₦airaland Forum

MathsChic:
The only sensible post i read after many pages. You said it rightly.

Why won't it? Ode.

just imagine wen the good girls marry the bad ladies ...wen there are many good girls out there.

op leave dat marriage, seek the face ofGOD dat woman has bond you, she has spelled. u need to leave with ur kid and seek the face of GOD earnestly

What a touchable story dat bring out water from my eyes.........my brother i will advice u to divorce that wicked woman ........I pray dat all ur lost glory we b return to u in Jesus

queenfav:
Give this man one chilled orijin,a full roasted chicken to go with it and crown him king of his community.You have said it all bro!

Absolutely! That man should take over from buhari, i believe he can do a better job running the country .

cowgirl9090:
My ex

Haba nah!



Make friends not enemies.


Exes are best when they are your friends. Give 'em chance to see how good and happy you're without them, it hurts 'em badly

ahnie:
I have learnt not to jump tu hasty conclusions on nairaland,and tu be one sided....oga no offence,we need tu hear your wife's own side of this unside down marriage.

What story do you want to hear from a wife who wanted to stab her husband while he was sleeping? Just go and asked his wife.

Ibedionu:
Op, I really sympathize with you. Like my pastor will say, 'd worst thing after hell fire is a bad marriage'. U married your enemy that is why you're not progressing. please give her space for some time. Whilst seperated, go to God in prayer continuously ask for his help. He will help you.Please and please, don't continue living wt her unless you want to die soon.

I guess ur pastor is Dr. Olukoya

Onegai:
Your life is in danger so I would not advise you to stay. Try and move out first, but keep in contact with her family for updates on your child. This is avoid her saying you ran and neglected your child. Gather all evidence so you can fight for custody and contact a lawyer. Finally, use this time to heal. Pele.

I feel he should leave with the child, if he leaves without her, she mite injure or kill her to get back at him

I ve noticed that most females commenting on this issue are not supporting what the OPs wife has done unanimously Agree that the OP should quit the marriage,which tells me that there are still a lot of Good women out there

But wait o! We have not heard from the core feminists, i wonder what they would say

Guy, you really try.
Seek God's face before things finally get out of hand. This devil in woman form living in ur house will stop at nothing until she wrecks your life.
Moreover, ur little girl (either she's biologically yours or not) is not safe with that devil. Morally nd Psychologically, She will be infected.
May God bulldoze ur afflictions and restore ur lost glory.

Joel3:
even when I am concluding not to get married, seeing this post and reading from up to down it only gives me more assurance that I had always been right.

in my dictionary marriage is the biggest scam in 21st century. very soon in 22nd century it will be too obvious and clear to all. I need no marriage neither do I need a kid.

just me only after all the world is full of nonsense. I am fed up and tired. their is no meaning we all will die. and here comes tales of hell fire. so I don't want to bring anybody to this world to suffer in any form. enjoy and while it last. good bye.

pls don't say that cuz u re a product of marriage

2sex:
nobody should allow a common human reduce them in a matter of urgency. He is not a man and I will say it again. I am very gentle and hardly get angry BUT assure you that the fastest way to get me to brink of insanity is to take me for a fool. Trust me, even the devil would beg you not to cross that line and I don't take such from even my own blood let alone a stranger I met lol.

Bro, there is a limit to everything and it seems the guy didn't date many ladies to know how to handle situations.

Yes, it is not good hit a woman but there comes a time when it is highly needed to reset her memories to factory setting and let her know you are A MAN and the man of the house.

He also didn't do his home work well. The signs were always there but he didn't notice it or threw caution to the wind.

well said, he hurried the marriage, because he had cash, from the story the lady brought forward the wedding date, probably knowing she will explode in no distant time, knowing she can't pretend that long.

Funny enough, the guy that introduced him to the lady is not there, one reason I forbid anyone introducing partners, find your woman yourself.

