halexito:

Hmm....... Thumbs up Toks2008! You're the best!!

uchezzz:
Congrats op. I like ur personality
I seem not to be able to keep up with this thread. I close my eyes and open and its already in page 36

Toks2008:
For the single mothers in the house,here is a thread i created sometime in the past.I believe it will be an interesting read.

8 words of advice for the Unmarried Single Mothers

Having a child out of wedlock is not ideal in anyway and ladies should do their best to avoid this not by the sinful and babaric act of abortion but by been careful to open up to a man who will love then enough not to abandon them and the child should pregnancy occurs.

Nevertheless,it is no longer a big deal that we have baby mamas who are never married and we have a growing number of this set of ladies due to many factors too numerous to elucidate upon.

The sad twist is that it is generally believed that such ladies usually find it difficultt to find a man that will eventually marry them due to the stigma of being a single mum out of wedlock.

In my opinion,being a single mother is no deterrent but most times,it is the approach of these ladies who find themselves in this situation that really makes it hard for them to get a man as fast as they would love to.

Here are very important list of advise that will be beneficial for you.

1.Be confident; Many men are very skeptical about fertility status of many ladies these days so as a single mum you should be proud of yourself that you are fertile and capable of procreating so carry yourself with dignity and be proud of yourself.

2.Look sexy: Get rid of that after child-birth pregnancy(protruding tummy) many Nigerian young mothers are known for. I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH.I guess this link will come in handy for you and other mothers because guys love flat tummies even after you have given birth toi children.http://www.findhomeremedy.com/12-wonderful-home-remedies-for-getting-flat-tummy-after-delivery/

3.Be selective: This might sound strange but if you have your way,look away from single never married guys. Yes this does not apply in all cases but i will be frank with you on this. You will be more appreciated by male divorcees,widower as well as the married men while single never married guys may just want to cool off with you. While you may ignore the married men,widowers,divorcees,or a never married single dad will make a better pair.

4.Don't discuss your child excessively: I have heard many single mothers say stuffs like..a man who will want me must want my child..

Well no man will ask you to forget your child but most guys are not interested in hearing you sing about the child,remember its not his child so in as much as a mother's love towards her child is strong,please try to avoid making it a subject matter even if the man also has his own children. Discussing your child excessively will take the shine off the affair.

5.Don't take up the responsibility: This is one big mistake single mothers do. Except the man absconds or his family bluntly refuses to accept the child,DON'T EVER TAKE UP THE RESPONSIBILITY OF TAKING CARE OF THE CHILD.

In most cases,the baby daddy and his family are interested in the baby but not interested in the mother so many times these ladies usually hold on to the child because to them "if you don't want me,you can't have my child"

No matter the stress you go through in bringing the child up,you can never erase the paternity of the child and a day will likely come when the child will look for the dad or visavis and when the day comes,just one prostration and im sorry from the dad will melt the pains of neglect of many years so why insist on taking care of a child of a man who may come back to claim his biological child.

Please give the child to the father's family,after-all nobody in this world can contest the maternity of the child.Abeg free yourself because its a turn off for guys when they want to woo a cutie and discover that the baby you are with is actually yours...its better to know latter.

Or better still give the child to a family member of yours and be free to rediscover yourself.

6. Be financially independent: Please understand that many men these days are struggling and it will be very unrealistic for you to expect another man to automatically take up another man's responsibility.

Yes some men will not mind to take care of you and your child or children but try to be financially independent in the little way you can so that while you expect some form of financial succor from any man that comes into your life,you will not stress him too much by wanting him to provide for a child who is not his.

7.Don't be a dumping ground: Many ladies have been enmeshed with self pity and condemnation that they just rush into any affair with guys who they will ordinarily never date all because they see themselves as after one as they call it.

There is a saying for single mothers in my dialect "omo bibi ki n se arun" meaning having a child out of wedlock is not a disease.

8. Be bold,be confident never allow any man love you out of pity or take advantage of you.

Hope this helps.

klassic:
I love kids and i am crazy about em kids especially cute guys of not less than 8months old. Even thinking about it gets me smiling .But i hate marriage. The tort of it scarces shit outta me. What do you advise i do? Should i adopt, keep a lady preg and make her a baby mama, or get a single mom and adopt her child as mine?

Melish:
And it finally happened....

But then I wanna remind us all that just like in the days of noah.. People will be eating and drinking, marrying and given in marriage when the rapture shall occur.... Are you ready to meet your saviour?....

