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Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Acidosis(m): 11:50am On Nov 06, 2015 |
Someone is seriously pained. Yahoo-yahoo or google-google, the greedy and affected ones should go and learn family and societal ethics from the developed world. They give respect to their men and they treat everyone equally, regardless of whether they receive N50k monthly or N1m monthly. |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 11:52am On Nov 06, 2015 |
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Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by crackhaus: 11:54am On Nov 06, 2015 |
TooNoisy:You forgot to add Netflix and IrokoTv. 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Caracta(f): 12:06pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
crackhaus: Lol. You know I have a mind of my own. I don't want to derail this thread so let's not focus on equality. But again, there is no equality and it's only going to bring more conflict. So back to Nigerian women... |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by crackhaus: 12:10pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Caracta:Okay, what is the way forward? |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Caracta(f): 12:23pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
crackhaus: Respect, tolerance and fairness. A woman doesn't work, she is lazy. She does, she is too ambitious. Marry a rich man, you are a gold digger. Marry a poor man, you are using his destiny. Be very light-skinned, you are bleaching. Be very dark-skinned, you are ugly. And so on and so forth. I've made my point. Time for a massage and a nap afterwards. 1 Like |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by babygirlfl: 12:35pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
The fact that a man wrote this means that there are people who talk and do things for other people. Most of us are not affected by the Nigerian society and what they think or their laws. However we know and empathise with women who suffer from these discrimination. We also would like to make a change because we do realise that the common good of everybody supersedes the common good of one man. Sometimes in life you just have to do things for other people. It is not always about you. I keep hearing people say that people only rant on the Internet and do nothing else. My question is do you know everybody? Do you know what they do? Do you follow them home? How exactly do you know they are not doing anything? The Internet is very powerful and there is nothing wrong in using it to enlighten people. A lot of money is now spent on Internet advertising because they realise how powerful it is. Distant learning courses are even sometimes delivered through the Internet. One reason our country remains in that state is because of this kind of selfish attitude. Most people are concerned about themselves alone. I am fine so I don't care about anyone else. In most countries, when people notice any form of discrimination or inequality, they create awareness and fight to put laws in place to correct them. In Nigeria, most people sit and accept the problem while looking for other people to join in their misery, deny its not happening or decide not to do anything because it does not affect them leaving the next generation to come and face the same problem. If you don't want to do anything, no problem but don't stop people that want to do something. We do understand that what we represent is not for everyone .Also don't tell us how to do it right. If I did not like something or think something was bad, I would not tell the people how to do it right. I would be happy it was not being done well. I would only be bothered if I am against something and it is beginning to get a headway. We sure will get there. We might make mistakes along the way but we will correct them and get there one day. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by crackhaus: 12:36pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Caracta:Your point is noted. My point is a woman should do what she wants as long as she's happy, people will still talk regardless just as they also talk if it's a man. Massage and nap? You're not working today I see... |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by kelechiMarie(f): 12:38pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Kimoni:gracias muchos |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Caracta(f): 12:39pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
crackhaus: Not working. I'm on leave/vacation. |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 1:18pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
TooNoisy: I don't get why threads like this often have to degenerate to such lengths. Do the issues highlighted in the first post not exist? Despite the strides made in Nigeria by women, do these issues not still exist? Some issues would actually require legislation to be addressed and I don't believe you have to taint them as whining or being lazy when people highlight issues they face. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by ApexTitan(m): 3:11pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
^ The reason why these threads "degenerate" to this level is because people are now aware that these kinds of threads are created not to proffer solutions to the problems of women but to make the woman feel special as a victim. If any other demographic or group came out to cry how difficult things are for them in the country they would be told to suck it up and dismissed. With all the hardship that women experience in this country they still somehow manage to outlive the men - that should give an indication who is really the hardest hit. 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 3:19pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
babygirlfl: Absolutely! An awareness is created and it's through expositions like this we deal with IGNORANCE in our society. It's like talking about a case of child abuse, and then your defense is to highlight cases of children who have killed their parents. Women have chosen to highlight their issues...who the heck is stopping others from talking about their issues? The first two pages were quite balanced and from what I could garner- females needed to be more ASSERTIVE. Every other post onward was the typical, generic bandwagon effect. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 3:34pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