On the issue of being a man, the guy is a cool guy, he did as much as He could just to save his marriage, by reporting to parents and pastors several times, that was a responsible act, even at a point he arranged for divorce but the pastor stopped him, so I can't say he's not a man, just that he took things lightly, i wonder how he managed all these years, because me don fall sick from abuse

The woman have even tried not to poison him by now, she could even hire assassins to kill him.

I pity the guy, may God help us all.

stevecantrell:
You talking about how calm he is...he will soon be calmly lying in state, in a casket !

funny you

With the way OP said he is far bigger than her in size, I must say I laud his cool cos it ain't a common virtue.

Thank God he is not calmly lying in a casket but I think not getting physical with his wife was the best thing to do.

missKiffy:
I feel he should leave with the child, if he leaves without her, she mite injure or kill her to get back at him

he is not even sure the child is his (i suspect the pastor) either way he should still vanish with the child, child is not safe with the woman

VampireeM:
hmmm! This one is strong! Jesus! This is why one must ask the holy spirit for divine direction before venturing into marriage with anybody. Its also good to make enquiries too esp from old acquintainces of your to be partner to ascertain what type of person they are. This is also for those Men who feel churches are the best place to search for a wife.


OP sincerely Divorcing this woman alone wont solve your problems @ Cause it seems the woman is diabolic and the type that can commit any atrocity without second thoughts. Its time for you to leave the house for her and also seriously seek the face of God in prayers! He is your only hope now... Damn! Some women are evil!

my sincere advice, marriage is to be enjoyed not endured, God has kept your life all this while don't blame God if anything worst happen, divorce is not as bad as people make it appear, it is better to be alive and divorced than married and dead. If you can just pick up your daughter and leave the house, go ask God for mercy and start a new life don't think about what ever anyone says to you, there is nothing to continue in that marriage

Good morning poster,your script should be given a medal. your nature of job cut you off from realities in life and your situation should be a lesson for all those guys who are saying they are looking for a God fearing woman inside the church when there are God fearing woman close to where you live and around your street.

However that may be, you have failed in the way you handled the issues thus reducing you to a woman(even some women will disown you) because you can not take decision on you own as a married African Man.
you relatives takes 90% of the decision in your family problem and you key-in. No parents will want her daughter to b divorced so they will do everything to reconcile you with their daughter. you exceeded the limit of endurance a man should in a marriage[b](Thumbs up for that)[/b], that you survived to write this scripts (Thumbs up for you)..
THE DAY SHE WAKE YOU UP IN THE NIGHT AND TREATING TO KILL YOU AND LATER KNOCK YOU OUT WITH HER SHOE[b]( YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b]
THE DAY YOU DISCOVER THAT SHE DID FAMILY PLANING WITHOUT YOU CONSENT[b]( YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b]
THE DAY YOU SAW THE CHAT ON HER PHONE (YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)
THE DAY SHE RAN OUT ALMOST NAKED AND THROW STONE AT YOUR CAR TO DAMAGE IT[b](YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b].
THE DAY YOU WHERE SACKED BECAUSE OF HER DOING[b](YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b].
THE DAY YOU DISCOVERED A CHARM IN YOUR ROOM[b](YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b]

Six times you died, Six times you where resurrected to tell youR story to the world. Do you think that having told your story to the world that you can survive the next attack?.

according to Ideology and 2sexy. YOUR NOT MAN ENOUGH TO TAKE DECISION, YOU REDUCED YOURSELF TO A VERY WEAK MAN, VERY WEAK. ITS LATE NOW THAT YOU DO NOT HAVE A JOB.
Do you think her uncles will advice you to send her parking? or you want your sisters to come fight for you?.

ahnie:
Yes father of my LIFE. who Who am i I not to obey your command?

Good girl.

At this rate, you'd be banging out novels next year.

fluxview:
Good morning poster, i am am good reader so it not a bog deal for me to read through the script. your nature of job cut you off from realities in life and your situation should be a lesson for all those guys who are saying they are looking for a God fearing woman inside the church when there are God fearing woman close to where you live, in your street.

