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danbrowndmf:
shey atun tin ja ni?

No,why did you say that


merry christmas

My candid advice;Your daughter needs u as she grows!You sure can't deny her that father-figure..To do that,u need to stay alive..And to stay alive,you need to dump that woman and NEVER look back!

SexyStrawberry:
PLS RUN FOR YOUR DEAR LIFE! HMMMMM A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE! I JUST PRAY THAT WE DON'T GET TO SEE UR OBITUARY ANNOUNCEMENT SOONER THAN LATER

Or their daughters own for dat matteŕ.
D woman isnt only a prof diabolical one, shes also mentally unstable one..

Pls sir take dat girl somewhr safe before u start deliberating on ur divorce.
And if u underständ that life doesnt ve duplicates, u will run from dat house, town and seèk spiritual čleansing.
I wish u all d best sir

ERONX:
I will advice you like a brother... The bible clearly states it that one can divorce his/her partner if they engage in Adultery, the situation which you find yourself is very delicate. Your so called wife may end up poisoning you and I will like to advice you not to try fighting her, because I have seen several cases where innocent men out of frustration beat their wife and they up committing murder...
My final suggestion is for you to leave the house and file for a divorce I can tell u boldly that with this type of woman as a wife you will find it difficult to achieve success...

Op this is your best option, take it and don't look back!

If not that you typed this piece yourself, I'ld have concluded you're under a spell. Guy, you've really tried. She's not a wife nor a mother. Please leave.

Where is the said lady when u are typing all this your grammar. i bet she no be trouble maker or she under us in nairaland abi. we be one family

nnamdiokere45:
dats y I no dey like all dis introduction tin...I mst date u well bfor I marry u ooo

I dey tell u. Because it appears he didn't really knw the lady at all. Although ladies can pretend but if he knew her longer before marriage would have gave him a sign

samocholi:
Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife through my collegue in the bank. I used to work in operations and hardly have time to truly search for a wife that is what I thought back then.so I had this collegue of mind who appears responsible and is also a church worker in a responsible church,not all these money making churchs.so I confided in him , so one day he came to me that he has this lady where he normally goes to worship atimes that he will take me to meet her ,that she is God fearing ,a church worker and her father is a pastor in one of the northern states,which he did and introduced us and gradually we started dating,


I even took her to see my parent.to their amazement she woke up around 4am and swept and cleaned the house before we could even wake up for morning prayers.when my Dad saw this he was really please and was like this truly is wife material.but my Mum was like don’t conclude oh as per girls of nowadays that we should keep praying.at first I wanted us to do our traditional marriage in April 2012 and after that white wedding but she started indirectly pressuring me that we should do trad in August and white in November,2011.i thot about it,and with my naïve mind said to myself that since she seems nice and am ready to marry.


I agreed and we got married in 2011.we did both court and church marriage.immediatly we came back from honey moon my life has been one hell of a life or another.it began when my former collegue in the bank sent her sister to bring her cv to me incase we are recruiting so that I can submit for her.so the lady called later to thank me for the assistance and my wife was with me in the sitting room.it was around 7-8pm.after the call my wife started quarreling,that who is that lady calling me that am cheating on her,she went inside the room and brought out our wedding cert.that she will tear it and that we should go our separate ways.i became shocked ,I then told her that she can take the lady’s number or I can call the lady in her presence.that I don’t even know the lady. I did not even have the lady number in my phone,the lady collected my number to follow up and that is all.



I left her with my phones and entered the room.this was happening barely a month and a half after our wedding.as the days go by she started bringing different quarrels and problem.after like a year two month into the marriage,one faithful Friday night after I came back from work and I was fast asleep she woke me up around 11pm that we should talk.and I told her that if we can leave it till morning knowing fully well that the next day was satuday unless if the matter is btw life and death then I can wait.she said it is not btw life and death and was insisting that we talk before I knew it she brought out a knife and wanted to stab me so I manage to collect the knife and threw it into the wordrobe.


