we all know the bible dosen't support it....no mater how you try to twist and turn it the bible says no....but i believe it's necessary, even if it's once... cuz there was a story here on nairaland where a good christian woman got married to a pastor....there was no tospi or testing testing before marriage...and she did not know the man was impotent he kept hiding it from her for several years...until she had to vex and attempt to rape him , it was then that he confessed that the kondo olopa was not even working before marriage....by then the woman don old already and she was even having mental problems already

so the big question, if i can ask God

is HOW WAS THE WOMAN SUPPOSED TO KNOW IF SHE NO TEST EHNNN

Imagine pastor o....

WE ARE IN THE MODERN AGE. SEX IS A NATURALLY THING. I HAVE TESTED IT BEFORE. AM STILL TESTING OTHER GIRLS.

tosyne2much:
Wooooow ?

Seriously?

Yes seriously.

UEDIBO:
WE ARE IN THE MODERN AGE. SEX IS A NATURALLY THING. I HAVE TESTED IT BEFORE. AM STILL TESTING OTHER GIRLS.

Na lie....No you're flexing not testing anything there is a difference....abi you wan marry all the girls wey u straff

Kayendy:
Yes it is bad from bible perspective but most marriage problems r mostly caused by sex either one person is weak or d oda person has too much strength... we have to try dis tins out and see who is compatible with us before marriage cos dat bible is also against divorce. OP can u live with a sexually weak person all d days of ur life?

try what out? Have you not read of situations whereby the so called initial "sexual chemistry" diminishes immediately after marriage and/or childbirth? What do you do? Cheat? Divorce? If you trust God so much, he will perfect all that concerns you. Also, being open to solutions together as a couple helps. 80% of sexual issues av solutions! It takes real love, trust and patience to help a spouse through rough times and challenges. Pre-marital sex is no guarantee of a great sex life. If it is then divorce rate won't be this high. God is taking us back to the first principle where we have no choice but to trust him and not our feelings nor chemistry. #selah

joseph1832:
Yes seriously.

Bro, I don't know the religion you are talking about. Even our customary and native law don't even support it. (Though tables have been turned in recent time)


I stand to be corrected anyway

cold:
Ok all well and good. But what if after abstaining from sexual relations with your partner and you end up with this eventually. What does one do then? Back out of the marriage or persevere in it? Sexual compatibility is a major bedrock of any marriage. If this aspect is lacking in any guise then one can rest assured that marriage is as good as dead

Stop giving yourself excuses, I totally believe God is not an author of confusion, If you truly follow him, he won't lead you to an unhappy marriage.

hope u guys re taking note...... so no more *come to my house bae*....

tosyne2much:
I guess you have comprehension problem

no I don't! You sure have been used to your silly dogma and don't know there is something called "fallacy of hasty generalization" Us All? What does that mean to you? Shior! So it's someone like u that can open ur filth-filled mouth to question one's comprehension ability? #EndTime. Lol

MsGlobalwonder:
ok
And after "test-running" for months and probably yrs and "it" is found unsuitable, u jump on the next. And so the vicious cycle. "Workability" is relative and can be worked on. Sex before marriage is a sin before God! I'm talking about Christians tho, not church goers.

but the victim should not complain of misfiring and frequent troubleshooting after.

tosyne2much:
Bro, I don't know the religion you are talking about. Even our customary and native law don't even support it. (Though tables have been turned in recent time)


I stand to be corrected anyway

I never expected you to. Our native and customary laws are old and archaic, all the more reason why they should be thrown into the bush.

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cold:
Ok all well and good. But what if after abstaining from sexual relations with your partner and you end up with this eventually. What does one do then? Back out of the marriage or persevere in it? Sexual compatibility is a major bedrock of any marriage. If this aspect is lacking in any guise then one can rest assured that marriage is as good as dead

If Your partner never knew his dicck was abnormal then U are in for a long court battle, b4 your divorce will be signed

It's even written in the bible that premarital sex is a sin before God,but youth of nowadays only God can save us

obejoseph10:
Shout out to d mod that banned me......lol quite funny

Why were u banned?

he who has not sinned should cast the first stone

elantraceey:


Stop giving yourself excuses, I totally believe God is not an author of confusion, If you truly follow him, he won't lead you to an unhappy marriage.

So you're saying those christians who are in an unhappy marriage don't truly follow God?

Human beings turning into God. pre-marital sex is not good because of the negatives it brings that could send U to jail or ruin your life. Aside that God blesses children from pre-marital sex equally wit Children from wedded homes. So I think God is indifferent about it when both parties are of age.

