Eddygourdo:
I awoke this morning to a loud noise of a the typical yoruba couple fight (very early in the morning with husband on towel and wife in scanty wrapper) . I would not be fair to the man to call it a fight as what I witnessed was a battering. I kept looking through my window as the woman slapped and kicked the bedevils out of him, all the while he kept laughing, trying his utmost to escape from her grasp. Many passerbys who attempted to mediate were met with screams of "mind your business" from the woman, some pointed out the hypocrisy that so far the fight came to our streets then it's our business. Anyway we watched on the drama and in my mind I praised the patience and endurance of the man. Till she ran towards the gutter and picked a large metal bar and went on attack towards the man, I thought it was going to be a threat of some kind, till she flung it at full force on his legs and on second attempt at him, the man fled, naked and battered as his towel fell off. You won't believe the woman chased him for a abit. I felt very bad, I wondered the crime he committed, I wonder if this man hadn't shown enough endurance or the so called "real man" trait people sing about. For most other men, after the attack with the metal pole, they will likely go all gangster of the woman, pummel her black and blue, then we nairalanders will see a thread captioned" MY HUSBAND BATTERED ME WITHOUT PROVOCATION" OR "HUSBAND KILLS WIFE WITH METAL POLE" with pictures of the battered woman to prove the bestaility of the man. We who request to know the full story will be abused. I watched on and realised that abuse by both females and males in relationships is very real. But the nature of women when it comes to playing the victim makes it difficult to determine true victims and aggressors.

What should be the solution to a abuser, to beat and batter her or to flea from her. To poison or sex starve him or to flea from him. How do we flea from our partners without the divorce stigma hanging over us, what exactly do we term as abuse, must abuse be physical before its taken seriously? Do we rate verbal and emotional abuse on the same scale as physical abuse? At what point and frequency must we admit our partners behaviour is synonymous with abuse. This and many more are issues with questions begging for a honest answer.

For adults in the house who understand that relationships require hardwork, resilience, devotion, patience and endurance, we will all admit that some form of abuse is always observed in every relationship with both parties interchanging between agreessor and victim. And ending a relationship or marriage is not as easy and straight forward as alot of kids think it to be, it's generally accepted though that over the top abuse which results to physical attack, emotional degradation and depression should be taken very seriously and divorce a solution, how do you handle minor abuses in your relationships or marriages before they become major abuses. Note that women are victim stereotyped in reality and men aggressor stereotyped and I find such classification to be unfair without the full unbiased story. This is why I need experience stories of abuses from both partners and how you handled yours. You could save a life or relationship. Cheers

Estharfabian:
Awwwe! You poor, poor thing!

U Sound hurt, Pained and in despair...
LoL! Anyways...I get it! When a "female" does better in all Areas than A "Male"...You folks make Up stories that she's fake..Or she's even A "Male!"

U always watching, spying, Trying to know when I say something compromising..! And u say U Ain't stalking? Puppy! U Should get A Life jaweh! little wonder U followed me!

...BTW---Stop watching my Ass!
have a Nice Esther-free Life! find someone else to pick On!
Bye!

JoeCutie:
If I remember correctly, I told you that if I mention you without any smiley, the message is simple and clear: No more replies!

Well, That's not my business...

We had a Real connection Joe...Too bad it had to end this way..

Estharfabian:
Well, That's not my business...

We had a Real connection Joe...Too bad it had to end this way..

daretodiffer:


You are a liar

A very bad one

How many times have I told you that emotional abuse is as worse as physical abvuse?

How many times have I written that victims (like the husband in this case) are not to be pitied?

Clearly. in your made-up story this wasn't the first time she would be abusing him

Except in self defense (legally, there is a limit too), if anything had happened he would go to jail

Why did he stay with her? Did she threaten to kill him if he left or what?

the woman is a beast and there is no justification for what she has done. The man has every right to sue her to court and make sure she does not see her children ever gain

But If I were to tackle this issue like you would have done

I would have began my analysis with 'What did he do to provoke her'

Estharfabian:
Well, That's not my business...

We had a Real connection Joe...Too bad it had to end this way..

Real connection? Really? Did we? Lmao!

You're so romantic!

A time to begin, and a time to stop. And like you said, I'll go and find someone else to pick on

daretodiffer:


You are a liar

A very bad one

How many times have I told you that emotional abuse is as worse as physical abvuse?

How many times have I written that victims (like the husband in this case) are not to be pitied?

Clearly. in your made-up story this wasn't the first time she would be abusing him

Except in self defense (legally, there is a limit too), if anything had happened he would go to jail

Why did he stay with her? Did she threaten to kill him if he left or what?

the woman is a beast and there is no justification for what she has done. The man has every right to sue her to court and make sure she does not see her children ever gain

But If I were to tackle this issue like you would have done

I would have began my analysis with 'What did he do to provoke her'

JoeCutie:
Real connection? Really? Did we? Lmao!

You're so romantic!

A time to begin, and a time to stop. And like you said, I'll go and find someone else to pick on.

...And the Smileys Are Back! Yay!

Yes we did... We think alike...haven't u noticed we use the same fonts? U copied me by the way....

I Kinda liked U picking on me... besides, U know I'm one of a kind!

JoeCutie:
Real connection? Really? Did we? Lmao!