By then the sleep in my eyes cleared immediately and I was like what is the matter what is wrong or what wrong have I done to her,my people up till tofday she has not given me an answer.so she stood there speechless so I assume all is well then as I was going tom bed she took one of her high heel and struck me behind my head I fell down and went blank.after a while I woke up and saw her looking at me.so I got up and entered my car with blood all over me to her uncle’s house and showed them and told them what happened.before I continue we live in Abj,so the uncle called her parent and her mum came to Abj the next day.before then I had written and taken my divorce letter to the pastor that am not doing again.


After that the pastor and her people intervened and talked to her. I went to that my colleague that introduced her to me that what does he know about her that I may not know so he said she told him in confidence that she was in cult in the university and that her boyfriend then was the capon.she also told him that the boy friend was shot in school then and died in her arms.when I confronted her she down played everything and wanted to pick a quarrel,so that one died down.


Before I continue,am a banker ,and my wife has a boutique that she sells men wears in Abj. She hardly laughs but b4 we got married she was always laughing.i havs severally asked her what the matter is but she will say it is nothing. Before now I did not know that my wife is a runs girl,after our baby’s birth in Dec 2012 my wife went and did family planning without my consent,it was in the evening when the stuf started disturbing her that I got to know. In August last year that is 2014,I was watching news when she came back by 9:30pm,she started making it a habit of coming late in 2014 and that has caused serious quarrel btw us. So when she came in she droped her phone on the center table and went inside to take her shower.as I was watching the television I now said let me go through her gallery because she likes taking pictures.after that I now checked her messages.i was shocked what I saw.

She sent a text to a married man,saying that she cursed him with the sperm he pured inside her and the man said it was mutual that she is the one came to his house to collect money for the shoes and shirts he bought,he also said he will curse her with his children’s life that she is not the only one that has a child and insisted that it was mutual.at that point my hands started shaking and before I know I she jumped out of the bathroom with soap on her body to take her phone.immediatly she came to the sitting room and saw me with her phone she frozed for like 15seconds not knowing what to say after that I asked her who is the man and she said that I was one of her friends from owerri that used her phone to chat the man.

when I checked the chat history it was not just one day chat it spans four days becos the chat was very lengthy. So I was pissed off, I reported the issue to the pastor where we got married and he down play it that she cannot do such a thing..
My wife has quarreled with all my neighbours in my compound of 8 flat,she has also quarreled with our security guards at the gate to the extent that they have refused to wash her car.On 25 of dec 2014 after returning from the church my wife spreed her cloth under the sun and my neighbour’s puppy came and played with the cloth and tore part of it.the next day she went to tell then but she did not grt a good response so she went behind and boiled hot water and pured on the puppy. My neighbor’s wife went and call police for her the next day being Sunday.but their aim is to keep her in cell till Monday to teach her a lesson.unknown to them my uncle is a top police officer so I called him and we were able to bail her putting Monday date.since then small thing my wife will start saying things that she is suspecting me , that am having am affair.i now told her how,she now said a man that does not drink alcohol and does not smoke will surely womanise.i then asure her that I have done nothing of such.and truly since I married her four years ago I have never looked at any woman aside her.

To cut a long stry short,February this year as usual during valentine I to her to a shop and asked her to pick whatever she wants.then she picked cloths and shoes worth 70k and I paid. After that February ending I usually give her 50k for upkeep so tha day I had keep the 50k but there was a plumbing problem that I had to take 5k out of it to solve so I gave her 45k promising to bring the balance home or I credit her,and that faithful morning we were having a meeting in which a top official is coming from head office and my head of operations was nor around so I was sitting in for her.

