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joseph1832:
And when you trust, you blind love.

Blind?

Diddyydiva:
Blind?

Yep!

joseph1832:
Yep!

I dont get that

Love is never reciprocal 50:50. 1 person often carry d burden but couple pretend about dis. Wouldn't u agree?

joseph1832:
Yes yes and yes, I guess that's why we see the number of hearts being broken by the day increase out of proportion.

You see threads spring up day after day saying: I love him but he broke my heart, I paid for his school fees and he left me for a younger girl, I loved him after he slept with me he said he can't date me, bla bla bla....

Before you trust someone, that person must have given you reason(s) for you to trust them, I mean trust is an encompassing word, its very ambiguous and frankly, its a luxury nobody should be able to avoid in this present world that we live in.

To me, you're basically saying what I'm saying, but a more long winded version of it I'm way too observant to ever fall for some scam of a hit & run sex situation or paying for some dude's school fees though. With me, you aint hitting shyt until I'm completely sure of your intentions. However still, some things like heartbreak are unforseeable/inevitable since everything about life is ever changing. All we can do is just bite the bullet & hope for the best after it's all said & done.

Highcuerayte:
Dear you need to change that mindset.

To what?

Diddyydiva:
I dont get that

You blind love when you blind trust because true love isn't selfish, it is selfless, and when one is selfless, you seize to exist for you and you and you exist for the person you love.

I believe you've watched the movie Titanic? Blind love was what Jack Dawson showed because he sacrificed his life to save Rose. I tell you, if he had loved with his eyes open, he would have survived. Not that I'm condemning him for what he did anyway.

You understand now?

PunkyVeer:
To what?

Love before Trust

Diddyydiva:
When you love,you love everything about the person.love can only be tested by distrust but can never be ruined.

Ok, now tell me, how does love happen for you? Because I refuse to believe we all fall the same way for people.

For me, when a relationship begins I'm not in love with the person. It takes me getting to know them a little more before I start even to warm up to the idea of love. I don't love at 1st sight, more like a 100th sight. It's a very slllllow process.

Highcuerayte:
Love before Trust

No. That's your way, not mine.

PunkyVeer:
To me, you're basically saying what I'm saying, but a more long winded version of it I'm way too observant to ever fall for some scam of a hit & run sex situation or paying for some dude's school fees though. With me, you aint hitting shyt until I'm completely sure of your intentions. However still, some things like heartbreak are unforseeable/inevitable since everything about life is ever changing. All we can do is just bite the bullet & hope for the best after it's all said & done.

To me, I'm saying what I'm saying, somethings like heartbreaks aren't foreseeable because I've learnt to allow reason be my guide, I use my head, not my heart.

To you, trust is first place but I bet that trust had caused you heartbreaks because the person you trusted showed you later on that you can't trust them, that's after they've obviously 'hitten' that sh!t.

Like I said, trust might be misplaced, I wouldn't cause a guy nothing, to get you to trust him, show you his false intentions, then after hitten that sack, leave you high and dry.

PunkyVeer:
No. That's your way, not mine.

Good luck with it. But it will hurt you.

joseph1832:
To me, I'm saying what I'm saying, somethings like heartbreaks aren't foreseeable because I've learnt to allow reason be my guide, I use my head, not my heart.

To you, trust is first place but I bet that trust had caused you heartbreaks because the person you trusted showed you later on that you can't trust them, that's after they've obviously 'hitten' that sh!t.

Like I said, trust might be misplaced, I wouldn't cause a guy nothing, to get you to trust him, show you his false intentions, then after hitten that sack, leave you high and dry.

So are you telling me you've never experienced heartbreak by using your method? I say bull! Of course I've put trust in the wrong people before, which only intensified my resolve & made me extra cautious about who I let in. My heart is not a revolving door, it's more like a VIP room Only the best, or rather the very skilled in the art of deceit ever see the interior.

Never been humped & dumped before, that remains to be seen

Highcuerayte:
Good luck with it. But it will hurt you.

