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Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by femi4: 5:10pm On Oct 16, 2015
akike:
Search for all the women he has ever worked or interviewed


It is something she should pursue at her leizure time.
Where is the money to pursue it? Don't just sit in front of your keyboard and type jagons
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by Nobody: 5:10pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
My joy knew no bounds when my landlord's wife called a lawyer she once worked with to get me an interview appointment with his firm. Despite my tiredness after the POP ceremony, I managed to wake up early to get there by 8.am. My hopes were high with the possibility of getting a job barely 24hrs after POP. That's how I waited till 10.am o, before the man showed up. He ushered me into his office, and the interview began.

First off, I pride myself as a lady who dresses decently both for corporate and for casual occasions. So, this wasn't a case of immoral dressing on my part. That's how the managing partner interviewing me started looking at me to the point of me wondering if something was amiss. The next thing he said was, "you look really smart, and pretty. I like you already counsel."I just mumbled "thank you Sir". As a lawyer, he asked some pretty tough scenario based questions, which I scaled through by giving my legal opinion. He then asked for my credentials, which I proceeded to give him. That was when the man proceeded to leave his seat and placed his hand on my shoulder. I was so pertrified! I shook free and he got the message that he should keep his hands to his damn self.

The interview then took a personal turn. He started asking about my relationship status. I quickly responded that I was engaged. His reply was "me too am married, can't you see my ring", I like you a lot...you are a very pretty lady. I am sure a lot of judges are fighting over you in this state. Your credentials are great, you seem smart, just my kind of woman..what if I want to date you?". I was so shocked!! That was when I told him straight off that I don't date married guys, let alone one who may become my boss. Also that I am in a very committed relationship and don't condole cheating. He was a bit stunned, but took it in good faith. He asked a few other questions before ending the interview, saying his other partners would interview me on monday, that's when I will know if I am getting the job.

This experience left me very shocked and sad, that an interviewer would blatantly ask me out. Whatever happened to work ethics and morality? I just hope I don't get experiences like this again. Its very insulting and demeaning to say the least. Please, Nigerian men this is so wrong. A woman should be interviewed and hired for her brains and academic intellect, not because she is pretty and you just want a new plaything. I was so close to insulting him, I just had to keep calm and address the issue in a very firm way. May God help all female jobseekers o. If there's anything I am not ready to do is to sleep with any man, because he is in a position to give me a job. Not after 6 years invested into my legal career. Not now, not ever!
See you Nwa lawyer. You re also a sinner before God, if you believe in him.
Your saying committed relationship? Are you married? Committed relationship, No cheating! Likely you and your boyfriend has been changing bedsheets far more than married people.
Get married to be legit. As a lawyer don't you known what living with a man who is not statutorily married to you amount to?
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by Nobody: 5:12pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
My joy knew no bounds when my landlord's wife called a lawyer she once worked with to get me an interview appointment with his firm. Despite my tiredness after the POP ceremony, I managed to wake up early to get there by 8.am. My hopes were high with the possibility of getting a job barely 24hrs after POP. That's how I waited till 10.am o, before the man showed up. He ushered me into his office, and the interview began.

First off, I pride myself as a lady who dresses decently both for corporate and for casual occasions. So, this wasn't a case of immoral dressing on my part. That's how the managing partner interviewing me started looking at me to the point of me wondering if something was amiss. The next thing he said was, "you look really smart, and pretty. I like you already counsel."I just mumbled "thank you Sir". As a lawyer, he asked some pretty tough scenario based questions, which I scaled through by giving my legal opinion. He then asked for my credentials, which I proceeded to give him. That was when the man proceeded to leave his seat and placed his hand on my shoulder. I was so pertrified! I shook free and he got the message that he should keep his hands to his damn self.

The interview then took a personal turn. He started asking about my relationship status. I quickly responded that I was engaged. His reply was "me too am married, can't you see my ring", I like you a lot...you are a very pretty lady. I am sure a lot of judges are fighting over you in this state. Your credentials are great, you seem smart, just my kind of woman..what if I want to date you?". I was so shocked!! That was when I told him straight off that I don't date married guys, let alone one who may become my boss. Also that I am in a very committed relationship and don't condole cheating. He was a bit stunned, but took it in good faith. He asked a few other questions before ending the interview, saying his other partners would interview me on monday, that's when I will know if I am getting the job.