so I asked my wife to help me take our daughter to sch that day as I have to rush to the office b4 time. After giving my wife the 45k she threw it on the floor that it is not enough and started insulting me that what kind of useless job is that ,unknown to me she had gone and locked the entrance door and taken the key,as I was about to go out I discovered that the door was lock,so I called her aunte to talk to her,as she was on the phone with the aunt I went through the back door. As I was about to drive out I saw my wife rushing to close the gate with only pant and singlet,I mean pant and singlet not bump hort or rapper.i was surprise,but before she could close the gate I had already passed she now took a big stone and stared running after the car.
she threw the stone at my suv ,it sounded like a bomb very loud.at first I did not know what happened untill I saw her running towards the car so I stoped,she now came held my side mirrow and started breaking it so I had to drive off. I was devasted and could not make it to work,so I called someone in the office that I won’st be able to make it to the office that am having some issues at home.


She went back to the house and called my Dad that if I come back she will kill me.so my Dad called me and I explained to him immediately what happened. so he said I should not go back home that day, I went and slept in a hotel In town .so the next day her mum came and I went home.Now it is not that am afraid of her but because I respect women and will not want to beat ofr fight her,I am far biger and taller than her if I decide to cough she will vanish so is not that am afraid of her am only respecting the marriage institution. When I got home the second day to resume work the third day I discovered that she had tore all my cloths,my shirt both office and casuals,all my suit including my wedding suit,.so I had nothing to wear the next day.so I missed work wednesdy,Thursday and Friday,during all these happening I have been in touch with my office and told them am having some family issues and could not make it to work.



I resumed the next Monday to work and everything seem to be going well, then on Tuesday I got a sack letter from human resources of the bank.unkonwn to me. the new manager that was posted to my branch got a querry for myself and the head of operations not being around for the initial meeting. so he was angry and he wrote to the bank’s human resources and when they checked that I was not logged on for the three days I was sacked,all because of my wife.most times she sends abusive texts messages to me while in the office.For instance if am attending to customers and she is calling and I did not pick on time she will now send a nasty text that I delibertly don”t want to pick her calls.i have even told her to come and see how we work in my office.so since march am yet to get any serious thing to do.
I January I had 2.5m I paid our rent 1m and part pay for a land 1m and the remaining 500k lasted us from march till june.as usual with banks I was not paid anything.so when my savings finished in june the major financial burden fell on her,with little coming from me now.Since then my wife has made my life a living hell with all sorts of insult. For example in November,there was nothing in the house so she went to southern fries and bought rice and chicken for herself,then bought a watery oha soup with out meat that I should make garri and eat with it.it was when I wanted to microwave it that I discovered that it was watery and has no meat.i did not say anything.


Most times I stay back at home unless I have an appointment or an interview just not to spend unnecessary .so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor.All these things I just mentioned are real and I have their pictures that I snapped.i picked them and went to her uncle’S place to show him and he was mad,he immediately called her parent to come to Abj immediately and I called my parent to come becos I told them I don’t want the marriage again. Both parties came and the meeting lasted from 5pm to 12 mid nite and continued again the next day.

she could not defend her sellf and I said am not doing again and everyone started beging that I should give her one more chance.and it seems the issues was resolved.i started my investigation and discovered that unknown to me my wife is a runs girl even b4 I married her and after marriage she continued .that is why she went and did family planning without my knowledge so that she can be sleeping with me with out condom.and this days she dresses sugestivly.i have reported to the pastor ,her parent about her dressing but she has not changed.presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute.She told me that the lady is sleeping with her pastor.My wife has bad mouth and insult at every provocation,she hadly laughs always moody but when some kind of men call her she will be laughing as if tomorrow no dey.

Today being Christmas as we were preparing to go to church,she was noW feeding our daughter who just turned 3 last week.becos the baby was being slow to eat she started shouting that if the baby does not eat quikly that she will injure her.when I heard that I came and told her that such statement to a baby is not good,I have cautioned her severally not to be telling the baby that she will injure her.because there was a day I was playing with our baby and the baby was telling me that she will injure me.so becos of that I cautioned her.that was all,instead of her to take corrections she started insulting me.that am useless,that the whole burden is on her that she regrets marrying me.that she will surprise me one of these days.


