Toks2008:


The ethics of my profession embraces proactiveness,innovation and dynamiism which remains the opium of any sustainable and progessive corporatiion or individual.

Having said that..i have decided to lay to rest the clamour for ladies in their late 20s...though i expected the OP to execute a liberal and democratic approach to my suggeston by throwing it to every one on the thread but she chose to be authocratic about it and i had to let it go.

If there are ladies of late 20s on this thread i believe you wont even write this because you would have silently sent a mail to any lady in your age bracket that catches your fancy in terms of her beauty or personality even if you are on the bench as a result of your ae.

Im writing this because of the mention but the op has the right to be epiphatiic about this or still hold on to her standds.

You still talking about it means you have not laid it to rest.

siamia:
@toks 2008

This thread is simply 30plus and single. If u recall, it was originally 40plus and single. U were the same person who suggested that the bar should be lowered a little, to include those who were in their 30s, and I reasoned with u, though it deviated from my original purpose in starting this thread.

This post seems to be addressed to me and ur tone makes me wonder.
If expanding the thread to include men and women in their 30s isn't liberal and democratic, I wonder what is.
Saying that I am being autocratic abt it seems to be a direct attack on my person. I have always maintained a respectful approach to everyone, and encouraged everyone to be likeminded.
If one goes back to read all ur posts on this thread, one thing is clear. U don't think twice abt being verbally confrontational or outright abusive to anyone who doesn't think the way u do. The word for it is BULLY.
I want to believe u are not aware of it, but yes, u do bully people, and its unhealthy.
If u feel so strongly abt it, rather than stir up people's emotions here, pls by all means, start a thread of ur own. I am not taking up ur space here. I will not be drawn into an argument with u.
In life, u don't always have to have the last word. Some times u walk away from a battle in order to maintain ur dignity. Walk away from this one, dear.
Hope ur having a nice day.

Let me advice you sis,always and i mean always put your adrenal glands under check when you communicate online.I only made a comment on the issue as a result of a post by a 20something yr old guy who mentioned me and even if i decide to insist on the same issue i still believe no one has the right to burst out at me.

Which battle are you fighting for petes sake and why all this walking away talks? for crying out loud,the post that got you vehement was as innocuous as it can ever be from me and i have gone pass that age where i get scared to express my dogged view as regards issues and that was never intended to attack your person so im really at sea as regards your personality attack.

Check all my posts and bring out one bully like word and i will make an unreserved apology to anyone who probably have not dim it fit to express your bias notion.

I don't have a room and parlor on nairaland but because of my passion for interacting it becomes imperative to state my opinion which ought not to be seen as been confrontational.

Honestly i am disappointed by your unguarded outburst towards me as regards my insistence of including lower age bracket which is as a result of my observation. This thread was created by you but we are a;l part of it hence the need for any one here to make an opinion without been seen as derogatory or confrontational.

Once again I am deeply sorry if i have ever written any bully like comments to any one here and i also demand an apology from you siama for your unguarded,unfounded,unwarranted and bias notion about me.

I am not too special on this thread but i will stop commenting here henceforth until i get an apology from you.

the tension here don high o, someone shld come and reduce it na

Toks2008:


Let me advice you sis,always and i mean always put your adrenal glands under check when you communicate online.I only made a comment on the issue as a result of a post by a 20something yr old guy who mentioned me and even if i decide to insist on the same issue i still believe no one has the right to burst out at me.

Which battle are you fighting for petes sake and why all this walking away talks? for crying out loud,the post that got you vehement was as innocuous as it can ever be from me and i have gone pass that age where i get scared to express my dogged view as regards issues and that was never intended to attack your person so im really at sea as regards your personality attack.

Check all my posts and bring out one bully like word and i will make an unreserved apology to anyone who probably have not dim it fit to express your bias notion.

I don't have a room and parlor on nairaland but because of my passion for interacting it becomes imperative to state my opinion which ought not to be seen as been confrontational.

Honestly i am disappointed by your unguarded outburst towards me as regards my insistence of including lower age bracket which is as a result of my observation. This thread was created by you but we are a;l part of it hence the need for any one here to make an opinion without been seen as derogatory or confrontational.

Once again I am deeply sorry if i have ever written any bully like comments to any one here and i also demand an apology from you siama for your unguarded,unfounded,unwarranted and bias notion about me.

I am not too special on this thread but i will stop commenting here henceforth until i get an apology from you.

Seriously, you need to loosen up a bit. I feel you're very rigid. Flexibility goes a long way in life.

