₦airaland Forum

Thinking about this topic, I’ve been wondering who the focus of this post should be – girls or guys or both.

In almost every tertiary institution in Nigeria,you find ‘undergraduate couples’ living as husbands and wives. You find a lot of these misguided people in virtually all schools. It’s so bad that, often times,they are duly recognised and acknowledged as couples by lodge neighbours, classmates and even leaders of various students associations. Little wonder there is such an award as “The best couple of the year award” shamelessly and thoughtlessly received by students..Like I said earlier, I really don’t know the particular gender to address but let me just keep typing. The rate at which girls live with their boyfriends in their various off campus hostels is painfully alarming.
Most times, these young girls are very beautiful, with bright and promising future.They cohabit with boys who are their fellow students as roommates. The lugubrious part of it is that the silly girl would always introduce the small boy as her fiancé..Our society is really sick courtesy of those that live in it. These girls collect either hostel fees or house rents from unsuspecting (and sometimes, struggling)parents and end up in the house of a boy. You struggled possibly for several years to gain admission. Then you suddenly became a prayer warrior posting and shouting ‘Amen’ at the slighted provocation. You fasted. You had one prayer point filled with promises of your loyalty and devotion to God if only He would answer your prayer. Now that He has fulfilled His part by answering and granting you admission, don’t you think He is expecting you to fulfill your own part, to keep whatever promises you made to Him??.

Many of you just got admission and once you settle down (especially from your second year), crazy thoughts will begin to creep into your minds. Yes by then, the heat of the rush would have been over; If God didn’t capture you (possibly through the various campus fellowships), boys would have caught you. In my school we even have an unrecognized, unregistered but well offered course (Moz101. moz, being the short form 4 Mozambique hall, were fresh female students ar accommodated). For d guys its a course that shouldn't be carried over.

Soon, they would persuade you to move in with them. Of course, they’d give you one thousand reasons to make you give in to their prodding..Before you agree to move in and live with a boy on campus, consider the reason why you are in school in the first place. What image would you be creating about yourself?

Can this boy marry you in case you get pregnant for him as is always the case, or will you resort to series of abortions like many other girls before you?

What advice will you give your children in future concerning this kind of things? After school, what next?

Will the relationship really lead you anywhere?.

This post is finally addressing the female folks. I didn’t plan it that way. Maybe it’s because they are the worst hit by the grave consequences of illicit sexual relationships. They are the ones that turn out to be the sore losers in the end. They call it school life but they don’t realize how idiotic they have been till it’s too late. You are not in school to get married. Part of the reasons why you are in school IS NOT to get the husband-and-wife experience, to see what it feels like for the boy to provide the money for food and for the girl to go to the market for food stuffs and cook. That’s pure misplacement of purpose!
One guy told me that he was practically learning how tobe a caring and romantic husband. Such shameless! Then you hear the girl say, “We are not doing anything, we are just roommates”. Yet she commits countless abortions before graduation..Yes, your admission has given you unlimited freedom. Yes, your parents are not there to tell you what to do or what not to do. There is even no blood relation around, so there's no fear of someone reporting you. But what about giving your womanhood respect and protecting your dignity?

What about living in such a way as to have a positive story to tell the next generation (including your children) without your conscience pricking you?

What Goes Around Will Definately Come Around....

Y not exercise a moment of thorough thinking.

One question op

Is it ur life??

if u channel ur advise abilities to aso rock nigeria wud be better dan dis

IM 2nd TC dats all i know, u dnt expect me to read dis dictionary like say i go receive bank alert, @op no offense

Summary ooo

1. WE dont need to CO-Habit before been tagged COUPLE. We all do tha in school once 2 opp sex are extremely closer to each other. Even if they are not dating.

2. Even if she doesnt Co-habit with me, if am not marrying her, am not. And if am gonna marry her, even if my 5years in school is spent in the same room with her, i will definitely marry her.