My dear brothers and sisters in the house especially the married ones I frankly need ur candid advise as I am tired of her ,her bad and unrepentant character and her evil ways but am only looking at the term Christian marriage in terms of divorce as I ultimately want to make heaven just as every one.

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

From your story, there are signs that indicate your marriage has ruined and will further ruin your life if you don't opt out.

1. You have lost your job

2. Your neighbours has form enmity with your family.

3. Your wife was and still a runz lady.

4. She is a cultist

5. You don't have savings.

Bro, u suppose to have seen the writings on the wall earlier before marriage.

My advice is PLEASE work out of that marriage now. Don't listen to any advice to stay in the marriage else you will approach your grave early. NOW is the time, KINDLY LEAVE pls. Afterall the bible did not say divorce is a SIN.

It quite unfortunate dat u find urself in such a precarious suituation , lookin @ d whole scenerio holistically,from my own perspective analytically, what I could deduce or extrapolate from dis commercial is dat:d woman in question do not give a damn 2 wat happen 2d marriage. For her 2 have gone for a family planning Without d consent of her man shows dat she is ready 2 take wateva coms out d marriage.(2) her pass life b4 she got married is really having effect on d present. Pragmatically and laconically speaking, u need 2 take a break from d marriage, b separated 4 som time probably because, you've been strain or b4 u exceed ur elastic limit: I must commend ur patient and endurance because not too a many of men would condole such ineptitude and excesses
. Sir, above all. U need 2 pray fervently and zealously for her and ur marriage.

Your greatest mistake was downplaying the chat of her confessing to infidelity.

Do not forgive an act of infedility,coz it never ends.

andrewutibe:
It quite unfortunate dat u find urself in such a precarious suituation , lookin @ d whole scenerio holistically,from my own perspective analytically, what I could deduce or extrapolate from dis commercial is dat:d woman in question do not give a damn 2 wat happen 2d marriage. For her 2 have gone for a family planning. Without d consent of her man shows dat she is ready 2 take wateva coms out d marriage.(2) her pass life b4 she got married is really having effect on d present. Pragmatically and laconically speaking, u need 2 take a break from d marriage, b separated 4 som time probably because, you've strain or b4 u exceed ur elastic limit: I must commend ur patient and endurance because not too a many of men would condole such ineptitude and excesses
. Sir, above all. U need 2 pray fervently and zealously for her and ur marriage.

I love your advice but it is better for him to quit the marriage ASAP not "take a break". Thanks

samocholi:
I thank u all for ur words of encouragement.From the depth of my heart i say a big thank u to all.Stay Bless

She broke ur head

she was/is a runs girl

she was a cultist

She is. very diabolic

She made u loose ur job

She did family planning without ur concent. What other evidence do u need to get out of that marriage if I were u I will withdraw my child from her and make sure she spend some time in the prison

that's not wickedness but letting her get double of what she did to you

Don't let your family and religion Blind you. Wake up bro

Hmmm.Get this into your head;see beyond the physical appearance of the woman with you...begin to see her for what is she spiritually.

She has sold her soul to the devil by choosing the wrong path of life by being into cultism back in school.Many evil things she has been exposed to...many atrocities she has commited.Weep for her not because she chose her path but weep for yourself for devil has chosen your home to stay.And ( s)he has only one mission in your life to frustrate your faith and drag you from the little hell of home you have now into the eternal Hell fire.

You are into a big battle you can not win while you are still in the same battle ground with her.You've got to change the battle ground from the home she has filled with her soldiers of demons.

Seek for another apartment and relocate without her getting to know the place and if you do not have the money squat with a friend that she can't trace.That's going to be your own battle field to win this war.You don't need your pastor or your families or relatives of anybody in this..just you alone and your soul.

Do some soul searching of what you might have done wrong in the past,your job inclusive..could this be a comeuppance or what...be sober and seek for forgiveness, then fire your missiles of prayers against her.

