girl get married to that man * since you are not young anymore now after getting married to him cheat on him like no shit although be careful about it anyways 2)secure your self ,money as in money wise have a child or two by him take of yourself and your children forget about him then you are all good he is not worth your stress

slimyem:
...this sure seems like you haven't learnt your lesson yet..
Smh!
Na you sabi jor!

My dear the lady never learn, she no know wetin marriage b, she thinks say na moimoi. Smhhhhhhhhh

slimyem:
thank God you know what to do by cancelling the marriage..
If he begs you again and you accept,it means you are prepared to enter into a totally miserable marriage forever.
Let both his family and yours understand your reasons for calling off the wedding and let no one try to confuse or convince your otherwise.
Stand your ground!
Its better to remain single than knowing ly enter into that kind of doomed marriage.
All the best as you make your decisions!

simply because he cheated?any lady that is looking for a faithful man should date and marry the broke ones,ladies shouldn't expect a rich handsome guy to be faithful.

freecocoa:
OP its a good thing you are thinking about canceling the wedding.

Don't let no one talk you into marrying someone you'll be miserable with,a cancelled weeding is better than a failed marriage.

husband is scarce,so she should marry the guy jare if not she will have to wait for another 10yrs and age is no longer on her side...if she leaves,another lady will gladly replace her.

kaynik:
Thanks everyone. @mynd 44, your advice is one I always tell ladies. I don't believe in sticking around a guy who is abusive physically and emotionally. The emotional abuse occurred last year and it is the reason I didn't get married then. I saw he was sober and had seemingly changed. Now its another problem I cant deal with, cheating.

dey dia dey look for a faithful man,you go old for your papa house,you have seen someone that do you a favor by marrying you,yet you are still claiming nonsense,do you know how many ladies are praying for a husband even if he is a cheat without success?MUMU.

queensmith:
Reason why you should have listened to your inner voice, it's there for a reason.


Are you abroad now? Because there are more than plenty of men who will not lie to you and treat you like rubbish.

indeed

Women are also liars. Gimme a break.

don't mind those hoes,they always like to form victims,moreover most of them are reaping what they sowed in the past forgetting that nature has a way of balancing equations...b!tches!

Daresh:
OP let me give you good advice, he wont change so pack your bags and run. If you dont want to have a broken marriage or spend your nights crying, I advice you to end it now. I made that mistake of thinking things will change in marriage but sweetie it doesnt. My husband even knelt down to beg me when I caught him but did that change him? Dont think you are too old or anything like that because believe me marriage is just the beginning of a very long journey and if he doesnt have your best interests now, what will happen in 5 yrs? 10yrs, 30 yrs? Just accept that you've wasted time on him and dont waste anymore or I assure you, you will cry more. Cut out NOW. Tell your family, especially your mum and Dad and let them knowwhat has bn going on. Dont let anyone sweet talk you into staying, I assure you he is lying.

to find husband no easy o,if she leaves,she may have to wait for another 10yrs.

Mynd44:
Are you telling me that he is back?

amebo

Youngpo413:
to find husband no easy o,if she leaves,she may have to wait for another 10yrs.

At least you know u are alone on your own terms and not at someone else's mercy. Besides there's so much more to accomplish in life that you tie all your future to a marriage that isn't working.

Daresh:


At least you know u are alone on your own terms and not at someone else's mercy. Besides there's so much more to accomplish in life that you tie all your future to a marriage that isn't working.

At least it is good to get married and divorce than not to get married at all.