₦airaland Forum

I thank the OP for creating this thread and I thank all the reasonable commentators thus far, onegai damiso acidosis (I no understand this guy sha... Lol) Thank you everyone. I've learnt a lot reading your comments.... Bless.




Bottomline: it's about time people are allowed to do what works for them. Your life, your choices. Don't force your opinions on others.

DollyParton1:
Some don't work for money. Some people get satisfaction from their careers.

Am speaking for myself only, I work for money.

zemaye:
interesting topic and mature contributions
I am presently a SAHM ! ok 70 percent of the time
its hard and its going to continue this way for the next couple of years
it is my personal decision and am glad I made it.
it's true women go through shit!
but its not all bad for everybody
since my being SAHM, I have never have to ask my hubby for a dime because he knows what
we utililise and i get that plus extra for miscellenous spending
he trust me more than himself with finances because am usually practical and thorough.

Nairaland make SAHM sound like a wife goes cap in hand asking
for money from her man
that has never been the case for me at least!
and I am aware of bad cases.
My 2 kobo sha to any woman planing to SAHM
have a solid finanacial back up plan incase anything goes wrong.
Meanwhile byvan03 you got me rolling on the floor with laughter.


personally I have businesses that run successfully without me being there physically,

Lol,'' cap in hand ", some SAHM have an already secured future and lots of cash to go with it .It is not by who works the most jare.

Eliba:
is funny o but most men do it o

Lol
Where I come from, we spoil our wives

Hkana:
I thank the OP for creating this thread and I thank all the reasonable commentators thus far, onegai damiso acidosis (I no understand this guy sha... Lol) Thank you everyone. I've learnt a lot reading your comments.... Bless.




Bottomline: it's about time people are allowed to do what works for them. Your life, your choices. Don't force your opinions on others.

you no understand me?

raumdeuter:
^^ Did she calculate how much on free rent, free food, the car she drove and all the gifts she received from being the wife to return it back?

The child was for both of them and she had equal rights over the child not like she is a baby sitter or a surrogate

Lol, I wonder... Mind boggling I tell ya.

zemaye:
interesting topic and mature contributions
I am presently a SAHM ! ok 70 percent of the time
its hard and its going to continue this way for the next couple of years
it is my personal decision and am glad I made it.
it's true women go through shit!
but its not all bad for everybody
since my being SAHM, I have never have to ask my hubby for a dime because he knows what
we utililise and i get that plus extra for miscellenous spending
he trust me more than himself with finances because am usually practical and thorough.

Nairaland make SAHM sound like a wife goes cap in hand asking
for money from her man
that has never been the case for me at least!
and I am aware of bad cases.
My 2 kobo sha to any woman planing to SAHM
have a solid finanacial back up plan incase anything goes wrong.
Meanwhile byvan03 you got me rolling on the floor with laughter.


personally I have businesses that run successfully without me being there physically,

How can you be a SAHM if you have businesses by the side?

Hkana:
I thank the OP for creating this thread and I thank all the reasonable commentators thus far, onegai damiso acidosis (I no understand this guy sha... Lol) Thank you everyone. I've learnt a lot reading your comments.... Bless.




Bottomline: it's about time people are allowed to do what works for them. Your life, your choices. Don't force your opinions on others.

Most welcome... And thanks for your comment too.

Onegai:
Nope. Volunteering is not a career option. If it was, there'd be training on it at a school. or voxational centre somewhere. It's something people decide to do for the good of their community.

See, I've met SAHMs who are improving their communities vastly (even doing things like basic Crossing guard for their local school), saving lives. Or developing a homeless shelter. And I've met career people who are doing the same. Neither is getting paid for it. Pastor Adeboye does get paid (all pastors do) for running a church. His church accountant gets paid for being a full-time church accountant. His choir members may not get paid and that's volunteering and last I checked, no-one wrote JAMB and filled in "RCCG choir member" as a course option (though seeing how people dey love their pastors here... )

I know a lady who used to volunteer at Motherless babies Maroko. Would you call her as having a job there because she went there to stay with the kids and keep them company daily? She wasn't getting paid for it. I know a lady who ran a small after school program in her house for her neighbours' kids (just come and read together rather than sit in front of a t.v. till parents get home). She wasn't getting paid for it. Is that considered a job now, will she be paying taxes for it?

Or do you assume I don't know what a WAHM is? I know several WAHMs and volunteering is not part of their calendar. Writing articles on the internet and submitting to a content site is a job. Because you get paid for it. Or do you work for free at your job?

Or is your definition of SAHM mean someone who sits at home and does absolutely nothing else or doesn't leave the house? The only women I know like that are some Northern women whom their husband's don't let them step out of their shanty homes.

(This is why I don't like speaking here... )

A career is an occupation undertaken for a significant period of a person's life and with opportunities for progress.

Another definition is pursuing a profession outside the home for women...

https://www.google.com/search?hl=en&source=android-browser-type&q=what+is+a+career&gws_rd=ssl

A job is also different from a career.

Like Mindfulness said, there seems to be different definitions of who a SAHM is.

I would not consider a mother who has pursuits outside the home (generating Income or not)

Why don't you like speaking here

raumdeuter:
Excellent piece

Thanks. I'm humbled.

totalhouse:
Career woman to the core... Lol
Striking the balance is the key
Can't imagine my wife sacrificing her career for being a full-time house wife after all the degrees and certifications she has acquired. It will be unfair to her abandoning such a wonderful career. However those giving up their career for their children really deserved to be commended too.
Striking the balance for me is the key.. Follow your career path and see the family as no1. One can still marry the two together without one affecting the other.

I agree with you Sir. It's all about striking a balance...for those who want to handle both, that is.

Acidosis:
Lol

Where I come from, we spoil our wives

really?

Eliba:
really?

Yes ke

...considering a trial?

I stated clearly that my physical presence not needed...
Our understanding of SAHM is highly varied I guess.

bukatyne:
How can you be a SAHM if you have businesses by the side?

Msgr z★

Acidosis:
Yes ke



...considering a trial?

,funny man

Eliba:
,funny man

As a wife, a mother and an adult,i should be able to generate my own income; it gives one a sense of self worth and satisfaction.

Eliba:
,funny man

I'm serious o

byvan03:
Am speaking for myself only, I work for money.

Business woman,how far

marbee:
Business woman,how far

Where do you belong sef? Career? SAHM?

marbee:
Business woman,how far

:Dmy dear I deyooo, Hope you are good too.

byvan03:
:Dmy dear I deyooo, Hope you are good too.

Very good ,thanks.

Acidosis:
Where do you belong sef? Career? SAHM?

I'm for career,the type that I have time for myself and family.

cococandy:
Tenk you.

I see those women as really courageous and brave to hand over their entire lives to a husband like that knowing that any money he makes is 'his money' the house is 'his house' and you are tenant who can't be kicked out as if you were picked from the gutter. See people say "kick her out of your house" as if a grown woman isn't supposed to have something that belongs to her.
One can have a little peace of mind to be a SAHM here because you're protected to an extent if he starts behaving anyhow.

That is eh. Everywhere you hear 'not in MY house', will throw her out of MY house'. Nigerian women don hear ween i swear. I can't take that risk o. I have to have my own thing going for me.

marbee:
I'm for career,the type that I have time for myself and family.

wow, the time factor is KEY