hi guys! too many questions keep taunting me! i don't know what to do! i had a bf and we were for 5 years. but the nightmare started coming to us. he got married to another woman after he left the country for work and i was left alone. at the beginning i thought it ws ok for me but a month later, i felt the emptiness and worst i went to his wedding far from the church just to see him how was he! i know its like i ws stabbing my own heart but i wanna see him that day! i was angry, pitying myself, blamed myself for what happened to our relationship! til i told to myself, i will find someone who is better than him. but unfortunately, i entertained suitors and let my heart open for another relationship but i found myself kept them hoping and suddenly turning them down. i hate myself ! i feel like i ws takin my revenge in other persona, i know this is wrong so i stop accepting suitors. i got myself busy in work and 18 years have been past,i didnt get married within such long years! I miss him but he is happily married and family man now The ironic is he recently added me to his Facebook! For What?! I don't wanna be a home-wrecker!
I really wanted to talk to him but i guessed he doesn't want to talk about it! I did some crazy things and i know i should not to do such as:
1) I greet him during his birthday..
2) I used to look on his profile to know how is he..
3) I always wanted to talk about him..
4) I always find the way to know if he is coming home for visit in our country..
I should stop myself to do such crazy things and move on for God sake but i cant! AM I SICK or CRAZY?! Should i let him know what is going on with me? Should i tell him that i still care for him and missing him?
I think talking to him and knowing his answer would satisfy and would stop my craziness and can be moved on from this curse! If he tells me directly to me that he doesn't love me anymore and he is happy in his life now.. then i will be relieved! if he tells me that he still loves me.. i would tell him to stop loving me anymore.. then i will be relieved! WEIRD but i guess this will help me a lot. I am having this burden for 18 years for God's sake! I envied people who are easily movin on so fast! I even jailed myself for this non-sense feelings! BUT WHAT WILL I DO?~
Anyone can light me up? Am i worse than lunatic prson? Can i go out from this feelings? The hurts still deep inside me!

Come make me fùck you... If you no forget your ex.. Iswear, na only Ifa fit handle your problem.

It's normal ...
When people do well without you ,your feelings get heightened...


Try to move on..

Op u didnt tell us if u ve a job tho,i would say u should get one,or just make ur sef busy,dnt hesistate to allow other guys into ur life,atleast they would giv u small attention dat will prolly take ur mind off him


Allah will provide ur man

you better move on. am sure the guy has moved on from you since

Do you have a Job or a hobby?, do you ponder over other good things about your life?, are you grateful for being alive?. Sometimes shiit happens, relationships go sour, people die, fal out love; but these things do not stop the sun from rising, the earth will still spin round the sun, the rains would still come, and the flowers will blossom on the morning dew. Stop sulking; first go spiritual, if you're a christian, pick up your bible, watch uplifting vidoes online, call the counseling unit of a church, pray about it. Get out in the scene, take yourself out on a good treat, go to the movies, kick the sands barefooted at the beach, enjoy life like you've never known it. remember "Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive."

Funny enof if this guy even gives u attention. U'll get over him in less Dan a month.



U r wallowing in self pity cos u feel u r d victim

***Touching*** Here is another Juliet who lost her Romeo...take heart and move on pls.

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
Do you have a Job or a hobby?, do you ponder over other good things about your life?, are you grateful for being alive?. Sometimes shiit happens, relationships go sour, people die, fal out love; but these things do not stop the sun from rising, the earth will still spin round the sun, the rains would still come, and the flowers will blossom on the morning dew. Stop sulking; first go spiritual, if you're a christian, pick up your bible, watch uplifting vidoes online, call the counseling unit of a church, pray about it. Get out in the scene, take yourself out on a good treat, go to the movies, kick the sands barefooted at the beach, enjoy life like you've never known it. remember "Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive."

Thanks! Yeah i have job too! i even went to 1 relationship but it didn't work! And funny of it, the guy was a look-alike him!

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This only happens since the guy is very successful.... If the guy is a mad man now you won't care to know where he is wandering to, stop following him on facebook if not you will commit suicide... And note, they are people you meet in life that are not your class just enjoy the moment with them while it last... They are many guy's out there that are ready to worship you like a God but what you are looking for is beyond their scope.... I have met many girls like you before i really understand your problem... Let me use an example to make u understand you are on a long thing if you don't forget the guy and move on with your life. Example is what is the probability that if obama divorce his wife, that his wife will marry another man that will ever be the president of United States?

my dear try to move on

rhed:


Thanks! Yeah i have job too! i even went to 1 relationship but it didn't work! And funny of it, the guy was a look-alike him!

I think you've had a pretty much good, stress free life, and couldn't bear this heart break. From your reply, I think you're not too much of a social person, so your ex has become a basis for accessing individuals you meet. Again I'll advice you to meet as many people as possible and make friends with them, get to know the views of others from a social standpoint, do some volunteer work that gets you in contact with people of all ages and wealth; little by little, you'll begin to develop your own social values and views. While this will not guarantee that you will totally forget your ex, it will help you see him not as an eye lens for viewing the world but a certain piece in the picture of your past, which he is. Happy sunday.

deliver urcef from him

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
I think you've had a pretty much good, stress free life, and couldn't bear this heart break. From your reply, I think you're not too much of a social person, so your ex has become a basis for accessing individuals you meet. Again I'll advice you to meet as many people as possible and make friends with them, get to know the views of others from a social standpoint, do some volunteer work that gets you in contact with people of all ages and wealth; little by little, you'll begin to develop your own social values and views. While this will not guarantee that you will totally forget your ex, it will help you see him not as an eye lens for viewing the world but a certain piece in the picture of your past, which he is. Happy sunday.

