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Youngpo413:
as my handsome friend nai jaboiy will say and I quote "donner de l'amour une chance et
vous ne le regretterez jamais" do that then thank me later.

[color=#1980BC]Lol...I don't speak French o [/color]

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Lol...I don't speak French o [/color]

Youngpo413:
lol

CaroLyner:
you better move on.
am sure the guy has moved on from you since

KimBerlyie:
Hmmm just start listening to Adele songs everyday nd night. You can start with

'Someone like u' : I heard that u, settled down, that u found a girl and you re married now '
Never mind, I will find someone like you


Or 'Hello'

They said the time was supposed to heal you, but ain't done much healing, hello! I came to ur wedding, to see if things will ever get better but it's not.
Hello from the other side, I always stare at ur display pictures to check if u re look better without me by ur side but I know I can't stop living without thinking of u


Hey sis!! U need to move on mehn, don't u av friends or family or work? Just get busy with something nd try not to hold back again. Stop stalking d poor man nd move on, he doesn't care abt u.

Wow 18 yrs!!!! first love can never be forgotten , I pray u move on and stop thinking of him . M sure age is not by ur side just let another man sweep u off ur feet jare nd send us ur wedding iv nd send it to ur ex also


Laveda big head!!! Come nd advice this sister!

pinceprinz:
WoW!

Well miss, There isn't much to do now than to forgive yourself and him and simply be somebody else's . There isn't much left for you to do than actually move out more often so you can see enough reason to move on. ... Attending shows and adult oriented night outs might increase your chances of meeting a single Dad within your age bracket or maybe someone slightly older . Fact is younger guys esp those of this side of the world don't really know much about Love outside sex and romance. Attending to a mate's quintessential whims and quips isn't an art we master well at tender ages - it develop s with age (experience) ; why I'm urging you to roll with older guys.

However, If you know you're in need of the hot romance, you gotta throw your shy rapper away and get back young really. Start attending night bashes; Quilox , Las Vegas (no advert intended) etal are places you could frequent. Hope you've not lost all your charms over the years af weariness already? You'll need it. Who knows, you might be lucky to meet a clean cut ginger who's already tired of these young hoes that ain't loyal lol and is ready for a romp with a representative from older generation who'd remain Loyal forever just like it would a been in the movie ' The gods are not still to blame' ... Who knows?

Oliviaarims:
Hmm.. 18yrs! No matter how young u started dating this guy- I'm assuming 17,age isn't on ur side. Pls, make a more conscious effort to put everything behind u and be new you. Allow this new year give u the opportunity to make a fresh start. U've mourned too much over a dead and buried relationship. It's never going to resurrect.

Open up ur heart nd soul to love again. Ur ex shouldn't be ur standard anymore. It may be difficult, but u've got to try. Good luck!

Oma307:
I will suggest spiritual cleansing for this kind of situation

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]translate please.[/color]

Youngpo413:
"give love a chance and you will never regret it"

rhed:
Hi.. thanks a lot but i must admit.. what you told shook my head! i would say.. ur a BIG check! by the way, i would starting to listen all songs of adelle and analyze each stanza and the message given on those songs.. i will look for you and save your this link so that i could be able to trace you and invite you on my wedding day! thanks for your advise! i really appreciated it..

rhed:
lolz! yeah ur quite right! actually, inspite of this crazy feelings i see to it my charms and beauty still in tact! i would say i have suitors but i dont know.. i guess i hav this phobia in falling again..
but i appreciated what you quoted! thanks!

rhed:
.. but i have this feelin' that i am scared to fall in again.. to be cheated again.. to hope again.. what if the man i started to fall in again cheating on my back.. what if.. that nightmare happens it again to me? im scared!

Youngpo413:
phobia? 18 yrs is a long time mon ami,its a long time to let go.

Oliviaarims:
Fear is such a terrible limitation. If u keep holding back, because u're scared of being hurt, u'd end up regretting ur decision for the rest of ur life. By then, what u'd be saying is "Just if I had tried again." Don't allow such trivial fears take the juice out of ur life.

Falling in love and being loved back is such a wonderful feeling and it's totally worth the try. Even if u get hurt again, u'd be consoled by the fact that at least, u did what u could.

rhed:
yep! you know what? this the same thing i used to advise to my friends but the ironic of it, why i couldn't apply those to myself? haisssttt!! why i keep closing my eyes to the possible things? why am i so stubborn? why am i so stupid? why i keep it holding back? why, i dont know.. 18 years of not being moved on from the past i know its too much stupidity! but it happens to me! im buried with the past!

Oliviaarims:
U've got to resurrect from it if don't want to wallow in self pity for the rest of ur life. Take ur own advice and enjoy the remaining part of ur life. We never know when we're going to die, u know. Pray often.... Go 4 therapy if u must.

rhed:
Thanks a lot.. u just don't know how much i appreciated your time and good advice. and to those who understood what im goin through and also from the bashers who took their time to read my post and bashed me .. i need some advise not only comin from my friends and family but from the other people who i do not know personally.. and the reason why i came up to this site. it helps a lot. i really appreciated it much!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!

rhed:
Hi.. thanks a lot but i must admit.. what you told shook my head! i would say.. ur a BIG check! by the way, i would starting to listen all songs of adelle and analyze each stanza and the message given on those songs.. i will look for you and save your this link so that i could be able to trace you and invite you on my wedding day! thanks for your advise! i really appreciated it..

