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Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by baby124: 1:31pm On Dec 23, 2015
troy20:

Oh you have no idea do you? If you think marrying late is the lesser of the two evils.just desperately wish you don't get married to the wrong woman.there is nothing worse.that will be a scar you will never erase.I have a couple of friends already married.and I am becoming the oldest bachelor amongst them already.a few seem to have gotten it right but the tales from a few others frightens the sh!t out of me.I mean look at me, a single bachelor counseling a just about a year old married pal already scheming a divource to stick it in cause just as they say the first year is about the hardest right? But in my head am saying oh sh!t! this could've been me, and all the decisions I made about letting some women I had in the past go while I make more hustle suddenly made sense.another pal of mine is already an emotional reck.so buddy marrying late is not even as that bad as marrying the wrong woman.then you know what true hell is.so chill take your time.marrying late can never be the lesser of these two evils.
so in your mind based on your friends testimonies, you think they are innocent? Are they making their marriages work? Some of us had devoted father's who put their families first and did all it took to make it work. That job whether you believe it or not lies with the man. The ability to provide and work hard to make sure his home is a solid unit. The fact that these men are coming to an outsider with their family problems says a lot about them. If the woman was such a witch, it says a lot about their priorities while looking for a wife. It takes two for the breakdown of a marriage. I have seen someone claim his wife was the devil incarnate. But nothing that comes out of his mouth is true.
He is a pathological liar. Now when he goes to friends, he will paint himself as an angel. There is no where he has not spoiled his wife's name. Especially to all willing and available audience, I had the misfortune of being in the audience one day. I also had the misfortune of being present when he told a lie that could set off a nuclear war head.
He has a very big and obvious problem. But lacks the ability to look within and correct himself. When things are wrong, first examine yourself before pointing fingers.

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Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by EmperorTayo1864(m): 2:00pm On Dec 23, 2015
Op,you can marry at anytime but makes sure its not just anyone but someone who really move your heart,the person you wish to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is a good thing with right person buh a bad thing with wrong person.

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Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 2:22pm On Dec 23, 2015
prettyjo:
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I will marry u next year
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 2:38pm On Dec 23, 2015
Spanner4:

Yes, I be Naija Chris Brown
Not my type
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Spanner4(m): 3:21pm On Dec 23, 2015
HateU2:
Not my type
Smiles
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by prettyjo(f): 4:10pm On Dec 23, 2015
Tuham:

am 16. Elder brother i guess i am
lolzzzzz
yes.
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 5:18pm On Dec 23, 2015
me too. my rib is still missing
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by elantraceey(f): 5:22pm On Dec 23, 2015
Toks2008:


If there is one reason i laugh at many people who are too quick to castigate an individual for still being single especially guys,its because of their shallow mindedness.

Imagine in the past 20years of my life i have been with just two ladies and then i want to get married and these retired oloshos will tell me the past does not matter, everybody has a past...O yes i agree but that is a cheap excuse for living a wayward life and can be likened to a plea bargain after siphoning people's money.

Ladies must learn to understand that living a sexually decent life will be a plus for them in getting a hubby in a timely manner.

Trust me lady, if every lady tries to say NO to sex before marriage from their teens and they remain chaste and non materialistic, we will hardly see any lady at 25 still single but because of the rottenness in the lives of many ladies today,they have taken it as a norm to live a wayward life and they now expect one guy to just jump on them and marry them.

So please keep up your sexual decency cos that is the greatest quality most guys seek for in a lady even when they are strong factors in wrecking the lives of many ladies.

The most foolish comments i have ever heard from a clueless lady is that guys are responsible for the sexual recklessness of ladies and i am always quick to ask if these guys slept with them at gun point?

A guy will tell you sweet nonsense just to get down with you and after you allow him, he will be the same to narrate to his friends how cheaply you gave yourself to him. Ladies are their own pitfalls and their own bane.

But be sincere how many guys want to be in a relationship without sex? How many will want to get married to someone they've not 'tested'? Like one in a hundred. You have to be headstrong to keep your stance this days.
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by ChiSun27(m): 7:07pm On Dec 23, 2015
zaragal:


I am a frustrated bas*tard....I am here again.... cheesy cheesy



Na u go tire....as far as u r zaragal....i go make u worthless for here.
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 7:15pm On Dec 23, 2015
prettyjo:
lolzzzzz
yes.
Alright sister.
Go to the kitchen and prepare what we're going to eat. Big brother is very hungry

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Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Sleekyshuga(f): 7:21pm On Dec 23, 2015
henryhemon:


Would love to meet you,am serious.
Awwww!! That's so sweet but unfortunately, I'm currently devoted to my career hence no spare time to socialize kiss..

Thanks all the same..