Yeah, ur a quite right.. am not toomuch of a social person.. i'd love to go out and mingle with people but am a quite shy if they are teasing me while at this age of mine i haven't got married and should have boyfriend.. so it makes me feel awkward, u know..

After reading this post,I dey feel like say na mumu dey worry u,I no fit explain anything I dey feel like say na juju dey worry u,somebody pray 4 her O

na your type i dey pray to be single till 80. na only that kind situation fit clear your eye.

18 years or 18 months

stillchris:
na your type i dey pray to be single till 80. na only that kind situation fit clear your eye.

STILESGANG:
18 years or 18 months

YEARS! unbelievable, yeah?

rhed:


Yeah, ur a quite right.. am not toomuch of a social person.. i'd love to go out and mingle with people but am a quite shy if they are teasing me while at this age of mine i haven't got married and should have boyfriend.. so it makes me feel awkward, u know..

I understand the feeling , but you know trying never hurts, besides you'd be meeting new people not your old friends. Here's a simple trick I overheard from a psychologist. Every morning, when you wake up, look in the mirror and make your self a promise to be happy, get a semi permanent marker, and write the same thing on probably your palm. Dont just stop at making this promise, endeavour to revel yourself in enjoyment, eat healthy, travel to new places to explore, get your life back. Happy sunday.

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
I understand the feeling , but you know trying never hurts, besides you'd be meeting new people not your old friends. Here's a simple trick I overheard from a psychologist. Every morning, when you wake up, look in the mirror and make your self a promise to be happy, get a semi permanent marker, and write the same thing on probably your palm. Dont just stop at making this promise, endeavour to revel yourself in enjoyment, eat healthy, travel to new places to explore, get your life back. Happy sunday.

Thanks.. it's quite inspiring ... i will try to apply to myself what you have advised on me.. and hopin' it will work now.. lookin' forward for a new hope.. have a blessed sunday to you too! God Bless!

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
I understand the feeling , but you know trying never hurts, besides you'd be meeting new people not your old friends. Here's a simple trick I overheard from a psychologist. Every morning, when you wake up, look in the mirror and make your self a promise to be happy, get a semi permanent marker, and write the same thing on probably your palm. Dont just stop at making this promise, endeavour to revel yourself in enjoyment, eat healthy, travel to new places to explore, get your life back. Happy sunday.

..most of the time.. i want someone who would just listen to me and understand me.. criticizing me would be just adding to an injury! but that i do understand, you cannot please everybody! though they know that your wounded, they'd still pinchin' the wound till the thick blood runs down.. thank God that there are still someones who are broad minded and understand the situation of someone's agonies..

[right][/right] best u kill ur self. Waste

panachuku:
[right][/right] best u kill ur self. Waste

thank you so much.. best advise!

Hmmm just start listening to Adele songs everyday nd night. You can start with

'Someone like u' : I heard that u, settled down, that u found a girl and you re married now '
Never mind, I will find someone like you


Or 'Hello'

They said the time was supposed to heal you, but ain't done much healing, hello! I came to ur wedding, to see if things will ever get better but it's not.
Hello from the other side, I always stare at ur display pictures to check if u re look better without me by ur side but I know I can't stop living without thinking of u


Hey sis!! U need to move on mehn, don't u av friends or family or work? Just get busy with something nd try not to hold back again. Stop stalking d poor man nd move on, he doesn't care abt u.

Wow 18 yrs!!!! first love can never be forgotten , I pray u move on and stop thinking of him . M sure age is not by ur side just let another man sweep u off ur feet jare nd send us ur wedding iv nd send it to ur ex also


Laveda big head!!! Come nd advice this sister!

rhed:


..most of the time.. i want someone who would just listen to me and understand me.. criticizing me would be just adding to an injury! but that i do understand, you cannot please everybody! though they know that your wounded, they'd still pinchin' the wound till the thick blood runs down.. thank God that there are still someones who are broad minded and understand the situation of someone's agonies..

Thanks, have a great day.

Hmm.. 18yrs! No matter how young u started dating this guy- I'm assuming 17,age isn't on ur side. Pls, make a more conscious effort to put everything behind u and be new you. Allow this new year give u the opportunity to make a fresh start. U've mourned too much over a dead and buried relationship. It's never going to resurrect.

Open up ur heart nd soul to love again. Ur ex shouldn't be ur standard anymore. It may be difficult, but u've got to try. Good luck!

I will suggest spiritual cleansing for this kind of situation

rhed:


Thanks! Yeah i have job too! i even went to 1 relationship but it didn't work! And funny of it, the guy was a look-alike him!

move on and let him go,trust me this too shall pass.

rhed:


YEARS! unbelievable, yeah?

as my handsome friend naijaboiy will say and I quote "donner de l'amour une chance et
vous ne le regretterez jamais" do that then thank me later.