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Good morning my fellow Nairalanders.. Please a brother need your advice.. It goes like this.. The guy has been dating the girl for a very long time and they really loved each other so much to the extent that they'll do anything for each other.. They dated for about 4 to 5 years before things changed.. It happened that the girl's parents are very rich.. The problem is that the girl's father wants the girl to marry one particular guy, son of his good friend.. But the girl doesn't have an atom of love for the guy cos she truly love her boyfriend and wants to settle down with him.. To cut the long story short, she was finally forced to marry that guy her dad recommended for her.. She has been married to her husband for like 3years now and have a son for him, but she never stop loving that her boyfriend no matter what.. She use to call him on phone sometimes, esp whenever they're having a misunderstanding.. Even the husband sometimes do call that her boyfriend to seek advice on how to handle the girl.. The real problem now is that the girl has been complaining and disturbing that her boyfriend now.. She wants to quit her marriage for that her boyfriend.. Although the boyfriend is now doing business and God has been helping him out both in his business and music stuff cos he do sing too.. But his trouble now is that the girl want him to marry her and take her out side country, Spain precisely.. She deposited seven million naira (#7m) in that her boyfriend's account just last week and she has already paid for their visa and some other necessary documents they might need to travel with which the agent is processing now.. But the guy has been thinking about it for some time now and decide to seek for people's opinion on what to do cos everything is just happening so fast.. Although he said that he still love the girl somehow, but he don't want to make a mistake.. The thought of betraying his fellow man (the husband) and the other people it'll affect is what killing him inside.. He said he don't want to jeopardise his future cos the girl.. Please, he really need a good advice.. Should he forget about it and return the money to the girl and face his business or should he continue with their plan? Your candid advice is needed please.. Thanks and God bless..

but
I got dis ppl

Its not ur fault wat happened 2 both of you BT uv gat2 let go 4 God's sake.
If she wanto leave her husband, let her call her family nd tell dem she wants 2 dissolve the marriage..if it doesn't work, stay clear o
B4 u go see assasins 4 Spain wey wan kill u..

Jst be careful o


Nd also, he shud go nd find a babe dat will divert his attention xo he can stop tinking of sum1's wife

Nice script, I think I have watched the movie before... What God has joined together... U know the rest

ENGRJCJ:
Nice script, I think I have watched the movie before... What God has joined together... U know the rest

Bro, it's not a Nigerian movie.. It's really happening now and the guy needs help..

oga this ur story is so so hilarious

Arrange ur work op

Firstly
If the guy loves the gal and can accept the kid good if not he should forget abt the plans of travelling


Happiness matters a lot in life if u can't deal with the kid the lady has already bore in as much u don't strongly love the gal cos all I see is the gal loving more

Please just move on with ur bizness if u love ur life happiness matters a lot.

Nature8:
Bro, it's not a Nigerian movie.. It's really happening now and the guy needs help..

Then tell him to do the right, let him forget another person's wife and go marry.. All these things call love sha.. It's just our mindset.

He should make her understand he will always be there for her n shun this elope idea...time will catch up with u n tunda wey smoke weed will wipe this stupidity from ur head, if u make waka with person wife .

Many Women don't have conscience again, why?

Op....it's seems u are the ex boyfriend and musician....y nt let go this former babe of urz and face ur career,if tinz don't turn out well BTW u two in the future she will blame u for destroying her first marriage

I think you have already made your decision before posting this. The visas have been purchased and some documents already being processed and fund provided surely with your consent. Your conscience seems to be the thing tormenting you. My advice is, listen carefully to your mind and do remember Mr karma, he is impartial when he visits with his reward.

what i can say here is that,the FATHER is her problem...she was forced in to this marriage...
If she really love u and u do same my advice is let her meet with her parents....
infact U too contributed to her problem cos u communicate with her always,u should hv known that she doesn't need u for marrying someone else....its not easy nowadays to force any lady into marriage....
Money isn't everything n since u aren't jealous then u aren't in love....cos u still talk with the husband,who knows whether u still bleep her....