However that may be, you have failed in the way you handled the issues because you can not take decision on you own as a married African Man.
you relatives takes 80% of the decision and you key-in. No parents will want her daughter to b divorced so they will do everything to reconcile you with their daughter. you exceeded the limit of endurance a man should in a marriage[b](Thumbs up for that)[/b], that you survived to write this scripts (Thumbs up for you)..
THE DAY SHE WAKE YOU UP IN THE NIGHT AND TREATING TO KILL YOU AND LATER KNOCK YOU OUT WITH HER SHOE[b]( YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b]
THE DAY YOU DISCOVER THAT SHE DID FAMILY PLANING WITHOUT YOU CONSENT[b]( YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b]
THE DAY YOU SAW THE CHAT ON HER PHONE (YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)
THE DAY SHE RAN OUT ALMOST NAKED AND THROW STONE AT YOUR CAR TO DAMAGE IT[b](YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b].
THE DAY YOU WHERE SACKED BECAUSE OF HER DOING[b](YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b].
THE DAY YOU DISCOVERED A CHARM IN YOUR ROOM[b](YOU SHOULD HAVE SENT HER HOME BUT YOU FAIL)[/b]

Six times you died, Six times you where resurrected to tell youR story to the world. Do you think that having told your story to the world that you can survive the next attack?.

according 2sexy. YOUR NOT MAN ENOUGH TO TAKE DECISION, YOU REDUCED YOURSELF TO A VERY WEAK MAN, VERY WEAK. ITS LATE NOW THAT YOU DO NOT HAVE A JOB.
Do you think her uncles will advice you to send her parking? or you want your sisters to come fight for you?.

oga oooooo, you misquoted me, i never said he's not man enough that Was 2sex's comment, kindly read my post well ooooo, don't behave like Nigerian media houses na


Season greetings

samocholi:
Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife through my collegue in the bank. I used to work in operations and hardly have time to truly search for a wife that is what I thought back then.so I had this collegue of mind who appears responsible and is also a church worker in a responsible church,not all these money making churchs.so I confided in him , so one day he came to me that he has this lady where he normally goes to worship atimes that he will take me to meet her ,that she is God fearing ,a church worker and her father is a pastor in one of the northern states,which he did and introduced us and gradually we started dating,


I even took her to see my parent.to their amazement she woke up around 4am and swept and cleaned the house before we could even wake up for morning prayers.when my Dad saw this he was really please and was like this truly is wife material.but my Mum was like don’t conclude oh as per girls of nowadays that we should keep praying.at first I wanted us to do our traditional marriage in April 2012 and after that white wedding but she started indirectly pressuring me that we should do trad in August and white in November,2011.i thot about it,and with my naïve mind said to myself that since she seems nice and am ready to marry.


I agreed and we got married in 2011.we did both court and church marriage.immediatly we came back from honey moon my life has been one hell of a life or another.it began when my former collegue in the bank sent her sister to bring her cv to me incase we are recruiting so that I can submit for her.so the lady called later to thank me for the assistance and my wife was with me in the sitting room.it was around 7-8pm.after the call my wife started quarreling,that who is that lady calling me that am cheating on her,she went inside the room and brought out our wedding cert.that she will tear it and that we should go our separate ways.i became shocked ,I then told her that she can take the lady’s number or I can call the lady in her presence.that I don’t even know the lady. I did not even have the lady number in my phone,the lady collected my number to follow up and that is all.



I left her with my phones and entered the room.this was happening barely a month and a half after our wedding.as the days go by she started bringing different quarrels and problem.after like a year two month into the marriage,one faithful Friday night after I came back from work and I was fast asleep she woke me up around 11pm that we should talk.and I told her that if we can leave it till morning knowing fully well that the next day was satuday unless if the matter is btw life and death then I can wait.she said it is not btw life and death and was insisting that we talk before I knew it she brought out a knife and wanted to stab me so I manage to collect the knife and threw it into the wordrobe.


