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Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by 4ubootyman: 9:34am On Nov 01, 2015
This is a question for all to ponder on;

Leave all your biases and ur religious justification and let's face the real world we are in. For all my single men never be cajoled to thinking when u get married ur babe will spread that leg d way she does now on request (married men can attest to this).

Before my wife n I got married the issue of sex never came up we were so compatible everytime we wanted we had it. She was even learning to give head and it didnt seem like a problem cos I was willing to teach. Fast forward to now we r married.....hmmmm! The idea of Mouth Gig is a forgone story, she has said her own, she doesn't like it and it's somewhat degrades a lady (oboi my eye open wide, like I have just been scammed) the things I hear now during sex is..."it's hurting", "I'm doin this because of you" "can't you just hold me", "must it be tonight?". I leave the woman as I don't want to seem pushy. Sometimes I talk my way thru, buy gifts n all but when I stay in my closet alone....I just know I have been scammed. What next do I do not to hurt her?

There is a girl down the road, at work, social gathering etc that is liking the guy...and the girl knows I'm married, but just for the spirit of adventure and the small financial gains she throws jab at me, (me wey konji wan finish). I take it up from there...we talk exchange numbers she only has my watsapp contact and shit starts happening. At the end of the day I am satisfied I get home my wife puts up an excuse and it's fine by me and everybody moves on happily.

Don't crucify ursef with what d Lord says "we all know" and ask for his grace. Ladies what do you think about this situation. Married men I know u r all having a situation like this so chill n read. Single men...just pray say this kind thing no hit u cos u can never preempt it.

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Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by thebestonearth(m): 9:35am On Nov 01, 2015
4ubootyman:
This is a question for all to ponder on;

Leave all your biases and ur religious justification and let's face the real world we are in. For all my single men never be cajoled to thinking when u get married ur babe will spread that leg d way she does now on request (married men can attest to this).

Before my wife n I got married the issue of sex never came up we were so compatible everytime we wanted we had it. She was even learning to give head and it didnt seem like a problem cos I was willing to teach. Fast forward to now we r married.....hmmmm! The idea of Mouth Gig is a forgone story, she has said her own, she doesn't like it and it's somewhat degrades a lady (oboi my eye open wide, like I have just been scammed) the things I hear now during sex is..."it's hurting", "I'm doin this because of you" "can't you just hold me", "must it be tonight?". I leave the woman as I don't want to seem pushy. Sometimes I talk my way thru, buy gifts n all but when I stay in my closet alone....I just know I have been scammed. What next do I do not to hurt her?

There is a girl down the road, at work, social gathering etc that is liking the guy...and the girl knows I'm married, but just for the spirit of adventure and the small financial gains she throws jab at me, (me wey konji wan finish). I take it up from there...we talk exchange numbers she only has my watsapp contact and shit starts happening. At the end of the day I am satisfied I get home my wife puts up an excuse and it's fine by me and everybody moves on happily.

Don't crucify ursef with what d Lord says "we all know" and ask for his grace. Ladies what do you think about this situation. Married men I know u r all having a situation like this so chill n read. Single men...just pray say this kind thing no hit u cos u can never preempt it.
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 9:38am On Nov 01, 2015
Hmmm

op what happened to you ironing things with her,am sure she will change,dialogue is very important, if tables were to be turned round am sure you would have file for divorce but if you must cheat then make it private....

What you dnt know cant kill you,remember to use protections sha...
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by jaybanfa(m): 9:45am On Nov 01, 2015
Brother urs is small, although we have to remember the vows we took before God Almighty. What if you are going thru some hassles at work or in ur business and there is no support from d home front, when she gets pregnant nko and starts pouting as if she wan take selfie... Truly women are a different breed it seems most of them just want to wear d white dress and be addressed as madam. But @OP a word of caution thread softly don't get carried away. Best regards

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Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by 4ubootyman: 9:48am On Nov 01, 2015
Jollyjoy:
Hmmm

op what happened to you ironing things with her,am sure she will change,dialogue is very important, if tables were to be turned round am sure you would have file for divorce but if you must cheat then make it private....