Do not go back to the house again and courier your divorce letter to her doorstep and win the war from far.

As for your daughter you can report child abuse to the police and direct your sibling with the police to get her.

I repeat do not step back into the house once you leave because her spell will bind your sense of reasoning as it has all this while.

Are you still here reading?

Free yourself from bondage...run!run!run!!The woman with you is agent of Devil.You have no wife nor marriage!

To me, that lady is even a mumu.... If I were in her shoes, I will just poison u right away.... So, u still need ur pastor and family member's advice to know what to do right?.. U are feeling the heat and not them... So, what are u still doing in that prison called marriage. U've been adviced to leave, so LEAVE!... But mind u, if she used to be a cultist, then u should know that she will come for u even after letting her go.... So, u need divine help from GOD....... I wish u goodluck in ur remaining life

apexmall:
Give me the Bible chapter that Bible endorsed divorce on the ground of adultery? NEVER on adultery but on fornication( sex she did before her marriage which she didn't confess before the Church blessing, and if she did he cannot divorce her and if do, he has to remain single till she died(never pray for her to die) or else you remain single till the end of your life or else you will be living in adultery and no adultery will enter into the kingdom of God.

PRAYER AND DELIVERANCE IS THE SOLUTION TO THIS.

Dear apexmall, pls read mattew 5:32,and read the king James version
And before you quote me again,"fornication" is "old english" for modern English "adultery".
Let's concentrate on advising the op.

I think you're already under her spell cos if nt, "ur eye 4 don open since." My advice is dat u stay completely away frm her 4 a long while n wen u return, seek 4 a divorce or "dat woman go kill u b4 ur time." Be wise my brother!

OP I will say that you have lost control if this woman right from the onset and to me there is no point staying with such a woman. Discharge her as fast as the speed if light if not you will remain unhappy in this union

misspicy:
No,why did you say that


merry christmas

gave u some mentions yestady.no reply. Same to you.hope u had fun?

The part that got me laughing, the woman came out with singlet and pant and started chasing the man's car.rotflmao.
OP,your wife is a confirmed mad woman
I wonder what you are still doing with her,religion isn't stup1 dity,common my Pastor would never, I mean never allow such a marriage to continue.
Happy Boxing day Nairalanders

Guy! Just take ur baby girl and some other essentials ad quietly leave the house for her.

I mean walk away peacefully.
U can have a better life.

I read the whole thing and I'm deeply saddened. That woman is possessed of the devil. She will do the unthinkable sooner than later especially now you're jobless. Please run for your life my brother.

pls divorce her and try take custody of ur kid though that may be difficult as ure not working for d men in d house, d lesson is " dn't be too soft".

Please, take your child and LEAVE before one of you ends up dead!

You are in an abusive marriage Kai! She don see mugu and good single girls will be looking for partners.

That marriage cannot be salvaged until your wife is truly repentant and if possible on meds. Put her in prayer and if possible take her for a deliverance program like MFM prayer city for a full week. Get that child out of there, o. A word is enough for the wise!

Niggur...RUN

danbrowndmf:
gave u some mentions yestady.no reply. Same to you.hope u had fun?

was very busy yesterday,yes I did,and you?

If you don't leave that jezebel of a woman, she will surely kill you. Take your baby from her and send her packing.

Now, I'm even more scared of getting married.

@samocholi

File an assault charge

Divorce her and move on with your life

If she threatens you, tell her to get gave that you could and you should kill her if she does not let you be.

You don't need advice from anybody unless if course your life is not important at all.

As for your wife, she deserves to be locked up in a psychiatric facility.

For the love of God and your life, get out of that marriage, you story sounds too bad to be true...but please, after you do, take your daughter with you or she may one day curse you for leaving her in the hands of such a terrible woman.


plus I believe she is mentally unstable, she needs psychiatric evaluation, I suspect the kind of life she had lived may have done a lot of damage to her mentally.

