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tosyne2much:
I guess you have comprehension problem

nmreports:
How does she have comprehension problem chief. You mentioned "us all" and she says you should speak for yourself. Don't be condescending and insolent.

Kingsley10000:
this one you are portraying yourself as a saint by all this your disapprobation ,hope you've not had pre marital sex before

winner01:
Its funny what we have become as a people.
A highly promiscuous man hoping that once he gets married, infidelity will cease.
Or a lady who sleeps with several men at will expecting to be satisfied by just one man after marriage.
And we are unrepentant about this


The world is gradually going over to the dark side, insanity is fast becoming legal all over the world. People now want to do things the way they like with no one to call them to order. That pretty explains the reason for some of the negative comments above.

We keep stressing how corrupt our leaders are, but this generation is far worse.
A generation that endorses evil without remorse, a generation where bad is said to be another word for good, a generation that rejects accountability to God, a generation that tries to modify the principles of God, a generation that rationalizes evil, a seriously reckless generation.
I weep for our children.

elantraceey:
Stop deceiving yourself, there's a difference between God fearing and God-loving, did they tell you whether they had sex before marriage or not? Many 'God-fearing' Christians had sex before marriage and they still had issues of infidelity, having sex before marriage does not guarantee you a happy marriage.

winner01:
For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:24-25)

The Bible actually encourages married couples to enjoy their sexual relationships within marriage. The New Testament confirms that sexual relations within a marriage is not sinful. Paul says that those who marry have not sinned. The writer of the book of Hebrews states, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure," indicating that sexual relations within marriage are "pure" and not sinful.

chibwike:
[color=#978000]Merry Christmas [/color]

MsGlobalwonder:
ok
And after "test-running" for months and probably yrs and "it" is found unsuitable, u jump on the next. And so the vicious cycle. "Workability" is relative and can be worked on. Sex before marriage is a sin before God! I'm talking about Christians tho, not church goers.

winner01:
Its funny what we have become as a people.
A highly promiscuous man hoping that once he gets married, infidelity will cease.
Or a lady who sleeps with several men at will expecting to be satisfied by just one man after marriage.
And we are unrepentant about this


The world is gradually going over to the dark side, insanity is fast becoming legal all over the world. People now want to do things the way they like with no one to call them to order. That pretty explains the reason for some of the negative comments above.

We keep stressing how corrupt our leaders are, but this generation is far worse.
A generation that endorses evil without remorse, a generation where bad is said to be another word for good, a generation that rejects accountability to God, a generation that tries to modify the principles of God, a generation that rationalizes evil, a seriously reckless generation.
I weep for our children.

joseph1832:
So you're saying anybody who follows Gods instruction intoto won't get into a bad marriage?

I've seen many who follow Gods instruction, and still end up with a broken home.

joseph1832:
I never expected you to. Our native and customary laws are old and archaic, all the more reason why they should be thrown into the bush.

henryhemon:
You can go own and do what you want but the law is law and can't be changed for peeps like you. Truth can't be changed to lie.

elantraceey:
You don't know them , they just seem to follow to you but you don't know their heart, you can only speak for yourself. God loves us too much to lead us into unhappiness, if you can wish a happy life for your children how much more God,who is creator and author of Love.

MsGlobalwonder:
us all? Speak for urself bro

winner01:
Introduction
Common "wisdom" says that living together in a "trial marriage" is a good way to determine if couples are compatible before marriage. A companion paper, based upon scientific studies, shows that this idea is false. Many Christians seem to have bought into the secular idea that as long as one is "in love" it doesn't matter if couples live together (and engage in premarital sex). The problem is that many times "love" fails, and Christians end up moving from one relationship to another. This paper examines what the Bible says about living together before marriage, for those who claim to be Christians.


Biblical love isn't a feeling
Most people think that love is that elated, "high" feeling we get when we "fall in love." This kind of "love" is something that lasts typically less than a year. Most couples decide to live together during this period of time when their decisions are often based upon emotions and passions. According to the Bible love "rejoices with the truth... always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres... never fails". One will notice from this description that love isn't what you get from someone, it is something you give to someone. The Bible confidently says that love never fails, because as long as these things are done, love cannot fail. However, if we are interested in getting rather than giving, then selfishness always succeeds in shipwrecking a relationship.