By then the sleep in my eyes cleared immediately and I was like what is the matter what is wrong or what wrong have I done to her,my people up till tofday she has not given me an answer.so she stood there speechless so I assume all is well then as I was going tom bed she took one of her high heel and struck me behind my head I fell down and went blank.after a while I woke up and saw her looking at me.so I got up and entered my car with blood all over me to her uncle’s house and showed them and told them what happened.before I continue we live in Abj,so the uncle called her parent and her mum came to Abj the next day.before then I had written and taken my divorce letter to the pastor that am not doing again.


After that the pastor and her people intervened and talked to her. I went to that my colleague that introduced her to me that what does he know about her that I may not know so he said she told him in confidence that she was in cult in the university and that her boyfriend then was the capon.she also told him that the boy friend was shot in school then and died in her arms.when I confronted her she down played everything and wanted to pick a quarrel,so that one died down.


Before I continue,am a banker ,and my wife has a boutique that she sells men wears in Abj. She hardly laughs but b4 we got married she was always laughing.i havs severally asked her what the matter is but she will say it is nothing. Before now I did not know that my wife is a runs girl,after our baby’s birth in Dec 2012 my wife went and did family planning without my consent,it was in the evening when the stuf started disturbing her that I got to know. In August last year that is 2014,I was watching news when she came back by 9:30pm,she started making it a habit of coming late in 2014 and that has caused serious quarrel btw us. So when she came in she droped her phone on the center table and went inside to take her shower.as I was watching the television I now said let me go through her gallery because she likes taking pictures.after that I now checked her messages.i was shocked what I saw.

She sent a text to a married man,saying that she cursed him with the sperm he pured inside her and the man said it was mutual that she is the one came to his house to collect money for the shoes and shirts he bought,he also said he will curse her with his children’s life that she is not the only one that has a child and insisted that it was mutual.at that point my hands started shaking and before I know I she jumped out of the bathroom with soap on her body to take her phone.immediatly she came to the sitting room and saw me with her phone she frozed for like 15seconds not knowing what to say after that I asked her who is the man and she said that I was one of her friends from owerri that used her phone to chat the man.

when I checked the chat history it was not just one day chat it spans four days becos the chat was very lengthy. So I was pissed off, I reported the issue to the pastor where we got married and he down play it that she cannot do such a thing..
My wife has quarreled with all my neighbours in my compound of 8 flat,she has also quarreled with our security guards at the gate to the extent that they have refused to wash her car.On 25 of dec 2014 after returning from the church my wife spreed her cloth under the sun and my neighbour’s puppy came and played with the cloth and tore part of it.the next day she went to tell then but she did not grt a good response so she went behind and boiled hot water and pured on the puppy. My neighbor’s wife went and call police for her the next day being Sunday.but their aim is to keep her in cell till Monday to teach her a lesson.unknown to them my uncle is a top police officer so I called him and we were able to bail her putting Monday date.since then small thing my wife will start saying things that she is suspecting me , that am having am affair.i now told her how,she now said a man that does not drink alcohol and does not smoke will surely womanise.i then asure her that I have done nothing of such.and truly since I married her four years ago I have never looked at any woman aside her.

To cut a long stry short,February this year as usual during valentine I to her to a shop and asked her to pick whatever she wants.then she picked cloths and shoes worth 70k and I paid. After that February ending I usually give her 50k for upkeep so tha day I had keep the 50k but there was a plumbing problem that I had to take 5k out of it to solve so I gave her 45k promising to bring the balance home or I credit her,and that faithful morning we were having a meeting in which a top official is coming from head office and my head of operations was nor around so I was sitting in for her.

so I asked my wife to help me take our daughter to sch that day as I have to rush to the office b4 time. After giving my wife the 45k she threw it on the floor that it is not enough and started insulting me that what kind of useless job is that ,unknown to me she had gone and locked the entrance door and taken the key,as I was about to go out I discovered that the door was lock,so I called her aunte to talk to her,as she was on the phone with the aunt I went through the back door. As I was about to drive out I saw my wife rushing to close the gate with only pant and singlet,I mean pant and singlet not bump hort or rapper.i was surprise,but before she could close the gate I had already passed she now took a big stone and stared running after the car.
she threw the stone at my suv ,it sounded like a bomb very loud.at first I did not know what happened untill I saw her running towards the car so I stoped,she now came held my side mirrow and started breaking it so I had to drive off. I was devasted and could not make it to work,so I called someone in the office that I won’st be able to make it to the office that am having some issues at home.