You're so romantic!

A time to begin, and a time to stop. And like you said, I'll go and find someone else to pick on.

Eddygourdo:
Hey bro, despite she is annoying she is our Estharfabian, forgive her and take her back, lest she has a melt down and we miss her opinions here. Cheers

Estharfabian:
...And the Smileys Are Back! Yay!

Yes we did... We think alike...haven't u noticed we use the same fonts? U copied me by the way....

I Kinda liked U picking on me... besides, U know I'm one of a kind!

You never cease to talk about me picking on you! Like seriously? Okay, maybe. I don't pick on you though, I only liked chatting with you. I do not follow pretty faces, I follow active and intelligent people who make out time to chat with me. I hate snubs and that's what I liked about you; you don't snub. And you're active. That's why I followed you in the first place, and you didn't have to follow back. Did you? Or do you follow everybody that follows you?

We use the same fonts, yes. And okay, I may have copied you. You happy now?

So...what do you want now

Oahray:
relax... They would be fine.

Try reply that other madam upstairs with the epistle. Looks like you understand what she's talking about.

Eddygourdo:
Hey bro, despite she is annoying she is our Estharfabian, forgive her and take her back, lest she has a melt down and we miss her opinions here. Cheers

JoeCutie:
You never cease to talk about me picking on you! Like seriously? Okay, maybe. I don't pick on you though, I only liked chatting with you. I do not follow pretty faces, I follow active and intelligent people who make out time to chat with me. I hate snubs and that's what I liked about you; you don't snub. And you're active. That's why I followed you in the first place, and you didn't have to follow back. Did you? Or do you follow everybody that follows you?

We use the same fonts, yes. And okay, I may have copied you. You happy now?

So...what do you want now?

well, I followed back coz You're smart n active!


Uh...NO No NO! you're not putting me in that Spot Joe! Never! No!


You're the guy..The superior... The man! What Do U want?

JoeCutie:
Our EstherFabian? Lmao! Wow. And I should forgive and take her back? Omg! Now, I think Esther will not be proud of this 'judicial delegation'.

JoeCutie:
Our EstherFabian? Lmao! Wow. And I should forgive and take her back? Omg! Now, I think Esther will not be proud of this 'judicial delegation'.

LoL!

You know me too well...

I wanted to Hit right back At Him...Buh, I didn't wanna sound rude....

Eddygourdo:
the Werey with that girl na first class, she has gotten me banned twice for fighting on a thread, she is violent. So I will thread softly lest the thread starts burning. Make I answer am sef.

Estharfabian:
well, I followed back coz You're smart n active!


Uh...NO No NO! you're not putting me in that Spot Joe! Never! No!


You're the guy..The superior... The man! What Do U want?

No! You're smart, ain't you? You're better than guys, ain't you? You're more intelligent, no? Henceforth, I'm no longer superior here. You are.

So, Esther, luv, what do you want

Eddygourdo:
Wetin make I talk again

Estharfabian:
LoL!

You know me too well...

I wanted to Hit right back At Him...Buh, I didn't wanna sound rude....

JoeCutie:
You need to go ask her for forgiveness.

JoeCutie:
No! You're smart, ain't you? You're better than guys, ain't you? You're more intelligent, no? Henceforth, I'm no longer superior here. You are.

So, Esther, luv, what do you want?

LoL I so wanna hit You with a metal Rod!

Anyways... lemme woman Up! Truce? ***extends hands***

Eddygourdo:
she is a kid bro, and for Wat exactly, the "our " was in respect to nairaland, hope u didn't assume I knew her personally? na I don't do friendships.

Estharfabian:
LoL

I get what You're Tryna say...I Really do! Buh the though seem almost Impossible... Probably due To my Inexperience? Okay?


Anyways....Cutehector, PushMusic, daxlasaint, micayo, Misspicy, TimothyNkenu...Scrap that last name! I'm older than You!

..does the idea of A Woman Beating a man, To the point of death seem plausible to You? And the man made no attempt to defend himself In Any way? Not even one punch? he just stood there smiling n grinning....the, later ran away!.Does this story seem Authentic to You...Y'all should p!ease help An Inexperienced Young Lady!

Eddygourdo:
I awoke this morning to a loud noise of a the typical yoruba couple fight (very early in the morning with husband on towel and wife in scanty wrapper) .

JoeCutie:
Another one! Like a bombshell!!!

Estharfabian:
LoL I so wanna hit You with a metal Rod!

Anyways... lemme woman Up! Truce? ***extends hands***

And I so wanna hit you too...with my metal rod.

Truce! But then I don't shake ladies. **opens arms for a sweet hug

TimothyNkenu:


Esther I'll kill you

newpisces:


That sounds discriminatory.

JoeCutie:
And I so wanna hit you too...with my metal rod.

Truce! But then I don't shake ladies. **opens arms for a sweet hug**

LoL

see? that wasn't that hard...
errrm...metal rod? LoL! that thing's flaccid abeg!

Eddygourdo:
you really need me and that lady to be enemies, keep fanning flames of discord as though am a rival you need out of the way. Bro this is a disclaimer, I don't know that girl oh, have no interest too, though I admit she has a good head, though not as bright as she thinks it is. But good head nevertheless