God will always save Good men from the hands of evil women.

true talk oooooo. let them learn ooooooooooooooo

Tell em

I would ADORE a woman with those qualities.

Tanks OP, am guilty of no5 I will adjust

Ok, we have seen it. so many do's & don't article for women only. What of the men na?

Not again, how many times have we heard this!

I like you write up......that is just the simple truth.

Op, you nailed it

hope say babes dey hear..

I have been telling them .... pls join me tell them oooo. as if them go hear ..

Thanks for the info. Men, also see what lesson you can draw from all that has been said. If you love and care for your wife and kids as you should, your wife will love, and respect you. Get Natural Remedies for your health from https://www.lynsnaturalhealth..com.

Godwin10123:

How some Ladies are destroying their Marriage without knowing

If you are one of those ladies who no longer respect people who are older than you because of the things you see in social media then you can't be my friend; I will keep you at bay. Respect for ones elders is one of the cardinal principles I learn from my parents and I live by that. Many marriages are failing today because women want to be equal with men blindly, hence there is no peace on many homes.

Read this interesting eye-opener from a married woman...

When I got married, I was amazed at the instant, overwhelming sense of responsibility I felt to love and care for my husband. Suddenly, a huge part of someone else’s well-being and happiness was largely affected by my choices and actions.

Women, we need to be careful about how we are caring for our husbands and marriages. Don’t let the small stuff ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life.

Here are just a few ways you might be unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage.

1. Living outside of what you can afford
A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”

Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your finances.

Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt for yourself and your husband is a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide for the family.

Yes, you may not have enough to buy that deigner shoes or bag you’ve had your eyes on recently, but your husband will love and appreciate the fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.

2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in between. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch into action and dump every negative and angry thought that’s crossed your mind.

Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains.

If there is one thing I’ve learned from marriage is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help you do that, it makes him unhappy.

3. Putting everything else first
When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant. Imagine having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would that do to your self esteem?

Put your husband first! Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think you’d be amazed to find that it’s often the key to the greatest happiness in marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because of neglect and to a large extent disrespect.

If you choose to put him first, you will find a lot of joy.

4. Withholding physical affection
Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly decline intimacy, it wears on them. Sex should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God.

It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you — and you only. Even though you might not always be in the mood, it’s worth it to give in (unless you are sick) and spend that time bonding.

5. Not speaking his language
Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand: Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle things up until you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with “nothing” and then expect him to read your mind. Be open to your man and grow your marriage.

http://www.olufamous.com/2016/01/how-some-ladies-today-are-killing-their.html?m=1

OK

Lollipop247:
Ok, we have seen it. so many do's & don't article for women only. What of the men na?

WRITE THAT PLEASE

Der is no perfect woman out there u just have to moulder her if she is ready.

Guys out there... the handcuffs for the longest ever jail term are the wedding rings.
Choose wisely.... this write up can only acheive 50% compliance by only 15% of Nigerian women. At the best.
Happy new year.

falconey:

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[color=#000099]But ladies can ruin your life, or at least keep you miserable, because you need them.

Unless you're an slowpoke, for which you still need your mother.

Godwin10123:

How some Ladies are destroying their Marriage without knowing

If you are one of those ladies who no longer respect people who are older than you because of the things you see in social media then you can't be my friend; I will keep you at bay. Respect for ones elders is one of the cardinal principles I learn from my parents and I live by that. Many marriages are failing today because women want to be equal with men blindly, hence there is no peace on many homes.

Read this interesting eye-opener from a married woman...

When I got married, I was amazed at the instant, overwhelming sense of responsibility I felt to love and care for my husband. Suddenly, a huge part of someone else’s well-being and happiness was largely affected by my choices and actions.

Women, we need to be careful about how we are caring for our husbands and marriages. Don’t let the small stuff ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life.

Here are just a few ways you might be unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage.

1. Living outside of what you can afford
A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”

Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your finances.

Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt for yourself and your husband is a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide for the family.

Yes, you may not have enough to buy that deigner shoes or bag you’ve had your eyes on recently, but your husband will love and appreciate the fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.

2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in between. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch into action and dump every negative and angry thought that’s crossed your mind.

Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains.

If there is one thing I’ve learned from marriage is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help you do that, it makes him unhappy.

3. Putting everything else first
When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant. Imagine having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would that do to your self esteem?

Put your husband first! Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think you’d be amazed to find that it’s often the key to the greatest happiness in marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because of neglect and to a large extent disrespect.

If you choose to put him first, you will find a lot of joy.

4. Withholding physical affection
Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly decline intimacy, it wears on them. Sex should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God.

It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you — and you only. Even though you might not always be in the mood, it’s worth it to give in (unless you are sick) and spend that time bonding.

5. Not speaking his language
Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand: Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle things up until you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with “nothing” and then expect him to read your mind. Be open to your man and grow your marriage.

http://www.olufamous.com/2016/01/how-some-ladies-today-are-killing-their.html?m=1

op God bless u

Please tell the ladies the NO 5 point is irritating! why do you want me to force words out of your mouth when u can tell me. Ladies, please help us to be a good man.

marggy:
Tanks OP, am guilty of no5 I will adjust

thanks for adjusting, God almighty will bless you! my wife is guilty of this too.

Golden!

marggy:
Tanks OP, am guilty of no5 I will adjust

thanks for adjusting, God almighty will bless you! my wife is guilty of this too.

lasisi69:
Whether this or that, na God dey give better husband or wife

Glad this is not an end time thread

DavidGodwin:

Glad this is not an end time thread

yeah sure

Op , you forgot to add that some of them listen to their pastors and their prophets and prophetess more than they listen to their husband.

As I'm typing this now a 10 yr old marriage with four beautiful kids is about to go bananas .

A woman that has everything she needed in life , is ready to get a divorce because the husband was no longer comfortable with the church she's attending.

Some women sha , they are more than willing to throw it all to the dogs for some flimsy excuses.

the message came out just right awesome words

The good Lord spoke through you Op. Thanks.

Typical......to the average Nigerian only the wife has a role to play for a marriage to seem to be working.
No advice is ever given to the husbands except to just sit back and enjoy the services of their wives.
Odiegwu, I pity women sha.

YourMain:
Truth!

i like you for this.

No. 5 is the most annoying thing I have ever experienced. Can you imagine someone being moody and claiming all is well, can you reason with someone crying and insisting nothing is wrong. It is frustrating, annoying, provocative, demoralising and scary. It weighs me down and kills me on the inside.