blessedtwins:
EfemenaXY.
Cringe worthy u say.what about some of us whose husbands buy hospital list themselves.or even up to household stuff like pepper, oil , maggi etc.what will u say .hehehe

EfemenaXY:


I did find the PVC gloves thing strange too.

Would you believe me if I told you that I bought 2 years worth of Huggies disposable nappies for my baby when I was 6 months pregnant? And this was on the assumption that the baby would use no less then 5 nappies a day.

cococandy:

Hehehe.
I can imagine.
I guess some of those things tend to be exaggerated though.

blessedtwins:
EfemenaXY.
Cringe worthy u say.what about some of us whose husbands buy hospital list themselves.or even up to household stuff like pepper, oil , maggi etc.what will u say .hehehe

EfemenaXY:


This is such an embarrassing read.

Didn't either of you make any plans before deciding to embark on having kids? Or did you bow in to pressure from family and friends to start having them, (with the mantra, "God will provide" ) knowing fully well you were / are ill prepared for the costs?

You wife's list is very basic. She asked for nothing but the essentials. She hasn't even added sanitary pads to that list - and yet you've got issues with it? Rather than coming on here to make her look bad, why not start by going to the hospital / antenatal clinic and ask them for a list of essential items? Then, armed with your list, go into the market yourself and price them. Or is there anything stopping you from doing that?

I pity your wife and any other woman in such a situation - being at the receiving end, going cap-in-hand begging, and having to account for every ^1/2 Kobo spent to her man. Cringe worthy stuff.

EfemenaXY:


I have nothing against men who take pride in providing for their families. I do have issues with those who do it grudgenly and make the woman feel like shyte while doing so. Such woman need to empower themselves by having their own source of income to cater for the basics at the very least.

As long as she's of sound mind, she has no excuse to go cap-in-hand-a-begging. Especially if she's educated and able-bodied.

Sunnypar:

What if hubby does not want her to work? You never see some men.

Sunnypar:

Madam! Some of us are earning less than 60k. The best is cut your coat according to your size and make plans ahead.

marbee:
:-Baby has not arrive you've started complaining .

maureensylvia:
@ NORAD I hope this helps

Shawl (Jimtex brand): white - 2700

Booties - mothercare: from 1200, George: from 800

Receiving blanket (with teddy bear inclusive) - 1500

Sleeping suit: George(pack of 5) - from 2000

Body suit: Goerge (pack of - 2500

Towel: pack of 3(1 large, medium & small) - 1700

Agnesia powder: small: 550, big: 1100

Agnesia soap: pack of 6 – 700

Johnson’s soap: pack of 4 – 600

Johnson’s head to toe wash: large – 1400

Johnson’s conditioning shampoo(for baby’s hair) -
550

Wipes (Refills)- Johnsons: 600, Huggies: 600,

Hunnies: 400, Ultra Compact: 400

Johnson’s Pack (Oil, Lotion & powder : 2600

Johnson’s baby cologne: 400

Johnson’s aqueous cream: 400

Johnson’s baby jelly: 400

Huggies baby lotion: 800

Socks: (pack of 7) – 1200

Baby tonguebrush : (type you wear on ur finger) –
400

Pampers mini(pack of 22: 900

Huggies mini (pack of 40): 1700

Toujours mini: 2200

Moulfix mini: 3200

Vip baby: 2500

Nigerian economy pack Pampers: 1500

Sterilizer (Tommy tipee): 5500

Bucket: from 500

Bowl(for pouring bath water): from 150

Cot(wooden): from 35,000

Cot(others): from 15000

Cloth hanger: from 4500

Leoplast Baby cloth drawer(3 layers(double drawers):
from 6000

Baby nest: from 1500

Cloth pergs: from 150

Washing machine(LG): From 25000

Car seat(happy winner/family): from 7500

Car seat(Graco): from 25000

Car seat(bravo): from 12000

Pad (dele): 220

Pad(ladysept): 240

Tissue paper(rose): 50, pack of 6 goes for 280

Powder puff: from 250

Flannel: from 400

Washcloths: from 250

Bib (pack of 3): 700, Carter’s brand starts from 500
each

Roberts antiseptic liquid: Big – 550, med – 300,

Purit liquid: small – 200, big 500

Cap : Gerber brand – from 800, Next brand – from
1000. You can get some for as low as 250

Hot water bottle : 400

Baby Nail care set: 400

Mentholata (mentolatum) 160

Spirit (moko brand): 180

Glycerine borax(for cleaning baby’s tongue): moko
brand – 200

Goya olive oil: 200

Silver bird eucalyptus oil: 350

Jik bleach: small – 180

Hypo bleach: 140

Cotton wool(dele brand): large – 800

Sudocream: big – 800

Bell’s zinc and castor oil cream: 700


u might b asking how I knew all this, am heavy just like ur wifey and will b due around march. I bought those things recently.

Note: pregnancy is so exciting but don't rob the bank just because u want to get all, pick the necessary things needed.

EfemenaXY:


This is such an embarrassing read.