Na Human beings de form GOD. Giving us laws and laws, saying it's from GOD

MsGlobalwonder:
no I don't! You sure have been used to your silly dogma and don't know there is something called "fallacy of hasty generalization" Us All? What does that mean to you? Shior! So it's someone like u that can open ur filth-filled mouth to question one's comprehension ability? #EndTime. Lol

Can you see how re.tarded you are ? I always surround myself with intelligent people who engage in intellectual arguments, not a fool like you who will resort to insults


Do you even know the meaning of "hasty generalization" at all ? So you expected me to say "may God help them all".. How does that sound to you ? Oooh I should exclude myself just to look decent before everyone ryt? You no get sense at all


As I have said earlier, there's no point arguing with a dumb skull like you

Ok....




U try

If you are not sure of the fertility go for a test and confirm it.

Premarital sex is still a sin. You can loose the most important in life by engaging in premarital sex.

elantraceey:


Stop giving yourself excuses, I totally believe God is not an author of confusion, If you truly follow him, he won't lead you to an unhappy marriage.

Please stop living in denial. These things happen everyday. It is happening as i am typing this. Just pay a visit to the family section and get an idea of how many 'god fearing' marriages have hit the rocks or about to due to a number of factors,chief of which is sexual incompatibility. Are you saying those couples did not love God enough thus,ended in an unhappy marriage? I do not dwell in the utopian world of idealism but in the realistic world of harsh truths.
Besides,are you suggesting that such people as pictured in the image are made for some people and not for others? Is it not the same God that is not an author of confusion that created him? I can't fathom why you folks keep making excuses for god. It must be exhausting.

ajuwarhodes:


Why were u banned?

. Because I talked abt someone whom I added through nairaland but discovered dat he was gay, d person wars disturbing me, said he wanna meet me, I mentioned d person's name here then I got banned

To me, motive matters a lot. Having sex is an outward thing. The motive why you do the sex is what is recorded against you or for you.
Everything is pure in God's creation but it depends on who handles it at any point in time. If the person is pure then whatever he handles is pure no matter how bad it seems in our physical eyes. But if the person is impure then whatever he handles is impure no matter how holy it seems.
And, to be pure does not mean the strict keeping of and adherence to the written codes of the scriptures, rather it means a constant purification of one's motives and heart.
Let's not be too righteous nor too wicked for a wise man avoids both extremes.

All na lamba.......enjoy ur sex test ur skills oooo cos anyone wey de wai for virgin de disturb he self.....forget dat old story book called bible

tosyne2much:
Can you see how re.tarded you are ? I always surround myself with intelligent people who engage in intellectual arguments, not a fool like you who will resort to insults


Do you even know the meaning of "hasty generalization" at all ? So you expected me to say "may God help them all".. How does that sound to you ? Oooh I should exclude myself just to look decent before everyone ryt? You no get sense at all


As I have said earlier, there's no point arguing with a dumb skull like you

you are sillier than I thought! Lmaoo. Surround yourself with animals.. Who cares? Apparently, you still don't get the point and you just may not get it. So much for surrounding yourself with whatever you claim. *sigh I now understand better why at your best, all you can come up with are "what girls to to find boys", " fine girls, fine boys".. lmaoo . Intelligence is not commonplace afteral

You are there feeling Holier than others because you abstain from Pre-marital sex but you dey Kiss...you dey press all the pressables... you Hump and Romance...You even suck oranges or Banana...

The Thunder wey go fire you stll dey charge!

winner01:
Introduction
Common "wisdom" says that living together in a "trial marriage" is a good way to determine if couples are compatible before marriage. A companion paper, based upon scientific studies, shows that this idea is false. Many Christians seem to have bought into the secular idea that as long as one is "in love" it doesn't matter if couples live together (and engage in premarital sex). The problem is that many times "love" fails, and Christians end up moving from one relationship to another. This paper examines what the Bible says about living together before marriage, for those who claim to be Christians.


Biblical love isn't a feeling
Most people think that love is that elated, "high" feeling we get when we "fall in love." This kind of "love" is something that lasts typically less than a year. Most couples decide to live together during this period of time when their decisions are often based upon emotions and passions. According to the Bible love "rejoices with the truth... always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres... never fails". One will notice from this description that love isn't what you get from someone, it is something you give to someone. The Bible confidently says that love never fails, because as long as these things are done, love cannot fail. However, if we are interested in getting rather than giving, then selfishness always succeeds in shipwrecking a relationship.


