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DonUjay:
You are there feeling Holier than others because you abstain from Pre-marital sex but you dey Kiss...you dey press all the pressables... you Hump and Romance...You even suck oranges or Banana...

The Thunder wey go fire you stll dey charge!

tosyne2much:
Whether I come up with what girls do to boys or what boys do to girl, it should be the least of your problems


Woo I no like to dey bash people jawe. It's not my thing. I just dey return from church

Happy Sunday

winner01:
Introduction
Common "wisdom" says that living together in a "trial marriage" is a good way to determine if couples are compatible before marriage. A companion paper, based upon scientific studies, shows that this idea is false. Many Christians seem to have bought into the secular idea that as long as one is "in love" it doesn't matter if couples live together (and engage in premarital sex). The problem is that many times "love" fails, and Christians end up moving from one relationship to another. This paper examines what the Bible says about living together before marriage, for those who claim to be Christians.


Biblical love isn't a feeling
Most people think that love is that elated, "high" feeling we get when we "fall in love." This kind of "love" is something that lasts typically less than a year. Most couples decide to live together during this period of time when their decisions are often based upon emotions and passions. According to the Bible love "rejoices with the truth... always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres... never fails". One will notice from this description that love isn't what you get from someone, it is something you give to someone. The Bible confidently says that love never fails, because as long as these things are done, love cannot fail. However, if we are interested in getting rather than giving, then selfishness always succeeds in shipwrecking a relationship.


Sexual relationships and the Bible
The doctrine of keeping sexual relationships within the bounds of marriage is so important that it is spelled out in the second chapter of the first book of the Bible (Genesis 2). The marriage covenant is spelled out in the original narrative that describes the meeting of the first man and first woman:

For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:24-25)

The Bible actually encourages married couples to enjoy their sexual relationships within marriage. The New Testament confirms that sexual relations within a marriage is not sinful. Paul says that those who marry have not sinned. The writer of the book of Hebrews states, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure," indicating that sexual relations within marriage are "pure" and not sinful.


Old Testament laws about sex
The Bible has a lot of bad things to say about being a harlot. In fact, it was so frowned upon in Jewish society that, among all the laws in the Old Testament, spiritual unfaithfulness (idolatry) is compared to harlotry. These days, people tend to think of harlots as those who engage in multiple sexual relationships. However, the Old Testament indicates that engaging in even one sexual relationship before marriage (i.e., not being a virgin) makes one a harlot. Engaging in consensual sexual relations with a married person was a capital offense, and those who were found guilty (both the male and female) were executed. Consensual sexual relations between an unmarried man and unmarried woman resulted in the man being fined and required to marry the woman without the possibility of any future divorce. Essentially, there was no premarital sex, since once you were caught you were married.


New Testament laws about sex
The New Testament confirms the laws of the Old Testament. Specifically, adultery is condemned, even including mental adultery, incest, and homosexuality. Other sexual sins, including premarital sex, are condemned through a couple Greek words (the original language of the New Testament) that can refer to a number of sexual sins, depending upon context. These words are porneia and pornos, from which the English word "pornography" is derived. English Bibles will translate these words different ways, so it is important to know some of the ways in which the words are translated. For example, the New American Standard translates the words as "fornication" (e.g., premarital sexual relations) and sometimes as "immoral persons," which seems to be some kind of generic immorality, although it specifically refers to sexual immorality. Other English words used to describe premarital sex include "unchastity." The fact that these words refer to premarital sexual relations can be seen in the Pharisees answer to Jesus, where they insinuated that He was born of fornication. The severity of this kind of sin can be seen in the descriptions of what will happen to people who practice sexual immorality at the judgment.

The New Testament directly states that sexual activity is to be restricted to marriage in the book of Hebrews, where it condemns both adultery (engaging in sexual relations with a non-spouse while married) and fornication (engaging in sexual relations before marriage):

Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)


Conclusion
Premarital sexual relationships are strongly condemned in both the Old Testament and New Testament of the Bible. Therefore, Christians who engage in premarital sex are breaking God's laws and are not following Jesus Christ. Under such practices, God is not honored, and both yours and your partner's walk with Christ is hampered. In addition, one's witness for Jesus is nullified, since even non-believers know that living together before marriage is not what a Christian should do. If you are involved in this kind of relationship, you need to repent and start living according to biblical standards. It is not okay for a Christian to keep living a sinful lifestyle, including sexual intimacy before marriage.