Didn't either of you make any plans before deciding to embark on having kids? Or did you bow in to pressure from family and friends to start having them, (with the mantra, "God will provide" ) knowing fully well you were / are ill prepared for the costs?

You wife's list is very basic. She asked for nothing but the essentials. She hasn't even added sanitary pads to that list - and yet you've got issues with it? Rather than coming on here to make her look bad, why not start by going to the hospital / antenatal clinic and ask them for a list of essential items? Then, armed with your list, go into the market yourself and price them. Or is there anything stopping you from doing that?

I pity your wife and any other woman in such a situation - being at the receiving end, going cap-in-hand begging, and having to account for every ^1/2 Kobo spent to her man. Cringe worthy stuff.

tpiar:
Go to the market or store and price the items yourself.


what a s.tupid thread.

NORAD:
My wife just handed me this list. It's a list of what she wants to get for our soon-to-be-born daughter.

My only problem here is that she won't tell me how much each of those items cost, so I don't really know how much to give her.

Can an experienced lady/father in the house please tell me how much to give her for this long list of items? Thank you in advance.

dhabeautyjas:


at least 100k. thats the minimum you can spend for your first. give her 100k, if she needs more then u will know after getting most of the things.

but forget it, you can't have change from 100k

NORAD:


Thanks. I'll do that but not all at once.

NORAD:


Thanks. I'll do that but not all at once.

Onegai:
For those saying "People have kids on N50, 000 and less" and "wheelbarrow pushers are delivering babies" and "All fingers are not equal", please let me say something:

No-one owes you anything. No-one owes you anything. No-one owes you anything.

That means, that people are getting harder and harsher. Gone are the days when people like you will show up at hospitals and beg for bill reductions and some kindhearted medical staff will pay for it. That was the last generation (People above 40) and the present crop of doctors and medical staff will certainly not be doing that (they have seen whY their elders have sufferedand how most doctors couldn'to provide for their families because of generosity and forgiving bills). And unless you have NHIS, God help you if your child falls sick in Nigeria because Medicine is now run for profit. No-one in government is planning on upgrading any government medical facility anytime soon. They have said they have no money.

People are getting tired of people begging for help and infant mortality is high in Nigeria. The only reason it is not visible is that una can born upto 5 or more children. Resources are getting scarce in the global world and people are fighting and paying more for less products and services. So the next time you say "Our parents had kids on blah blah chicken change", remember this: OUR PARENTS WERE RICHER. Dollar was $1=N1 when my siblings were born and is now N280=$1 in their lifetime.

What this means is PLAN WELL. No-one will carry your children's needs and cares on their shoulders anymore (I personally ignore all requests that have this line "my innocent kids" in it, nah me born dem?). No more "God will provide", for it will shock and pain you when it doesn't happen. Please once you start planning your wedding, take a chunk of savings and place aside for your family. Be humble and buy second-hand clothes and accept them from people. The golden days are gone for now and it's time to tighten your belt.

NORAD:


I am mad

NORAD:

My wife went through this thread yesterday, and it wasn't anything near embarrassing for her. Next time when you reply to someone else's thread, try and avoid insulting the op.
If you've got nothing good to say, say nothing at all!

NORAD:
My wife just handed me this list.

NORAD:
It's a list of what she wants to get for our soon-to-be-born daughter.

My only problem here is that she won't tell me how much each of those items cost, so I don't really know how much to give her.

Can an experienced lady/father in the house please tell me how much to give her for this long list of items? Thank you in advance.

EfemenaXY:


First of all, kindly point out where I insulted you in my post. Secondly, to say your thread is an embarrassing read is putting it mildly.

From the tone of your post and subsequent replies on here, one can safely deduce that you aren't interested in what must be got, but are more interested in cutting corners, even if it means cutting out items that are non-negotiable life-saving essentials (like vaccinations / immunizations / car safety seats, etc) as long as you save a Kobo here and there. Now let's go through your initial lamentation post again:



Are you just realizing that she's pregnant and would need items for the delivery of your child? Why would you wait for her to "hand you the list"? Prior to her "handing the list to you", what have you done towards preparing for the birth of your child? What stops you from being proactive - right from the start - in finding out what needs to be acquired? Do you need to be taught how to support your pregnant wife? Or are you a hands-off dad-to-be?

Have you even accompanied your wife to her antenatal classes (assuming she's even registered at one)? Because if you have, none of what she listed on there should come as a surprise to you.




Imagine that. So rather than go find out for yourself, you choose to log on to Nairaland for strangers to help you find out the true prices of items? How do you think people on here found out how much each of the items on your wife's list cost? By logging on to Nairaland to ask others??

We all know the real reason you've come on here is to make sure your wife doesn't "chop" your money. You're determined not to spend over 50K irrespective of what is non-negotiable or not. You come across as a very controlling and stingy man. Next time use birth control (until you're both financially capable of bringing in another child) - at least that won't cost you 50K.

maureensylvia:


what's ur agitation bro? sounds as if u r bittered or something. mind u all fingers are not equal