Noluvlost

Arlington:
Hello everyone,

I wanted to start this for women who are still waiting for a child, who have tried for a long time, have suffered miscarriages, still births  and  are trying to find alternative ways of having a child.

In our culture it is really difficult to talk about this as people are ashamed or don't know who to trust  and are just generally confused. I have suffered 2 miscarriages and i am still on this journey i believe that i will  be a mother some day.

We believe in Nigeria after 2 years  and no child you have major issues especially from your village but i know that is not always true.

So please come in let us support one another we can pray together, share ideas  seek advice and get advice  and travel this road together dont suffer in silence don't cry alone anymore let us help each other, until the day we carry our bundle of joy.
(My own bundle of joy was born December 2010 nothing is impossible with God)

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mumigrace:
@pweetymii, that song has been kept specially as my thanksgiving song when I finally have my baby...so u r in d Spirit .

Do ur best and leave the rest to God. Faith without works is dead.

Fertility blessings @all

correctii nii..thumbs up...this ttc has turned gelz to prayer warriors and prophetess...sometimes i wake up with songs on my lips..this last week,i av been having af cramp like pains,i not come know how the song take relate to my situation at that moment.anyways,i know it will all end in praise..
#ttccannoykillmyswagger#
Confessionbringsconception#
#feelingpositive#

Hmmn! No luv lost said she is a TTC mom....please just go and see a shrink. With all the stories of marital violence towards wives, u still have the heart to complain about a loving husband. Don't you know its a woman that forms the home? You have got one worshipping the ground you walk on, yet you come here and rant rubbish! Dem force u marry am ni? Abeg oo, here we have TTC women not trying to divorce women, stop making a mockery of this board. If it were your hubby that came here to tell the story, then he is the one TTC! You are not in a loveless marriage, u are a selfish person in a supposed-to-be happy marriage. If you wan comot, abeg comot.

Modified

@noluvlost,@mamakendra has asked and written some of the basic truth about marriage..like she said,there must have been something in him that is why u married him.Proverbs 23:5 says"riches make themselves wings and fly away like eagle to heaven".One of my teaches puts it this way "beauty fades,opportunity vanishes,riches put wings on themselves and fly away,the only lasting thing in a man is his character!ur Dh has character what else are u looking for?Don Williams also said "some fools don't know what they have got till its lost",buckle up sis,even though ur Dh worships u,u are not perfect for him but he is seeing through ur imperfections,ur not enjoying bd with him,is ur mindset which have been built over a period of time,i don't think God made a mistake by allowing u be man and wife(he actually does not make mistake),i think u should ask ur self "are u not been selfish"?i cannot judge u,cos we all have our own badsides,but u should have it in mind that there are ladies who fast and pray and have made various kind of sacrifice just to have a man pay dowry on their head,there are ladies in violent relationship in which u would beg them to leave but they are saying love e killin me,i die i go just cos they want a man their own..i don't want to go spiritual,but have u confided in a man of God?again,lets not blame the devil for all our misdeeds,proverbs said,as a man thinketh in his heart so he is.Think about ur actions towards him really and pray that God would help u make the right decisions in ur home..finally,no home is perfect,as a marriage is made up of two people that should complement each other (na only nollywood them dey see lovey lovey marriage all the days)..learn to complement him and reciprocate his good actions,make it like u are acting and before u know it,the feelings for him would increase..shallom..

omo, see gobe!

@Noluvlost ...are you for real!!!

Anyway, I don't have much to say. My wonderful & knowledgeable sisters have said it all.

All I want to do is remind u that the grass always looks greener on the other side, so beware! Look before you leap!!!
Ur next victim might be a direct opposite of the one ur so much in a haste to run away from right now; might be an abusive one or even the devil himself.

Nne, be wise!

Even most of our parents didn't marry for love but majority of them are like bread&butter today with amazing homes...it's all ur mindset.
Better safe than sorry!!!

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@noluvlost. This is a strong something. I Don't know how to advise u o. But I want to wish u d best.

Modified

No luv lost.. I think u just discovered d problem. No man is unlovable. Direct ur attention on building your marriage . Go out with him, share meals with him. Pick an interest in his day. Do things u normally won't do. Go out of your way. Abandon ttc for a while . It is not fair for u guys to bring in children into a loveless situation. Just as ur husband caught the vibes so also will d children. So many seeds of love n watch them germinate. He will in turn radiate d love back to u n u too will catch d fire. I pray the Lord him self will bind together ur marriage with love. N cause your children to come. All d best

@ noluvlost all the sisters have said it all. It's all in your mind.my cousin once told me about how they use to chase brides to thier new homes with canes and despite the bad beginning they still had great homes. May be you have read too many romantic novels and movies. Am not advising you to stay but what assurances have you that the next place will be better.prayerfully ask yourself what you want and seek Gods help.

