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aprilwise:
An X called me telling me that she has been seriously thinking about her life nd our relationship. Age is not her side nd I am not ready for marriage nd she wanna marry so we should call it a day. Nd I said ok, fine wish best of luck in life nd I cut d call. After an hour later she called back started insulting me nd telling me all manner of words.

emusmith:
No.6: For the Jamiu and the James. It happens tho.

Haha...no. 7. So, you won't say that?

Mathematical:
Hmmm..where have you been sir.

emusmith:
Are you kidding me?

emusmith:
I didn't take any, Olivia.
When you said, you can't relate to ANY at all...and you're a Nigerian? At least one, could be 4 or 5...

Generalizing? I don't do that.

ronald4lif:
Badoo.

[color=#1980BC]Yes na!

Some girls will just wake up one morning and decide to play some silly games with their boyfriend for no reason. Something they know will definitely not end well,because when you upload that picture and i question you,you may not like my reaction and then you tag me insecure and when I don't budge and I just act like I didn't notice you'll accuse me of not caring.

Either way we are gonna have a problem. So why try it in the first place?

Very childish thing to do.

And I'm just looking at some women here tying to turn a blind eye to this fact claiming it's only 'girls' that do it. That's crap to me because all women at a point test their partner,most times in very annoying manners.

Some of them denying may not have done it YET,but I know there must be a time when such will happen.[/color]

Oliviaarims:
Well, ur asking me if I could listen to myself sounded a bit off, like u got pissed. And yes, I can't relate to any.

When a girl visits u and she says she wants to be on her way in the next 45mins. Don't stand up readily to show her the door. She expects u to persuade her to stay a little longer.

If she calls u at night or early in the morning when u're still sleeping, don't tell her she woke u up. Or perhaps, if u do and she says "Ok, bye." Pls, don't re-echo "bye." Lol. She wouldn't be happy about that, especially if she really did want to talk to you.
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There are so many other things. When I have the strength, I may list more. I can relate to those two I wrote up there.

gabinogem:
it happened to me when I was in Akure Ondo state... she slept with two of my friends, thinking I'm going to react in a bad way, but I wasn't perturbed. She don't know I'm that type of guy that always expect the unexpected from people generally.

emusmith:
Some Reasons Ladies Act The Way They Do.

Good evening peeps.
I have critically looked at some complains by Nairaland guys and to be honest, some of them sound so hilarious. They open threads about it and still, the truth remains covered. They leave more frustrated, I guess.

I thought it timely to unveil some of the REASONS LADIES ACT THE WAY THEY DO.

I'm no psychologist neither I TIM LAHAYE, but I believe some of these answers will help my Nairaland friends to better understand our ladies better and not get confused when these attitudes play out.

Let's see some reasons:


1. When she leaves her undies at your place

- A lady told me saying, it's a "possessing your possession" tactics. I was like, who does that? I thought differently until today.

- A few others (5%) just forgot it. Thanks to constant cohabitation.



2. When she starts over-demanding even when she knows your financial capacity.

- She just met some one else and wants a breakup via a quarrel.

- Must have heard friends boasting on how theirs involve in profligate spending on them.


3. When she gets angry each time you ask her about her past relationships

- She isn't proud of something there. Not like she is bad but it hurts her to have made some mistakes. Give her some time before proceeding to the next point...


- She is hiding something from you.
If she is a sincere girl who wants a honest relationship, she shouldn't get angry for crying out loud. All the time you gave her, yet, she wants to conceal it till...you hear it from elsewhere and she now comes begging, "hun, I'm sorry. It was the devil" lobatan!



4. When she tells you, "I'm in a relationship" and still wants to be your friend, and her supposed "imaginary" boyfriend isn't in sight."


- Have you noticed, the best thing to do
is to be her friend? That statement is a tricky one. Be her friend to the point of being a brother (Make her free, laugh and happy, with friendship in mind- cancel her thoughts) . At that point, she will focus her attention on you. She might even approach you. It might be too late then.


5. When she keeps changing her decisions about dating you.


- Sometimes, it's because there are other options available to her. But something about you makes her want to still consider you. She's still trying to keep you with one hand.

- Other times, it's just the influence of friends. Her bestie, perhaps.


6. When you are having an "emotional chat" with her and dp goes, wow, "I love you, Pete. and your name is Jamiu!

- Firstly Jamiu, she might be seeing you as a
stalker. Maybe, you forced your way into her Friend's List. She wants to get rid of you ASAP.