She went back to the house and called my Dad that if I come back she will kill me.so my Dad called me and I explained to him immediately what happened. so he said I should not go back home that day, I went and slept in a hotel In town .so the next day her mum came and I went home.Now it is not that am afraid of her but because I respect women and will not want to beat ofr fight her,I am far biger and taller than her if I decide to cough she will vanish so is not that am afraid of her am only respecting the marriage institution. When I got home the second day to resume work the third day I discovered that she had tore all my cloths,my shirt both office and casuals,all my suit including my wedding suit,.so I had nothing to wear the next day.so I missed work wednesdy,Thursday and Friday,during all these happening I have been in touch with my office and told them am having some family issues and could not make it to work.



I resumed the next Monday to work and everything seem to be going well, then on Tuesday I got a sack letter from human resources of the bank.unkonwn to me. the new manager that was posted to my branch got a querry for myself and the head of operations not being around for the initial meeting. so he was angry and he wrote to the bank’s human resources and when they checked that I was not logged on for the three days I was sacked,all because of my wife.most times she sends abusive texts messages to me while in the office.For instance if am attending to customers and she is calling and I did not pick on time she will now send a nasty text that I delibertly don”t want to pick her calls.i have even told her to come and see how we work in my office.so since march am yet to get any serious thing to do.
I January I had 2.5m I paid our rent 1m and part pay for a land 1m and the remaining 500k lasted us from march till june.as usual with banks I was not paid anything.so when my savings finished in june the major financial burden fell on her,with little coming from me now.Since then my wife has made my life a living hell with all sorts of insult. For example in November,there was nothing in the house so she went to southern fries and bought rice and chicken for herself,then bought a watery oha soup with out meat that I should make garri and eat with it.it was when I wanted to microwave it that I discovered that it was watery and has no meat.i did not say anything.


Most times I stay back at home unless I have an appointment or an interview just not to spend unnecessary .so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor.All these things I just mentioned are real and I have their pictures that I snapped.i picked them and went to her uncle’S place to show him and he was mad,he immediately called her parent to come to Abj immediately and I called my parent to come becos I told them I don’t want the marriage again. Both parties came and the meeting lasted from 5pm to 12 mid nite and continued again the next day.

she could not defend her sellf and I said am not doing again and everyone started beging that I should give her one more chance.and it seems the issues was resolved.i started my investigation and discovered that unknown to me my wife is a runs girl even b4 I married her and after marriage she continued .that is why she went and did family planning without my knowledge so that she can be sleeping with me with out condom.and this days she dresses sugestivly.i have reported to the pastor ,her parent about her dressing but she has not changed.presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute.She told me that the lady is sleeping with her pastor.My wife has bad mouth and insult at every provocation,she hadly laughs always moody but when some kind of men call her she will be laughing as if tomorrow no dey.

Today being Christmas as we were preparing to go to church,she was noW feeding our daughter who just turned 3 last week.becos the baby was being slow to eat she started shouting that if the baby does not eat quikly that she will injure her.when I heard that I came and told her that such statement to a baby is not good,I have cautioned her severally not to be telling the baby that she will injure her.because there was a day I was playing with our baby and the baby was telling me that she will injure me.so becos of that I cautioned her.that was all,instead of her to take corrections she started insulting me.that am useless,that the whole burden is on her that she regrets marrying me.that she will surprise me one of these days.


My dear brothers and sisters in the house especially the married ones I frankly need ur candid advise as I am tired of her ,her bad and unrepentant character and her evil ways but am only looking at the term Christian marriage in terms of divorce as I ultimately want to make heaven just as every one.