The husband was home already. When he perfunctorily checked his phone, his wife had called him thrice. He disregarded calling her back out of malice. The wife drove in some forty minutes later. He saw Usman opening the gate for her as his phone went on ringing. He checked it. It was his wife. She was in her car at the garage already. What is she calling me for? Foolish and stubborn wife! He said and ignored her calls. The call went on for a while. He ignored it as he sat with the TV.Thirty minutes later, she did not come in. Something told him to go and check. Is she still in the car? Yes she must be there. He called Usman, Is madam in the car? Few minutes later, Usman rushed in. Madam dey sleep inside the car o. That was when he woke up and rushed downstairs. Asthma! She was Asthmatic! Could she be having her usual attack? Could she have forgotten her inhaler?He quickly took the inhaler and rushed downstairs. When he got there, she was almost breathless. Usman and husband quickly carried her to the back seat and off, he sped like a bat out of hell, to a clinic nearby. Madam was confirmed dead! If he had picked her call early enough, probably she could have been saved. When you leave domestic disagreement to fester for too long, it leads to greater evil. The Husband is weeping mad, blaming himself...i killed my wife! Only God knows how many wives, husbands, children have died such a needless death. Couples must cultivate one another. No matter how angry you are with your wife, in your office, in her shop, pls call her at least three times during the day,call even when you have no reason to call. If all you could say is "Where are you?" "Wetin dey?" "Anything for your boyfriend?" A must read for ALL husbands n wives. You can forward if you can.

I b say i no go put mouth but dis one don pass me. Mamas, you have all hit the nail on the head sotey i no see d hammer again but make i try find am.

noluvlost, are you for real? Please permit me to share your story with an online friend who is a very good writer. She is gathering stories of marriages to write on for people to be exposed before heading to the altar. She has already written one for singles.

My dear, i hope you realize that because of the way you feel concerning your dh, you might never have a child for him. You practically hate him and you expect his hated sperm to fertilize your egg? Get serious! It's either you shape up or ship out. A lot of people are in loveless marriages but they are trying their best to make the marriages work. In my place, dem no dey tell woman make she leave her husband but in your case i go tell you say if you no say you no go fit work as the home maker to make your home how you wan make e be, then abeg leave that poor man jor. Masturbation! When you dey around? Na wa o. That man must be a saint.

If you decide not to work on your marriage, don't be surprised when you hear your dh has a concubine with two kids somewhere. Do you want that? Please go and watch the movie- Fireproof and see how to make a marriage work. Have you seen the video of two people and a lion? Even animals respond to love not to talk of humans. Please try your best. Try to view where you will be five years from now. It is well.

A word is enough for the wise.

Word! @imoge2. Thanks for sharing

My update. I am off Bcp. My cycle was 26days spot on during the Bcp.
I started preconception care on cd1, at morning with food. Then take Vitamin E at night.
Want to add folic acid but it seems I don't need extra.
After d cleanse, I went on one meal a day.
And was visiting d loo once in 3 days.
Since cd1, I have been going daily.
Am tempted to think if it's d perception care working.
Some days like yesterday, I even went twice.

Please who else is on perception care and noticing difference?
I want my body to do its thing as advised by my doctor this cycle.
And also see if I would ovulate, if not, I would do all my test the new cycle.
I pray this does it though

Last Power Must Change hand in d year 2015.... Thank you covenant keeping God for keeping me and my household dis far.... Father i key into dis testimony of triplet i just heard for me and every other mama's here, before d end of dis year give Us our own bfp testimony in Jesus Name

MummyEsther:
@All: Please anyone know of any good lubricant for fertility apart from Preseed. Preseed causes irritation and yeast. Though not everyone gets this reaction but its wise to take a look at any other type. I heard of YesBaby but its not in Nigeria yet. Pls does anyone know of any good substitute for Preseed?

Pls try concieve plus,we have used it,and don't forget am pregnant has I write this,I bought it from the UK,it maybe around here too, it comes with ovulation prediction kit n pregnancy test kit too... I just peep to say hi to u guys...