This experience left me very shocked and sad, that an interviewer would blatantly ask me out. Whatever happened to work ethics and morality? I just hope I don't get experiences like this again. Its very insulting and demeaning to say the least. Please, Nigerian men this is so wrong. A woman should be interviewed and hired for her brains and academic intellect, not because she is pretty and you just want a new plaything. I was so close to insulting him, I just had to keep calm and address the issue in a very firm way. May God help all female jobseekers o. If there's anything I am not ready to do is to sleep with any man, because he is in a position to give me a job. Not after 6 years invested into my legal career. Not now, not ever!
You guys should ease on this usual "Nigerian men" phrase. Use the word "men". Carry your cry to the bush abeg. undecided
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by queenfav(op): 5:12pm On Oct 16, 2015
happney65:
So you already live with ur Boyfriend abi? grin grin grin He wants to have a taste nii..Just a taste and the Job is urs abi wetin dey under u na Gold nii?As long has its not gold,Please give him a piece..Thank You..Abeg na Joke i dey ohh grin grin grin grin
thank God you are joking.I don't live with my boyfriend,we talked on phone,He just has a way of knowing when I have something on my mind troubling me.I still stand on my decision never to compromise myself to get a job.I know my worth as a lawyer,it would just take a few more years and I will look back at these ugly experiences and smile.
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by Nobody: 5:12pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
lol..guy everyone knows lawyers are meant to dress smartly.A client or firm looking to hire you assesses you first by your dress sense.They wouldn't want to hire someone who looks shabby.Infact,lawyers who dress shabbilly are either percieved as unsuccessful or not smart enough.That's because the profession is all about a good image and charisma.Besides,my makeup was very minimal.So make I go on deeper life level for the interview,then when am resuming work,I will turn up looking sharp?The toasting will still take place na.Men who are He-goats just don't know where to draw the line professionally.If they even interview a goat wearing a skirt suit,they will still make a move regardless.
I'm happy on how you turned him down but you should have reminded him that he is harrasing you sexually which you can't tolerate. Some Men are DOGS.


God ll give you a good job.


Cc gaborone
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by queenfav(op): 5:14pm On Oct 16, 2015
indigene:
See you Nwa lawyer. You re also a sinner before God, if you believe in him.
Your saying committed relationship? Are you married? Committed relationship, No cheating! Likely you and your boyfriend has been changing bedsheets far more than married people.
Get married to be legit. As a lawyer don't you known what living with a man who is not statutorily married to you amount to?
please learn to read diligently.I never mentioned that I am cohabiting with my fiance.Thank you!
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by judedwriter(m): 5:14pm On Oct 16, 2015
Oh well, judging from your pic, I can say you are attractive but unfortuunately in naija, attractive ladies both attract good and bad guys 2gether. As a pretty gal, guys would always be attracted to u, whether u are single, engaged or married.
You have to diffrentiate the good from the bad; not all guys r like this.
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by queenfav(op): 5:16pm On Oct 16, 2015
femi4:
Where is the money to pursue it? Don't just sit in front of your keyboard and type jagons
while my mates dey find work,I go dey go court for sexual harrasment matter abi?Way to go!Bros abeg leave him.We are in the system,we know what's up.He was obviously thinking this is an episode of "suits".
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by spikesC(m): 5:18pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
trust me,the sexual harrasment thingy doesn't hold water in court.When even rape victims are blamed some even called liars?I am just focused on getting a job.He can move on with his quest with others abeg.
When professional lawyers has given up on justice and equality, what then shall we children of Syria do.
I know and accept its difficulty, but why don't you take this one up as a stepping stone in your career and chase through it. It won't cost you much I believe. And the experience (even for your CV) is well worth it grin
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by EreluY(f): 5:18pm On Oct 16, 2015
socialmediaman:
Well this is something that happens globally, not just about Nigerian men. It happens in colleges, work places, job interviews and everywhere where professionalism is expected, it is condemnable, but the interesting thing is, if you're qualified, a serious employer will give you the job for the sake of his company, that usually supersedes personal sexual desires in most cases.

The problem is that many ladies submit into the sexual harrasment when they're not confident in their abilities or when morals are lacking or flexible

That being said, I think there's something the legislature can do about sexual harrasment of instances like this, he could've made the advances after giving the job based on merit, not before... But if we're to realistically eliminate this problem in the society, ladies must continue to stand their grounds and let the men know that pleasure and business should be kept separate
[size=16pt]Did you say "this is something that happens globally"? I beg to disagree. This is called unwanted sexual advances. Here in the UK, your job and professional registration in whichever field you're operating in will be on the line if you're accused of this and there is evidence to nail you.[/size]
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by DedeNkem:
My woman had the same experience years back.