What you dnt know cant kill you,remember to use protections sha...

U can be sure i have tried and it always leads to argument. I wont stop trying tho. Blive me I don't even store their number...just bam and go. Very private ush
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 9:49am On Nov 01, 2015
4ubootyman:


Blive me I don't even store their number...just bam and go. Very private ush
you are playing a very dangerous game sha,.....
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by scribble: 12:26pm On Nov 01, 2015
Variety is the Spice of life


Even my wife know say african men are polygamous

She just doesn't want second wife but if one finds a stray lass ready to be your head mistress, isn't that taking away the burden from the wife's neck?

Please use wisdom
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 12:49pm On Nov 01, 2015
Some women tend to change after marriage cos they feel like they have arrived, even worse after having kids cos they transfer most love to their kids negleting their husband on his own. I cannot blame you for having a side chick, but pls dnt stop loving your wife and dont ever bring your side chick to your house talkless your matrimonial bed.
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 12:55pm On Nov 01, 2015
You're Free nigga!

Enjoi ur life!!

She threw u out.

Continue enjoying ur timeout , nothing do U! grin
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 12:57pm On Nov 01, 2015
classicB:
Some women tend to change after marriage cos they feel like they have arrived, even worse after having kids cos they transfer most love to their kids negleting their husband on his own. I cannot blame you for having a side chick, but pls dnt stop loving your wife and dont ever bring your side chick to your house talkless your matrimonial bed.

He owns d house and d bed I feel.
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 1:06pm On Nov 01, 2015
pinceprinz:


He owns d house and d bed I feel.
It is no longer a HOUSE, the presence of a wife in a HOUSE makes it a HOME.

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Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 1:09pm On Nov 01, 2015
4ubootyman:
This is a question for all to ponder on;

Leave all your biases and ur religious justification and let's face the real world we are in. For all my single men never be cajoled to thinking when u get married ur babe will spread that leg d way she does now on request (married men can attest to this).

Before my wife n I got married the issue of sex never came up we were so compatible everytime we wanted we had it. She was even learning to give head and it didnt seem like a problem cos I was willing to teach. Fast forward to now we r married.....hmmmm! The idea of Mouth Gig is a forgone story, she has said her own, she doesn't like it and it's somewhat degrades a lady (oboi my eye open wide, like I have just been scammed) the things I hear now during sex is..."it's hurting", "I'm doin this because of you" "can't you just hold me", "must it be tonight?". I leave the woman as I don't want to seem pushy. Sometimes I talk my way thru, buy gifts n all but when I stay in my closet alone....I just know I have been scammed. What next do I do not to hurt her?

There is a girl down the road, at work, social gathering etc that is liking the guy...and the girl knows I'm married, but just for the spirit of adventure and the small financial gains she throws jab at me, (me wey konji wan finish). I take it up from there...we talk exchange numbers she only has my watsapp contact and shit starts happening. At the end of the day I am satisfied I get home my wife puts up an excuse and it's fine by me and everybody moves on happily.

Don't crucify ursef with what d Lord says "we all know" and ask for his grace. Ladies what do you think about this situation. Married men I know u r all having a situation like this so chill n read. Single men...just pray say this kind thing no hit u cos u can never preempt it.

Can I have a side man to help fufill my sexaul fantasy if my husband is incapable? I still love him tough. I can do anything for himcheesy
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by royalpearl80: 1:09pm On Nov 01, 2015
@op please thread softly oooo......i believe my man will never have a reason to think of something like this talkless of even attempting it
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by ednut1(m): 1:12pm On Nov 01, 2015
Nawa o.
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 1:12pm On Nov 01, 2015
Truthfully, to be having constant intimacy is tiring. Is a big task. Even as a gf that goes to her bf's place for the weekend, she will be counting for the weekend to be over. talk more of a wife, whom it is now a duty for her and she must do it.


Any man that wants to side chick, in order to reduce my duty, should feel free. as long as I won't know.