Sexual relationships and the Bible
The doctrine of keeping sexual relationships within the bounds of marriage is so important that it is spelled out in the second chapter of the first book of the Bible (Genesis 2). The marriage covenant is spelled out in the original narrative that describes the meeting of the first man and first woman:

For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:24-25)

The Bible actually encourages married couples to enjoy their sexual relationships within marriage. The New Testament confirms that sexual relations within a marriage is not sinful. Paul says that those who marry have not sinned. The writer of the book of Hebrews states, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure," indicating that sexual relations within marriage are "pure" and not sinful.


Old Testament laws about sex
The Bible has a lot of bad things to say about being a harlot. In fact, it was so frowned upon in Jewish society that, among all the laws in the Old Testament, spiritual unfaithfulness (idolatry) is compared to harlotry. These days, people tend to think of harlots as those who engage in multiple sexual relationships. However, the Old Testament indicates that engaging in even one sexual relationship before marriage (i.e., not being a virgin) makes one a harlot. Engaging in consensual sexual relations with a married person was a capital offense, and those who were found guilty (both the male and female) were executed. Consensual sexual relations between an unmarried man and unmarried woman resulted in the man being fined and required to marry the woman without the possibility of any future divorce. Essentially, there was no premarital sex, since once you were caught you were married.


New Testament laws about sex
The New Testament confirms the laws of the Old Testament. Specifically, adultery is condemned, even including mental adultery, incest, and homosexuality. Other sexual sins, including premarital sex, are condemned through a couple Greek words (the original language of the New Testament) that can refer to a number of sexual sins, depending upon context. These words are porneia and pornos, from which the English word "pornography" is derived. English Bibles will translate these words different ways, so it is important to know some of the ways in which the words are translated. For example, the New American Standard translates the words as "fornication" (e.g., premarital sexual relations) and sometimes as "immoral persons," which seems to be some kind of generic immorality, although it specifically refers to sexual immorality. Other English words used to describe premarital sex include "unchastity." The fact that these words refer to premarital sexual relations can be seen in the Pharisees answer to Jesus, where they insinuated that He was born of fornication. The severity of this kind of sin can be seen in the descriptions of what will happen to people who practice sexual immorality at the judgment.

The New Testament directly states that sexual activity is to be restricted to marriage in the book of Hebrews, where it condemns both adultery (engaging in sexual relations with a non-spouse while married) and fornication (engaging in sexual relations before marriage):

Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)


Conclusion
Premarital sexual relationships are strongly condemned in both the Old Testament and New Testament of the Bible. Therefore, Christians who engage in premarital sex are breaking God's laws and are not following Jesus Christ. Under such practices, God is not honored, and both yours and your partner's walk with Christ is hampered. In addition, one's witness for Jesus is nullified, since even non-believers know that living together before marriage is not what a Christian should do. If you are involved in this kind of relationship, you need to repent and start living according to biblical standards. It is not okay for a Christian to keep living a sinful lifestyle, including sexual intimacy before marriage.

God bless you

cc; lalasticlala

Basing your points on the bible is erroneous. A book compiled hundreds of years ago cannot be used to judge what obtains in today's world. Are you saying a brother or a sister who is at the peak of his or her biological process of sex should abstain from it if no one is interested in marriage with them? What our society is supposed to preach is having and maintaining one sexual partner strictly for health purposes and population growth control. Enough of making everyone panicky over marriage and having children. We'll only end up worsening exponential population growth and continuous dwindling resources to take care of them.

MsGlobalwonder:
ok
And after "test-running" for months and probably yrs and "it" is found unsuitable, u jump on the next. And so the vicious cycle. "Workability" is relative and can be worked on. Sex before marriage is a sin before God! I'm talking about Christians tho, not church goers.

this one you are portraying yourself as a saint by all this your disapprobation ,hope you've not had pre marital sex before

MsGlobalwonder:
you are sillier than I thought! Lmaoo. Surround yourself with animals.. Who cares? Apparently, you still don't get the point and you just may not get it. So much for surrounding yourself with whatever you claim. *sigh I now understand better why at your best, all you can come up with are "what girls to to find boys", " fine girls, fine boys".. lmaoo . Intelligence is not commonplace afteral

Whether I come up with what girls do to boys or what boys do to girl, it should be the least of your problems


Woo I no like to dey bash people jawe. It's not my thing. I just dey return from church

Happy Sunday

tosyne2much:
Whether I come up with what girls do to boys or what boys do to girl, it should be the least of your problems


Woo I no like to dey bash people jawe. It's not my thing. I just dey return from church

Happy Sunday

same to you boo. You insulted me first even when I made an innocent comment. I don't let such slide. Compliments of the season too.

obejoseph10:
. Because I talked abt someone whom I added through nairaland but discovered dat he was gay, d person wars disturbing me, said he wanna meet me, I mentioned d person's name here then I got banned

That's not enough reason to ban a member Na.
Na wa o.