She told the id*iot that she has a fiance but he responded saying he's married so it's the best. That he would insure she gets high salary, car and duplex. And that all he wanted from her was to be his secret mistress.

My fiancee (my wife today) came home very sad about the terrible experience. Most women will fall for this nonsense while decent women choose losing the job than subject themselves rubbish.

So you did well, girl! You're a decent woman. Keep it up. Women like you are the type good man die to have as a wife.
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by MsFaith: 5:19pm On Oct 16, 2015
sihom:
You are an idiot for that s.t.u.p.i.d comment of yours and your username suggests you would have better sense than that but unfortunately you don't.

As a woman I have never been in OP's shoes and every job I've had has been through a legally valid means of sending in an application, being shortlisted for an aptitude test and oral interview, then after successfully passing every stage of the recruitment process I am made an offer which I either accept or decline.

I feel very insulted by your comment not just for myself but for every woman out there who has never had to spread her legs wide apart to get a job.

I repeat you are an IDIOT and first class mumu. I am done with you fool you can come back and rant all you want but I've said my piece.
Thank you! And he probably calls himself a christain
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by 2rez: 5:19pm On Oct 16, 2015
Erm erm....guess am here to check out the OP's photo. grin
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by bulletproofmonk(m): 5:20pm On Oct 16, 2015
jesussaves22:
No apologies to u ok. You have a block cerebelum and that makes you a certified dunce ok. Women are block headed including you. Bkos i dont know you dats why you are claiming a genius . You may be messing up with your boss nonsense you. See wo-man see bragginghuh
You still have the nerve to respond.Dude,just hush and reflect on your senseless talk.
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by Kingbilo(m): 5:20pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
My joy knew no bounds when my landlord's wife called a lawyer she once worked with to get me an interview appointment with his firm. Despite my tiredness after the POP ceremony, I managed to wake up early to get there by 8.am. My hopes were high with the possibility of getting a job barely 24hrs after POP. That's how I waited till 10.am o, before the man showed up. He ushered me into his office, and the interview began.

First off, I pride myself as a lady who dresses decently both for corporate and for casual occasions. So, this wasn't a case of immoral dressing on my part. That's how the managing partner interviewing me started looking at me to the point of me wondering if something was amiss. The next thing he said was, "you look really smart, and pretty. I like you already counsel."I just mumbled "thank you Sir". As a lawyer, he asked some pretty tough scenario based questions, which I scaled through by giving my legal opinion. He then asked for my credentials, which I proceeded to give him. That was when the man proceeded to leave his seat and placed his hand on my shoulder. I was so pertrified! I shook free and he got the message that he should keep his hands to his damn self.

The interview then took a personal turn. He started asking about my relationship status. I quickly responded that I was engaged. His reply was "me too am married, can't you see my ring", I like you a lot...you are a very pretty lady. I am sure a lot of judges are fighting over you in this state. Your credentials are great, you seem smart, just my kind of woman..what if I want to date you?". I was so shocked!! That was when I told him straight off that I don't date married guys, let alone one who may become my boss. Also that I am in a very committed relationship and don't condole cheating. He was a bit stunned, but took it in good faith. He asked a few other questions before ending the interview, saying his other partners would interview me on monday, that's when I will know if I am getting the job.

