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lanicky:
Good morning sir.

Well if not 70% then it's 50% I'm quite sure of that. If we're to open a thread on this, you'll know I'm right.

I've had the opportunity to speak with lotta people who are product of divorce or bad marriage.

Sometimes, when I create a thread, I talk out of experience and what I have seen nd heard.

Some children grow with grudges against their father or mother, because they were there when everything happened.
It's easy to forgive, but very difficult to forget.
missp.icy help expansiate abeg.

Pls do justice, I can't argue alone.

joseph1832:
You still fail to even grasp what I'm saying, that this is clearly your opinion and it lack proper evidence.

You said 70%, now you're saying if not 70%, then its 50%. My question still remain, how did you arrive at that 70%. You said you've spoken to a lot of people who were divorced or product of divorce, tell me, where did this "a lot of people come from?" What's their tribe, religious, academic and financial background?

Like I said earlier, this thread of yours is opinionated, and lacks merit. If you've spoken to a lot of people and they said what you typed above, I too have spoken to a lot of people and they said the opposite of what you said, and so did obontami, allnaijablogger etc.

Everybody coming with their personal opinion based on what they've heard doesn't make it a standard fact!. So please, kindly remove that 70% or 50% you put up there, cos that is the basic proof that YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU ARE SAYING.

And good morning to you too.

lanicky:
If you're not satisfied with what I wrote up there, kindly create a counter thread.

Thanks.

lanicky:
Hian! Why evils.

joseph1832:
OMG! How do you people even pass exams in school? Who is talking about satisfaction? Or even creating a counter thread? This seem to be the norm is this section, where personal opinions are taken as facts and shoved down our throats for all of us to swallow. Good riddance.

What you wrote up there is clearly just you expressing what you've heard and you coming here to say it as fact! Which its not! You said 70%, then said if not 70 then its 50%, this only show you are not sure of what you're saying. If you had done a proper research, you wouldn't have that, because your research finding will do the talking for you.

Using your opinion as fact without proper evidence to back up your claim is tantamount to you showing everybody that you don't know what you're saying, thus, your thread is a fallacy!.

lanicky:
Wake up dear, listen to news, ask people around you, search the web and you'll get almost same result.

Okay I said 70% before, I was quite sure of that based on my experience, but when I gave it a thought again I said 50% or 70%. I said that, because I've not traveled around the world to ask every children.

You were talking about doing researches on this particular topic..Lol

I think you need to visit...www.daily beast.com and www.book.Google.com to see how wrong you are.

In this case of infidelity, Adult children of cheaters often struggles with trust issues of their own.

When children find out about an affair, it's not just the cheating, but how parents deal with crisis that can have the most profound effect on their children's future relationship. Says sex and family therapist..Dr David Lusterman

According to Lois Braverman the president of Ackerman institute for the family, "Infidelity's impact depends heavily in the parent- child dynamic established after the affair."
Children who are made confidants by the betrayer, or the one's left to comfort the betrayed, tend to struggle with anger the most.


Also...Ana Nogales said "young women tend to suffer more when their fathers are caught cheating"



Pls do your own researches well before you counter people's opinion on a thread.

Thanks.



[size=20pt]I know what I'm saying, you don't.[/size]

joseph1832:
On the contrary my simple-minded friend, you're the one who don't know what you're talking, because if you did, you would have added all the people you quoted, to give your thread substance, but did you add it? Nope, it only took my intervention before you could even add it, and here you are saying, I don't know what I'm saying. Like I earlier said, how do you people pass exam in school.

Just so you know, the people you quoted are professionals in their field of study and they've actually carried out research about this subject, so I ask you, are you a professional? What is your academic qualification? Is it related to the matter being discussed here? What and what research have you conducted? And how and how is the research you conducted carried out? Which method of research did you use?, and what is the conclusion you arrived at?

So my dear, posting different links here doesn't mean you conducted any research, and here you are saying you know what you're talking about Wetin you know? Like I said, are you an expert in the field of divorce/marriage/family and how it affects a child's psyche?

Please and please, refrain from saying things you know little or nothing about.

Imagine dis pikin, becos you read online article makes you an expert. Una no go kill person for this romance section. LOL.

lanicky:
Like I've said earlier... I do research before creating a thread. I don't just open a thread, because I want to.

I don't need to write 7 paragraphs of advice on infidelity before YOU understand.

Many people don't have the time to read a whole page of whatever you decide to type even if it's meaningful.

It's not my fault that you find it difficult to understand.

I created this topic to help people overcome infidelity. I've achieved my aim already.
So there's no point arguing further.

Age doesn't matter when talking about family issues, experience matters.
You wey dey talk sef, how old are you?

Do have a nice day dear.

joseph1832:
How do you know you've achieved your aim of helping people cope with the effects of infidelity? Girl, you are very funny!!!.

At the emboldened, I must have, what experience do you have in this subject matter? Are you a product of broken home, or is your dad cheating or did he cheat on your mum? (No offense intended) what sort of experience are you talking about.

And just so you know, I'm by far older than you. If at all you are old, which I doubt, you're not more than 26 years of age.

obontami:
Bros you no even give the erima breathing space at all, you just dey takle her up, center and down


You don make the girl dey blame her self say she create this thread


Hahahaha

joseph1832:
Bros no be so oh. I just dey try make her a better writer. People for dis section don too believe say anything wey dem write na koko, even when the thing na 100% their opinion, dem go see am as big fact.

obontami:
you na badt guy

arabadayor17:
We'll think about it.