3. AM not encouraging co-habiting but some circumstances might have warranted it.

4. OP what is your biz there? Do you know if your lil sis is co-habiting?

In a lay man's voice, "We Dey Kolam Pre-marriage. I.e marriage apprenticeship

sickstars:
One question op

Is it ur life??

if u channel ur advise abilities to aso rock nigeria wud be better dan dis

Mr man its people like you that fail to input values in your kids. Thats because you lack descipline. Learn sense

hecha38:
Mr man its people like you that fail to input values in your kids. Thats because you lack descipline. Learn sense

No values in kids??

Wats d society saying

U av forgotten d environment affects kids thinkin

By the way every kid learn faster nd permanent by observation true fact

Be a role model and not a role talker

A kid out there is watchin nd learning from u without even u talkin or advising d kid

sickstars:
No values in kids??

Wats d society saying

U av forgotten d environment affects kids thinkin

By the way every kid learn faster nd permanent by observation true fact

Be a role model and not a role talker

A kid out there is watchin nd learning from u without even u talkin or advising d kid

so with your approval off cohabiting what do u expect anyone to learn from you?

hecha38:
so with your approval off cohabiting what do u expect anyone to learn from you?

Wasnt approving

All m sayin no one asked dis people to do this things

They observed their environments nd felt its a norm

Wat m sayin is actions speaks louder dan words dats why nigeria hasnt grown too mch words no action


Society needs reality check nd condemn evil norms existing now

Cos no matter ow mch u advise kids wud b kids

every single soul was brought up from a very good home bt d society made dem wat dey are today nd dey learnt by observing to fit in

everything is wrong with it.if u want to live with someone don't u have female friends ,some girls are naturally stvpid

sickstars:
Wasnt approving

All m sayin no one asked dis people to do this things

They observed their environments nd felt its a norm

Wat m sayin is actions speaks louder dan words dats why nigeria hasnt grown too mch words no action


Society needs reality check nd condemn evil norms existing now

Cos no matter ow mch u advise kids wud b kids

every single soul was brought up from a very good home bt d society made dem wat dey are today nd dey learnt by observing to fit in

Good. Now you are talking. Nigerians think its d president thats gonna change this country. But in reality the president can do just a little. If we all resolve to make our country the best place to be on the planet my guy it can be done and nothing can stop us. All in all Nigeria is you and me.

hecha38:
Good. Now you are talking. Nigerians think its d president thats gonna change this country. But in reality the president can do just a little. If we all resolve to make our country the best place to be on the planet my guy it can be done and nothing can stop us. All in all Nigeria is you and me.

M a lady o

But tru society is were the problems

And d society consists of you nd i and every oda individual out there

Cc lalasticlala do the needful

sickstars:
One question op

Is it ur life??

if u channel ur advise abilities to aso rock nigeria wud be better dan dis

U be correct guy....help me ask d mumu o

crismark:
U be correct guy....help me ask d mumu o

Cos i no put F doesnt make me a guy

Aldo i wish i was a boy tho

crismark:
U be correct guy....help me ask d mumu o

no wonder u and ur dad still dey live from hand to mouth

sickstars:
Cos i no put F doesnt make me a guy

Aldo i wish i was a boy tho

Loool....sowi o....but dat op matter taya me

hecha38:
no wonder u and ur dad still dey live from hand to mouth

Me nd whoguy I don dey live alone since I finish NYSC...so no vex bro Jst take heart....

crismark:
Loool....sowi o....but dat op matter taya me

loooop mayb d dude gf go dey stay for her school bf house mehn d girl bad

Dat chick bad she do stuffs dat hits op hard

sickstars:
loooop mayb d dude gf go dey stay for her school bf house mehn d girl bad

Dat chick bad she do stuffs dat hits op hard

Lmao.....u no lie o...na y d op use vex compose like 8 pages note kon dey express himself...

crismark:
Lmao.....u no lie o...na y d op use vex compose like 8 pages note kon dey express himself...

looooool i swear wen i first saw it i tot op wan write application letter for employment d girl na afternoon winsh o

Op it has been like dat before u sef gained admission...also, i have students who co-habbitted and still graduate with flying colours...i'm nt an advocate for it anyways...bt, in our tertiary institutions, there are more important tins to fight against, dis ur own is just among d least of dem