The lady will definitely leave you too for another guy in future if you end up with her.

She didn't make this plan before she was forced to marry the guy huh?

She didn't make this plan until after 3years huh?

If you enter ladies trap eh, I pity u

First nature you are that guy that said u would surely be denied visa to spain yes call me a soothsayer yes i am seven million breach lump sum deposite for travellers long story u fit no understand sha
would advice you to just forget about her and move on with your life and business use that money buy goods and promote your music if she complain which i doubt tell her u love her and want the best for her buy not breaking her marriage if she say she love you tell her to file for seperation before yo can do so which she will not
oboy use your head oooooo
because if the family py me to track u down u will surely go down
better still tell her family her plan
blessed be

Nature8:
Good morning my fellow Nairalanders.. Please a brother need your advice.. It goes like this.. The guy has been dating the girl for a very long time and they really loved each other so much to the extent that they'll do anything for each other.. They dated for about 4 to 5 years before things changed.. It happened that the girl's parents are very rich.. The problem is that the girl's father wants the girl to marry one particular guy, son of his good friend.. But the girl doesn't have an atom of love for the guy cos she truly love her boyfriend and wants to settle down with him.. To cut the long story short, she was finally forced to marry that guy her dad recommended for her.. She has been married to her husband for like 3years now and have a son for him, but she never stop loving that her boyfriend no matter what.. She use to call him on phone sometimes, esp whenever they're having a misunderstanding.. Even the husband sometimes do call that her boyfriend to seek advice on how to handle the girl.. The real problem now is that the girl has been complaining and disturbing that her boyfriend now.. She wants to quit her marriage for that her boyfriend.. Although the boyfriend is now doing business and God has been helping him out both in his business and music stuff cos he do sing too.. But his trouble now is that the girl want him to marry her and take her out side country, Spain precisely.. She deposited seven million naira (#7m) in that her boyfriend's account just last week and she has already paid for their visa and some other necessary documents they might need to travel with which the agent is processing now.. But the guy has been thinking about it for some time now and decide to seek for people's opinion on what to do cos everything is just happening so fast.. Although he said that he still love the girl somehow, but he don't want to make a mistake.. The thought of betraying his fellow man (the husband) and the other people it'll affect is what killing him inside.. He said he don't want to jeopardise his future cos the girl.. Please, he really need a good advice.. Should he forget about it and return the money to the girl and face his business or should he continue with their plan? Your candid advice is needed please.. Thanks and God bless..

Forget the girl. Return the money. Explain to her that you can not be friends for now otherwise there will always be one issue or the other you guys are resolving and you will not be able to move on with your life. Let the couple find a way to resolve their issues what if you were married.?

Stay away from confused people they will confuse you even the husband tell him to stop calling you for counsel. They are not bad people but you are making yourself available to be used for no reason, she is not in your life she made her decision she should live by it you cannot live by her decision to marry the man. She is not your wife do not take responsibility for her choices.

I think he should not run away with that girl to be fair the girl should have ran away before she got married now her decision will ruin everyone in the family which is not a good idea for anyone, she will not only betray her husband, but also her father mother and the son. She might get succees in it but after sometime she will regret on her decision so to be wise its good not to run and try to sought out things positively and understand that love is sacrifice her husband loves her so better concentrate on family whatevr happened was past now dont ruin the future. or else all will regret

Sunexy:
but
I got dis ppl

Its not ur fault wat happened 2 both of you BT uv gat2 let go 4 God's sake.
If she wanto leave her husband, let her call her family nd tell dem she wants 2 dissolve the marriage..if it doesn't work, stay clear o
B4 u go see assasins 4 Spain wey wan kill u..

Jst be careful o


Nd also, he shud go nd find a babe dat will divert his attention xo he can stop tinking of sum1's wife

Yeah bro, that's what I told him..

amii131:
Arrange ur work op

Firstly
If the guy loves the gal and can accept the kid good if not he should forget abt the plans of travelling


Happiness matters a lot in life if u can't deal with the kid the lady has already bore in as much u don't strongly love the gal cos all I see is the gal loving more

Please just move on with ur bizness if u love ur life happiness matters a lot.