@ No Luvlost,your case na serious one o,u wnt have married him in the first place,y are u punishing a good man,by the time one sisi go they arrange ur hubby,your eye go clear,our parents were in a loveless marriage but it Grew into a lovable one,make I stop there,our intelligent mamas have said it all. Love is a decision,you make up your mind to love o,mamakendra has hit the button on it
@ Imoge,i dnt knw of the preconception care,maybe sabi mamas to come answer u soon,
Presently am takin pregnacare and not notice anytin.

@ No Luvlost,your case na serious one o,u wnt have married him in the first place,y are u punishing a good man,by the time one sisi go they arrange ur hubby,your eye go clear,our parents were in a loveless marriage but it Grew into a lovable one,make I stop there,our intelligent mamas have said it all. Love is a decision,you make up your mind to love o,mamakendra has hit the button on it
@ Imoge,i dnt knw of the preconception care,maybe sabi mamas to come answer u soon,
Presently am takin pregnacare conception and not notice anytin.

MummyEsther:


Just saw this now,ajuwarhodes, please where did you buy the conceived plus lubricant?

I bought it in the UK, but online...I mean I ordered online,and it delivered to my sister,at that time I was back home,so she inturned sent it by post to me, picked it up at post office at mushin,what am saying is that u can do same,on the other hand I believe its here too,check those pharmacy like the one at shop rite Ikeja,hubby told me he saw it there too

Noluvlost, mamas have said it all. Love is a choice we all make. In my opinion you need to change your mindset. You have two choices:

1. You pack your bag and leave him be. To me, a man masturbating and his wife is with him is beyond comprehension. Though I never support divorce, if your been with him is making both your lives miserable then allow him find real love.
2. You work hard to make your marriage work. I believe mamas have suggested things you can do. The mind is a powerful thing and my sister you have programmed your mind concerning your dh. You need to reprogramme it and ask God for direction. If you really want your marriage to work put ttc on hold and start again. Go on dates, get to know each other from the beginning. If you see marriage as a "no going back" journey. You will make yours work. Love grows, you just need to feed and nurture it.

Snap out of it and get real cs you never know what you have till its gone.

Hello mamas...
Noluvlost, is it that you dont love him at all or you care a little.
I dont blame you and won't admonish you cos at least yoy said your mind. Countless women are in this situation buh would rather die than say it out.

If you care about ( not necessarily love) him, there are plenty ways you can make your marriage work. Afterall many arranged marriages or those of convinience do too.
- tell yourself you wont fail at this. You will try your best.
- make a list of what you like about him.
- make another list of what you dont like about him.
- try to fix what you dont like about him. Now remember that there are certain things unfixable( eg handicap, baldness, k-leg or bowleg, height matters)
- get him involved in what you like....your hobbies
- get involved in what he likes. You may not be freaked at first buh you will soon get the hang of it.
-if you really put your mind to it and try your best and still dont feel as if your marriage can work ( put in mind that I didnt talk about you falling in love with him), do him a favour and let him go, you will be doing yourself a favour too.

A loveless marriage isnt a taboo, million of women and men are in it. Its not healthy, yes buh its not terrible too as long as the people in it are good people and do not hurt one another. The only ish is if one of them ends up falling in love with an outsider na there wahala dey.


I love my husby alot. I'm his Bonnie and he is my Clyde buh there are plenty days I just hate him for no reason. There are many nights I cant even bear him to even kiss me. So there is no perfect marriage. Just plenty people in pursuit of happiness.

Roseey0:

I have for sale. Give me ur email so I can contact u off nl. My pm does not work.

have gotten guifei bao already, thanks

@NoLuvLost it is well.
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foriletie:
have gotten guifei bao already, thanks

Pls where did you get ur guifei bao

joliefille:
Good day mamas, I want to know if anyone has information on endometriosis and perhaps herbal remedies that can assist in ensuring better treatment for this condition/disease. Please assist. Baby dust all around.

This was part of the things I was daigonised of,and was treated,I used herbal for it,will tell u the name and where I got it,brb ...make I check.I kept all the bottles of the herbs I used, and the address, will put u thru...it worked oooo,will repeat myself...I am pregnant

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@Ajuwarhodes , please respect noluvlost wishes and uquote. Please we need to respect each other's request.

Hope you and lo are doing great

ajuwarhodes:



This was part of the things I was daigonised of,and was treated,I used herbal for it,will tell u the name and where I got it,brb ...make I check.I kept all the bottles of the herbs I used, and the address, will put u thru...it worked oooo,will repeat myself...I am pregnant

Pls u can drop d info on the thread. So evefy1 can benefit from it