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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by bukatyne(f): 11:15pm On Jan 16, 2016
byvan03:



Exactly, that's why I really doubt the intelligence of men that fall for " women always forgive blah blah ". They clap back and face front, marriage continues.

Which one be clapping again? grin
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by ronald4lif(m): 12:04am On Jan 17, 2016
I don't think I can forgive a cheating wife. Mbanu.

But I'm hoping to be forgiven if erred. Too many ravishing and alluring women out there to be moored by one.

Onwe kwa ka odi na nwoke ka ne eri nani ofe egusi till onwuo. Ari ka ta egusi erienu ofe ogbono, o nwe di nu ka ana eme. Didn't say anything sha, just passing.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by byvan03: 12:09am On Jan 17, 2016
bukatyne:


Which one be clapping again? grin


Lol, Buka how body jare?
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nitefury: 12:11am On Jan 17, 2016
bukatyne:


Which one be clapping again? grin

Clap back: Revenge, Cheat back, Do back, Do same etc..

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by jagagbosa(m): 12:31am On Jan 17, 2016
They see it as a disrespect to there manhood and the world in general or let me say africa tradition have little or no regard for women...a case study is how when a woman gives birth to a boy d whole family would b happy but if na girl for there mind dem go blike well you try at least you born something...a wife must be respected, a wife must be loved and rod well and na only she you must rod till you die...take my advice or leave am for me make I use am #gbam

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 1:20am On Jan 17, 2016
ronald4lif:
I don't think I can forgive a cheating wife. Mbanu.

But I'm hoping to be forgiven if erred. Too many ravishing and alluring women out there to be moored by one.

Onwe kwa ka odi na nwoke ka ne eri nani ofe egusi till onwuo. Ari ka ta egusi erienu ofe ogbono, o nwe di nu ka ana eme. Didn't say anything sha, just passing.
Eeeeeeeeeehhbhhh

But you want to be forgivenshocked

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by ronald4lif(m): 1:37am On Jan 17, 2016
daretodiffer:

Eeeeeeeeeehhbhhh

But you want to be forgivenshocked

I said I was just passing by. Please allow me pass peacefully. sad

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 1:50am On Jan 17, 2016
ronald4lif:


I said I was just passing by. Please allow me pass peacefully. sad

smiley
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Truckpusher(m): 1:54am On Jan 17, 2016
ronald4lif:


I said I was just passing by. Please allow me pass peacefully. sad
grin grin grin

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 2:01am On Jan 17, 2016
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by ronald4lif(m): 2:07am On Jan 17, 2016
daretodiffer:


smiley

You see, I don't usually like to involve in threads that has to do with cheating, whether male or female coz it's one issue that I personally don't know how to address.

I've think, think hard and battle with my conscience about this cheating of a thing especially in regards to men but to know avail.

I'm vincible to cheating and I don't know what it will take to correct this queer behaviour. I can't say I'm inclined to cheat coz of my gender, no, that would amount to making silly excuses, but rather coz of my distinct character as a person. And I admit is an aberrant attitude and take responsibility.

I mean we all have weakness, everyone does, and an inability to control my urges is one of mine. But that doesn't mean I'm a dog who ravage every meat at his disposal. Biko, don't ask why I can't forgive wifey if she does same. Ende.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 2:08am On Jan 17, 2016
ronald4lif:


You see, I don't usually like to involve in threads that has to do with cheating, whether male or female coz it's one issue that I personally don't know how to address.

I've think, think hard and battle with my conscience about this cheating of a thing especially in regards to men but to know avail.

I'm vincible to cheating and I don't know what it will take to correct this queer behaviour. I can't say I'm inclined to cheat coz of my gender, no, that would amount to making silly excuses, but rather coz of my distinct character as a person. And I admit is an aberrant attitude and take responsibility.

I mean we all have weakness, everyone does, and an inability to control my urges is one of mine. But that doesn't mean I'm a dog who ravage every meat at his disposal. Biko, don't ask why I can't forgive wifey if she does same. Ende.