Hurt me how? So I should just love blindly? I think not!

PunkyVeer:
Hurt me how? So I should just love blindly? I think not!

Experience they say, is the best teacher. I write you this poem. You figure it out dear.

I gave you my best
But you laid it to rest
Maybe if you take the test
You will know what is best.

Highcuerayte:
Experience they say, is the best teacher. I write you this poem. You figure it out dear.

I gave you my best
But you laid it to rest
Maybe if you take the test
You will know what is best.

Meh. I have my own experiences to know what works & doesn't work.

Diddyydiva:
LOVE. because in love, there is trust

PunkyVeer:
Trust leads to love imo.

I think both of these comments can be true and believe that they are both equally important in a solid relationship because if you have one (and the relationship is good) you USUALLY have the other... BUT NOT ALWAYS.
*If you really love someone you usually trust them, at least until when/if they give you cause not to (which happens so often nowdays).
*On the other hand...if you trust someone and perhaps are in just a platonic relationship, that trust could grow into love because you're able to open up and feel safe. This could be where a great and lasting love can stem from.

Love and trust are very funny and fickle things and sometimes we can feel one and not necessarily the other. BUT healthy, stable, and lasting relationships need both to keep the couple happy, bonded, and in it for the long haul.

PunkyVeer:
Meh. I have my own experiences to know what works & doesn't work.

Tell me more,you sound interesting.

PunkyVeer:
So are you telling me you've never experienced heartbreak by using your method? I say bull! Of course I've put trust in the wrong people before, which only intensified my resolve & made me extra cautious about who I let in. My heart is not a revolving door, it's more like a VIP room Only the best, or rather the very skilled in the art of deceit ever see the interior.

Never been humped & dumped before, that remains to be seen

YES I'm telling you I've never experienced heartbreak since I adopted my method of not trusting or loving, whatever I do, I apply reason. To me reason is my locus classicus, my focal point.

And I know it will be hard for any girl to admit she's been humped and dumped before, especially in a forum like this. LMFAO

Hunnydropps:
I think both of these comments can be true and believe that they are both equally important in a solid relationship because if you have one (and the relationship is good) you USUALLY have the other... BUT NOT ALWAYS.
*If you really love someone you usually trust them, at least until when/if they give you cause not to (which happens so often nowdays).
*On the other hand...if you trust someone and perhaps are in just a platonic relationship, that trust could grow into love because you're able to open up and feel safe. This could be where a great and lasting love can stem from.

Love and trust are very funny and fickle things and sometimes we can feel one and not necessarily the other. BUT healthy, stable, and lasting relationships need both to keep the couple happy, bonded, and in it for the long haul.

I'm rolling with your 2nd * And the bit that says "a healthy, stable & lasting relationship needs both". Aha!

Highcuerayte:
Tell me more,you sound interesting.

There's nothing to tell.

joseph1832:
YES I'm telling you I've never experienced heartbreak since I adopted my method of not trusting or loving, whatever I do, I apply reason. To me reason is my locus classicus, my focal point.

And I know it will be hard for any girl to admit she's been humped and dumped before, especially in a forum like this. LMFAO

Oh well, oh hell Whatever floats your rubber ducky.

God as my witness, I have never experienced a hit it & quit it situation. All my relationships ended on my terms. I'm a fantastic GF until someone steps on my bunions

PunkyVeer:
I'm rolling with your 2nd * And the bit that says "a healthy, stable & lasting relationship needs both". Aha!

LOL. Im glad for making you laugh because we get WAY to serious on here sometimes .

I think I saw one of your responses saying that we all fall for people different ways and I agree 100%... we're all just trying to make it in this crazy world.

Hunnydropps:
LOL. Im glad for making you laugh because we get WAY to serious on here sometimes .

I think I saw one of your responses saying that we all fall for people different ways and I agree 100%... we're all just trying to make it in this crazy world.