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

I read through what you wrote, brother you must leave that woman immediately, there are so many things that you don't know, this is why I canvas for long courtship before marriage, take your daughter and leave that woman immediately

samocholi:
I thank u all for ur words of encouragement.From the depth of my heart i say a big thank u to all.Stay Bless

Before you Divorce,Run away as far as possible from her with your child ni oo, cos if she know u want divorce, she might kill u , when u are back on your feet again then u can file a divorce but for nao RUN FOR YA LIFE WITH YOUR KID

damola1:
The people that are mostly religious in the first place are religious cos, they are trying to fix something!... trying..!!!!!!...

Now this is deep

Thank you sir....grammar nazi

BuddhaPalm:
Good girl.

At this rate, you'd be banging out novels next year.

compliments of the ceezin.(oya correct it again)

my brother you are really in hell on earth... haven read through your post, I felt ur pain n truly understood wot you stand for. to be honest, your wife is possessed with a familiar spirit( spiritual husband) of which if necessary action is not taken now u will be ruined completely...I have jus dis advice for you; if you cannot convince her to take her to a real man of God( I mean real man of God) for deliverance, then i still advise u stay away from home for now let her parents or your parents do DAT. feel for you bro. gud luck!

my brother it is truly hell you are; any way I may be a bad adviser if I were you I will devious her and go back to GOD For direction. I know you seek the face man of instead of God; pls go back to God and ask for forgiveness and direction . it well with you sir

mployer:
You have two options, leave that woman or die.

hehehe... the guy dey vex me I swear... the annoying aspect self na the part him say "Christianity...I don't want to miss heaven"... op pls go read Ur bible again. who told u Christianity is against divorce? God ordered Abraham to send one of his wife packing. even in the new testament the bible says divorce is imminent if u have evident of infidelity. even self u have sinned against God for not consulting him or seeking his approval b4 u went ahead to marry that devil u call a wife also u ve sinned haven't nt sent her out all this y. no worry, no send her away na Ur dead body go do am for u. clueless man. u r a shame to manhood. wake up menh! y r u falling hands na bros...chaiii...nawao....I frm for u ooo. u need spiritual cleansing after sending her out ooo. may God gave u d power n courage d take action n send her out cos that's d right tin

If this is wat marriage holds for intending to marry single men,i rather stay single and not searching. I'll find a gal and impregnant her,give me a son n am settled for life. One thing must kill a man and not a jezebel wife. Op u get patience like snail ooo. U for beat nonsense commot that woman body wen she wan murder u.

zicoraads:


Merry Xmas to U
Any chicken left in your house? I wanna pay a visit

No chicken o . Didn't even cook. Eating out all through.

I tire o. Seriously, he might nt kno hw to run..for a man in bondage.

ideology:
oga oooooo, you misquoted me, i never said he's not man enough that Was 2sex's comment, kindly read my post well ooooo, don't behave like Nigerian media houses na


Season greetings

HAAA, YOUR shout made me laugh. you no not get wahala. enjoy ur turkey.

This is really a very big one o. Well from the few years I have spent in marriage if I am going to advice I will just find a place far from home, take all your valuables away from the house. Give it till when your rent expires dont inform anybody where you are but be very prayerful. you can allow your father to know your movement but should make it confidential. When your House rent expires she will either kill your daughter or dump her with your family cos obviously she may not be able to pay the house rent. let your Mum hold her well to provide you as she can't see her son- you. wait n c how the whole drama unfolds but be ready for any eventualities but going back into that marriage isn't advisable.

EggovinMma:
No chicken o . Didn't even cook. Eating out all through.

Eating out? Toh...we go eat out be dat nau..on U

sir you made few mistakes in choosing a good wife and thats the price you are paying for it.i hope the story is true.

you shouldn't have falling for the christian sister story.

you shouldn't have falling for the early morning sweeping of your house (some women can pretend when they are looking for husband).

you should have taken your time to study and test lady before deciding if she is a wife material.

I empathise with you and I am sure you have realised that marriage is not by force.

its your call brother don't get killed or develop mental problems all in the name of marriage ,all the best.

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