First I have to salute you, you're a good man. But bros, you be Xtian na, how come you never use your church mind overstand sey your wife is not really your wife sometimes? What I mean is that,your wife don carry jumbo, otumokpo, orisa or in simple English, she has a familiar and she's possessed. Deliverance is required for both of you because she don rub the thing for your body too.

samocholi:
Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife throad to.

Hey Bro, I'm not a fan of divorce I hate it with passion and to the glory of God I'm a believer. pls bros for the sake of ur daughter, parent and loved ones pls separate. Stay away for a while and seek the face of God. coz u living with that woman, u won't even see the toes of God.

A lesson for the singles. NOT ALL THAT GLITTER IS GOLD.

samocholi:
Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife through my collegue in the bank. I used to work in operations and hardly have time to truly search for a wife that is what I thought back then.so I had this collegue of mind who appears responsible and is also a church worker in a responsible church,not all these money making churchs.so I confided in him , so one day he came to me that he has this lady where he normally goes to worship atimes that he will take me to meet her ,that she is God fearing ,a church worker and her father is a pastor in one of the northern states,which he did and introduced us and gradually we started dating,


I even took her to see my parent.to their amazement she woke up around 4am and swept and cleaned the house before we could even wake up for morning prayers.when my Dad saw this he was really please and was like this truly is wife material.but my Mum was like don’t conclude oh as per girls of nowadays that we should keep praying.at first I wanted us to do our traditional marriage in April 2012 and after that white wedding but she started indirectly pressuring me that we should do trad in August and white in November,2011.i thot about it,and with my naïve mind said to myself that since she seems nice and am ready to marry.


I agreed and we got married in 2011.we did both court and church marriage.immediatly we came back from honey moon my life has been one hell of a life or another.it began when my former collegue in the bank sent her sister to bring her cv to me incase we are recruiting so that I can submit for her.so the lady called later to thank me for the assistance and my wife was with me in the sitting room.it was around 7-8pm.after the call my wife started quarreling,that who is that lady calling me that am cheating on her,she went inside the room and brought out our wedding cert.that she will tear it and that we should go our separate ways.i became shocked ,I then told her that she can take the lady’s number or I can call the lady in her presence.that I don’t even know the lady. I did not even have the lady number in my phone,the lady collected my number to follow up and that is all.



I left her with my phones and entered the room.this was happening barely a month and a half after our wedding.as the days go by she started bringing different quarrels and problem.after like a year two month into the marriage,one faithful Friday night after I came back from work and I was fast asleep she woke me up around 11pm that we should talk.and I told her that if we can leave it till morning knowing fully well that the next day was satuday unless if the matter is btw life and death then I can wait.she said it is not btw life and death and was insisting that we talk before I knew it she brought out a knife and wanted to stab me so I manage to collect the knife and threw it into the wordrobe.


By then the sleep in my eyes cleared immediately and I was like what is the matter what is wrong or what wrong have I done to her,my people up till tofday she has not given me an answer.so she stood there speechless so I assume all is well then as I was going tom bed she took one of her high heel and struck me behind my head I fell down and went blank.after a while I woke up and saw her looking at me.so I got up and entered my car with blood all over me to her uncle’s house and showed them and told them what happened.before I continue we live in Abj,so the uncle called her parent and her mum came to Abj the next day.before then I had written and taken my divorce letter to the pastor that am not doing again.


After that the pastor and her people intervened and talked to her. I went to that my colleague that introduced her to me that what does he know about her that I may not know so he said she told him in confidence that she was in cult in the university and that her boyfriend then was the capon.she also told him that the boy friend was shot in school then and died in her arms.when I confronted her she down played everything and wanted to pick a quarrel,so that one died down.


