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PinkBarbie:
You're wrong. Perfect here doesn't mean flawless. It means someone that fits into your life perfectly.

Oliviaarims:
Bless yhu,PinkBarbie..u couldn't have said it any better.

Oliviaarims:
Nope..that might as well be my relationship story. It's no fiction.

Mikkyboy008:
Simply put,a 'perfect' person in a relationship is one that have never been caught cheating.Till then,he or she is perfect.

Youngpo413:
I'm sure its a new relationship,na so e dey sweet from the start.

Oliviaarims:
Funny enough,it isn't new in any way.

Oliviaarims:
So,I've come to the realization that finding that one person that really suits u isn't so easy...Everybody's got standards and wish very much amongst other things that they find someone who levels up to those set standards,but how easy is that? How many people really do find people that are "perfectly" compatible with them? Let's not begin to delude ourselves that when a person chooses a partner to settle down with,it means he's finally found the bone of his bones .So many go through the herculean journey and still never find exactly what they are looking for,so they settle 4 the next best thing..or the very worst thing.

And please,enough of "there are so many fishes in the water." Yeah,right there are so many fishes out there,but not all of them are available to u. You may never get to see 80/90% of them,and from the available 10/20%, you wouldn't find quite a good number desirable by you..the ones you find desirable may not find you desirable....and from the very minute percentage that might find u worth taking a chance with,there comes the compatibility issues. Finding who amongst these lot is the "perfect" one for you.

Talking about that one person with whom you can be your true self and he/she would love you just like that.

# He knows your flaws and accepts them as a part of you.

# He knows your weaknesses and does not take advantage of them.
# Spurs you to become a better person and achieve your best in whatever you choose to do.
# He sees your shortcomings and knows that with time you'll conquer them.

# He respects you and you respect him.
# There's a good level of understanding between you both and when you fight,you always find a way of resolving it.
# Compromise isn't a problem... You make sacrifices and he makes sacrifices.

# He's no control freak. He allows you live your life the way you want it and corrects you when you start going wrong,without spite.
# There are things he expects of you and he tells you...waiting patiently to see the change happen. He doesn't just give up on you.

# When he loves you and knows you love him back,he doesn't toy with your heart.
# There are no shady deals. You are both transparent with each other.
# He's erred before,apologised and promised to change and he did change......
# He's loyal..he makes you feel special,he doesn't hide his true feeling from you...

The list is endless...We all have those things we are looking out for in a man or woman,and when we find those things, does it make any sense to sacrifice such a relationship because we want to explore other possibilities? Because we think there are so many fishes out there? Perhaps for one or two inconsequential shortcomings that can naturally be dealt with or which will fade away with time....

In summary, take ur time to look carefully and make only the right choice of a partner,there's no need lowering ur standards for anybody because you'll simply end up "putting up with" or "managing " ur partner/relationship rather than enjoying it... And when eventually you find all or most of what you're looking for,concentrate on developing and sustaining ur relationship rather than looking for the next exit when you encounter a little storm,simply because "there are many fishes out there."

No matter how beautiful or talented or rich u are,not everybody out there is meant for you.

judedwriter:
nice write up-relationships are getting more confusing and complicated than before-why? Impatience. Everybody wants a perfect partner without first being perfect. Unfortunately, many assume beautiful and handsome peeps as perfect-no way! We all got weaknesses, but what love does is overlook flaws and patiently wait till things get better. But in our microwave age nobody wants to wait anymore. This is why u c a very pretty gal dating tons and tons of guys and yet get confused about who to marry. For example, you have the looks dat can drive a priest go gaga, but I know you aren't perfect. Therefore any guy dats wants to be with u must b willing to handle ur imperfections and vice versa.

Oliviaarims:
Nope..that might as well be my relationship story. It's no fiction.

Oliviaarims:
So,I've come to the realization that finding that one person that really suits u isn't so easy...Everybody's got standards and wish very much amongst other things that they find someone who levels up to those set standards,but how easy is that? How many people really do find people that are "perfectly" compatible with them? Let's not begin to delude ourselves that when a person chooses a partner to settle down with,it means he's finally found the bone of his bones .So many go through the herculean journey and still never find exactly what they are looking for,so they settle 4 the next best thing..or the very worst thing.

And please,enough of "there are so many fishes in the water." Yeah,right there are so many fishes out there,but not all of them are available to u. You may never get to see 80/90% of them,and from the available 10/20%, you wouldn't find quite a good number desirable by you..the ones you find desirable may not find you desirable....and from the very minute percentage that might find u worth taking a chance with,there comes the compatibility issues. Finding who amongst these lot is the "perfect" one for you.

Talking about that one person with whom you can be your true self and he/she would love you just like that.

# He knows your flaws and accepts them as a part of you.

# He knows your weaknesses and does not take advantage of them.
# Spurs you to become a better person and achieve your best in whatever you choose to do.
# He sees your shortcomings and knows that with time you'll conquer them.

# He respects you and you respect him.
# There's a good level of understanding between you both and when you fight,you always find a way of resolving it.
# Compromise isn't a problem... You make sacrifices and he makes sacrifices.

# He's no control freak. He allows you live your life the way you want it and corrects you when you start going wrong,without spite.
# There are things he expects of you and he tells you...waiting patiently to see the change happen. He doesn't just give up on you.

# When he loves you and knows you love him back,he doesn't toy with your heart.
# There are no shady deals. You are both transparent with each other.
# He's erred before,apologised and promised to change and he did change......
# He's loyal..he makes you feel special,he doesn't hide his true feeling from you...

The list is endless...We all have those things we are looking out for in a man or woman,and when we find those things, does it make any sense to sacrifice such a relationship because we want to explore other possibilities? Because we think there are so many fishes out there? Perhaps for one or two inconsequential shortcomings that can naturally be dealt with or which will fade away with time....