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Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 7:21pm On Dec 23, 2015
ChiSun27:




Na u go tire....as far as u r zaragal....i go make u worthless for here.



u are a shameless, jobless pathetic he goat. do u have common sense @ all....u are looking for who gets tired or not on a public faceless forum. how on earth do u live without a common sense?? angry angry...have u got brains @ all or its jst dat disgusting expired milk u got filled up in a rotten can u call a brain and a head??...u better mind ur self ooo....mind urself u dis boy and get off my bck else u will hate ur miserable life!!!...idiot!!!

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Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by dasparrow: 7:31pm On Dec 23, 2015
a2space:
I am a 37 year old bachelor and I must confess that never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that someday I would be desperate to get married. When I was in my twenties, I used to hear of desperation amongst ladies to get married but I never clearly understood the feeling. I felt it was a "lady thing" until I got to the age of 34yrs. One day I was in my bedroom suddenly I felt the rush of emotions come upon me so strongly that all of a sudden started making me feel desperate for marriage. By the following year the desperate feeling became like torture and the loneliness was so depressing. I could no longer stand it when I attended weddings to see other young couples getting married. I could no longer stand it when I hear people discussing marriage around me.

I became like an object of fun in the office when they would call me "the oldest bachelor". I'm telling you, the feeling is not funny at all. Even when people innocently ask "Hey, why are you not yet married?" or "what are u waiting for?" It's a question that I just can't take emotionally. Though I'm doing my best to tie the knot soon but I must confess that it is a feeling that I don't even wish my enemies to have.

If me as a guy could be feeling like this, I can just imagine what single ladies of marriageable age are passing through emotionally.
For those of you reading my post, it is my prayer that you all get married at the right time and age so that you don't have to pass through the same emotional trauma of loneliness and desperation to get married.

May God grant you your heart's desire. Just make sure you don't desperately run into the hands of the wrong lady. In all things, put God first and He will perfect everything else in your life. Good luck!
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Vikky014(f): 7:42pm On Dec 23, 2015
Spanner4:

Vikky wetin be ur own na, abeg leave me to find my soul mate na
lol
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Aseco(m): 7:57pm On Dec 23, 2015
Feeling the same way
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 8:07pm On Dec 23, 2015
manie:




What will you do when the endowment disappears due to child bearing, old age, accident or sickness? I think any woman with a good heart can be made beautiful by her husband, but a pretty woman with a bad heart is a disaster.

I may be weird, but the first thing that to turns me on to a lady is her intellect, values and pure heart then the so-called endowment. Endowment depreciates as the woman ages, but her values, outlook about life and intellect appreciates as she ages.

Well said my chief!
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 8:12pm On Dec 23, 2015
manie:
I am humbled by your compliments, I did not live with my grannies but I read books written by wise people, I know what i want for myself and my nuclear family, I want to be fully responsible for what I am and will be.

Please share some of these books.

For those that don't know, Manie is the revered Pa Ewumi - go find out! grin
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by henryhemon(m): 8:14pm On Dec 23, 2015
Sleekyshuga:

Awwww!! That's so sweet but unfortunately, I'm currently devoted to my career hence no spare time to socialize kiss..

Thanks all the same..

Nice way of saying no.
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 8:19pm On Dec 23, 2015
Amhappy:
N

I don't understand what u mean by this paragraph,how can I be jealous of her. I was very angry on the dupe,I still feel like squeezing the neck of the guy that did that to her. She doesn't earn much and some took her one year savings including 80% salary advance for Dec.

oh my goodness, what the guy did to your friend is condemnable and unacceptable. i initially tought by dupe, you meant your friends affection or heart was taken. pele...take heart dear.
i sympathise with you and your friend.

i pray for quick restoration and healing for your friend.

NUGGETS: i will leave you with this:
Appearances can sometimes be deceptive! that why we have to always walk with the holy spirit to help us reveal the intents of man.
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by manie(m): 8:52pm On Dec 23, 2015
Processor01:


Please share some of these books.

For those that don't know, Manie is the revered Pa Ewumi - go find out! grin
This gentleman knows me dele dele, can you please identify yourself.
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by OCHOdee(f): 11:05pm On Dec 23, 2015
henryhemon:


Are you married?


Nope
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Raalsalghul: 1:04am On Dec 24, 2015
Toks2008:


I am really rolling on the floor right now laughing my ass out.

Me frustrated..common you need a good smacking for spewing that trash..

I will rather remain single rather than marry all these naija hopeless money mongers..YES IM NOT A "RICH GUY" but over 3 years after an ordeal with a money freak of a lady, i have tested every lady i have met pretending to be so broke as in broke and they all failed woefully in the area of love of money over true affection and honestly but for christ i really don't see any need to get married.

If you quote me again to spew dust i will give you a resounding e-slap..am i the type who will look frustrated?do you know how many ladies i have around me that i can easily sleep with one each day...please give yourself brain.

Marriage is over-hyped and as i will always say that but for my love for christ i wil never consider marriage even for the next 10years.