This experience left me very shocked and sad, that an interviewer would blatantly ask me out. Whatever happened to work ethics and morality? I just hope I don't get experiences like this again. Its very insulting and demeaning to say the least. Please, Nigerian men this is so wrong. A woman should be interviewed and hired for her brains and academic intellect, not because she is pretty and you just want a new plaything. I was so close to insulting him, I just had to keep calm and address the issue in a very firm way. May God help all female jobseekers o. If there's anything I am not ready to do is to sleep with any man, because he is in a position to give me a job. Not after 6 years invested into my legal career. Not now, not ever!
You have compromised your job search by putting this post up with your face on your profile
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by Fourwinds: 5:20pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
My dear,that's the way most of them behave.A lot of young female lawyers can attest to that.I once called my former boss to help me get a job with a SAN,he just told me,'that man won't let you rest till he sleeps with you,I know him very well'.That's how I just killed the thought of working with the SAN.
ewoh.!!! many girls dat are working got d job thru these means.. some men are stu..pid he-goats.
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by MsFaith: 5:21pm On Oct 16, 2015
Atmmachine:
Just answer this question.
Is your fiance the only one you have give your pusssy to ??
If your answer is "NO"
Why can't you give it to this interviewer and get a good job ?? Others have been pounding you for free.
senseless comment!
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by spikesC(m): 5:21pm On Oct 16, 2015
EreluY:
[size=16pt]Did you say "this is something that happens globally"? I beg to disagree. This is called unwanted sexual advances. Here in the UK, your job and professional registration in whichever field you're operating in will be on the line if you're accused of this and there is evidence to nail you.[/size]
There doesn't even need to be an evidence. An accusation is enough to bring your career and reputation crawling. But then, who cares about reputation in our father land
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by Kbs468(m): 5:22pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
That would make the workplace very uncomfortable for me.Plus,once a boss has asked a lady out,he starts criticizing her work,treating her with disrespect just because she turned him down.How can I be at my best professionally in that kind of tense atmosphere?
That is just it. He will simply be applying the logic of cause and effect to it fullest. Eg His wooing you and you turning him down as a cause, then his ensueing criticism and constant displeasure towards you as the effect. Now for you to change that, you will need to concede your stance to him as a cause and he too will evetually change and cherish you overwhelmingly as the effect of your action
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by Nobody: 5:23pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
while my mates dey find work,I go dey go court for sexual harrasment matter abi?Way to go!Bros abeg leave him.We are in the system,we know what's up.He was obviously thinking this is an episode of "suits".
he is a she.
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by Dindondin: 5:23pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
My joy knew no bounds when my landlord's wife called a lawyer she once worked with to get me an interview appointment with his firm. Despite my tiredness after the POP ceremony, I managed to wake up early to get there by 8.am. My hopes were high with the possibility of getting a job barely 24hrs after POP. That's how I waited till 10.am o, before the man showed up. He ushered me into his office, and the interview began.

First off, I pride myself as a lady who dresses decently both for corporate and for casual occasions. So, this wasn't a case of immoral dressing on my part. That's how the managing partner interviewing me started looking at me to the point of me wondering if something was amiss. The next thing he said was, "you look really smart, and pretty. I like you already counsel."I just mumbled "thank you Sir". As a lawyer, he asked some pretty tough scenario based questions, which I scaled through by giving my legal opinion. He then asked for my credentials, which I proceeded to give him. That was when the man proceeded to leave his seat and placed his hand on my shoulder. I was so pertrified! I shook free and he got the message that he should keep his hands to his damn self.

The interview then took a personal turn. He started asking about my relationship status. I quickly responded that I was engaged. His reply was "me too am married, can't you see my ring", I like you a lot...you are a very pretty lady. I am sure a lot of judges are fighting over you in this state. Your credentials are great, you seem smart, just my kind of woman..what if I want to date you?". I was so shocked!! That was when I told him straight off that I don't date married guys, let alone one who may become my boss. Also that I am in a very committed relationship and don't condole cheating. He was a bit stunned, but took it in good faith. He asked a few other questions before ending the interview, saying his other partners would interview me on monday, that's when I will know if I am getting the job.

This experience left me very shocked and sad, that an interviewer would blatantly ask me out. Whatever happened to work ethics and morality? I just hope I don't get experiences like this again. Its very insulting and demeaning to say the least. Please, Nigerian men this is so wrong. A woman should be interviewed and hired for her brains and academic intellect, not because she is pretty and you just want a new plaything. I was so close to insulting him, I just had to keep calm and address the issue in a very firm way. May God help all female jobseekers o. If there's anything I am not ready to do is to sleep with any man, because he is in a position to give me a job. Not after 6 years invested into my legal career. Not now, not ever!
its well with you sister.
That's how the world is. lack of work and moral ethics.


keep your head up.
meanwhile, toy just got a new fan. I m following you asap.
follow back
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by 2rez: 5:23pm On Oct 16, 2015
slimmy05:
You guys should ease on this usual "Nigerian men" phrase. Use the word "men". Carry your cry to the bush abeg. undecided
My brother, me sef i taya for them using that phrase oh. Akike, u can't deny u didnt see that. U wont oppose that now oh. Issokay
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by jesussaves22:
pocohantas:
How did you graduate with your block English?
Am an academic consultant so if you need tutorials just let me know ok. Before you go carry ur dumbness go infect oda innocent people. Wat are we saying selfhuh Op have been bleeping for a long time now without any benefit so why cant she Bleep as usual for benefit after all she is living with a man ??" Not husband
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by permanentgrace(m): 5:25pm On Oct 16, 2015
queenfav:
My joy knew no bounds when my landlord's wife called a lawyer she once worked with to get me an interview appointment with his firm. Despite my tiredness after the POP ceremony, I managed to wake up early to get there by 8.am. My hopes were high with the possibility of getting a job barely 24hrs after POP. That's how I waited till 10.am o, before the man showed up. He ushered me into his office, and the interview began.