I understand you. However ib dunt understand why you won't forgive your wife o undecided

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by ronald4lif(m): 2:09am On Jan 17, 2016
Truckpusher:
grin grin grin

Egbon, you go fear question o. grin
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 6:10am On Jan 17, 2016
I really hope my spouse doesn't cheat on me because hmmm, the way I take revenge so serious I doubt we will ever be able to coexist peacefully after I am done with my extremely vindictive payback. He would hate me too much.
I really hope he doesn't cheat sha.
Or if he cheats that he hides it from me very well so that I never find out.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by EfemenaXY: 6:15am On Jan 17, 2016
fellis:
I really hope my spouse doesn't cheat on me because hmmm, the way I take revenge so serious I doubt we will ever be able to coexist peacefully after I am done with my extremely vindictive payback. He would hate me too much.
I really hope he doesn't cheat sha.
Or if he cheats that he hides it from me very well so that I never find out.

grin grin grin

How vindictive can your payback be?
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 7:59am On Jan 17, 2016
McSquishi:
I was saying the singular act the op's topic discussed is cheating. Thus suggesting that I am judging based on one character trait is sorta silly as only one "character flaw" is the topic of discussion.

You made the following statement:

The truth of the matter is that cheating is just a sign of ones bad character.

And I disagree here because someone may cheat and still be a wonderful person otherwise.

Earlier I commented that I was taught lying & cheating are morally wrong and u replied "who wasn't"... So, now I'm confused at your attempt to justify cheating and hesitation to label it "bad".

Here we go again. There is a HUGE difference between saying that cheating is bad and saying that a cheater is a bad person.

Entering into a monogamous relationship is a voluntary act. It's a promise to your partner that you'll be faithful. Breaking that promise is a character flaw, it shows bad character.

Since we all have character flaws, we are all bad people according to your logic.

If you don't agree with that, that's fine. Going back and forth is pointless though.

No, it isn't.

Have you ever lied in your life? I am sure you have. Lying is bad so you are a bad character, aren't you?

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 8:00am On Jan 17, 2016
EfemenaXY:


grin grin grin

How vindictive can your payback be?

Good morning kiss
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 8:05am On Jan 17, 2016
ronald4lif:


You see, I don't usually like to involve in threads that has to do with cheating, whether male or female coz it's one issue that I personally don't know how to address.

I've think, think hard and battle with my conscience about this cheating of a thing especially in regards to men but to know avail.

I'm vincible to cheating and I don't know what it will take to correct this queer behaviour. I can't say I'm inclined to cheat coz of my gender, no, that would amount to making silly excuses, but rather coz of my distinct character as a person. And I admit is an aberrant attitude and take responsibility.

I mean we all have weakness, everyone does, and an inability to control my urges is one of mine. But that doesn't mean I'm a dog who ravage every meat at his disposal. Biko, don't ask why I can't forgive wifey if she does same. Ende.

I wouldn't call it queer behavior.

Maybe you should stay true to yourself and re-consider whether a monogamous relationship is your preference instead of beating up on yourself to fit into societal conventions, which do not do yourself and they way you are any justice.

We have been brainwashed into believing that we can only love and desire one person and we should be doing so for the rest of our lives when in fact our natural inclination is a different one.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by cherryice(f): 8:28am On Jan 17, 2016
cococandy:
Story story.
Most women forgive ke
And most men don't forgive.

More stories. grin
They aint seen nothing yet grin
They must think us to be choiceless fellows

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by cherryice(f): 8:29am On Jan 17, 2016
ronald4lif:
I don't think I can forgive a cheating wife. Mbanu.

But I'm hoping to be forgiven if erred. Too many ravishing and alluring women out there to be moored by one.

Onwe kwa ka odi na nwoke ka ne eri nani ofe egusi till onwuo. Ari ka ta egusi erienu ofe ogbono, o nwe di nu ka ana eme. Didn't say anything sha, just passing.
so u don join dem undecided

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by mostyg(m): 8:56am On Jan 17, 2016
Why would someone.cheat in the first instance? Neither a man nor a woman should cheat in a relationship and if such happened, the choice of forgiveness lies on the party cheated.

