
Since you said he has realised his mistake, give him another chance. ....

Meanwhile, some men shaa.. he saw your chat with men on whatsapp and was threatening fire whereas he cheats(ed).. SMH. .. I wonder what makes some men feel the world revolves around them...

5minsmadness:


Sorry, are you eckankar?

bukatyne:


Thanks

I disagree though that the OP was interested in cheating.

When pushed to the wall, people do react in different ways.

Remember she is not interested in leaving the marriage.

5minsmadness:


I bet u the op would have been more pissed if he saw it and said nothing.

MizMyColi:


No, I'm not.

5minsmadness:


Buddhist? Vegan?

whirlwind7:
Hehehehe.
If you really want to toe that path, then go ahead. I hope you are matured and strong enough for the fiasco that would surely result.
There's this Igbo adage that if you have to eat a toad, at least look for the fattest one.
Transkation: If you finally do spread your legs for any man who can't match your husband, any man who wouldn't make your husband go the deepest shade of green with envy, then you're a double loser. Nothing less than a Don Jazzy or a Basket Mouth or a Kanu Nwankwo or even a Donald Duke would do!
That's just me being mischievous.

Now, me the realist:
No fvck up. Don't do it. Show him you are a better person than he is. You can kill him with the suspence and the anxiety of him not knowing what you are up to. 100% supported. Let him stew over the scenario of another hunk riding and pounding his wife into ecstatic oblivion.
Let him keep regreting what he has done, and at the same time not sure if you have been had by another man. Keep giving him the impression that he made you become a "bad" girl.

He obviously still loves you. It's apparent from his reactions. He could change, you know. And your old frelings for him can still resurface.
When it comes to cheating in matrimony, men have the advantage. It's not fair at all, but that's just the way it is.

MarvellousGod:
.. You're right. . The act encouraged her that the husband still cares atleast. .

However, since the man knows how painful it could be having another partner, why deliberately hurting his wife? Really bad..

5minsmadness:


Buddhist? Vegan?

MizMyColi:


Bothering on Agnostic/Christianity

Why do you ask?

hahn:


She's a christian

Or can't you spot the barbarism?

sisisioge:


I feel you jare! Enough of all the "crying the victim" and looking for pity parties! Way to go girl! Get your groove back, flirt if it makes you feel any better but do not cheat on him...yet! Lol! We gals don't usually have the liver...all barks tinz.

Continue to appear unaffected. Spend his money pls and don't get down with him without protection. All will be well, after the rain comes the shine. I don't know why men stress women like this sef thus I don't know what to say about the issue.