Lol, that was not a laugh but an epiphany. A lightbulb moment. But yeah, we're all in a maze hey. So tiring sometimes but what can we do. Ugh.

PunkyVeer:
Oh well, oh hell Whatever floats your rubber ducky.

God as my witness, I have never experienced a hit it & quit it situation. All my relationships ended on my terms. I'm a fantastic GF until someone steps on my bunions

On your terms? Now you sound like someone who likes to be the boss and believe you stand primus interparas! You make it sound like every guy you ever dated don't have a mind of their own.

Anyway, everyway, whatever rocks your boat!

joseph1832:
On your terms? Now you sound like someone who likes to be the boss and believe you stand primus interparas! You make it sound like every guy you ever dated don't have a mind of their own.

Anyway, everyway, whatever rocks your boat!

By on my terms I mean I was the one to end the relationships for various & very valid reasons. I don't negotiate BS, so their opinion doesn't matter after they've crossed the line & I've made up my mind.

PunkyVeer:
By on my terms I mean I was the one to end the relationships for various & very valid reasons. I don't negotiate BS, so their opinion doesn't matter after they've crossed the line & I've made up my mind.

Spoken like a true dictator, sorry boss! You sound like someone who likes to dominate in a relationship, absolution can never be yours, the fact that you don't even want to hear reasons speaks volume for you. Then again, its your world, your rules.

Ii think acceptance is the word we are looking for, is not love and not trust either

joseph1832:
Spoken like a true dictator, sorry boss! You sound like someone who likes to dominate in a relationship, absolution can never be yours, the fact that you don't even want to hear reasons speaks volume for you. Then again, its your world, your rules.

LMFAO. No, I'm not a dictator nor do I even dominate in a relationship. I'm actually too sweet to the point where someone starts to think they can get away with almost anything, then they get the rude awakening. I'm the same way with friends too, not just relationships. I don't have a problem cutting people off. I just know what behaviours I find intolerable & yes, I don't bother listening.

Example, if a girl cheats on you, would you wanna know why & listen to some lame excuse they've cooked up? Well, for me, those are the things that make me shut down & go deaf. What matters is that they did it. The end. They can eat their whys. If that makes me a power monger, then so be it

PunkyVeer:
LMFAO. No, I'm not a dictator nor do I even dominate in a relationship. I'm actually too sweet to the point where someone starts to think they can get away with almost anything, then they get the rude awakening. I'm the same way with friends too, not just relationships. I don't have a problem cutting people off. I just know what behaviours I find intolerable & yes, I don't bother listening.

Example, if a girl cheats on you, would you wanna know why & listen to some lame excuse they've cooked up? Well, for me, those are the things that make me shut down & go deaf. What matters is that they did it. The end. They can eat their whys. If that makes me a power monger, then so be it

Yes I would want to know to her reasons, you see, to me I don't terminate a relationship just because a girl cheat on me, even if her excuses are lame.

The moment she cheats, she's already given me the ground to do the same. She automatically turn the relationship from close, to open.

Then again, your world, your rules!.

joseph1832:
Yes I would want to know to her reasons, you see, to me I don't terminate a relationship just because a girl cheat on me, even if her excuses are lame.

The moment she cheats, she's already given me the ground to do the same. She automatically turn the relationship from close, to open.

Then again, your world, your rules!.

Yes, it is.

PunkyVeer:
LMFAO. No, I'm not a dictator nor do I even dominate in a relationship. I'm actually too sweet to the point where someone starts to think they can get away with almost anything, then they get the rude awakening. I'm the same way with friends too, not just relationships. I don't have a problem cutting people off. I just know what behaviours I find intolerable & yes, I don't bother listening.

Example, if a girl cheats on you, would you wanna know why & listen to some lame excuse they've cooked up? Well, for me, those are the things that make me shut down & go deaf. What matters is that they did it. The end. They can eat their whys. If that makes me a power monger, then so be it

Reminds me of someone I know