Contrast marriage by unconsigned parents all in the name of money. I couldnt finished the reading bt both parents are d cause

Omotayor123:

Since you know what you are doing is inhuman but you keep on doing it.... I will call you wicked and heartless. You don't need a psychologist.... Just change for better!

I'm not wicked and I'm not heartless it's just the way I feel

na wa o


I pity ur wife

I av ntin to say bt

Just close ur eyes nd divorce wats is her dad cut expenses una no dey work ni

Leave d babe

Evil of d highest oda!!!!!!!

Daily12:


I'm not wicked and I'm not heartless it's just the way I feel

Then change how you feel ASAP.... Anytime you feel like inflicting pain on her...

1. Remember God's commandment that says you should love, cherish and respect your wife.

2. Remember the Good memories you have shared together and

3.Remember the things she have done to make you happy.

You don't need a Babalawo. The ball is in your court!

halfrica:

Just close ur eyes nd divorce wats is her dad cut expenses una no dey work ni

It's not that easy.

Omotayor123:

Then change how you feel ASAP.... Anytime you feel like inflicting pain on her...

1. Remember God's commandment that says you should love, cherish and respect your wife.

2. Remember the Good memories you have shared together and

3.Remember the things she have done to make you happy.

You don't need a Babalawo. The ball is in your court!

Ok thank you

Daily12:


It's not that easy.

Do it slowly nd steadily
It works dats ow m handling mine

B calm ok nd do it

Daily12:


Actually it's my wife and that is what gives me concern not other women. And I did not feel this way prior to the marriage. I have worked with women I did not feel this way.

I don't get excited seeing other women hurt but I'm happy and pleased seeing my wife hurt.

Listen to me, I can help you, and before I can help you, I want you to trust me. Come on, you can trust me. Be honest about any question I ask you. That's the only way I would be able to help you.
You are anonymous. No one is going to know your true identity, so you have nothing to fear.

You said you smiled when you saw other women in pain. Why do you smile?

Most times, people do not consciously know that they have a certain attraction to "something" until that desire or attraction is triggered. That's why I am asking you what actually triggered it. Try to remember.

You know what? I don't believe all this sexual attraction to your wife being hurt started with your wife. But if you say it did, then when? When was the first time you felt this way? Do you have a compulsion to have sex with her as you inflict pain on her? Does the pleasure you derive from seeing her in pain, surpass the one you derive when having sex with her or imagining having sex with her.

What's her reaction to all this. Does she plead with you to stop? Does her pleading with you to stop intensify the gratification you derive?

Cc. Lalasticlala, please move this to family section for more help.

See, you didn't earn her love, you didn't earn this wife it just came to you. So you feel less a man and causing her pain makes you feel in charge, seeing her vulnerable excites you. You are feeling less a man because you have what u didn't earn and hurting her makes u feel manly.
What you need is therapy, first confess to her or show her this post then both of you should start marriage counseling.
Also put it in prayer.

Oga, follow my advice. Go admit yourself in a psychiatrist home. You need a rehab

You have a personal problem. Deal with it. Unfortunately you are also weak, since your parents determine your association. So, can you really deal with self? when others control self?

Good thing you are beginning to love her and better you're seeking help.
Too bad I can't help you but I'm sure you can help yourself.

That's the problem with Rich parents..dem no want make poor man tap from their Riches...blame it on your parents #ForcedLove

You don't have any problem. Did she tell you she is not enjoying it. Or you are just assuming. She might even think you are not meeting up. I doubt if she doesn't like it. Most women like it that way. Aggressive Sex with more pain. That's why they say harder harder. And that is the reason she is staying and overlooking the other hurtful things you do. Keep it Up. Good for you two. x.x.x™

That's the problem with Rich Folks ..dem no want make poor man tap from their Riches...blame it on your parents #ForcedLove

Pucaxo:
OP you're completely normal.. But you really need to put your emotions in-check for the sake of humanity!

I had an ex who enjoyed forceful sex, she enjoyed it so much that she always asks me to act like I wanna rape her! LOL!! Anyway, she found Jesus so she's cool now... Just put your feelings be tamed bro. Even if banana is your fav fruit, you don't always have to eat it.

Okay. I like your signature. "Heaven I need a hug" - R. Kelly (one of my favorite)

@topic, OP you're a sadist. You engage in sadism, You need help.

hnmmm exactly dexam wif me.I do feel happy,,,I mean Vewi happy seeing anyone close to my hrt get hurt or angry.it gives some kind of joy.......is dis normal plz.

It's a good thing you know what your problem is and really need a way out. There's a saying that when you kick a dog, one day, it will bite you. Talk to your wife, apologize to her that you don't mean to hurt her. From all what you've said, she loves you only you don't seem to realize that. Then go for marriage counseling, pray and work on yourself.

thy dey follow u 4rm village ooo

Na only God know where we wan start from to help you! Seriously . I recommend you see a psychiatrist who would then refer you both to a therapist. I dare say that your parents helped fuel your problems and bizarre sexual behaviour. May God help you and make you come out scot-free through all of this. Above all, put this in prayer. God hears.

Daily12:
This might sound obscene to some people, as i do not intend to hurt anyone feelings but i seriously need help. I dont know if i can continue this or not. But i would be short and straight, and i hope you guys can help me. Please

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I married my wife 2 years ago and we were very young. Our parents kind of forced us into it. My dad said i must marry her so that he can cement his friendship and contract with her father. Her own Mum told her she must marry me so that the family business would continue and the name stands since its a joint venture. So, technically, our parents used us both for business! I was only 23 she was just 19 approaching 20. She was 20 the Sunday after our wedding. That is not really the problem here, the problem is I enjoy seeing my wife in pain! It turns me on when she cries or she is sad. It makes me feel closer to her.