*back to my sideline*

Interesting, I think uncle toks is smarter than the big sis, his argument is coherent and logical. But I dnt knw why I still support her. I also think that toks deserves an apology. Toks u r really a politician and u ve got a lot of time, maybe it's because u dnt work for sumbody. U have been consistent with ur comments, u r really intelligent but I won't hire ur types because they take over people's businesses.
Big sis(siamia), even though u created this thread; u didn't manage it well. U almost abandoned the thread. U even disappointed those of us at d sideline because we often came to check ur comments but wud not see anything. I expected u wud b in a managerial position in ur work place, tho that was ur picture I painted on my head, but u evidently failed to manage d most active person on ur thread. I seriously dnt like it.
Finally, there are chances this thread will bounce back, if and only if siamia wants it. Just apologize to toks and start to make comments as often as u used to do.

@Toks2008,I'm always on nairaland but I really don't comment much, that being said, I'll like to crave the indulgence of the people here to say something.

I've been following this thread since it started and I can categorically say I now know few things about some people on this thread,(the way you write reveals your personality).

Udysweet has been wonderful, sparkles003 is great, and the guys are quite wonderful too,, and siama, I don't even have the adjective to describe her, she's the definition of maturity and wisdom.

But Mr Toks2008, you need to loosen up a bit like someone earlier advised, as an elderly man, apply diplomacy with your speech, its not about you being scared of anybody or not, but you need to pass your message across to other people without hurting their feelings or stirring up emotions, hence, the need to be diplomatic, you might eventually become a public figure in the future, thats when the media reads meaning to everything you say, you know what I mean.

But without mincing words, you've done a great job so far since the inception of this thread, I won't take that away from you. I know I'm not in the capacity to advise you but sir, we learn everyday irrespective of age,gender,location or whatever.

Finally, pls I will like to suggest (cos I heard you don't advise elders, you only suggest, lols) You mr Toks2008 and siama bury the hatchet, forget the little banters and make up, you are matured guys and you've influenced a lot of people here in no small measure. Thats my humble submission.

Na wa ooo.

victor54:
Interesting, I think uncle toks is smarter than the big sis, his argument is coherent and logical. But I dnt knw why I still support her. I also think that toks deserves an apology. Toks u r really a politician and u ve got a lot of time, maybe it's because u dnt work for sumbody. U have been consistent with ur comments, u r really intelligent but I won't hire ur types because they take over people's businesses.
Big sis(siamia), even though u created this thread; u didn't manage it well. U almost abandoned the thread. U even disappointed those of us at d sideline because we often came to check ur comments but wud not see anything. I expected u wud b in a managerial position in ur work place, tho that was ur picture I painted on my head, but u evidently failed to manage d most active person on ur thread. I seriously dnt
like it.hi
Finally, there are chances this thread will bounce back, if and only if siamia wants it. Just apologize to toks and start to make comments as often as u used to do.

Why will you say one person is smarter.. Are you trying to pour petrol?

siamia:
If u are 30 plus and single, we shd have our own thread to meet and talk.
Some of us are single, educated and ably employed. We are mature, responsible, gainfully employed, christian and godfearing. Some of us have kids that we are training and bringing up. We are involved in church, in impacting the lives of others, and contribute to the wellbeing of the society, But for one reason or the other, we are still single.
I have a lot of respect for nairaland, and I think its Nigeria's version of facebook, only better.
So if ur 30 and above, let's talk and see if the sparks will fly!
Pls note: no rude comments. Respect attracts respect. Nairalanders are great people.

tell the truth
open mind
you're single cos you refuse to succumb to man
aka fish brain

Good morning,everyone! Hope your night went well? I'm honestly not soo happy about what's trying to play out here at all. Let's sheath our swords at dis stage,and let peace reign. Because those who have been plotting the downfall of this thread,will say yes,did I not say it will not stand the test of time? Even if I'm not too steady here,I still happy coming in every now and then to shout out to all here without feeling I'm out of place judging by the category of people here. So please "let it go"
@all who have made contributions,gracias! @deledels God bless u! *smiles* @mikolo80,from ur moniker I presume dat @80 means ur year of birth,don't make such unguarded statement dat shd be creditted to dos in their teenage years. I've quickly gone thru ur profile,even tho u used some words dat are not ok as per part of ur topic,u seem mature with ur topics.Don't mock anyone here,like I told one guy bak then and wch he apologised quikly,u don't knw half the story so don't mock anybody. @siamia and @Toks2008,now u guys are my egbons,please take it from and aburo"Let's it go!
Have a great y'all. Am out(by d way pls pray for me o,a bit down healthwise,Lagos stress wan killme!So looking for how to gerarahia mehn,out of lag,lol!)