Choose Jesus today... He's the only way out

torqque7:

Hmm wonders shall never end..this melish child you have really become a nuisance here o..it is girls like you that become stalkers and stalk their boyfriends every move, the definition of a dunce is someone incapable of learning simple things..what part of stay away is impossible for you to understand? does it look like we are sinners or don't have our various religious beliefs? personally I think you need deliverance from this irritating behavior, you can't force yourself on people when you clearly are not wanted,all these hypocritical talks just shows you are the type of girl that can drink poison or do something crazy when you get dumped because you definitely are a girl that gets obsessed with things.hmm na wa o

Toks2008:
i READ THIS FUNNY story on L ikeji's blog and it really got me wondering.

I think the guy needs prayers because this one don pass be careful.

But then i want to ask the guys in the room, can you give your wife a head?

As for me its a big resounding Yes and infact the taught of it turns me on so as adults lets talk

1.For the guys can you give your wife a head?
2.For the ladies can you do that for your husband and when can you say the habit of your husband giving you mouth action is too much?

Note that we are all adults here so lets talk.

Toks2008:


Hi dearie, long time.

marcusagrippa:

Hi, you mentioned that you're from Owo, right? I'm from Uso or at least my old man is from there. I can't really speak the language but I understand it.

uchezzz:
Toks2008
I think the guy needs help. The wife should help him get help cos its not normal.
In marriage, the body of d wife no longer belongs to her but her husband and vise versa. Both they should both do what they are comfortable with.
The guy is perverted, and needs help

Toks2008:


Oya make una come answer nah

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udysweet:
Good evening good people, guess your day went well?

torqque7:

Hello dear..howr you today?I trust your day was great as well?by the way what does mbok mean? ?

uchezzz:
I once had this toaster that told me he prefered sucking a girl over the main $ex. I ran for my life and stoped picking his calls.
As for ur question Toks 2008, can i do that for my hubby? Dont know yet.( never say never....lol)
When can i say its too much? Definitely not every nite or everytime we have $ex

torqque7:

Yea I can with my wife,if I love her enough to marry her then going down on her wouldn't be a problem as long as she wants it sha..as for the story It really sounds unbelievable but things like this are very real ,the man could have some kind of spiritual issue and needs help,as for the wife helping with other girls it means she is not sound too and definitely playing with fire because she is encouraging him to cheat,she needs to see someone about it for help like a man of God and they both need to go for couple's therapy she and her husband.

udysweet:
@toks2008 nawa for u o! I saw this on Instagram last week and posted on my Facebook. Then one of my very Christian brother in boxed me o,by the time e finished preaching I just respect myself and pulled the post down, lol.
To be serious, dat guy is A heavy nut case. Pls I won't do it o,forget been submissive,dsnt apply in this case mbok.
Suck me every night before he can sleep? Hell to the No!!!!

Toks2008:


Good morning Ucheez and everyone..

Nice answer.

LOL! regarding running for your life i guess you should not even grant me audience if i woo you cos it is one thing i believe i will enjoy more than the real thing and i believe any lady who has her man interested in giving her head is fortunate cos many guys dont even think about it.

But the lady must be neat.

Toks2008:
i READ THIS FUNNY story on L ikeji's blog and it really got me wondering.

I think the guy needs prayers because this one don pass be careful.

But then i want to ask the guys in the room, can you give your wife a head?

As for me its a big resounding Yes and infact the taught of it turns me on so as adults lets talk

1.For the guys can you give your wife a head?
2.For the ladies can you do that for your husband and when can you say the habit of your husband giving you mouth action is too much?

Note that we are all adults here so lets talk.

udysweet:
@toks2008 nawa for u o! I saw this on Instagram last week and posted on my Facebook. Then one of my very Christian brother in boxed me o,by the time e finished preaching I just respect myself and pulled the post down, lol.
To be serious, dat guy is A heavy nut case. Pls I won't do it o,forget been submissive,dsnt apply in this case mbok.
Suck me every night before he can sleep? Hell to the No!!!!

CorrectGuy4love:
Am in....

here to make friends and not love.
am 35, married with kids.
works in a multinational and also have a private business.

am an introvert, less intelligent and not sociable.

wish to gain more knowledge from you all, get out of my shell and be sociable.

also to network and grow my business.


cheers.

gratefulme40:




Well....Toks, all i can see is a selfish, self-centred man who only cares about himself without minding how his actions affects his wife.

What manner of man makes his wife watch him go down on other women?

On the wife's side, i see a sick woman whose life revolves around the wishes and desires of the husband.....who really does this?

If the husband cannot sleep...he can aswell do a tarry night!

If i were this woman, I wont even be using same cutlery with this man by now.....that mouth is nothing but a gutter.

As for me.....whatever i do with my spouse has to be acceptable to both of us.