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There are no general rules for dealing with human behaviour because 1- people are too complex and 2- because each person has his own drives.

Yes some cheaters can hardly change and the reason behind that is that their intentions never change.
When a cheater cheats and gets discovered he usually feels bad and can sometimes experience a great amount of guilt.

The problem with guilt is that it slowly fades away as the days pass. In other words, when a person depends on guilt alone to quit a bad habit such as serial cheating then usually he won't be ale to stop the habit.

For example a man can cheat on his wife because he unconsciously wants to take revenge against her. In such a case no matter how that cheater cries or promises he will change sooner or later his unconscious goal will motivate him to cheat once again.

Some cheaters are like players. They cheat in order to gain more self esteem and to feel worthy.
Now if those cheaters never understood that they are after a self esteem boost then no matter how hard they will try to change they will still feel like cheating.

In other words one of the main reasons many cheaters remain the way they are is that they never really tackle the problem that led to cheating in the first place. Guilt, regret and a promise to change are all good things but they are never enough for cheater to change his behaviour


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People generally don't change: they only get better at their cheating/lying schemes over time. So its better you get used to them the way they are, or you opt out of the relationship.

Ok

Guys don't change, they only reveal

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]These your words are somehow o!

So you are telling me you will get used to your lying/cheating girlfriend? [/color]

Yes nao. Some people can stand it when they look at other qualities. And some can't stand it and break the relationship. Simple.