udysweet:
Good morning,everyone! Hope your night went well? I'm honestly not soo happy about what's trying to play out here at all. Let's sheath our swords at dis stage,and let peace reign. Because those who have been plotting the downfall of this thread,will say yes,did I not say it will not stand the test of time? Even if I'm not too steady here,I still happy coming in every now and then to shout out to all here without feeling I'm out of place judging by the category of people here. So please "let it go"
@all who have made contributions,gracias! @deledels God bless u! *smiles* @mikolo80,from ur moniker I presume dat @80 means ur year of birth,don't make such unguarded statement dat shd be creditted to dos in their teenage years. I've quickly gone thru ur profile,even tho u used some words dat are not ok as per part of ur topic,u seem mature with ur topics.Don't mock anyone here,like I told one guy bak then and wch he apologised quikly,u don't knw half the story so don't mock anybody. @siamia and @Toks2008,now u guys are my egbons,please take it from and aburo"Let's it go!
Have a great y'all. Am out(by d way pls pray for me o,a bit down healthwise,Lagos stress wan killme!So looking for how to gerarahia mehn,out of lag,lol!)

madam i agree I'm not politically correct
h appreciate your matureresponse
but the truth is bitter and I really don't like..... let's Just say I like to cut to the chase
no I did not mean to make fun of her
but it's a just a fact
is it fair, no
but those are the 'rules '
man is the the head
and trust me women would rather get married to a broke asss nigga than a bitch asss nigga(sugar mummy, cougar,gold digger stop)
only one captain in a ship
and the deck is stacked against women
if you want to wear the pants,you go'n have to man up honey (not patronising y'all, Just saying it as it is)
you can't pick equality without the baggage Tiananmen with it
aka no more women first
you wash your own cars
you pay for dinner
...you get the point
most guys don't handle this well so they leave
10 feminist career women to 1 man who can deal with it
9 lonely women
multiply by millions
the choice is the women's
it is what it is

obviously everyone has a story but if you give me your whatsapp or bbm contact
i promise you I will convince you it's your fault
sorry I don't like typing on phone (prefer to talk real time, cos it's very easy to misconstrue my text cos I'm blunt and can't always interested emotion in words (mainly cos I think it's gay (yeah, I confess, I'm a caveman)))

God will heck you
beht madam, try take medicine
for Lagos palaver i recommend you buy okada

kaboninc:


Seriously, you need to loosen up a bit. I feel you're very rigid. Flexibility goes a long way in life.

*back to my sideline*

Honestly he has an ego kinda problem.

SexyCeline:

Honestly he has an ego kinda problem.

*If you're below 30, ngwanu come with me let's start our thread. I be the head you be the pillar (women loveee to be in power). Let's leave this place for our egbons *

Good morning all

SexyCeline:

u r in ur 30s, i'm in ma 20s, can u date me?
U r so beautiful.

Page 42 already? ? wow

Honestly i never wanted to comment on this cos i have been following this thread from page 1 till now from the sideline, but I will have to come out and make my own contribution with respect to what is playing out in this thread. @siamia u started this thread and we liked it, we started following both in active and ghost mode, now a misundetstanding between u and toks made u abandon the thread, the contributors and followers? where is the initial passioon, where is the fire, where is the enthusiaism? This is a faceless forum i agree, but two ppl can decide to give theirs a face, a name, a roof and a kid if you understand the picture i am painting. my dear siamia, if u can, i mean if u can, for the sake of this thread, for our sake, for the sake of what we are hoping for, reach out to toks, mend fences with him and God will bless u. @Toks, u kept thread alive and moving by ur constant contributions, u where giving out advices, u never can tell how many ppl that benefitted from those advices. why do you want to pull down the house u contributed 80% in building? my dear toks, if its possible, i mean possible, that u can return to the thread without an apology, pls do, we need u. @all participants, no doubt we all have been wonderful. without us, the op can not move this thread forword alone. And again, if we were not getting something good from this thread, it wouldn't have gotten to page 42, its our contributions. my dear all participants, because we love this thread, let's not allow it to die. Afterall the death of moses didn't keep the isrealites in the wilderness, a leader was raised in joshua. if siamia and toks refuse to listen to our plea, if u all will agree, i mean agree, let us raise a joshua amongst us. God bless you all, ONE LOVE

