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Krystalxxx:
I don't think she was trying to be a hoe in the first place a virgin doesn't have those dirty ideas in mind. And have you read the story well , they has a relationship before she gave in. And what's wrong with her wanting a doctor and a handsome dude ? Don't you want a curvy and beautiful beautiful wife? So if she has standards she now deserved to be punished for it, right? Come to think of it she's a first timer how can you blame her like that? U said she didn't think of what he wanted, didn't he approach and make his interests known at the beginning? I believe she had her fault but that was by forcing her stay AFTER finding out he didn't want her again. Stop looking for every opportunity to blame a woman, even the innocent ones.

jonaifame22:
and gals be thinkn they can tie a nigger down wth sex every time

J3da:
I met my husband Dayo, in my third year at the university. I can still remember that day. He had come to my hostel to put up with his cousin Tomi for a short while as he was posted to the university health centre for his national youth service corps.. Tomi had forgotten to drop the keys to his room on Dayo's instructions and he was stranded. It began to drizzle after a while and I had no choice than to let him wait in my room. I gave him some water and we started a conversation. Dayo was such an amazing person to be with that I didn't realize how much time we had spent chatting. It just seemed like I had known him all my life. We became friends and I was the happiest girl at that time. Dayo was everything I wanted in a man. Tall, dark, handsome and of course a medical doctor. I was just too obsessed with getting married to a medical doctor that I forgot about everything else. Dayo probably understood that I loved him too much and made a fool of me. I willingly offered him my most prized possession, my body, my virginity. Dayo was too happy to know that he was the first man and he promised me everything in the world. He told me that he would take me to the altar as soon as he got a job and i earnestly hoped and prayed for it. However one thing I couldn't understand about Dayo was his attitude towards women. I wouldn't say he went after them, but he just couldn't resist them. He accepted gifts and cash from them and would often introduce me as his friend. Everytime I complained about his attitude, he would say he knew exactly what he was doing and there was no point nagging about anything as I would be his wife one day. .. God answered my prayers and Dayo was retained in the university health centre. I waited eagerly for his proposals as the days went by but he began to drag feet. He said he wanted to save more and I obliged but days grew into months and months into a year and Dayo wasn't willing to see my parents. Two years passed by and I grew weary of waiting. Dayo had a good job, a nice car and a small beautiful apartment but he kept on postponing the big deal. I stopped having sex with him and Dayo had a good reason to cheat on me with my little cousin. I was very mad at him and he apologised profusely. He told me that my sister had seduced him and I believed him. Sarah was such a spoilt brat so I let the matter go. I began sleeping with him again to secure my relationship . I cooked his food, did his laundry, kept his house clean and did all the wifely chores but still Dayo wasn't making up his mind so I decided to help myself. .. I deliberately got pregnant for him! I had mixed feelings. Would my pregnancy make him speed up our marriage plans? Would he be happy? Would he reject it? I thought about it for several days and finally opened up to him. He dropped his spoon of rice hastily as I made the comment "I am pregnant", looked at me angrily and said "You must be joking. Are you so stupid to get pregnant? I am not ready for marriage. You better take that bastard out of your womb if you ever want to see my face again". I nearly slumped,I couldn't believe my eyes. Everything came back to me in a flash. The first time we met, the first time we made love, the day he got his employment letter, the day I caught him with my little cousin, the many female friends, the weird text messages from female colleagues... The world came crashing at my feet and I realized that Dayo didn't love me as much as i thought. I realized that I didn't take .enough time to know him before accepting him,I realized that giving him my body was the worst mistake, I realized that I ignored all the warning signs. Dayo wasn't the man for me but I pushed too hard... I couldn't stand an abortion, I couldn't stand having a child outside wedlock so I went in search of his family. I was lucky to meet his mum and she accepted me with open arms. She told me that no son of hers would bring shame to the family and that I was in safe hands. She sent for Dayo and he made it very clear to his mother and other family members that he wasn't ready to marry me... I wept like a baby but Dayo wouldn't change his mind. My church got wind of the news and suspended my parents who were church elders. My father was very mad at me and warned me never to return home.
It was a lonely world for me. Dayo called me all sorts of names and told me that he only accepted the pregnancy because he was the first man but he was too young to get married... After much persuasions from his big uncles and family members, Dayo decided to pay my bride price and I moved in with him.. Its four years now and I still cry every night. I am pregnant for the second child but Dayo doesn't regard that as anything. He blames me for every misfortune in his life and treats me like thrash. He still hangs out with the boys and acts like a bachelor... My husband is 29 and he feels he is too young to be a father and husband. He says I dashed his hopes of going abroad to further his studies, he says I didn't let him have his dream home and life. He just keeps saying I messed his life and I wonder why...
Every day I hope and pray for a miracle and I know someday my husband Dayo would come around........
Dear single ladies, do not love a man too much and forget that you are special too. You deserve to be treated like royalty. Getting pregnant in a bid to make a man marry you is just a sheer waste of time... You really cant force a man to do anything. Let him make up his mind. Let him be the one in a haste to take you to the altar and not the other round....
Call me old fashioned but I will still tell the truth. Sex before marriage to a large extent beclouds your sense of reasoning. You never see things rightly when you are giving it...
Finally, a broken relationship is a million times better than a broken marriage. So quit if it isn't working. Even if you have invested a good number of years in it, walk away. It is far better than spending the rest of your life in tears...A man who treats you like thrash in a relationship won't do better in marriage.. Wise up!

