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Happy sunday to all Nairalanders, please I want honest and mature advice only.Thanks
This is quite a long story but I will try as much as possible to make it brief
Okay,i have been heartbroken for a while now so i have tried to stay off men despite the fact that I have like many people asking me out but I keep concentrating on my work,I am 27.
Recently, I had a dream where I saw this old friend of my sister,his elder bro is actually her own friend, I have known him for quite a long time,although we do not talk even then, In my dream,i saw that we met again and he asked me out and after a while, I accepted, I was so happy in the dream we were so much in love and I found myself being happy in a way I haven't before, when I woke up and discovered it was a dream,Honestly,i felt like forcing myself back to sleep and continue in that beautiful world with him.



.....Its so strange I will be dreaming of this particular guy cos this is a guy i haven't seen in so many years,even back then,when he says hi to me
I don't really reply him well or talk to him
.although I know my sis keeps in touch with him and recently told me he liked my picture she used on her BBM.
Ever since I had this dream,i have been trying to get this out a my mind after all it's just a dream but something keeps bringing it back
It's so strange to me cos I don't even know what to do.I cannot go and ask him out. Cos its something I wouldn't ever do.i don't even know if he has a gf. But I am so so confused and want to know other people's views on this,
Could it be that a message is being passed across to me,although he is on my FB but I don't even know how to strike a conversation with him.i feel God is passing a message across to me.

Now my question is should I just say hi to him on FB and see what his response would be,i don't ever want to come across as desperate in my life. or I should just ignore the dream and move on with any of my other toasters who would be more than happy to hear me say yes?
Please,suggestions needed please. Help a sister out here.
God bless you all
I will be very grateful if this makes front page please.
Cc lalasticlala, Seun

Well we really will never know the absolute truth ,no one does except Your guardian angel and God ,pray and ask for guidance
However if I were in your shoes
I'll start by adding him on BBM
And see where it goes,if no where it was just a dream and it stays in lala land ,if somewhere ? Cool

Confessng:
Well we really will never know the absolute truth ,no one does except Your guardian angel and God ,pray and ask for guidance
However if I were in your shoes
I'll start by adding him on BBM
And see where it goes,if no where it was just a dream and it stays in lala land ,if somewhere ? Cool

Okay then,thanks

More comments now,please

Hmmmm..


End time

A simple compliment could be all you need to light up the flame, just type 'hi'

Just chat him up dear and see where it goes Just chat him up dear and see where it goes

U re in dare need of a boy/man friend. U slept the 1st day and u dream of him, u were so happy that u wanted to go back to sleep to continue, ur mind set is on this guy, apparently, he is good looking, u started crushing on him, u started thinking about him even in your conscious state,the thinking also followed u to your subconscious state(dream land) and u thought God is sending a message. Coincidentally, he liked your pics on BBM(is that even possible?).








I will pin all these down to desperation.

Women are known not to be the openly be the first to strike a convo but here is how to go about it using reverse psychology.

Since he's a friend on facebook and you having a thing for him, view his timeline and see what argument he's already pertaken in. Then write a short write up on that same topic as your status update and tag him plus your other few close friends like 5 of them, since he's interested in the topic, he would comment on it, then you also reply his comment like" Hey, its been a long time, inbox me" that should do the magic.

Or

Post a beautiful pic of you, tag him and few friends, watch him comment and reply like I wrote above.

Or

You comment on his post, Not his pictures, you intention would be obvious if you like his pics, just intelligently comment on his post, counter his opinion even if he was right, then at the end tell, tell him, it been a long time and that he should inbox you.

One of these should work, one thing is getting his attention and another is holding the conversation down, and that's why you have whatsapp and BBM. Goodluck girl.

chigoizie7:
U re in dare need of a boy/man friend. U slept the 1st day and u dream of him, u were so happy that u wanted to go back to sleep to continue, ur mind set is on this guy, apparently, he is good looking, u started crushing on him, u started thinking about him even in your conscious state,the thinking also followed u to your subconscious state(dream land) and u thought God is sending a message. Coincidentally, he liked your pics on BBM(is that even possible?).








I will pin all these down to desperation.

I knew I was still going to get a response like this, so I am not even surprised.
I think of someone I haven't even seen for years? I told you we haven't even spent up to 5 minutes talking before not to talk of me thinking of him in any way,and I would have actually ignored this if not for the thoughts that keep coming to my mind...plus I never said the dream and his commenting on my picture was coincidental.

Anyway,we all are entitled to our freedom of expressions so no problem.

aaronson:
Women are known not to be the openly be the first to strike a convo but here is how to go about it using reverse psychology.

Since he's a friend on facebook and you having a thing for him, view his timeline and see what argument he's already pertaken in. Then write a short write up on that same topic as your status update and tag him plus your other few close friends like 5 of them, since he's interested in the topic, he would comment on it, then you also reply his comment like" Hey, its been a long time, inbox me" that should do the magic.

Or

Post a beautiful pic of you, tag him and few friends, watch him comment and reply like I wrote above.

Or

You comment on his post, Not his pictures, you intention would be obvious if you like his pics, just intelligently comment on his post, counter his opinion even if he was right, then at the end tell, tell him, it been a long time and that he should inbox you.

One of these should work, one thing is getting his attention and another is holding the conversation down, and that's why you have whatsapp and BBM. Goodluck girl.

Wow, nice
I might just use one of this,thanks so much.

[quote author=aaronson post=40284525]Women are known not to be the openly be the first to strike a convo but here is how to go about it using reverse psychology.

Since he's a friend on facebook and you having a thing for him, view his timeline and see what argument he's already pertaken in. Then write a short write up on that same topic as your status update and tag him plus your other few close friends like 5 of them, since he's interested in the topic, he would comment on it, then you also reply his c
Guy you don tey for this game of online dating. Infact your a specialist on the facebook platform.
Good afternoon

[quote author=jmichlins post=40287806][/quote]lol

Use the last two tips you got...they should work.

Well, if it's a dream frm God, the guy also wld have a dream similar to urs, buh I think u should hjus say hi and let it end there!

My dear.,.i think it's best you strike a convo with him through chatting and be lively in ur chats too..,.dat will help u guys get closer and know urselves better....dat'll help clear ur doubts.,..

opehh:
I knew I was still going to get a response like this, so I am not even surprised.
I think of someone I haven't even seen for years? I told you we haven't even spent up to 5 minutes talking before not to talk of me thinking of him in any way,and I would have actually ignored this if not for the thoughts that keep coming to my mind...plus I never said the dream and his commenting on my picture was coincidental.

Anyway,we all are entitled to our freedom of expressions so no problem.

Women!!! You people don't like the truth. Your reply to this fellow shows your true state of mind and what you want to hear from people. Goodluck. Hope you will not regret your action.

LadyJul:
My dear.,.i think it's best you strike a convo with him through chatting and be lively in ur chats too..,.dat will help u guys get closer and know urselves better....dat'll help clear ur doubts.,..

Thanks dear