mikolo80:
madam i agree I'm not politically correct
h appreciate your matureresponse
but the truth is bitter and I really don't like..... let's Just say I like to cut to the chase
no I did not mean to make fun of her
but it's a just a fact
is it fair, no
but those are the 'rules '
man is the the head
and trust me women would rather get
married to a broke asss nigga than a bitch asss nigga(sugar mummy, cougar,gold digger stop)
only one captain in a ship
and the deck is stacked against women
if you want to wear the pants,you go'n have to man up honey (not patronising y'all, Just saying it as it is)
you can't pick equality without the baggage Tiananmen with it
aka no more women first
you wash your own cars
you pay for dinner
...you get the point
most guys don't handle this well so they leave
10 feminist career women to 1 man who can deal with it
9 lonely women
multiply by millions
the choice is the women's
it is what it is

obviously everyone has a story but if you give me your whatsapp or bbm contact
i promise you I will convince you it's your fault
sorry I don't like typing on phone (prefer to talk real time, cos it's very easy to misconstrue my text cos I'm blunt and can't always interested emotion in words (mainly cos I think it's gay (yeah, I confess, I'm a caveman)))

God will heck you
beht madam, try take medicine
for Lagos palaver i recommend you buy okada

uhmmm.
you just typed a lot of thing i presume
are your opinion
My opinion all,no disrespect to you or your writing na rubbish cos when i read what you initially typed and eneded with fish brain i expected you to bring your valid points to the table for such statement instead you got plain sparkles confused even the more.

FEMINIST
you talk bout women being career orienated and desiring to be treated equally so therefore they should take care of their own shit.
in this economy of today it cannot be helped.things are much more expensive(food.clothing.shelther.schools)which are more or less basic needs.like i tell my friends the equality stops at the work place at home the man is the head and should be respected accordinly not feared but some men see women as their sub ordinate,subjects or rivals instead of an helpmate mate which is her calling.
Do a research most women that her feminist at home do so because the man has chosen to switch roles with the woman while will a man.

The story
A bit.after a year and half of staying at home and job selecting cos i do not want marketing jobs.i got tired and finally got one by God favour dat did not come as markerting but still ended up bring markerting.
i work mon- fri till 6pm
2 sats in a month
make time for market.stay with family cant expect mum to do it.wash.clean before you know sat is gone.
sunday comes with cooking for the week
@end of the day sun day is gone
if at end of the day i make d statement she made.makes me a fish brain?

met a guy dat i really liked one time at the bank my dad banks with.after every every .said i was too expensive just cos i told hom my dreams and aspirations and dat me no fit do room and palour with any man. that a two bedrooms should be a better start.
just as women have wants so do men
Battery low.lemme stop here.
before you generalize make sure you do a through research first.
Thanks all

Emodeee:

u r in ur 30s, i'm in ma 20s, can u date me?
U r so beautiful.

Lol.. am in my mid-twenties jor.

Hmm....

People sef...

Anyway that's not why I'm here....


Please I wanna tell you all that if you're a prayerless Christian then you are powerless.....


You are subject to destruction by the enemy...


Therefore always pray without season...

Have a nice morning

Gdmrn everyone and how was Ur nite?
Hope fine? Great.
I appreciate everyone's comments, even the rude ones. I know that behind all the comments is concern.
First of all let me say this. A nation is greater than the president. No president, no matter how charismatic, no matter how vocal, no matter how influential, no matter how grammatised, no matter how cool, is greater than the masses. It is everyone of u that made this thread to be successful. If u believe the exit of one person can crash this thread, then u dont have confidence in Ur abilities. U dont know Ur strength. U dont know that u also have the ability to positively influence and impact others. U dont know that u also have a voice that should be heard.

U may not have the time to post comments 24/7, bcs of work commitments. (I am also in that situation.). But when u do post.....OMG! and that is why we are on page 42. Not bcs of one person. But bcs collectively, we all make impact!

I would like to correct an impression so that those who want to move forward, can do so.
I do not have issues or quarrels with anyone. If u have been avidly following this thread from inception,u will attest to that.
I dont post comments that hurt people. I do not posts comments to attack any single person. I do not post to confront or antagonise anyone. I do not agree with every view posted on this thread but I do not because of that, berate anyone. I only step in, if Ur posts are disrespectful. Or if Ur under 30...lol
Toks2008's post was a direct attack on me. For someone I have never met, it amazed me how he went into attack mode bcs he didnt have his way. As a matured man or woman, u dont use words as a weapon of warfare. just bcs u have a good command of English doesn't mean u shd use it to denigrate others. Many of us here are well schooled, but we keep it simple, bcs we are not writing editorials for the Punch.
If the only way u can make Ur point is by going into attack mode, inciting others into revolt, using barbed words as arrows, well.....all I will say is, Ur writing is a reflection of Ur personality.

