Strahovski:
Hmmm i have read the whole stuff and OP, i think i can reproduce what you are going through. Normally i would make a trash comment and port to the next thread but from what you wrote, i can see some sincerity and willingness to solve the issue. So i would help you

First, Your wife! She is young(She is 22 now) , her emotions are heightened up and this is a big deal for her considering where she is coming from(Her Family). I presume she does everything you want, when you misbehave she would still be the one to apologize and i can also sense that she is in love with you. Trust me, she is a girl, her father is not a problem! Do you think she does not have another bank account where the boys are sending her money? (Another set of "toasters", so if she wants out, she would get out! I have dealt with cases like this during my days. She loves you man, and you are taking advantage of it because it turns you on.. So follow these steps and see how it turns out:

- Communicate with her: Confess your crimes and tell her how it turns you on. Confess you do it intentionally. And observe her response(Dont be surprised she knows already) If you dont fix it, in the future, she might be using the hurt/pain to get things from you because "It brings you closer to her"
- Consult a marriage Counselor or Therapist: You need some counseling! You need to know that she is your wife and not an object of pleasure!
- Start feeling her pain: Make her pain your pain! When you start feeling her pain, you wont be the pain anymore.
- Find another way to please yourself: Yup, it can be a video game(You are a young dude), poker, or a friday night out with your wife every week.
- Make her the boss when it comes to sex: You do it her way! Not your way! At least for now *wink*
- Find out what turns her on: Its time she is the one turning on not you! You have had enough. Because all that is turning on in her is her pain.
- Be closer: Watch movies together, go on weekend time out, attend church programs together.. make her feel loved.

So Op, when you have tried it for about 3 - 6 months you would re-wire out of the idea that you should hurt her first.

Hope i helped

You can update me on the situation and i would be happy to help. Send me a mail, i will give you a call!
hmmm

StiffDick:
Doveda. Details available before me shows you are from a dysfunctional family. You have a mother who is in a mental home and a father who is serving jail term for raping a minor.

Am aware you work as a janitor in UK and you have siblings who are into prostitution. Sort yourself and family out first before dishing advice to others. Bugger with no class. Derranged Plonker. Moronic Fuuckwit .

x.x.x™

kingsfield:
Where was fvck mentioned there?

midehi2:
you just mentioned it now

Omotayor123:

Then change how you feel ASAP.... Anytime you feel like inflicting pain on her...

1. Remember God's commandment that says you should love, cherish and respect your wife.

2. Remember the Good memories you have shared together and

3.Remember the things she have done to make you happy.

You don't need a Babalawo. The ball is in your court!

Estharfabian:
Nigga, You is A beast...

Aggressive sex is one thing...Some people dig it..

Buh Tryna Make her hurt and miserable Is just inhumane and Insane! I don't know how Ladies could withstand pain..

I'd probably kill, or poison You if I were in her shoes...

Anyways...I'd suggest prophet Tb Joshua...After like 10lashes, stripping U naked, his saliva(i think he calls it Anointing water?) and tons of Olive oil...You'd be normal eventually...

Well, who wouldn't?

guest12345:
I think you're the beast now, the guy in question know that his action towards his wife is bad and he is here for a help from MATURED ppl not ppl like you... why are you judging a man of God, allow God to be the judge. i hate your comment.

Awwwe...

you poor, Lost and tortured, soul! this is the internet!!! Bite me! I'm entitled to my opinion...U wanna know my opinion?

He's a beast, A monster, a dark hearted malicious Son of the devil! like who gains pleasure from Seeing someone in pain aside from The devil?? who!??

Look, Miss Guest...deactivate Your account! Coz You'd still be seeing some of my "Hateful" comments Eventually....

Laterz Missy!

BTW...I gave the best advice so far...the dude needs a prophet! TB Joshua preferably!

kingsfield:
Hahaha U rly got me. Enjoy ur wkend.

StiffDick:
Florjay. A stupid sad lonely introvert. When your dad locked your mother out of the house after domestic abuse telling you not to open the door for her. What did you do? Nothing...you were singing like someone who won lottery.
Don't worry I have copies of your stupid diary. Too late to delete it now. I will be dissing you from your diary. Diick Muncher.

Yet you have the effrontery to comment on my post while doing nothing when your mother is suffering domestic abuse from your violent and saddistic father. Who locks his wife out of the house in 21st century?

Even if your father is poor and suffering depression, he has no right to hit your mother or lock her out. Shame on you...as the first child. Remove the log in your eyes before attempting to remove that of others. Your stupid diary says a lot about your personality.

Won't be surprised if Doveda is your sibling suffering the same fate. Dirty Lonely Sad Friends. You two will.make a good couple. Not a recommendation though. You two are considerably cortically subilluminated. x.x.x™

Strahovski:
Send me a mail, i will give you a call!

blessedfavoured:


Please are you married? Before I pm my number.

*side eyes* nobody should come for me.

dapsonlou:
The Problem you are having is Maturity, you have someone who you can mistreat with no repercussions, I suspect one of your Parent treated you that way growing up. Change Now so you and you Wife can grow Old together, young love is the best. If not by the time your wife is 25 all the things she lack from you she shall surely get it from another man. No one is a fool forever, she will only take it if her family is poor and yourself is rich, either way she will find comfort in another man. Every woman wants to be loved, be the one who give it to your Wife not Bolaji from Secondary school

Daily12:


Its not the pain of others. Its only her own

jmaxjohn:
Gladly

Strahovski:
Hmmm i have read the whole stuff and OP, i think i can reproduce what you are going through. Normally i would make a trash comment and port to the next thread but from what you wrote, i can see some sincerity and willingness to solve the issue. So i would help you

First, Your wife! She is young(She is 22 now) , her emotions are heightened up and this is a big deal for her considering where she is coming from(Her Family). I presume she does everything you want, when you misbehave she would still be the one to apologize and i can also sense that she is in love with you. Trust me, she is a girl, her father is not a problem! Do you think she does not have another bank account where the boys are sending her money? (Another set of "toasters", so if she wants out, she would get out! I have dealt with cases like this during my days. She loves you man, and you are taking advantage of it because it turns you on.. So follow these steps and see how it turns out:

- Communicate with her: Confess your crimes and tell her how it turns you on. Confess you do it intentionally. And observe her response(Dont be surprised she knows already) If you dont fix it, in the future, she might be using the hurt/pain to get things from you because "It brings you closer to her"
- Consult a marriage Counselor or Therapist: You need some counseling! You need to know that she is your wife and not an object of pleasure!
- Start feeling her pain: Make her pain your pain! When you start feeling her pain, you wont be the pain anymore.
- Find another way to please yourself: Yup, it can be a video game(You are a young dude), poker, or a friday night out with your wife every week.
- Make her the boss when it comes to sex: You do it her way! Not your way! At least for now *wink*
- Find out what turns her on: Its time she is the one turning on not you! You have had enough. Because all that is turning on in her is her pain.
- Be closer: Watch movies together, go on weekend time out, attend church programs together.. make her feel loved.

So Op, when you have tried it for about 3 - 6 months you would re-wire out of the idea that you should hurt her first.

Hope i helped

You can update me on the situation and i would be happy to help. Send me a mail, i will give you a call!
hmmm