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Op, I can understand your position. I will advise you on two points which might help,
1. Try to discuss your fears and concerns with him. Open up on your feelings, some men like it than leaving them in confusion.
2. Do you have an outdoor activities in your relationship? The moments spent outside will help you. It cld be picnics, cinemas, lounges, parties or a ride in town. They will make you want him more than usual indoor activities.
Cheers

sickstars:
Na am good

was actually joking tho

Gabaleve:
was actually joking tho

Wasnt even bothered

sickstars:
Wasnt even bothered

yeah...ur badluck wit guys is enough to bother about

sickstars:
Wasnt even bothered

yeah...ur badluck wit guys is enough to bother about

Gabaleve:
yeah...ur badluck wit guys is enough to bother about

Tank u

Hmmm you would get thru it

jamela:
Could you explain why you think that is the OPs case?

it's obvious she's not happy doing what she see herself doing. Besides, I've had such experience and it was after my deliverance that I was able to chose and settle down

Michizzy:
Yes. How did you know?

Hehehe! I use glasses too.

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

have u been raped or abused sexually before,or been heartbroken in the past...u could be acting that way because of ur baggage......not always in the mood for sex....hope u don't masturbate,if yes u need to stop cos it messes the mind up for real sex..my piece of advice. #isgrafiti

[quote author=rockstarB post=42071485]You sound like you are suffering from some kind of depression.
Do you problems with work or finances?
I suspect also that your friends are few.
Confide in some of your friends who are in relationships. Talk it over with them and I am sure they will give you useful clues.

bigiyaro:
u can try the guidance and counseling dept of a church, hospital or an NGO involved in social networking or charity. Gud luck. If you are in jos, i can help you further.

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Ok thanks
oh,,,i don't live in jos.

sambisa5:
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Ok thanks
oh,,,i don't live in jos.

u can also try some Gud books. I 'll recommend if you want.

bigiyaro:
u can also try some Gud books. I 'll recommend if you want.

pls do,,,, am interested

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

you know your problem. try to be more extrovert

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

you are just exactly like the girl I broke up with recently,,truth is,u can't have a relationship while ure still like this,,your guy will soon leave you except you change,,,,,,,,so what do u do now,go meet a therapist and work on urself or u leave him cos ure just wasting the young man's time

accelion:
I wish I could talk to this your man, all he needs to do is to just make you feel jealous and so unimportant. Even you yourself won't believe how fast your brain would reset. If you already are these bad with the relationship, what then are you contributing to it? Wetin the man dey benefit from you? Lose your man and feel the heat!

it won't just work,u dnt know how these kind of people reason,,the jealousy won't get to them,,i dated one like that,just 2 months I took to my heels,nothing seems to work on them,they are not caring,they hate sex,,so many things,,it could even be more spiritual than physical

Can you contact me i have information for you

Mitcheeeeeeew......d OP is jst sefish as far as I'm concerned....u av a faithful Guy arnd itz a problem u av a cheating guy arnd itz anoda problem so wat do women rili want? Oya kip ur pv55y to ursef if itz sucha big deal na

is it still that guy dat demand money from u back then

everything u talk here from a to z is just abuh my babe..but I just think is bcuz we are still young..I won't lie its annoying sometimes...

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

Nid help as well
Hvin d same problems tho nt introvert
Jus feel vry vry vry depressed sumtyms