First off, I pride myself as a lady who dresses decently both for corporate and for casual occasions. So, this wasn't a case of immoral dressing on my part. That's how the managing partner interviewing me started looking at me to the point of me wondering if something was amiss. The next thing he said was, "you look really smart, and pretty. I like you already counsel."I just mumbled "thank you Sir". As a lawyer, he asked some pretty tough scenario based questions, which I scaled through by giving my legal opinion. He then asked for my credentials, which I proceeded to give him. That was when the man proceeded to leave his seat and placed his hand on my shoulder. I was so pertrified! I shook free and he got the message that he should keep his hands to his damn self.

The interview then took a personal turn. He started asking about my relationship status. I quickly responded that I was engaged. His reply was "me too am married, can't you see my ring", I like you a lot...you are a very pretty lady. I am sure a lot of judges are fighting over you in this state. Your credentials are great, you seem smart, just my kind of woman..what if I want to date you?". I was so shocked!! That was when I told him straight off that I don't date married guys, let alone one who may become my boss. Also that I am in a very committed relationship and don't condole cheating. He was a bit stunned, but took it in good faith. He asked a few other questions before ending the interview, saying his other partners would interview me on monday, that's when I will know if I am getting the job.

This experience left me very shocked and sad, that an interviewer would blatantly ask me out. Whatever happened to work ethics and morality? I just hope I don't get experiences like this again. Its very insulting and demeaning to say the least. Please, Nigerian men this is so wrong. A woman should be interviewed and hired for her brains and academic intellect, not because she is pretty and you just want a new plaything. I was so close to insulting him, I just had to keep calm and address the issue in a very firm way. May God help all female jobseekers o. If there's anything I am not ready to do is to sleep with any man, because he is in a position to give me a job. Not after 6 years invested into my legal career. Not now, not ever!
Is that a copy of what is in your profile that the man was describing as being very pretty and smart and judges in the state should be hunting endless?

Maybe the man didnt come with his lenses or perhaps never attended school of beauty or have seen a pretty lady before.

Btw, do you know if your landlord's wife did sleep with him before she was employed there?
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by jesussaves22: 5:25pm On Oct 16, 2015
Batam:
You did the right thing by not exchange your dignity for that job.
This is why a lot of men are not employed because they lack what these randy men want.
Surely, they will be rewarded one day
Which dignity?? Did op says she is a virgin??
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by socialmediaman: 5:26pm On Oct 16, 2015
EreluY:
[size=16pt]Did you say "this is something that happens globally"? I beg to disagree. This is called unwanted sexual advances. Here in the UK, your job and professional registration in whichever field you're operating in will be on the line if you're accused of this and there is evidence to nail you.[/size]
I think I overstretched that word, I meant to say "developing countries"
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by Nobody:
It might have been a test. However even if it is not, I am glad you did not compromise. Something better will come your way.

However I must observe that from your profile you already have a pessimistic attitude and mindset towards the legal profession. We are what we think. Your previous topic was filled with lamentation, even when you had barely finished serving. Now this interview came just a day after your POP and you are rushing to assume negative mindset towards your study of law or the Nigerian labor market.
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by aydrees09: 5:28pm On Oct 16, 2015
On a lighter note ....... @Op Haven't U heard that University degree is just not enough ?


Seriously, U did d right thing !!!!


Unfortunately, another silly lady might just take the slot. ( Thats aw bad things are )


Best of luck !!!
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by akike: 5:30pm On Oct 16, 2015
femi4:
Where is the money to pursue it? Don't just sit in front of your keyboard and type jagons
Idiot_why did you think I used ‘leisure time''

If as a letter she can't cannot defend herself then she is better doing something else.
Re: My Sordid Experience As A Female Lawyer Job Hunting. by spikesC(m): 5:31pm On Oct 16, 2015
Donpuzo:
It might have been a test. However even if it is not, I am glad you did not compromise. Something better will come your way.
What kind of test? what is wrong with this my country men self
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