God bless you

cc; lalasticlala

MsGlobalwonder:
same to you boo. You insulted me first even when I made an innocent comment. I don't let such slide. Compliments of the season too.

chibwike:
[color=#978000]You come dey too nice these days [/color]

Brother Chibwike, don't mind me jawe


You don resume HND ni?

oglalasioux:
Basing your points on the bible is erroneous. A book compiled hundreds of years ago cannot be used to judge what obtains in today's world.

tosyne2much:
Brother Chibwike, don't mind me jawe


You don't resume HND ni?

tosyne2much:
But in the real sense, you shouldn't expect me to say "Pre-marital sex is a violation of religious law, may God forgive " them" all. It doesn't make sense that way. Even if I don't engage in it, excluding myself is quite unnecessary you know?

MsGlobalwonder:
us all? Speak for urself bro

Kayendy:
Yes it is bad from bible perspective but most marriage problems r mostly caused by sex either one person is weak or d oda person has too much strength... we have to try dis tins out and see who is compatible with us before marriage cos dat bible is also against divorce. OP can u live with a sexually weak person all d days of ur life?

soko94:
living saint?

chibwike:
[color=#978000] Me wey dey graduate next year [/color]

Ehn ehn


Me sef dey grad next year

Kingsley10000:
repent don't condemn the op

MsGlobalwonder:
well, it could be interpreted to mean "everyone" which is not correct. Not everyone indulges in pre-marital sex. I expected a clarification not an insult. You get?

joseph1832:
So you're saying those christians who are in an unhappy marriage don't truly follow God?

tosyne2much:
Alryt ma.. It 'm sorry ma. Are we okay now?

tosyne2much:
Alryt ma.. I'm sorry ma. Are we okay now?

cold:
Please stop living in denial. These things happen everyday. It is happening as i am typing this. Just pay a visit to the family section and get an idea of how many 'god fearing' marriages have hit the rocks or about to due to a number of factors,chief of which is sexual incompatibility. Are you saying those couples did not love God enough thus,ended in an unhappy marriage? I do not dwell in the utopian world of idealism but in the realistic world of harsh truths.
Besides,are you suggesting that such people as pictured in the image are made for some people and not for others? Is it not the same God that is not an author of confusion that created him? I can't fathom why you folks keep making excuses for god. It must be exhausting.

Godblesmyhustle:
This dude is nice!!!!
Bro keep it up
Need to learn how to ignore at a point tho

Biggest boss I sight you jawe

Happy Sunday. Hope you enter church sha?

tosyne2much:
Ehn ehn


Me sef dey grad next year

elantraceey:
Stop deceiving yourself, there's a difference between God fearing and God-loving, did they tell you whether they had sex before marriage or not? Many 'God-fearing' Christians had sex before marriage and they still had issues of infidelity, having sex before marriage does not guarantee you a happy marriage.

chibwike:
[color=#978000]Boss

Witch curse you dey study? [/color]

cold:
Ok all well and good. But what if after abstaining from sexual relations with your partner and you end up with this eventually. What does one do then? Back out of the marriage or persevere in it? Sexual compatibility is a major bedrock of any marriage. If this aspect is lacking in any guise then one can rest assured that marriage is as good as dead

MsGlobalwonder:
ok
And after "test-running" for months and probably yrs and "it" is found unsuitable, u jump on the next. And so the vicious cycle. "Workability" is relative and can be worked on. Sex before marriage is a sin before God! I'm talking about Christians tho, not church goers.

banio:
Human beings turning into God. pre-marital sex is not good because of the negatives it brings that could send U to jail or ruin your life. Aside that God blesses children from pre-marital sex equally wit Children from wedded homes. So I think God is indifferent about it when both parties are of age.

Na Human beings de form GOD. Giving us laws and laws, saying it's from GOD

OluwaDavidow1:
There is NO GOD. DEAL WITH THAT.

OluwaDavidow1:
There is NO GOD. DEAL WITH THAT.

elantraceey:
Nope I'm not saying that, I'm only saying a lot of us (me inclusive ) are not totally obedient to God's spirit, I for example have disobeyed his instructions and i definitely saw the fruit of my disobedience, God will never lead us into a wrong marriage but we like following our feelings or what we can see and that's where we get it wrong.