KimBerlyie:
Lol awwww u welcome, don't mind me I can be blunt at times
But seriously don't let anybody think u re ain't worth anything OK? There is this saying ' if u love somebody, u let him/her go but if they re urs, they come back to u' that ex of urs wasnt urs to be with. You need to get out there nd be happy, just don't stalk him again, leave his pics, don't chat him up or anything. I will be waiting for d iv, I need to goan learn how to tie d perfect gele

rhed:
yes.. thanks a lot.. know what? i had unfollowed him on the facebook so that he will not appear on my wall.. but of course, we have mutual friends and suckkkk! he used to like my profile pic everytime i am changing my prof pic.. i wanted to delete him and totally be gone out of my sight.. but as an educated woman, i am thinkin if i do that it would be rude from my part and for him. would it be good if i totally unfriended him? or block him? haisssttt!! what a life?

Youngpo413:
start with Adele's latest song "HELLO" then thank me later.

KimBerlyie:
Hmmm just start listening to Adele songs everyday nd night. You can start with

'Someone like u' : I heard that u, settled down, that u found a girl and you re married now '
Never mind, I will find someone like you


Or 'Hello'

They said the time was supposed to heal you, but ain't done much healing, hello! I came to ur wedding, to see if things will ever get better but it's not.
Hello from the other side, I always stare at ur display pictures to check if u re look better without me by ur side but I know I can't stop living without thinking of u


Hey sis!! U need to move on mehn, don't u av friends or family or work? Just get busy with something nd try not to hold back again. Stop stalking d poor man nd move on, he doesn't care abt u.

Wow 18 yrs!!!! first love can never be forgotten , I pray u move on and stop thinking of him . M sure age is not by ur side just let another man sweep u off ur feet jare nd send us ur wedding iv nd send it to ur ex also
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Laveda big head!!! Come nd advice this sister!

rhed:
YEARS! unbelievable, yeah?

andromida:
Dear rhed you are on a long thing i say this with the kindest thoughts to you.

Why listen to Adele? to remind yourself of something you think you lost? You want to stay stuck or move on? The Adele sung is about you staying stuck a song about pining, yearning for lost love , it reeks of despair. Is this how you want to continue being?

You don't need closure, you don't need your ex to anoint you and say you can now move on. lol
You don't need pep talks from him, you don't need validation that it should have been you the truth is you don't need him that is why he is gone to be with another woman. You need to be on your own side, you need to pep talk yourself. Sweet talk yourself.

The wonderful soul rocking news is you can save yourself. You don't even have a choice you have to save yourself! so for starters as much as Adele resonates with your pain you want to drop that. Yes drop the pain you are holding on to it so tight its become your comfort zone now you even kind of love it, it moves you. Lol

Get a song that speaks of hope, of happy love good things that are swimming somewhere in your soul but you are so scared to let out because you are afraid to hope and fail again but so what if you fail? who cares yes you care but you just do something else you smile to yourself, you smile at another dude he says hi you say hello like that and like that.

Dear rhed life is not this complicated there are a lot of good men out there but you need to exercise your freewill and your super power - choice exercise it and look up to what you can have not what was once and is no more. You will probably feel resistant to the idea of hope and getting out of stuck its human just don't back down, don't run back to the painful, uncomfortable comfort zone.

And yes sometimes life hurts, relationships bring out hurts it does not mean you stop engaging it means you grow up learn from the old relationship and create something beautiful for yourself. Enough of Adele please

rhed:
Hi.. Thank you so much for the good advises! You are all correct!
But.. I have this feeling of HAVING AN UNFINISHED BUSINESS and NEED CLOSURE! CLOSURE between us.. even the fact that I for sure be hurt again when he says that "there's NO MORE between us"! That way I might come out on my comfort zone.
That way I can move on..
That way I will forget him totally...

rhed:
hi guys! too many questions keep taunting me! i don't know what to do! i had a bf and we were for 5 years. but the nightmare started coming to us. he got married to another woman after he left the country for work and i was left alone. at the beginning i thought it ws ok for me but a month later, i felt the emptiness and worst i went to his wedding far from the church just to see him how was he! i know its like i ws stabbing my own heart but i wanna see him that day! i was angry, pitying myself, blamed myself for what happened to our relationship! til i told to myself, i will find someone who is better than him. but unfortunately, i entertained suitors and let my heart open for another relationship but i found myself kept them hoping and suddenly turning them down. i hate myself ! i feel like i ws takin my revenge in other persona, i know this is wrong so i stop accepting suitors. i got myself busy in work and 18 years have been past,i didnt get married within such long years! I miss him but he is happily married and family man now The ironic is he recently added me to his Facebook! For What?! I don't wanna be a home-wrecker!
I really wanted to talk to him but i guessed he doesn't want to talk about it! I did some crazy things and i know i should not to do such as:
1) I greet him during his birthday..
2) I used to look on his profile to know how is he..
3) I always wanted to talk about him..
4) I always find the way to know if he is coming home for visit in our country..
I should stop myself to do such crazy things and move on for God sake but i cant! AM I SICK or CRAZY?! Should i let him know what is going on with me? Should i tell him that i still care for him and missing him?
I think talking to him and knowing his answer would satisfy and would stop my craziness and can be moved on from this curse! If he tells me directly to me that he doesn't love me anymore and he is happy in his life now.. then i will be relieved! if he tells me that he still loves me.. i would tell him to stop loving me anymore.. then i will be relieved! WEIRD but i guess this will help me a lot. I am having this burden for 18 years for God's sake! I envied people who are easily movin on so fast! I even jailed myself for this non-sense feelings! BUT WHAT WILL I DO?~
Anyone can light me up? Am i worse than lunatic prson? Can i go out from this feelings? The hurts still deep inside me!

rhed:
Hi.. Thank you so much for the good advises! You are all correct!
But.. I have this feeling of HAVING AN UNFINISHED BUSINESS and NEED CLOSURE! CLOSURE between us.. even the fact that I for sure be hurt again when he says that "there's NO MORE between us"! That way I might come out on my comfort zone.
That way I can move on..
That way I will forget him totally...