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Everyone wants to be attractive, that may even be the reason you are here. But in reality what you need is the understanding of the difference between attractiveness and good looks.

If you look good, it is simply due to your physical characteristics, it’s a matter of facial symmetry, shoulder-to-waist ratio, height and outward signs of physical health. Attractiveness on the other hand, is about the mind, and how people respond to you.

Being attractive is about charisma and the way you make people feel; in fact, a study from Webster University found that it was behavior that attracted people rather than just physical looks.

One of the most interesting things about being attractive is that it’s the little things that make up the difference – things that are easily overlooked, but powerful when utilized properly. Nature has a way of bestoring us with the needed attribute for survival (good looks is one) but for the skills of survival, you ought to learn that. Below are your top guides to being attractive-


Guide #1- Dress the way you want to be addressed(attractive)-
Men seem to perpetually misunderstand the power that a upgrading your wardrobe can bring you. Clothes are an outward extension of your identity. Clothes are the first thing people will notice about you, and that will color their first impressions of you. The right outfit – or the wrong one, for that matter – can utterly transform you. Remember, when you dress shabbily, people notice your clothes. When you dress properly, people notice you. If you want to be more attractive, you need to dress more attractively.

Fit is the most obvious place to start – you want clothes that flatter and support your body; trying to hide it behind oversized clothing just makes you look sloppy and unkempt. But just as important as fit is the style. If you want to stand out and be more attractive, you want clothes that look right. Find the clothes that you feel like you look like a million bucks in and it will start to affect your mentality and the way you carry yourself – and these will all measurably affect how people see you.

Guide #2 Use your Head!
Everyone has brains, but a few people know hpw to utilize it for their advantage. One of the easiest ways of being more attractive to somebody is to reinforce how alike you are. No matter what people have told you, opposites only attract if you happen to be a pair of magnets. In fact, the more similarities two people share, the more likely they are to like one another. If two people share similar backgrounds and values, they’re going to feel more comfortable with one another and that comfort is going to increase their sense of compatibility.

Guide #3 Use your Eyes
We all know the feeling of somebody looking through us or looking past us when we try to talk to them – it’s incredibly alienating and makes us like that person less. Eye contact is powerful. In fact, it’s so powerful that studies have shown that two minutes of gazing into somebody’s eyes can inspire deep feelings of passion and romantic love in complete strangers. Of course, you can’t exactly just randomly challenge strangers to staring contests in hopes of getting lucky, but you do need to learn how to harness the power of eye contact.

But above all else, when you make eye contact, you need to smile. Strong eye contact without a smile comes off as though you’re evaluating whether her flesh would make a fetching lampshade.

Guide #4 Enlarge your Tent
People who aren’t confident are afraid to take up space; they huddle in on themselves, as though they’re afraid to offend others with their presence. It also changes the message your body language is sending. When you take up space you are, by necessity, opening up your body. You become immediately more inviting and approachable when your open up your torso. Crossing your arms, slouching and curling in on yourself, on the other hand, makes you look unfriendly and unapproachable; you’re putting actual barriers between you and the people you want to talk to. Leave your torso open and your legs un-crossed and you’ll seem more attractive and friendly.

So pick these handy guides and make the most of your life, don't forget to make good money. I once read "if I make money from everyone that saw me as attractive, I would be attractive by now."

Cheers,

- Your personality coach and Nairaland Love Doctor

Having a good, respectable character and a positive attitude also makes a guy more attractive.

Decker:
Having a respectable character and a positive attitude also makes a guy more attractive.

Thank you brother!

Some do all these and many more, yet not a single game!

While money answereth all to some other douchebag out there!