- Secondly, If you're James and not Jamiu, she's just trying to play with your mind by making you think she is surrounded. More often than not, Pete doesn't exist! She's so alone. It's a strategy called 5-4-1.


7. When she says to this thread and the Op, "You'll never be able to understand a woman, NEVER, no matter how hard you try!"

- That's a harsh defence tactics by Nairaland Ladies called 6-3-1 since 1672. .



Gnyt.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Yes na!

Some girls will just wake up one morning and decide to play some silly games with their boyfriend for no reason. Something they know will definitely not end well,because when you upload that picture and i question you,you may not like my reaction and then you tag me insecure and when I don't budge and I just act like I didn't notice you'll accuse me of not caring.

Either way we are gonna have a problem. So why try it in the first place?

Very childish thing to do.

And I'm just looking at some women here tying to turn a blind eye to this fact claiming it's only 'girls' that do it. That's crap to me because all women at a point test their partner,most times in very annoying manners.

Some of them denying may not have done it YET,but I know there must be a time when such will happen.[/color]

emusmith:
Hmm, Olivia.
You've got some valid points there... You know what I'm thinking right now? A collabo-thread.
That's only IF you concur...or...I shouldn't present IF to a lady, just tell her to be a part.. #kidding#

Seriously, this will make brain. Will reach you.

emusmith:
hmmm, she is a dog, to mince my words. That's an euphemism sef. How did you get to know?

Oliviaarims:
Lol. OK. Let's see how it goes.

gabinogem:
my friends told me the things she was doing when she come over to either borrow movies or novels, that she will be acting all weird just to seduce them, I was the one who gave them the go ahead... an unrepentant slut should be treated as such.

Oliviaarims:
Hmm. I think the OP was too general. I can't relate to any of those points. Never done any.


It seems as though u're saying girls are silly. Because I really don't know why a right thinking and mature person should do any of the afore-cited things.

ronald4lif:
I like the admission that guys aren't as complex as the ladies in a relationship, though some of your kind may disagree. I do also think that we have some negative attribute ladies finds hideous and wish it could be better but just don't want to be outspoken about it.

And the bad-mouthing here isn't encouraging too. If there's anyone I wouldn't want to be embroiled in men-lashing certainly not you so the previous comment was just a tease.

ronald4lif:
Lol. He's insecure, he's possessive and other adjectives they slam on us if we become protective. One just have to stay neutral so they don't get called insecure or jealous. I can't deal.

[color=#1980BC]And when we are not protective then we don't care.

Pffft [/color]

Oliviaarims:
Well, ur asking me if I could listen to myself sounded a bit off, like u got pissed. And yes, I can't relate to any.

When a girl visits u and she says she wants to be on her way in the next 45mins. Don't stand up readily to show her the door. She expects u to persuade her to stay a little longer.

If she calls u at night or early in the morning when u're still sleeping, don't tell her she woke u up. Or perhaps, if u do and she says "Ok, bye." Pls, don't re-echo "bye." Lol. She wouldn't be happy about that, especially if she really did want to talk to you.
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There are so many other things. When I have the strength, I may list more. I can relate to those two I wrote up there.

emusmith:
Omotayor It's Emusmith, not "enu..." Or...

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]And when we are not protective then we don't care.

Pffft [/color]

Omotayor123:
ah ah ah ah.... Sorry no vex
Good morning!

free2ryhme:
you and your kinds have been exposed

emusmith:
Gmng dear. Sure you're great?

ronald4lif:
There's nothing to do, we're just stuck in it. You care a bit much you might be taken for granted or be misconstrue for not having other option, you get withdrawn you don't love nor care. What's the way forward then

Omotayor123:
Of course! Nice list you have here. You dey try

ronald4lif:
But why do you lots like acting up and so dramatic? Do guys have to persuade and inveigle ladies all the time even when it's obvious they don't mean what they say?

ikescope:
Hi dear....sorry 2 quote u off context I guess you know me now

Oliviaarims:
Lol. Yes. It's our way. U have to inveigle. Be there speaking grammar. Had to look up that word in my dictionary. Lol.

kalufelix:
Abi o

I hate pointless mind games

life is too short abeg...

emusmith:
Lolz...honestly, it's to try a bit and watch. I know one who behaves that way.

emusmith:
My darl. I dey follow your footstep na