ApexTitan: Women outlive men even in Saudi Arabia. What is your point? This is a forum - a place, meeting, or medium where ideas and views on a particular issue can be exchanged. In fact a victim mentality is devoid of clear evidence. Is it evident that the issues that the OP highlighted exists? It would be highly disingenuous to argue against that. If certain things do not appeal to anyone's sensibilities, a click is not far away. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by raayah(f): 3:37pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
ApexTitan: This is a womens thread discussing women's issues. should we should shut up because you don't think its a problem.? No one is playing victim in this thread. The things that OP listed, are they false? So because women outlive men, we don't have issues? All other issues should be trivialized? Its like telling someone with a broken leg to stop crying because someone else has two broken legs. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by cococandy(f): 3:48pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
I don't even need to read this. Just like and continue scrolling down. babygirlfl: 8 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 5:22pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Kachisbarbie: I love your attitude. Allow me to make one correction though, you are perfect. [size=3pt]We all are.[/size] |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 5:30pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Stillfire: True. 1 Like |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Adaeze003(f): 5:41pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Enough of the crying already... Jeeeeez!!! Just take a deep breath and live your life! The post does not describe me but I'm a woman (abi lady sef) in Nigeria. Again, enough! No1 has a gun to your head to live by societal norms... 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by TooNoisy(f): 6:08pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Stillfire: I don't get the reason why threads like this have to be opened every week. The issues may exist but several other issues also exist and people don't come here to complain. Everybody is discriminated against in Nigeria: Hausa, Igbo, Yoruba, Ijaw, Christian, Muslim, men, women, children. Everybody complains. So when men get told "be a man' or "man up" when they display any form of emotion, do they come here and complain? A man loses a loved one or is going through tough times and all you hear is "be a man and stop worrying". Some would even come here and define a "real man" like there are fake ones. Do men come here and complain? A little boy is doing poorly in school and all you hear people tell him "you want your wife to feed you in future", abi you never hear that one before? I will ask you to tell me 2 families you know personally where the female children were not sent to school while the male ones are. Tell me the ones you know personally. Yet you all will come here and say "the average Nigerian family will not send the girls to school so that she can marry". Are you now from a special Nigerian family? In this same Nigeria where alot of women now earn more than men sef! 4 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by TooNoisy(f): 6:12pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Adaeze003: I don't even take then seriously because they talk with both sides of the mouth. Tomorrow now, in this same family section, the same people will come out and post that Nigerian men are all lazy, they don't go to work, it's their wives that work 8am - 8pm, bring in the money, feed the family, while the men do nothing. Just wait till Sunday latest, they will change their tone to "Nigerian women all work in Banks, Telecoms etc doing very stressful jobs, while their husbands just stay at home and do nothing. But today, they claim the society demands that a woman does not work. Like seriously, someone can say that Nigeria's society of today demands that a woman does not work? Or someone can type that Nigerian women don't buy expensive things? Nigerian women are the most fashionable and sophisticated in Africa at least. Just check out their phones, designer bags, hair and make up. No other African country can boast of the way our girls shop. Nails, eye shadow, pancake, push up bra etc? Just travel to anywhere else in Africa and you will see how different their women look. 6 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 7:13pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
TooNoisy: Last time I checked the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, there is no legal clause to shut down views based on other groups facing discrimination. Highlighting females issues does not make the other forms of discrimination higher or lower. Besides whenever you see threads like this, there is the option of staying out of it. Unless Seun has changed the rules on what should be posted on NL - this is a forum and a forum is a place, meeting, or medium where ideas and views on a particular issue can be exchanged. You cannot silence a group's message based on emotional outbursts or feelings or on account that other people are discriminated against. In fact the law posits that you speak up when discriminated against. So when men get told "be a man' or "man up" when they display any form of emotion, do they come here and complain? A man loses a loved one or is going through tough times and all you hear is "be a man and stop worrying". Some would even come here and define a "real man" like there are fake ones. Do men come here and complain? People who do not complain against discrimination and societal prejudices are obviously content with their position in life. Now the problem comes in when people who choose not to 'complain' about their plight, think it is ok to push such ideology on people who choose to dialogue about their issues. The bandwidth of nairaland is large enough to discuss whatever issues. You can highlight these issues and speak about them since you care so much. But unfortunately this is a thread for female issues, and discussed it shall to the pleasure, benefit and utmost satisfaction to all those who are interested in it. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 7:17pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Stillfire: Kpele oh... you can't get away with this one... You, other women as well as whoever created this thread know the essense is to magnify the female problems and make it look as if men have it better... we can't let such nonsense fly, if you are gonna be talking about discrimination, then make it balanced gatdammit. I get tired of one sided threads such as this, they are quite ubiquitous on this section.. You lots marry earlier than us... Get all the love from the children we also struggled to bear.. Are viewed with less suspicion Are given preferential treatment wherever you go.. Carry less burdens... And even live longer than us.. You also complain more... what is wrong with you people? 5 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by TooNoisy(f): 7:39pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Stillfire: The very same lame lines you guys use when all your arguments have been destroyed. Stillfire: So what should be done about your complaints please? I will tell you how you can end it. You said your mum told you a woman should not be educated. Please go home and tell your mum you deserve an education or just get one. You said your mum told you not to buy a car. Go ahead and buy a car if you can afford it. You said your mum told you not to buy expensive things. Bloody well go ahead and buy it if you can afford it. You said your mum told you never to get a job. Na hunger go clear ya eye, I pity you. You said your mum told you never to talk back at your husband. You can slap him for all I care. He's your husband not mine. The way to fix these problems is to have a discussion with your parents and family members that told you such BS; and make sure you don't tell the same BS to your children! 5 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 7:46pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
njokusboy: Mr njokusboy, what was the damn consensus in the first two pages before the generic, wish washy anti NL feminists rants took over? If you find that threads are one sided, create your own threads to highlight your issues and create the balance you are looking for. 8 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Pidggin(f): 7:52pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
tyconcepts: I respect this man 100% This country is a living hell for a female. Sadly, a lot of women have been brainwashed and they are the ones who mostly carry on these evil attitudes against other women. Recently I read a post on here where a married woman shamelessly insulted another lady calling her frustrated and miserable because she is single and she aired her view on an issue involving a married woman. People will talk and say nonsense, even those in miserable marriages will feel more priviledged than you My dear sisters ignore the stuwpidity of mediocre people, realise that your life is your own and no one else is answerable for what you do with it, but you. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 7:57pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
TooNoisy: Chillisauce: You have just recanted all that was said in the first two pages before you went on an emotional, anti NL women rant. Chillisauce had already said this. There is nothing new you said here, but just that you need to learn how to argue your thoughts devoid of sentimentally personalizing an issue when asked to give your views. Only fish-brains would resort to emotional outbursts or hang on to age long imaginary tiffs they have with anonymous posters on the net. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by TooNoisy(f): 8:02pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Stillfire: What is the meaning of fish-brain? That must be a very local slang. I guess only fish-brains know the meaning of fish-brain. Well you now kinda agree there was never a need for the thread and it should never have been open. Hopefully, we wouldn't see a similar thread anytime soon! Ciao fish-brain (whatever it means). You can show the thread to your family members too so that they can learn from it. 7 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 8:02pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Nigerian women cannot handle being a Nigerian man. Fact. Njokusboy, Crackhaus your comments are 100% true. I was telling a friend that it's harder to live as a man in the world and especially in Nigeria. I don't know if she believed me, but I'm relieved to know others realise this fact. A couple of days ago, I told one of the Philistines in this forum that Nigerian men have it as bad as and even worse than Naija women. The only difference is women being their usual whingey selives and men being their stock stoic selves. Just because someone isn't screaming doesn't mean they aren't going through hell; and just because someone is protesting doesn't mean they should be taken seriously. The truth is the average Nigerian woman would commit suicide if she were saddled with the life of the average Naija man. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 8:15pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
TooNoisy: I do not agree there is NOT a need for this thread. It is very important to highlight issues that bother on discrimination in the society. Society thrives on dialogue and how we can make it better. Even our so-called primitive foremothers discussed their issues, let alone a modern society. Next time don't fly into a thread and spread your butt cheeks and fart everywhere creating a sordid stench/nuisance. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 8:18pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Stillfire: stillfire listen to this and relax; iTS FRIDAY. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8TmRIVVAL2s this one of the times i wish i was single . Now na dora i dey watch chai 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 8:19pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Timbuktou: There is nothing wrong in you talking about your issues, it is not whining. If you need to be treated better, speak up and talk about it. Let us not silence the ones who have chosen to speak up. Viva Gender equality! 4 Likes 1 Share |
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