Krystalxxx:
He didn't remember that she was destroying his life ambition when he started sleeping with her abi? Or when he chased her and took her dignity. it's now he remembers that she spoilt his life. Didn't he spoil her own life too, in a way? Selfish narcissistic bunch.

utenwuson:
she was raped? the only thing d girl have in ds whole wide world is her virginity? dignity u called it? but she thought dt dignity will provide 4 her eternal joy by using on ds innocent dude but who s regretting d whole thing nw?

joshuamoses101:
she got it coming...nd she shouldnt blame love/checked ur prof also....u seem like u gotten ur hrt broken probably a couple of times

passionate88:
Nigerian girls and money. Greedy bastards. She knew that he is a casanova yet she still went ahead to get married to him, now that she realised he isn't willing to change she's here giving the wrong advice. Why didn't she ask Nigerian girls not to marry for cash, not to depend on a guy for cash she's here saying don't love too much. RUBBISH.

Krystalxxx:
A woman should never succumb or sacrifice anything for a wicked gender like yours that cries to be fed but turns around to blame and chastise the woman once they are done.

joshuamoses101:
we got off on the wrg foot,happy independence day/new month

Krystalxxx:
A woman should never succumb or sacrifice anything for a wicked gender like yours that cries to be fed but turns around to blame and chastise the woman once they are done.

Krystalxxx:
Happy independence day and happy new month to you too.

Mcbussy:
Stay here and continue ranting... Keep blaming the wicked, evil and demonic gender and don't use ur brain. If a man sleeps with ur cousin, friend or sister, go ahead and marry him because u wanna satisfy ur dream of marrying a handsome doctor. I'll be right here waiting for your own story.

There are so many good guys out there, keep tagging along with A.holes and blame it on d gender. Who knows? maybe d devil created men...just like all ladies are angels.

joshuamoses101:
how are u planning on celebrating it

Krystalxxx:
Who wants to go into another relationship and then be tagged as second hand? This babe had her whole life planned out, to lay with and stay with only one man. It's her fault partly for staying after seeing the guys true color, but she must have been thinking about how much she'd lost. That's probably what made her to stay, not because of any money or class as some guys put it. You always think that a woman is after your money but run away from, or use the independent ladies, calling them a threat to you. I'm not ignoring her faults.

Well I have a little time but not enough for these gimmicks you're displaying. Have a nice day.

Mcbussy:
I concur with ur view... I don't think the problem here is loving too much. I think the mistake she made was being in love with the man's profession. I bet there's nothing sexy about being a medical doctor besides the fact that they are usually employed and well paid. So it all boils down to material. Marry a man that wants you as much or even more than you want him.