Before I continue,am a banker ,and my wife has a boutique that she sells men wears in Abj. She hardly laughs but b4 we got married she was always laughing.i havs severally asked her what the matter is but she will say it is nothing. Before now I did not know that my wife is a runs girl,after our baby’s birth in Dec 2012 my wife went and did family planning without my consent,it was in the evening when the stuf started disturbing her that I got to know. In August last year that is 2014,I was watching news when she came back by 9:30pm,she started making it a habit of coming late in 2014 and that has caused serious quarrel btw us. So when she came in she droped her phone on the center table and went inside to take her shower.as I was watching the television I now said let me go through her gallery because she likes taking pictures.after that I now checked her messages.i was shocked what I saw.

She sent a text to a married man,saying that she cursed him with the sperm he pured inside her and the man said it was mutual that she is the one came to his house to collect money for the shoes and shirts he bought,he also said he will curse her with his children’s life that she is not the only one that has a child and insisted that it was mutual.at that point my hands started shaking and before I know I she jumped out of the bathroom with soap on her body to take her phone.immediatly she came to the sitting room and saw me with her phone she frozed for like 15seconds not knowing what to say after that I asked her who is the man and she said that I was one of her friends from owerri that used her phone to chat the man.

when I checked the chat history it was not just one day chat it spans four days becos the chat was very lengthy. So I was pissed off, I reported the issue to the pastor where we got married and he down play it that she cannot do such a thing..
My wife has quarreled with all my neighbours in my compound of 8 flat,she has also quarreled with our security guards at the gate to the extent that they have refused to wash her car.On 25 of dec 2014 after returning from the church my wife spreed her cloth under the sun and my neighbour’s puppy came and played with the cloth and tore part of it.the next day she went to tell then but she did not grt a good response so she went behind and boiled hot water and pured on the puppy. My neighbor’s wife went and call police for her the next day being Sunday.but their aim is to keep her in cell till Monday to teach her a lesson.unknown to them my uncle is a top police officer so I called him and we were able to bail her putting Monday date.since then small thing my wife will start saying things that she is suspecting me , that am having am affair.i now told her how,she now said a man that does not drink alcohol and does not smoke will surely womanise.i then asure her that I have done nothing of such.and truly since I married her four years ago I have never looked at any woman aside her.

To cut a long stry short,February this year as usual during valentine I to her to a shop and asked her to pick whatever she wants.then she picked cloths and shoes worth 70k and I paid. After that February ending I usually give her 50k for upkeep so tha day I had keep the 50k but there was a plumbing problem that I had to take 5k out of it to solve so I gave her 45k promising to bring the balance home or I credit her,and that faithful morning we were having a meeting in which a top official is coming from head office and my head of operations was nor around so I was sitting in for her.

so I asked my wife to help me take our daughter to sch that day as I have to rush to the office b4 time. After giving my wife the 45k she threw it on the floor that it is not enough and started insulting me that what kind of useless job is that ,unknown to me she had gone and locked the entrance door and taken the key,as I was about to go out I discovered that the door was lock,so I called her aunte to talk to her,as she was on the phone with the aunt I went through the back door. As I was about to drive out I saw my wife rushing to close the gate with only pant and singlet,I mean pant and singlet not bump hort or rapper.i was surprise,but before she could close the gate I had already passed she now took a big stone and stared running after the car.
she threw the stone at my suv ,it sounded like a bomb very loud.at first I did not know what happened untill I saw her running towards the car so I stoped,she now came held my side mirrow and started breaking it so I had to drive off. I was devasted and could not make it to work,so I called someone in the office that I won’st be able to make it to the office that am having some issues at home.


She went back to the house and called my Dad that if I come back she will kill me.so my Dad called me and I explained to him immediately what happened. so he said I should not go back home that day, I went and slept in a hotel In town .so the next day her mum came and I went home.Now it is not that am afraid of her but because I respect women and will not want to beat ofr fight her,I am far biger and taller than her if I decide to cough she will vanish so is not that am afraid of her am only respecting the marriage institution. When I got home the second day to resume work the third day I discovered that she had tore all my cloths,my shirt both office and casuals,all my suit including my wedding suit,.so I had nothing to wear the next day.so I missed work wednesdy,Thursday and Friday,during all these happening I have been in touch with my office and told them am having some family issues and could not make it to work.



