obum88:


You are not far from the truth

donifez:
Are you in school, If no...enter a school and don't come home often,you will see some changes.

Pursue your dream, you are a good writer. I have known you for quite sometime here. Do not try to feel sad when he tries to break your spirit, make sure you never give up.

What is your mother take on this when your dad does this?If she knows how to communicate with the man effectively,Then pass your information to her,she would know how to pass it to your dad.


Your dad is wrong for using that Audu line on you,and he knows it. He might have a quick tongue, overlook it and work your way to the top.


A friend in secondary school told us that when his brother died,his mum was crying and said why will so so and so die and not so so and so(another brother), the other brother just killed himself,two corpses.

When you put on the girdle of success,everyone will like to be around you. Your dad inclusive.

sweatlana:
Seek God's face. He loves u. Get involved in church activities.
Life your life completely for God.

Therock5555:
if I'm cooking this up, may the death wish and all curses he has rained on me also fall on you. Amen

marlockj:



What is your reason of not moving out?

Jadonjack:
Its good your old man is on nairaland as well. I guess I will have to wait for your dad's own side of the story before I gv out my advice.

Like I always say... A coin is always with two sides, so is every story

Therock5555:
I'm a Sunday school teacher and I'm gonna quit today, gonna meet my patron later today, I can't keep dying inside and Coming to laugh before my Sunday school kids

sweatlana:


Your profile pic says a lot about your personality...
Your dad might not be a devil after all.

funkymatics:
just get admission to a tertiary school and u will be amazed how they will change but you must behave and strive to succeed in every aspect of your life. he will soon apologize to u. no pain no gain.

InvertedHammer:

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I just saw the profile picture.

I believe that the father is not doing enough.

Perhaps castration should be a good start.

Every sympathy I had is now out of the window.

The guy is very irresponsible. Dads know best.

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Therock5555:
he's a guest,

I wrote this for him to see because speaking to him and telling all this would mean more beatings even before I reach half

TheNextAce:
You say he is a preacher, so I'm guessing he is the pastor of a branch church. I will advice you write to the council of elders of the church, if your church has one. Ask that you would like them to intervene in your matter. Your father seem like the type that is controlling but doesn't want anyone outside to see this. Once you can get a higher authority from the church to intervene, he would be mindful of his actions as he would not want to be disciplined by the church body. You would have temporal peace till you are able to get out of the apartment. Be wise in your dealings and pray to God for guidance. Wisdom is always profitable. I pray the peace of God finds expression between you and your family.

ferhyntorlah:
Therock555,

In JESUS name, I decree and declare that every curse, negative pronunciations and utterances uttered against you from your father mother, siblings and anyone SHALL STAND, NEITHER SHALL IT COME TO PASS - Isaiah 7:7

That should be your prayer now. How will you prosper in life when you have CURSES UPON CURSES hovering over your head and destiny?

I cancel death from you because it is written YOU SHALL NOT DIE BUT LOVE TO DECLARE THE WORKS OF THE LORD IN THE LAND OF THE LIVING - Psalms 119:18.

Going forward, make it a habit to reject any negative word or curse directed at you (say it inwardly or openly when you are alone). Memorise the above scriptures and quote it when necessary.

Ajalekoko76:
It could be enemies working against ur destiny thereby using ur parents especially ur dad..

Therock5555:
bro I'm in school but I'm not allowed to stay in the hostel or student village because he monitors my movement

naijadeyhia:



You are hellbent on embarrassing and getting your pound of flesh from your dad. Since you know he would read it on nairaland what stops you from sending him this as a private email or sms afterall he would still read it. So why put it on an open forum for all to read since he also visits th same forum a lot and u are not particularly on here and saying all this so u can be helped but just so he can read it.

ferhyntorlah:


End time advice.

If he does this, they will encourage him to kill himself quickly. Person wey him papa dey wish death upon.

Dear Therock5555,
For me, your matter is SPIRITUAL! You said you were the only one birthed in the village. There lies your foundational problem - something happened before or after you were born, which is causing you to behave like this.

I know people will say I have come with spiritually but we can't ignore the effect of the spiritual on the physical.

Pray for GOD to show you what happened during the time of your birth, right down to your naming.

It's so unfortunate that none of your parents are looking at the behaviour from the spiritual angle. Isn't your father (I'm sorry I can't called him daddy because from what you have written, he hadn't exhibited the traits of a DADDY) a preacher? Is the Holy Spirit living in him? A spirit filled man won't behave as he's doing to you because the Holy Spirit will caution him and guide him on ways to relate with you.

Tackle your issue spiritually and see your life change for the better.

REMEMBER THE SPIRITUAL CONTROLS THE PHYSICAL!

Walexz02:
Hey bro as you said earlier that you always oppose your dad when ever he lies... I bet it you two can ever be friends.
Solution, even if you want to correct him whenever hi lie it shouldn't be immediately or right their in the public where he is speaking.. As someone said earlier move closer to him, try correct him in private and also make positive adjustment in your ways of dealing with your family issue.. Man up bro you own the house now or later and there is nothing your old man can do about, yeah!

indiraserv:
You dont seem to see that the guy is close to the edge and almost losing himself in all the pain he is going through and has been through ?