Sexual relationships and the Bible
The doctrine of keeping sexual relationships within the bounds of marriage is so important that it is spelled out in the second chapter of the first book of the Bible (Genesis 2). The marriage covenant is spelled out in the original narrative that describes the meeting of the first man and first woman:

For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:24-25)

The Bible actually encourages married couples to enjoy their sexual relationships within marriage. The New Testament confirms that sexual relations within a marriage is not sinful. Paul says that those who marry have not sinned. The writer of the book of Hebrews states, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure," indicating that sexual relations within marriage are "pure" and not sinful.


Old Testament laws about sex
The Bible has a lot of bad things to say about being a harlot. In fact, it was so frowned upon in Jewish society that, among all the laws in the Old Testament, spiritual unfaithfulness (idolatry) is compared to harlotry. These days, people tend to think of harlots as those who engage in multiple sexual relationships. However, the Old Testament indicates that engaging in even one sexual relationship before marriage (i.e., not being a virgin) makes one a harlot. Engaging in consensual sexual relations with a married person was a capital offense, and those who were found guilty (both the male and female) were executed. Consensual sexual relations between an unmarried man and unmarried woman resulted in the man being fined and required to marry the woman without the possibility of any future divorce. Essentially, there was no premarital sex, since once you were caught you were married.


New Testament laws about sex
The New Testament confirms the laws of the Old Testament. Specifically, adultery is condemned, even including mental adultery, incest, and homosexuality. Other sexual sins, including premarital sex, are condemned through a couple Greek words (the original language of the New Testament) that can refer to a number of sexual sins, depending upon context. These words are porneia and pornos, from which the English word "pornography" is derived. English Bibles will translate these words different ways, so it is important to know some of the ways in which the words are translated. For example, the New American Standard translates the words as "fornication" (e.g., premarital sexual relations) and sometimes as "immoral persons," which seems to be some kind of generic immorality, although it specifically refers to sexual immorality. Other English words used to describe premarital sex include "unchastity." The fact that these words refer to premarital sexual relations can be seen in the Pharisees answer to Jesus, where they insinuated that He was born of fornication. The severity of this kind of sin can be seen in the descriptions of what will happen to people who practice sexual immorality at the judgment.

The New Testament directly states that sexual activity is to be restricted to marriage in the book of Hebrews, where it condemns both adultery (engaging in sexual relations with a non-spouse while married) and fornication (engaging in sexual relations before marriage):

Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)


Conclusion
Premarital sexual relationships are strongly condemned in both the Old Testament and New Testament of the Bible. Therefore, Christians who engage in premarital sex are breaking God's laws and are not following Jesus Christ. Under such practices, God is not honored, and both yours and your partner's walk with Christ is hampered. In addition, one's witness for Jesus is nullified, since even non-believers know that living together before marriage is not what a Christian should do. If you are involved in this kind of relationship, you need to repent and start living according to biblical standards. It is not okay for a Christian to keep living a sinful lifestyle, including sexual intimacy before marriage.

God bless you

cc; lalasticlala

ehimeayeni:
and you were a virgin before you got married.

winner01:
Introduction
Common "wisdom" says that living together in a "trial marriage" is a good way to determine if couples are compatible before marriage. A companion paper, based upon scientific studies, shows that this idea is false. Many Christians seem to have bought into the secular idea that as long as one is "in love" it doesn't matter if couples live together (and engage in premarital sex). The problem is that many times "love" fails, and Christians end up moving from one relationship to another. This paper examines what the Bible says about living together before marriage, for those who claim to be Christians.


Biblical love isn't a feeling
Most people think that love is that elated, "high" feeling we get when we "fall in love." This kind of "love" is something that lasts typically less than a year. Most couples decide to live together during this period of time when their decisions are often based upon emotions and passions. According to the Bible love "rejoices with the truth... always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres... never fails". One will notice from this description that love isn't what you get from someone, it is something you give to someone. The Bible confidently says that love never fails, because as long as these things are done, love cannot fail. However, if we are interested in getting rather than giving, then selfishness always succeeds in shipwrecking a relationship.


Sexual relationships and the Bible
The doctrine of keeping sexual relationships within the bounds of marriage is so important that it is spelled out in the second chapter of the first book of the Bible (Genesis 2). The marriage covenant is spelled out in the original narrative that describes the meeting of the first man and first woman:

For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:24-25)

The Bible actually encourages married couples to enjoy their sexual relationships within marriage. The New Testament confirms that sexual relations within a marriage is not sinful. Paul says that those who marry have not sinned. The writer of the book of Hebrews states, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure," indicating that sexual relations within marriage are "pure" and not sinful.