In summary, take ur time to look carefully and make only the right choice of a partner,there's no need lowering ur standards for anybody because you'll simply end up "putting up with" or "managing " ur partner/relationship rather than enjoying it... And when eventually you find all or most of what you're looking for,concentrate on developing and sustaining ur relationship rather than looking for the next exit when you encounter a little storm,simply because "there are many fishes out there."

No matter how beautiful or talented or rich u are,not everybody out there is meant for you.

torqque7:
Have you found yours yet?most times that which we seek is right in front of us but we don't see it..

Oliviaarims:
Yes, I have.

torqque7:
Good..then hold on to it tight, good luck

Oliviaarims:
So,I've come to the realization that finding that one person that really suits u isn't so easy...Everybody's got standards and wish very much amongst other things that they find someone who levels up to those set standards,but how easy is that? How many people really do find people that are "perfectly" compatible with them? Let's not begin to delude ourselves that when a person chooses a partner to settle down with,it means he's finally found the bone of his bones .So many go through the herculean journey and still never find exactly what they are looking for,so they settle 4 the next best thing..or the very worst thing.

And please,enough of "there are so many fishes in the water." Yeah,right there are so many fishes out there,but not all of them are available to u. You may never get to see 80/90% of them,and from the available 10/20%, you wouldn't find quite a good number desirable by you..the ones you find desirable may not find you desirable....and from the very minute percentage that might find u worth taking a chance with,there comes the compatibility issues. Finding who amongst these lot is the "perfect" one for you.

Talking about that one person with whom you can be your true self and he/she would love you just like that.

# He knows your flaws and accepts them as a part of you.

# He knows your weaknesses and does not take advantage of them.
# Spurs you to become a better person and achieve your best in whatever you choose to do.
# He sees your shortcomings and knows that with time you'll conquer them.

# He respects you and you respect him.
# There's a good level of understanding between you both and when you fight,you always find a way of resolving it.
# Compromise isn't a problem... You make sacrifices and he makes sacrifices.

# He's no control freak. He allows you live your life the way you want it and corrects you when you start going wrong,without spite.
# There are things he expects of you and he tells you...waiting patiently to see the change happen. He doesn't just give up on you.

# When he loves you and knows you love him back,he doesn't toy with your heart.
# There are no shady deals. You are both transparent with each other.
# He's erred before,apologised and promised to change and he did change......
# He's loyal..he makes you feel special,he doesn't hide his true feeling from you...

The list is endless...We all have those things we are looking out for in a man or woman,and when we find those things, does it make any sense to sacrifice such a relationship because we want to explore other possibilities? Because we think there are so many fishes out there? Perhaps for one or two inconsequential shortcomings that can naturally be dealt with or which will fade away with time....

In summary, take ur time to look carefully and make only the right choice of a partner,there's no need lowering ur standards for anybody because you'll simply end up "putting up with" or "managing " ur partner/relationship rather than enjoying it... And when eventually you find all or most of what you're looking for,concentrate on developing and sustaining ur relationship rather than looking for the next exit when you encounter a little storm,simply because "there are many fishes out there."

No matter how beautiful or talented or rich u are,not everybody out there is meant for you.

henryhemon:
Like I said I wish to meet you nah or yeah?

Oliviaarims:
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Why do u want to meet me?.. Wait. We can't even discuss anything here.

PinkBarbie:
Summary: you don't stay at home and play football with friends in the yard and expect a big team to come sign you. Instead, join a local organized team. That's the only place the 'right' team can see you.

CountDracula:
I'm tired of the river

Oliviaarims:
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Why do u want to meet me?.. Wait. We can't even discuss anything here.

Oliviaarims:
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Why do u want to meet me?.. Wait. We can't even discuss anything here.

PinkBarbie:
In addition to the op, finding that perfect person starts from self discovery. You need to discover yourself before you can know who fits in. There are many persons out there looking for Mr or Mrs perfect when they don't have a purpose for living. They just live life as it comes and jumps into whatever comes their way. If you're one of those, you may never find your ideal man or woman.

Secondly, after self-discovery, walk in that vision you have. Don't keep it for the future. Why? Because it'll be easier for him/her to discern if you're really that ideal person when you're walking in your purpose.

Summary: you don't stay at home and play football with friends in the yard and expect a big team to come sign you. Instead, join a local organized team. That's the only place the 'right' team can see you .

PinkBarbie:
In addition to the op, finding that perfect person starts from self discovery. You need to discover yourself before you can know who fits in. There are many persons out there looking for Mr or Mrs perfect when they don't have a purpose for living. They just live life as it comes and jumps into whatever comes their way. If you're one of those, you may never find your ideal man or woman.

Secondly, after self-discovery, walk in that vision you have. Don't keep it for the future. Why? Because it'll be easier for him/her to discern if you're really that ideal person when you're walking in your purpose.

Summary: you don't stay at home and play football with friends in the yard and expect a big team to come sign you. Instead, join a local organized team. That's the only place the 'right' team can see you.

BUTCHCASSIDY:
He likes U dats Y He will probably take U out to eat suya or shawarma Then confirm that Ure as beautiful as U are in the picture Then bore you a little ...

OAFMods:
Local team such as n please do not tell me churches. Your response will be appreciated.

tpiar:
one size does not fit all, works for some, doesnt work for others.

Oliviaarims:
Lol. I barely have the time for such frivolities.

henryhemon:
Frivolities? Anyway thanks.

Oliviaarims:
Hey. Don't take that personal. 'Sides, u weren't the one I was replying.. Except, of course that's the exact thing u' d have told me.

CountDracula:
I'm tired of the river