Someone spoke abt moses and joshua. If toks2008 has left this thread, Ur all still here, wonderful, talented, beautiful people that u all are. Elvis may have left the building, but the music hasnt stopped playing. This is Ur chance. There are many matured minds in the wings, who equally have better things to say. They only kept quiet bcs one person dominated the conversation.
There is a whole world out there! Let's go on and grab our piece of it!
Trouble will not find u! Have a lovely day.

Its getting hot here.

Where are the peace makers & rain makers ?

Ummhhhhh !!!

I don't get...people get paid for running a thread on here?
Any minor altercation, op says go and start your own thread. Like I don't understand.....what's that about?

My original thought was that the thread is meant to be inclusive and all-embracing but it seems to me now that the op feels she owns this(more like her factory) and she can lash out at anyone with no pedals.

An opinion is never a standpoint, it can always change. Killing an opinion at berth or impossing your standpoint on everyone only explains a high level of arrogance and egoistic tendencies.

That Toks made a suggestion doesn't mean he should be condemned cos of such. It would have been fair to subject such to the open and arrive at conclusions based on that rather than using the cliché 'go and open your thread'. He has kept this thread alive IMO even when the op has since abandoned the thread and shouldn't have been treated as such.

Peeps ranting and spewing garbage should ask themselves what input they have made thus far on this thread?

I have been a silent follower on this thread but I think it's time I add my own.i nor know wether to use pidgin or correct English. Mr toks, as the Agbalagba wey you be, if you need 20 ' something babe's for this nairaland, dem full ashawo section, you fit go there go hustle. Abeg, leave this one as e dey.she first put it at 40 ' something but people beg, she come reduce am to 30 's, now the thread is moving becos many nor get work. Uncle toks, as the oldest man on nairaland , make u stop to dey quarel, dust urself and go create thread for 10 years old girls. Them go like you well well because of your big grammar. To be continued. .....

I have a feeling that one person is using these two accounts....

Toks2008 and ddshow......

And this "omilla" account seems suspicious as well

ddshow:
I don't get...people get paid for running a thread on here?
Any minor altercation, op says go and start your own thread. Like I don't understand.....what's that about?

My original thought was that the thread is meant to be inclusive and all-embracing but it seems to me now that the op feels she owns this(more like her factory) and she can lash out at anyone with no pedals.

An opinion is never a standpoint, it can always change. Killing an opinion at berth or impossing your standpoint on everyone only explains a high level of arrogance and egoistic tendencies.

That Toks made a suggestion doesn't mean he should be condemned cos of such. It would have been fair to subject such to the open and arrive at conclusions based on that rather than using the cliché 'go and open your thread'. He has kept this thread alive IMO even when the op has since abandoned the thread and shouldn't have been treated as such.

Peeps ranting and spewing garbage should ask themselves what input they have made thus far on this thread?

1million likes for you

Melish:
I have a feeling that one person is using these two accounts....


Toks2008 and ddshow......

I understand that kind of feeling especially when the truth is tabled before you.

Melish abi delish, abeg go wash plate, which one be suspicious character,abi you don appoint urself mod, ddshow ,e be like say u bin dey the group before,kpele, if you nor take time nw, thunder and ur left nyarsh go collide.

Oga ddshow,you and toks sound so alike, abi na the same ogbanje catch una two.any thread created by anyone is owned by the person, commenting on the thread is strictly ur own discretion. Exchanging words with a woman all becos she nor allow una get access to small small girls means that you are less than a man.NO offence

Una don use style pursue me from this thread since last week. Una well done o!..... Make i kukuma perch for one corner dey observe tins

Melish, u might be correct, the construction was similar.
Toks is a politician and a strategist. But people like toks are few, if u r 40 and single then it means u dnt ve money and definitely u won't b happy. If u r unhappy u won't b disposed to write here. I believe that most guys who r 40 and happy are married. Toks types are not easy to come by.

OMILLA:
Oga ddshow,you and toks sound so alike, abi na the same ogbanje catch una two.any thread created by anyone is owned by the person, commenting on the thread is strictly ur own discretion. Exchanging words with a woman all becos she nor allow una get access to small small girls means that you are less than a man.NO offence

Sound alike ke....have I spoken to you before? Lol
So people own thread on NL? Like they can sell it later or transfer ownership?
I'm not here to attack anyone or exchange words ok, I only expressed my opinion.
I have always been here to read mature conversations with no intention of accessing small girls Sir.....that's never my call.