Old Testament laws about sex
The Bible has a lot of bad things to say about being a harlot. In fact, it was so frowned upon in Jewish society that, among all the laws in the Old Testament, spiritual unfaithfulness (idolatry) is compared to harlotry. These days, people tend to think of harlots as those who engage in multiple sexual relationships. However, the Old Testament indicates that engaging in even one sexual relationship before marriage (i.e., not being a virgin) makes one a harlot. Engaging in consensual sexual relations with a married person was a capital offense, and those who were found guilty (both the male and female) were executed. Consensual sexual relations between an unmarried man and unmarried woman resulted in the man being fined and required to marry the woman without the possibility of any future divorce. Essentially, there was no premarital sex, since once you were caught you were married.


New Testament laws about sex
The New Testament confirms the laws of the Old Testament. Specifically, adultery is condemned, even including mental adultery, incest, and homosexuality. Other sexual sins, including premarital sex, are condemned through a couple Greek words (the original language of the New Testament) that can refer to a number of sexual sins, depending upon context. These words are porneia and pornos, from which the English word "pornography" is derived. English Bibles will translate these words different ways, so it is important to know some of the ways in which the words are translated. For example, the New American Standard translates the words as "fornication" (e.g., premarital sexual relations) and sometimes as "immoral persons," which seems to be some kind of generic immorality, although it specifically refers to sexual immorality. Other English words used to describe premarital sex include "unchastity." The fact that these words refer to premarital sexual relations can be seen in the Pharisees answer to Jesus, where they insinuated that He was born of fornication. The severity of this kind of sin can be seen in the descriptions of what will happen to people who practice sexual immorality at the judgment.

The New Testament directly states that sexual activity is to be restricted to marriage in the book of Hebrews, where it condemns both adultery (engaging in sexual relations with a non-spouse while married) and fornication (engaging in sexual relations before marriage):

Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)


Conclusion
Premarital sexual relationships are strongly condemned in both the Old Testament and New Testament of the Bible. Therefore, Christians who engage in premarital sex are breaking God's laws and are not following Jesus Christ. Under such practices, God is not honored, and both yours and your partner's walk with Christ is hampered. In addition, one's witness for Jesus is nullified, since even non-believers know that living together before marriage is not what a Christian should do. If you are involved in this kind of relationship, you need to repent and start living according to biblical standards. It is not okay for a Christian to keep living a sinful lifestyle, including sexual intimacy before marriage.

God bless you

cc; lalasticlala

elantraceey:
You don't know them , they just seem to follow to you but you don't know their heart, you can only speak for yourself. God loves us too much to lead us into unhappiness, if you can wish a happy life for your children how much more God,who is creator and author of Love.

stevealibi:
U gat 2 sample wat u gonna pay 4 na

winner01:
Its funny what we have become as a people.
A highly promiscuous man hoping that once he gets married, infidelity will cease.
Or a lady who sleeps with several men at will expecting to be satisfied by just one man after marriage.
And we are unrepentant about this


The world is gradually going over to the dark side, insanity is fast becoming legal all over the world. People now want to do things the way they like with no one to call them to order. That pretty explains the reason for some of the negative comments above.

We keep stressing how corrupt our leaders are, but this generation is far worse.
A generation that endorses evil without remorse, a generation where bad is said to be another word for good, a generation that rejects accountability to God, a generation that tries to modify the principles of God, a generation that rationalizes evil, a seriously reckless generation.
I weep for our children.

ehimeayeni:
and you were a virgin before you got married.

duchess25:
for the first tym on Nairaland am seeing a guy who really knows d truth and is bent on saying it.one thing I ve made up my mind is DAT so long am still alive and sane I will always stand for d truth anytime I see or heartruth we keep on pretending to be youth pastors, evangelists, Rev, and so on yet we can't even say d truth esp on social media or rather have a bit of self control.remember our parents don't even give a sh*t abt sex now cos they are way tired of it and they now undastand that sex ain't just enuf but .yea I might not be holier but I know d truth wen I see one. kudos bros

winner01:
The topic says "christians engaging in premarital sex" not "people engaging in premarital sex"
thanks