ebujany:
Was there an agreement between your uncle, you and your parent's? If there is,then you need to have a one on one chat with him, let him know his deviating from the initial agreement. Tell him your state of mind

Sonoflord:
Yes there was an agreement we made sir

Diamond23:
i would advise u to have patience till d 7yrs agreement cux anything u do now will be used against u which may even leads to not settling u..... xo just endure!

NeeKlaus:

C'mon naa! He should endure for 7 years? He should continue working as a "maid" for 7 years when his ultimate intention was to serve his Uncle business wise? No naa.

The best thing is to sit down with his Uncle and remind him that he is deviating from the original plan. If the Uncle decides to be obstinate, then he can involve his parents. Or better still, leave the house as soon as possible instead of wasting his prime years there.

Diamond23:
Y I said so z because he might v served him for 3-4yrs. If u know how most of behave den u understand ma reasons. Sometimes dey even discharge der apprentice once z time for settlement xo in order not to give one stupid excuse he should just v patient

NeeKlaus:

Okay. Yes, some Masters can be very unreasonable but still, it is better to lose 3-4 years than to lose the entire 7 and come out with nothing. There is no joy in adversity.

Somehow u r right shaa ....but I believe he z luking for a reason to send him parking

Diamond23:
Somehow u r right shaa ....but I believe he z luking for a reason to send him parking

Eberechi24:


talk your boss first then, remind him again your reason for being in his house, if he care-less then you involve your parents.

if they are in need of house help, they should get one.

NeeKlaus post=67790693:

C'mon naa! He should endure for 7 years? He should continue working as a "maid" for 7 years when his ultimate intention was to serve his Uncle business wise? No naa.

The best thing is to sit down with his Uncle and remind him that he is deviating from the original plan. If the Uncle decides to be obstinate, then he can involve his parents. Or better still, leave the house as soon as possible instead of wasting his prime years there.

don't play with ur prime age

Eberechi24:


talk your boss first then, remind him again your reason for being in his house, if he care-less then you involve your parents.

if they are in need of house help, they should get one.

don't play with ur prime age

Diamond23:
i would advise u to have patience till d 7yrs agreement cux anything u do now will be used against u which may even leads to not settling u..... xo just endure!

RuthDaniels:
If you are not comfortable with your position,change it. Your destiny is in your hands

Sonoflord:
thank you for your inspirational comment Ruth

You are welcome

Sonoflord:
they are destabilising my emotions and you say I should have patience.

No ooh

How much with he settle me with after 7yrs just 1000000 I could possible make if I was only my own. But that's not what am counting.

donstan18:
I need to be honest with you Mr man.

Your agreement with him was to SERVE him and getting settled after seven years. This is part of the service you are to render.

There's a thing line between serving an OGA and learning skills from an OGA.

You pay to learn skills, while you get paid to serve. Any mistake you make now out of anger will have your years of services with him wasted.

kimbraa:
You got it all wrong.

See...There's this tradition among Igbo business men that as they grow, business wise, they'd plant their brothers, relatives, or acquaintants in the same business line as they. How is it done? They go to the village and pick an able youth, then make a pack with their parents that the boy would serve them for years, depending on how long it would take to learn that trade properly and when the number of years has completed, the boy would be settled with a certain amount of money and a shop which is optional to go into what he has learnt in that trade independently.

An agreement is an agreement and people should learn how to honour that. Being a student doesn't mean you have to work for any lecturer 'cause working for a lecturer wasn't part of the admission letter you got.

Op, tell your oga your plight, and see his response.

Sonoflord:
He got married to a lazy wife that can't do everything a married woman could do, since he got married they have turn me from a serving Boy to his business to a house maid.

MORE THAN 90% OF NIGERIAN WIVES ARE USUALLY GOOD FOR NOTHING.

THEY CANNOT SURVIVE WITHOUT MAIDS, HELPERS, AND EXCUSES FOR THEIR INABILITY TO DO ANYTHING ASIDES GETTING PREGNANT.

donstan18:


Agreement is agreement, you said. Did he tell us the agreement of the service he opted for? And beside he's living with them, you don't expect his uncle's wife to be extra cool with him. You know how you ladies behave.

I'm an Igbo man. Wallah it's better to serve a stranger than to serve your relative. You may not understand.

You said working for lecturer wasn't part of the admission letter? Nne, if your project supervisor give you a work to do. Will you question him/her?

kimbraa:
We already know what the usual agreement is in trade serving, and it's exactly what the guy said. That said, it depends on the kind of relative you serve as some could come off extremely nice while the so called stranger may act like a stranger.

My project supervisor doesn't have any right to give me any job that isn't within the scope of my project. I'm not his slave so drop this mentality.

donstan18:


You may have a point, but I still think he should endure to the end. Good things don't come easily, successful men v'got stories, any further attempt to cause fracas between him and his uncle's wife might have his past years of services wasted.


You haven't answered me. If your project supervisor give you a work to do, will you tell him/her that you are not a slave, that the mentality needs to be dropped?

I wan make you lie now make ogun kill you

donstan18:


You may have a point, but I still think he should endure to the end. Good things don't come easily, successful men v'got stories, any further attempt to cause fracas between him and his uncle's wife might have his past years of services wasted.


You haven't answered me. If your project supervisor give you a work to do, will you tell him/her that you are not a slave, that the mentality needs to be dropped?

I wan make you lie now make ogun kill you

Sonoflord:
there's no good thing am going to see than 1000000 afterwards.

Have you been in a situation that destabilize your emotions or make you feel Dejected every day.

I have endure enough bro for 2yrs+ I had been enduring bro

kimbraa:
There are errands students are allowed to run for their lecturers while there are those that even the school authority won't consent. That he's my project supervisor doesn't mean he has got the rights to ask any of his student to go cook for him in his house, but students are allowed to run errands like buying their lecture lunch or any other that's within the campus which is considered petty.

donstan18:


Mr man. I'm obviously not a type that will be touched with a well sympathy constructed stories.

Now let me ask. Will you love to live with him while you serve him or rent a house with your money while you serve him for years.

Our problem is that we hate challenges, we all want to be going smoothly. The single uncle you use to know is now not the married uncle you know.

Furthermore on advice; make his wife your friend.