Life is not about intimacy abeg.
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by IamLEGEND1: 1:19pm On Nov 01, 2015
missbronze:
Truthfully, to be having constant intimacy is tiring. Is a big task. Even as a gf that goes to her bf's place for the weekend, she will be counting for the weekend to be over. talk more of a wife, whom it is now a duty for her and she must do it.


Any man that wants to side chick, in order to reduce my duty, should feel free. as long as I won't know.


Life is not about intimacy abeg.

what is this one saying

the day women will liberate themselves from this illogical thought process is the day the world Will truly be a better place for everyone.

but you kind of redeemed urself partially by saying he is free to keep a side chick to unburden you...

Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by ruuudboy: 1:21pm On Nov 01, 2015
4ubootyman:
Married men I know u r all having a situation like this so chill n read. Single men...just pray say this kind thing no hit u cos u can never preempt it.
I can guarantee u dat almost 80% of married men are going tru dis syndrome....but how do u help it rather dan continuous convo abt it and try to understand ur wife a bit.....
U just have to be careful and think of d consequence of ur actions....just my 1kobo
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 1:24pm On Nov 01, 2015
IamLEGEND1:


what is this one saying

the day women will liberate themselves from this illogical thought process is the day the world Will truly be a better place for everyone.

but you kind of redeemed urself partially by saying he is free to keep a side chick to unburden you...

My dear, I have said my own. you mustn't like my opinion.
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Nobody: 1:34pm On Nov 01, 2015
classicB:

It is no longer a HOUSE, the presence of a wife in a HOUSE makes it a HOME.


Mtseew. Shoro niyen?
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by OpenGames: 2:09pm On Nov 01, 2015
Well women change after marriage because marriage actually changes them. Suddenly they can not go out and party at will, they are constantly thinking of what to feed their husband, and not just walk into any eatery and eat whatever, house chores become necessary and no longer occasional like when they were single. Now they have to take permission to be absent from home and even if they get the permission, they would be out only within a time frame. In fact, once a woman gets married, her status may increase but her freedom is anihilated.

Then you look at the man. Nothing new...just business as usual. Now has a live-in househelp who completely reduces his chores. He can go anywhere at will with or without the wife's knowledge or consent. And now he still tells himself it's okay to date other women

Upon all these good life, they come to nairaland to complain that their wife did this and does that. Mscheeew ...NONSENSE!!!

Anyway Harry song has told everyone....'Even your boo get a boo'. So be carrying side chick or chicken, she herself will be carrying side bae. As long as she makes sure you don't find out, the marriage will be moving on peacefully and may God have mercy on us all.


angry

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Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by IamLEGEND1: 2:17pm On Nov 01, 2015
missbronze:

My dear, I have said my own. you mustn't like my opinion.

Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by IamLEGEND1: 2:17pm On Nov 01, 2015
missbronze:

My dear, I have said my own. you mustn't like my opinion.

Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Joy1706(f): 3:13pm On Nov 01, 2015
I understand where ur coming from. My husband refuses to give head no matter how much I beg and plead. Coming down to the main act now, he has become very lazy in bed, cannot go for long and he doesn't make any effort to change.
There is this new guy that got transferred to my office....a total hunk. My God!!!!! He asked to buy me a drink one day after work. One thing led to another and......*shudders* . The guy can give head for Africa. I ca*e so much I couldn't walk after.

A week after, we went on another date and we did the main deed. Gosh! The guy is hung like a horse and.....*blushes*. Lemme stop here abeg. Can't get enough of him.

I still love my husband. Whenever he feels up to it, we get down. If he doesn't, well, his assistant aka my side guy does the job. Everybody is happy. I don't really feel guilty after all he pushed me to it.