And as a result of this, Sometimes i deliberately do things to hurt her feelings. I scold her at every opportunity! I pick a fault in her every action. I complain about everything. I even condemn whatever she does just so she can feel bad and possibly cry. That is my intention. It has become like a drug and i'm an addict. I cannot stay without it.

In fact, sex is not what i want even when we have sex i am aggressive and mean so she can feel excessive pain. It suppose to bother me but it doesn't, it makes me feel happy.

Long story short, I think i am not normal or maybe its a fetish i don;t know but whatever this is, my wife is at the receiving end of it and she is receiving the bad side. Please mature persons, i need your advice. Divorce is impossible, our parents would disown us. so that is why she is still around and i am not surprised she did not file for divorce or report my wicked actions. She is just "Swallowing It" because her father might just disown her or cut her off from his expenses. And same applies to me, i am starting to love her and i dont want to keep on hurting her and i was thinking of ending the marriage so she finds someone better but my mum said she must not hear it and i know my dad wont find it funny. So its impossible to separate from each other and its somehow impossible for the pain she is going through to stop because I am the pain, and i want to fix this.

Thank You all.

Devil suppose come learn work for your side,OP

It's a good thing you know what your problem is and really need a way out. There's a saying that when you kick a dog, one day, it will bite you. Talk to your wife, apologize to her that you don't mean to hurt her. From all what you've said, she loves you only you don't seem to realize that. Then go for marriage counseling, pray and work on yourself.
If you don't resolve this now, your wife will get used to your criticism and might show you the other side of her.

Strahovski:
Hmmm i have read the whole stuff and OP, i think i can reproduce what you are going through. Normally i would make a trash comment and port to the next thread but from what you wrote, i can see some sincerity and willingness to solve the issue. So i would help you

First, Your wife! She is young(She is 22 now) , her emotions are heightened up and this is a big deal for her considering where she is coming from(Her Family). I presume she does everything you want, when you misbehave she would still be the one to apologize and i can also sense that she is in love with you. Trust me, she is a girl, her father is not a problem! Do you think she does not have another bank account where the boys are sending her money? (Another set of "toasters", so if she wants out, she would get out! I have dealt with cases like this during my days. She loves you man, and you are taking advantage of it because it turns you on.. So follow these steps and see how it turns out:

- Communicate with her: Confess your crimes and tell her how it turns you on. Confess you do it intentionally. And observe her response(Dont be surprised she knows already) If you dont fix it, in the future, she might be using the hurt/pain to get things from you because "It brings you closer to her"
- Consult a marriage Counselor or Therapist: You need some counseling! You need to know that she is your wife and not an object of pleasure!
- Start feeling her pain: Make her pain your pain! When you start feeling her pain, you wont be the pain anymore.
- Find another way to please yourself: Yup, it can be a video game(You are a young dude), poker, or a friday night out with your wife every week.
- Make her the boss when it comes to sex: You do it her way! Not your way! At least for now *wink*
- Find out what turns her on: Its time she is the one turning on not you! You have had enough. Because all that is turning on in her is her pain.
- Be closer: Watch movies together, go on weekend time out, attend church programs together.. make her feel loved.

So Op, when you have tried it for about 3 - 6 months you would re-wire out of the idea that you should hurt her first.

Hope i helped

You can update me on the situation and i would be happy to help. Send me a mail, i will give you a call!
hmmm

You no help at all! Haba just advice,you dey type note full like say na CRS class you dey. Your solution don pass the guy problem self

That means u ar radio without battery or Tv without NEPA since the agony of ur wife turns u on

Daily12:


Just her but i smile when i see young women in pain

It's official, u are a sadist. Since u've recognized ur problem and I blive ready to change, u're already on a good track. See a psychologist or better still a psychiatrist.
NB: Pls let that poor woman go since it's obvious u don't love her, she is still young and wldd meet someone worthy of her not someone who feels pleasure from seeing her hurt and miserable.

Refiner. Yours is different. You are more like a Sadist. Do you also like and enjoy aggressive sex with excessive pain?. x.x.x™

sexual sadism

Daily12:


Actually it's my wife and that is what gives me concern not other women. And I did not feel this way prior to the marriage. I have worked with women I did not feel this way.

I don't get excited seeing other women hurt but I'm happy and pleased seeing my wife hurt.

do you know what I sensed... Your parent took away your youthful pleasure from you.. Like this is the time your energy for fun goes high Buh it seems cos of some hindrances, you couldn't explore... I guess you're 25 or 26 now shey... I bet you when you get to that stage... Like 29 30 you gonna regret every bit of your actions cos then your maturity would have been more than now... Me I bliv you aren't sick or u need a therapist... At this your age unmarried pple like you hurts single ladies too outside... It like a stage.. You'll be pass through it I Jos pray you won't hurt her to the extend of her laying curses on you... Nd hey don't think she doesn't know... She knows...

SeverusSnape:

Okay. I like your signature. "Heaven I need a hug" - R. Kelly (one of my favorite)

@topic, OP you're a sadist. You engage in sadism, You need help.

Yea, was listening to it and I could really relate to that line ... So I made it my siggy

waiting for the wife's version bfor I comment..

family matters get as e be

Both of you sud see a psychologist or marriage counsellor.