It's not like that dear.. Both of them love each other equally.. The guy wanted to take the baby with them, but the girl advised him not to.. Though I've advised him not to go with her.. Thanks for your advice..

Harbosede02:
Op....it's seems u are the ex boyfriend and musician....y nt let go this former babe of urz and face ur career,if tinz don't turn out well BTW u two in the future she will blame u for destroying her first marriage

It's not me dear, he's a friend.. I'm just trying to help a brother.. Thanks for your advice..

nnachukz:
I think you have already made your decision before posting this. The visas have been purchased and some documents already being processed and fund provided surely with your consent. Your conscience seems to be the thing tormenting you. My advice is, listen carefully to your mind and do remember Mr karma, he is impartial when he visits with his reward.

Like I said before bro, everything happened so fast and the girl was like trying to let him know how serious she is.. He just told me about it on saturday night and I was thinking about it since before I finally decide to bring it here to seek people's opinion.. Although he called me this evening and told me that he changed his mind, that he's on his way coming back from Lagos now.. Thanks for your advice..

smarttm:
what i can say here is that,the FATHER is her problem...she was forced in to this marriage...
If she really love u and u do same my advice is let her meet with her parents....
infact U too contributed to her problem cos u communicate with her always,u should hv known that she doesn't need u for marrying someone else....its not easy nowadays to force any lady into marriage....
Money isn't everything n since u aren't jealous then u aren't in love....cos u still talk with the husband,who knows whether u still bleep her....

Lol.. Bro, I trust my guy.. I know him too well.. He can never f*ck someone's girlfriend not to talk of wife.. Talking about answering her calls, her mum was the one that convinced the guy to keep answering her calls cos of how bad things were then.. She knows everything about them then and I suspect that she might even know about their arrangement..

Bros are u really d one? den I am feeling so sorry 4 u, from ur write u made up ur mind already b4 coming here, my advice stay far far away from ur Ex bros. u have a bright future ahead of u, don't let a single mistake rule ur life. A word is enough for d wise.

happyjuliet:
Bros are u really d one? den I am feeling so sorry 4 u, from ur write u made up ur mind already b4 coming here, my advice stay far far away from ur Ex bros. u have a bright future ahead of u, don't let a single mistake rule ur life. A word is enough for d wise.

Thanks for your advice.. It's not me, but I'll tell him..

Sunexy:
but
I got dis ppl

Its not ur fault wat happened 2 both of you BT uv gat2 let go 4 God's sake.
If she wanto leave her husband, let her call her family nd tell dem she wants 2 dissolve the marriage..if it doesn't work, stay clear o
B4 u go see assasins 4 Spain wey wan kill u..

Jst be careful o


Nd also, he shud go nd find a babe dat will divert his attention xo he can stop tinking of sum1's wife

very nice. ..ur head dey there... abeg chop knuckle

pet4ril:
very nice. ..ur head dey there... abeg chop knuckle

*kisses knuckle*

waiting for the part two.....biko when they get to spain let me know o.

I will not advice u to run away with the lady
from ur write up , I could see DAT d hubby of the lady in question see u as a good friend, thus he seeks advice from u whenever family matter arises... I expect u to respect DAT..
also sit d girl down and tell her to inform her family about d shortcomings of her relationship or better still advice d husband to take good care of his wife.

I have watch these movie b4,at the end the girl was dead(mercy Johnson)

Princejebs:
I have watch these movie b4,at the end the girl was dead(mercy Johnson)

So the Op wrote nollywood script for us...
Anyway....I pray the girl doesn't die...
But that boi wil die!!!!!

ENIGMA24:
So the Op wrote nollywood script for us...
Anyway....I pray the girl doesn't die...
But that boi wil die!!!!!

God forbid! Nobody will die!