Therock5555:
dude this is not a matter of I started one day, I grew up bearing the brunt and tag of a black sheep, I never knew when it started or the first crime I ever committed, I've done tons of good in this family and maybe a truckload of wrongs but that's what makes one human I guess



I could wash everyone cloth and get complaints that I can't even wash but my elder sis does same thing and she is termed a good wife material and role model

I could contribute 10k to finances but if I say I don't have money to buy soap and termed a good for nothing stingy cow

The problem is not been a black sheep, what he should ask himself is, who made me the black sheep

indiraserv:
You dont seem to see that the guy is close to the edge and almost losing himself in all the pain he is going through and has been through ?

naijadeyhia:


He isn't close to any edge. He is just creating this world of pity and pain and chaos by himself and crated the so called edge u say he is close to. His father does not hate him...His father loves him 8 his on way. Gosh he is 21 and his father hasn't poisoned him or stabbed or broken his head yet has he and he never will. Just wants the best for his first son that's all.

naijadeyhia:
Many of you here giving advice are still kids yourself who still have rebellious tendencies so you would always want to stick with the OP. However OP I am not on your team. Allow me to tell you why.

1) I first took time to go through your posts here on nairaland as well as your diaries including those you said " the stories were true but names changed" and you really need help....i will come back to this shortly....

2) You are the second child but the first son and you wonder why your father is being hard on you? I am also a first son and all you lamented about I experienced it too but until I realised that my dad was not the problem and that I had the problem things never changed.
You see like you I and so stood up to my dad often but only on issues that were right especially after I became born again but I never stood up to him in disrespect but calmly passed my message across. I have slept in the rain, sun, got disowned at a point, slept with church members and eaten with them as no food was forthcoming from home because like u I was also . labelled a black sheep so you see your case isn't peculiar.
It is the one whom the father loves that he chastises the most and until I learnt how to draw close to my dad and engage him in truly meaningful conversation I was my own problem.
I had my fair share of hotels and women and it was as if I was hellbent on dis gracing my family until I had to stop and think and make some major adjustments and today I am my father's best friend as we joke around as friends not even as father and son. FYI my dad is now 68 and I around 40.
He wanted me to be an urban and regional planner which I studied in school but inside I wanted to be a musician or a businessman so I deliberately chose to do a biz of my own just tons pipe him but it only made matters worse.
However today all things have worked together fo Good because I am now fully into real estate but from all business angle as I develop and sell properties.

My dad really loved me in his own twisted way but I had to discover that and will myself to move towards him Same way u need to discover yours and move closer.
Only intense anger would make make a father wish his son was dead and I would like to say that his expectations from you as a first son and your actions or inactions pushed him to that point.

I dare say that perhaps peer pressure is one of your major problems as you seem to be having more influences outside your home and foolishly bring those influences into ur fathers house.
He is the captain of that home and not you...LEARN AND UNDERSTAND THAT! Why you get your own place and pay your own rent then feel free to do as u please.

I am a father now so fully appreciate what my dad tried doing when I was young. You OP will soon see the bigger picture as right now u are not.

Back to number 1 above... i want you to tell yourself the truth which at a point in this your submission u did when u said "u are demonic" . Ask yourself if your head is in the right place and if your actions match the impression u want ur dad to have about u. Clean yourself up OP....clean up your mind, ur thoughts and the words that come from u. REBRAND and you will see your dad do same.

On a final note, every father has n expectation for his kids and yours is not an exception. You will also have expectations for your kids when they start coming and perhaps you may give them corporal punishment when they fail to live up to your expectations. Sit down and give your life a thought OP and u will see that your dad isn't that bad.

Cheers!

Laid2001:
If the @op is my kid, he would have been disowned by now.
What do you mean your dad is always wrong!. He is the boss and the boss is never wrong, you are the one that is always wrong!

You get what you deserve. Which good child have your type of profile on Nairaland?

To any decent parent, who have taken time to study your profile, they will know that you are probably second in command to devil!.
If you like go and kill yourself because the head of your household is too strict for your liken, my friend, if the heat is too much, get the hell out of his house na, no be by force, YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE AN ADULT!.

When you get your own house hold and family rule them the way you like. Don't you know your siblings are the smart ones that realized that "he who plays the piper dictate the tune" and you are the fool for trying to drag the tune with he who plays the piper!

As long as it is your dad's house, you have to stick by the rule.

One more thing, when you get a job, never drag issue with your boss, when he is wrong, keep quite, when he is right, praise him!

You can only change yourself, you can't change the world. And your dad is part of the world. When you change your attitude to your father, he will change his to you!

Brownpage:
Rocky i really feel what u are saying.
Something like this happened between me and my elder brother.
Things got so bleeped up that one midnight we heard a very big problem,he beat the senses out of me and all i could do then was to use my hand and smash his car glasses and leave his house that midnight cos i couldnt fight him back, because he was my elder brother and i couldnt stand myself laying a hand on him,yes i have that respect for him.
Rocky just leave that house,even if it means u sleeping under the bridge,just get out of that house.so far u are focused towards ur dreams,rocky i swear u will make it big oneday.
If u dont leave that house oneday u will kill ur dad and then the whole world will blame u.
I live in the eastern incase u find urself here oneday just try and get in touch with me.
I pray God will make u bold enough to run this race and win. Amen.

ayoolanr:


Wow...so dude are you saying you are 1 year from completing medical school? You must be quite bright to go that far in a field you are not passionate about and only into to make your abusive and sadistic lucifer father happy! In which case, i would suggest you sweat it out, complete your medical degree and then move out of your parent's house. If you have come this far, keep your eye on the goal and turn this temporary negative experience into something that would mold your character in a positive limelight and a source of your motivation. Most Sons always want to do their Father proud so i can understand why you are walking in your Father's shadow....I became and loved a profession my Dad wanted for me right from my childhood, only because i owned it myself!!!!! The only part i cannot fathom is the abusive side of your dad!!!!! He is just a sad, old agbaya!!!!