Is there any woman that would be proud to come out and say " I cheated on my husband but he has forgiven me"

If a man could not make issue out of a cheating wife, he simply doesn't love the wife.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by mostyg(m): 9:02am On Jan 17, 2016
Mindfulness:


I wouldn't call it queer behavior.

Maybe you should stay true to yourself and re-consider whether a monogamous relationship is your preference instead of beating up on yourself to fit into societal conventions, which do not do yourself and they way you are any justice.

We have been brainwashed into believing that we can only love and desire one person and we should be doing so for the rest of our lives when in fact our natural inclination is a different one.

If I were to summarize your assertion to the best of my understanding, you are implying polygamy.

Please do correct me if I am wrong.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by EfemenaXY: 9:02am On Jan 17, 2016
Mindfulness:


Good morning kiss

Morning dear. Happy Sunday! kiss

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by EfemenaXY: 9:04am On Jan 17, 2016
Mindfulness:


I wouldn't call it queer behavior.

Maybe you should stay true to yourself and re-consider whether a monogamous relationship is your preference instead of beating up on yourself to fit into societal conventions, which do not do yourself and they way you are any justice.

We have been brainwashed into believing that we can only love and desire one person and we should be doing so for the rest of our lives when in fact our natural inclination is a different one.

shocked shocked shocked

Mindfulness!! cheesy
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 9:11am On Jan 17, 2016
mostyg:


If I were to summarize your assertion to the best of my understanding, you are implying polygamy.

Please do correct me if I am wrong.

For those who want it, yes!
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 9:11am On Jan 17, 2016
EfemenaXY:


Morning dear. Happy Sunday! kiss

Thank you! cheesy smiley Happy Sunday! kiss
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 9:12am On Jan 17, 2016
EfemenaXY:


shocked shocked shocked

Mindfulness!! cheesy

Why are you so shocked? tongue
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 9:36am On Jan 17, 2016
mostyg:
Why would someone.cheat in the first instance? Neither a man nor a woman should cheat in a relationship and if such happened, the choice of forgiveness lies on the party cheated.

Is there any woman that would be proud to come out and say " I cheated on my husband but he has forgiven me"

If a man could not make issue out of a cheating wife, he simply doesn't love the wife.

@bold

Because ...

- they want to have their cake and eat it
- one of the partners has let him-/herself go and is no longer sexually appealing
- one of the spouses has a decreased libido and does no longer satisfy the other one
- the spark is gone
- for fun of tasting the forbidden fruit
- some people discover that they are polygamous in nature some years into the marriage
- the marriage is frustrating
- someone else is willing to give them something they miss
- one of the spouses has a fetish s/he cannot live out in the marriage
- they have an opportunity to do so without being caught
- they do not consider it morally wrong
- they can
- they married their spouse for wrong reasons
- they feel neglected and unloved
- to take revenge
- ...

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 9:46am On Jan 17, 2016
The truth is the bitter pill to swallow. I cosign "Mindfulness" on this thread.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by Nobody: 9:48am On Jan 17, 2016
EnlightenedSoul:
The bitter truth. I cosign "Mindfulness" on this thread.

Good morning smiley

Just that I don't think that the truth is bitter. smiley
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:50am On Jan 17, 2016
DeMekus:
It's nature. As singles, women cheat more but are less likely to cheat than men in marriage.
A cheating married man would not be praised but the society would not totally condemn him either.
But a cheating married woman would not only be condemned but rejected by fellow women. It's God's doing and we can't question Him.
God's doing? Story... well, goodnews is that some women don't give a hoot abt "society" or anything anymore. grin

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Wife? by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:53am On Jan 17, 2016
StefanSalvatore:
Bcuz we've paid their dowries, they belong 2 us n 2 us alone
hehe... Thank God we don't collect dowries in my clan. You don't own your wife! Jeezz undecided . You wish that she belongs to you alone. grin . Keep cheating and she cheats too with a better man in all ramification wink

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