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Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by cooker: 3:28pm On Nov 01, 2015
i understand you konji wan finish you cheesy married men cheat we all know that grin do not flaunt cheating in wife's face take care of your wife and children winkbut if your wife cheat please forgive her she is only human like you grin if you lucky your wife might not cheat praise her cheesy if men can take care of their wives it will be difficult for their wives to cheat never flaunt cheating in your wife's face it might backfire one day kiss
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Macgreat(m): 3:30pm On Nov 01, 2015
didn't you agree to "for better or worse"
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by ednut1(m): 3:32pm On Nov 01, 2015
Joy1706:
I understand where ur coming from. My husband refuses to give head no matter how much I beg and plead. Coming down to the main act now, he has become very lazy in bed, cannot go for long and he doesn't make any effort to change.
There is this new guy that got transferred to my office....a total hunk. My God!!!!! He asked to buy me a drink one day after work. One thing led to another and......*shudders* . The guy can give head for Africa. I ca*e so much I couldn't walk after.

A week after, we went on another date and we did the main deed. Gosh! The guy is hung like a horse and.....*blushes*. Lemme stop here abeg. Can't get enough of him.

I still love my husband. Whenever he feels up to it, we get down. If he doesn't, well, his assistant aka my side guy does the job. Everybody is happy. I don't really feel guilty after all he pushed me to it.
i don die shocked
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by 4ubootyman: 3:35pm On Nov 01, 2015
royalpearl80:
@op please thread softly oooo......i believe my man will never have a reason to think of something like this talkless of even attempting it


D question is how often do you tell him u r tayad? Or you don't want to. That's if u guys are even married yet
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by 4ubootyman: 3:40pm On Nov 01, 2015
cooker:
i understand you konji wan finish you cheesy married men cheat we all know that grin do not flaunt cheating in wife's face take care of your wife and children winkbut if your wife cheat please forgive her she is only human like you grin if you lucky your wife might not cheat praise her cheesy if men can take care of their wives it will be difficult for their wives to cheat never flaunt cheating in your wife's face it might backfire one day kiss

She has no reason to cheat. Except for oju kokoro. The only reason why there is someone out there is because she sometimes (alot of times) doesn't feel like it maybe cos she is tayad or any of those excuses and some one out there is just to compliment her short coming. I will not flaunt it in front of her at all.
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by deeprof123: 3:42pm On Nov 01, 2015
Sex in marriage is one issue that will forever linger.


Even if both of you pleases one another, you will surely get tired of it....its like eating one for for many years.
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by 4ubootyman: 3:44pm On Nov 01, 2015
Joy1706:
I understand where ur coming from. My husband refuses to give head no matter how much I beg and plead. Coming down to the main act now, he has become very lazy in bed, cannot go for long and he doesn't make any effort to change.
There is this new guy that got transferred to my office....a total hunk. My God!!!!! He asked to buy me a drink one day after work. One thing led to another and......*shudders* . The guy can give head for Africa. I ca*e so much I couldn't walk after.

A week after, we went on another date and we did the main deed. Gosh! The guy is hung like a horse and.....*blushes*. Lemme stop here abeg. Can't get enough of him.

I still love my husband. Whenever he feels up to it, we get down. If he doesn't, well, his assistant aka my side guy does the job. Everybody is happy. I don't really feel guilty after all he pushed me to it.

We r in d same predicament. I give head for Africa and my wife don't want non of that. For her to even give that's a nono. It's unfortunate how that guilt just walks away and most times I just knock my sef back. Its dangerous to have just one partner b4 feelings start getting into it.
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Joy1706(f): 4:05pm On Nov 01, 2015
4ubootyman:


We r in d same predicament. I give head for Africa and my wife don't want non of that. For her to even give that's a nono. It's unfortunate how that guilt just walks away and most times I just knock my sef back. Its dangerous to have just one partner b4 feelings start getting into it.
Its a dangerous path we're treading sha. It's not the best buh body no bi firewood
Re: Are Side Chic To Help D Inadequacies Of The Wife? by Aromas: 4:17pm On Nov 01, 2015
daretodiffer:


Can I have a side man to help fufill my sexaul fantasy if my husband is incapable? I still love him tough. I can do anything for himcheesy
Sure!!!

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