I resumed the next Monday to work and everything seem to be going well, then on Tuesday I got a sack letter from human resources of the bank.unkonwn to me. the new manager that was posted to my branch got a querry for myself and the head of operations not being around for the initial meeting. so he was angry and he wrote to the bank’s human resources and when they checked that I was not logged on for the three days I was sacked,all because of my wife.most times she sends abusive texts messages to me while in the office.For instance if am attending to customers and she is calling and I did not pick on time she will now send a nasty text that I delibertly don”t want to pick her calls.i have even told her to come and see how we work in my office.so since march am yet to get any serious thing to do.
I January I had 2.5m I paid our rent 1m and part pay for a land 1m and the remaining 500k lasted us from march till june.as usual with banks I was not paid anything.so when my savings finished in june the major financial burden fell on her,with little coming from me now.Since then my wife has made my life a living hell with all sorts of insult. For example in November,there was nothing in the house so she went to southern fries and bought rice and chicken for herself,then bought a watery oha soup with out meat that I should make garri and eat with it.it was when I wanted to microwave it that I discovered that it was watery and has no meat.i did not say anything.


Most times I stay back at home unless I have an appointment or an interview just not to spend unnecessary .so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor.All these things I just mentioned are real and I have their pictures that I snapped.i picked them and went to her uncle’S place to show him and he was mad,he immediately called her parent to come to Abj immediately and I called my parent to come becos I told them I don’t want the marriage again. Both parties came and the meeting lasted from 5pm to 12 mid nite and continued again the next day.

she could not defend her sellf and I said am not doing again and everyone started beging that I should give her one more chance.and it seems the issues was resolved.i started my investigation and discovered that unknown to me my wife is a runs girl even b4 I married her and after marriage she continued .that is why she went and did family planning without my knowledge so that she can be sleeping with me with out condom.and this days she dresses sugestivly.i have reported to the pastor ,her parent about her dressing but she has not changed.presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute.She told me that the lady is sleeping with her pastor.My wife has bad mouth and insult at every provocation,she hadly laughs always moody but when some kind of men call her she will be laughing as if tomorrow no dey.

Today being Christmas as we were preparing to go to church,she was noW feeding our daughter who just turned 3 last week.becos the baby was being slow to eat she started shouting that if the baby does not eat quikly that she will injure her.when I heard that I came and told her that such statement to a baby is not good,I have cautioned her severally not to be telling the baby that she will injure her.because there was a day I was playing with our baby and the baby was telling me that she will injure me.so becos of that I cautioned her.that was all,instead of her to take corrections she started insulting me.that am useless,that the whole burden is on her that she regrets marrying me.that she will surprise me one of these days.


My dear brothers and sisters in the house especially the married ones I frankly need ur candid advise as I am tired of her ,her bad and unrepentant character and her evil ways but am only looking at the term Christian marriage in terms of divorce as I ultimately want to make heaven just as every one.

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

1. That your pastor or your wife's pastor is sleeping with your wife.


2. I don't trust that your friend that recommended her to you. She confided in h that she is/was a cultist and he could not tell you? He is not a friend.

3. You are under a spell. She has charmed you that you cannot do anything.

4. Your parents don't like you. With all that has happened, they should be the ones pulling you out of that hell not marriage.

5. You don't like your life.

6. She tore all your clothes, you have 2.5M in your account you could not go look for some quick shirt and trouser to buy so you can get to work that you had to be absent for 3 days! You are not serious. You don't like your job. In fact you are under a spell. Pls watch some home videos and see.



VERDICT: Divorce her, relocate from that house to somewhere that she won't find you because if she knows, she will come after you. Leave the kid with her for now. Align yourself with God