-I can always get baby mamas as many as i want.
-I can always pay a cook to give me the best meals.
-I can always hire a maid to clean my house.
-I can always get as many girls to keep me company

So tell me one freaking reason why i should be frustrated? It is a lady's thing to be worried but for me even at 60 i can marry a 30year old sweet naija lady..after all is it not about money? A naija babe will not mind to be the 10th wife of a rich man rather than be the only man in a broke guy's life so please help me park very well one side.

If you quote me again...

The Perfect Reply!
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by henryhemon(m): 3:10am On Dec 24, 2015
OCHOdee:



Nope

You don't mind?
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by mikolo80: 5:18am On Dec 24, 2015
deeptesting:
Marriage does not cure loneliness, if that is the only reason for getting married then take a chill Pepsi big bottle and relax because many are married and still lonely.. Secondly, what people say or think about you at 37 should not be your business, neither should it force you to get married... Bro i simply want you marry because you understand the purpose of the contract called marriage.. "Solitude is a gift".
yep to make non bastardy babies (I'm jus sayin' )
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by mikolo80: 5:20am On Dec 24, 2015
byvan03:
I have seen people take the whole time in the world and still end up in divorce court. The point is, do what you think is best for you. The challenges you face as a young bride/ groom is the same challenges an old bride/ groom will face. Women have a larger pool of men to choose from when they are younger not when their youthful hue is already drying up. You choose your man when you are in the position to choose not when you are beginning to appear like the leftover goods after morning market.


If you choose to remain single for a longer period, let it be for the right reasons, the fact the you are yet to find your soul mate based on plausible criteria or the fact that you have no interest at all. If your criteria to choose a partner is out of this world and that is why you are single, then the person is on a really long thing .


There is nothing wrong with early marriage, there is also nothing wrong with late marriage as long as you are in whichever end for the right reasons.
there is very much wrong in looking like your kids grandparent
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by mikolo80: 5:21am On Dec 24, 2015
[quote author=miqos02 post=41253127][/quote]once small change de pocket na to advertise or do tininitanana
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by OCHOdee(f): 8:10am On Dec 24, 2015
henryhemon:


You don't mind?


smiley send me a mail
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by henryhemon(m): 8:44am On Dec 24, 2015
OCHOdee:



smiley send me a mail

Mails hardly work. Expect you do twitter or others.
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by ChiSun27(m): 9:23am On Dec 24, 2015
zaragal:



I am a shameless, jobless pathetic she goat. I don't have common sense @ all....I am looking for who will make me get used to my prostitute nature on a public faceless forum. how on earth do I live without a common sense?? angry angry...have I got brains @ all or its jst dat disgusting expired milk I got filled up in a rotten can I call a brain and a head??...I better mind myself....I will mind myself before my awkward life gets worse...cus I am startn to hate my miserable life!!!...I am an idiot!!!


Chai!!!!! Its a pity....ndo!!!!
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by NET1(m): 2:19pm On Dec 28, 2015
wow....

.NET
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by udysweet(f): 3:05pm On Dec 28, 2015
Toks! Toks!! Toks!!! How many times I call you sir? Nsido? Easy man and stop bashing the female folks jo,lol
Toks2008:


I am really rolling on the floor right now laughing my ass out.

Me frustrated..common you need a good smacking for spewing that trash..

I will rather remain single rather than marry all these naija hopeless money mongers..YES IM NOT A "RICH GUY" but over 3 years after an ordeal with a money freak of a lady, i have tested every lady i have met pretending to be so broke as in broke and they all failed woefully in the area of love of money over true affection and honestly but for christ i really don't see any need to get married.

If you quote me again to spew dust i will give you a resounding e-slap..am i the type who will look frustrated?do you know how many ladies i have around me that i can easily sleep with one each day...please give yourself brain.

Marriage is over-hyped and as i will always say that but for my love for christ i wil never consider marriage even for the next 10years.

-I can always get baby mamas as many as i want.
-I can always pay a cook to give me the best meals.
-I can always hire a maid to clean my house.
-I can always get as many girls to keep me company

So tell me one freaking reason why i should be frustrated? It is a lady's thing to be worried but for me even at 60 i can marry a 30year old sweet naija lady..after all is it not about money? A naija babe will not mind to be the 10th wife of a rich man rather than be the only man in a broke guy's life so please help me park very well one side.

If you quote me again...

Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by josite: 3:31pm On Dec 28, 2015
udysweet:
Toks! Toks!! Toks!!! How many times I call you sir? Nsido? Easy man and stop bashing the female folks jo,lol

if u truly have Christ,,this will not be your opinion.to say a hundred naija girls are the same even from the same tribe or family or from the same school is wrong.there are good babes.pls let the christ in you help u find one and stop troubling your life with lies of the devil.who doesn't like money and you that is testing,could u survive one single test of your Christianity should JESUS attempts to test u.marraige is beautiful ,it depends on who u go along with into it.when goat fellowship with sheep,problems must Nigerian men are very poor in communication,too large ego,ur babe cant tell u the sex is bad and if she does ur ego is bruised rather than thanked her and work on your fucking skills.

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