I'm sure after the A.hole slept wif her cousin, some other guy that ain't a doctor or millionaire woulda come around but she'd be like; "I love my man". To be honest, men tend to misbehave when they get the feeling you are trying to hold on by every means necessary. Especially when they feel ur reason is based on their material/financial status.

Krystalxxx:
I don't think she was trying to be a hoe in the first place a virgin doesn't have those dirty ideas in mind. And have you read the story well , they has a relationship before she gave in. And what's wrong with her wanting a doctor and a handsome dude ? Don't you want a curvy and beautiful beautiful wife? So if she has standards she now deserved to be punished for it, right? Come to think of it she's a first timer how can you blame her like that? U said she didn't think of what he wanted, didn't he approach and make his interests known at the beginning? I believe she had her fault but that was by forcing her stay AFTER finding out he didn't want her again. Stop looking for every opportunity to blame a woman, even the innocent ones.

utenwuson:
Walahi d gurl really destroy d guy ambitions! she destroy everything d guy works to achieve. d gurl only love him cos he was close 2 being "ok" wt lyf hussles! all I c in ds story is a desperate lady who has destroy a medical Dr cos she s insecure! virginity, sex, pregnancy can never mk a man love u no matter hw! even if he s force 2 marry u, he ll always curse d day he met u!

Krystalxxx:
He didn't remember that she was destroying his life ambition when he started sleeping with her abi? Or when he chased her and took her dignity. it's now he remembers that she spoilt his life. Didn't he spoil her own life too, in a way? Selfish narcissistic bunch.

sinaj:
Illegal Straffing ain't worth it



If da nigga rily love you, he will stick to ya Witat sex


Premarital sex comes with Lotta insecurities nd Itz nt kul



Nice story op




FEAR GOD

passionate88:
virginity is not dignity. Do you mean to say that a non virgin doesn't have dignity? I tire for Nigerian girls and this virginity rubbish.

Krystalxxx:
Go and tell that to your fellow men making endless rows of threads bashing women for not having virginity.

passionate88:
So because 'some' men said it is, you believed and accepted that it is the dignity of a woman?. So you do what men say is right and abstain from what they say is wrong?


Ok o

Krystalxxx:
That's not it. The pressure caused by your kind is what makes the virginity look that way . However in a sense it is part of a woman's dignity.

passionate88:
If isn't a woman's dignity. The way she carries herself, the way she acts and how she responds when faced with different circumstances is how a woman's dignity is known. Not through a tiny membrane covering her vulva, The way your kind in Nigeria reason is just archaic. Your kind need to grow up fast. We are in the 21st century and will soon enter 22nd century. It can start with you, stop thinking virginity is a woman's dignity.

PunkyVeer:
Of course it's not true but most women still believe their
average vjj is something special

Yesterday I was listening to a Trina song. She said something like "Make him work for that kitty cat. Give him none of that until..." . Well, until he does whatever. Can't remember the lyrics now. Instinctively, inside, I went "Yeah!!!!". But then I sat back & thought about it much deeper. Now as an outsider looking in. Objectively. I asked myself, what's so special about it that most of us attach so much value to it? Trina is definitely not a virgin, so why does she think a guy needs to do more before he can actually sleep with her? I get it & don't get it, if that makes sense. I get that you must have morals & not give yourself to just about anybody sexually. However, I still don't get why we put so much importance in it (using it as bargaining chip whenever possible), like we're doing a huge favour to whomever is going to get it as if we're the only ones giving a part of ourselves during intercourse. But it is what it is. I guess that's just how women are programmed, because even if a woman gave birth to several children, she'll somehow still believe she has the 8th wonder of the world right between her legs. It can be hilarious but ah well.

Krystalxxx:
No tell men to stop pushing that shit in our faces and ordering us to eat it, all they know how to do is to sit down and shame a woman from dusk till dawn.

WailingWailer00:
To all the money loving bitches

Follow money and be like OP