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pulsa:
shey I tell you say I no know ni , me just dey whine you abi person no fit whine you again ni
shey I tell you say I no know ni , me just dey whine you abi person no fit whine you again ni

Drefan:
Great write-up. So on point! I wonder the motive the first person who brought about this 'hard to get' bullshït had. Or what she was really trying to prove. I did rather preoccupy myself with complicated mathematical equations. Try indian guys. Naija guys aren't blessed with such endurance.

Fourwinds:
dats where u are getting it wrong...yes of today is different from yes of three yes ok


u no hear say time na money....

if u are not interested just say it within a week., a month or maximum two months.....

sage2:
You have a point. But, you see, Nigerians have ruined a lot of goodwill already.

Fourwinds:
I agree with u... yet without formalizing d friendship some ladies will go ahead to request for recharge cards, clothes., phones etc..

I encounter a girl who demanded for ring after fews months into dating without allowing me to see her people... I was amaze dat such people exist...

for me if. I no date. u reach. ur. people, we never serious for dating be dat

sage2:
You are not a Nigerian lady, right?

Oliviaarims:
Lol.. She was asking for a ring? Really?

Harbigail:
Lolz, Naija born.its just ma person.some people just take life too seriously...

Oliviaarims:
Lol.. She was asking for a ring? Really?

Rapmoney:
There is always this misconception among our young Nigerian ladies of today that playing 'hard to get' is the sure way of identifying a guy who truly desires and cherishes them. This notion is not only fallacious, it also stands on a sinking foundation! There are guys who would play along with you to the end just to 'get down with you' and eventually show you the EXIT SIGN when it is time for them to take a leave It doesn't matter the method you use in playing the so-called 'hard to get'. If you like, do it in a Chinese style or Zimbabwean style!!! Dat nor be dia concern!!!

On a serious note, that a guy doesn't have time to start running after you like a kindergaten child doesn't mean he never desired you or liked you in sincerity. Different strokes for different folks, they say Below are the types of guys that find it difficult to tolerate 'hard to get' in romantic affairs:

1) Intelligent guys: These set of guys find it difficult to tolerate all the unnecessary rigmarole that comes with a lady playing hard-to-get. Do you think an intelligent person doesn't know he is? You cannot be the one to tell him; he knows it. He probably has some real brain-storming stuffs to do that can create wealth and help others as well other than chasing you up and down the road or calling your line several times without any response on daily basis!

2) Ambitious guys: When I say 'ambitious', I'm not talking of guys who wake up in the morning with huge wraps of indian hemp in their hands with loud talk of 'I go hammer, I go hammer'!!! I mean guys who have concrete dreams and are working towards it. They probably won't have time to chase you here and there when they know they have lot and lot of work to do. There's a difference between chasing women and dating a girl; you probably don't expect the latter to slow down his dreams! He might need you sincerely; he doesn't want to chase women

3) Guys that are emotionally strong: It takes an emotionally strong bloke to turn down the unreasonable request of a woman in a reasonable way. This means that guys who are emotionally strong have a greater possibility of saying 'NO' to the ritualistic torture or torment that goes with playing hard-to-get. They might easily back up. That doesn't mean they lacked sincere desires or are feeble-minded; it could mean that they are just too emotionally upgraded to start playing the role of a primary school boy in a movie directed by the lady!

4) Introverted guys: These people think very deeply because they spend much time alone. When a lady plays hard to get, it irritates them often times and they quickly dump her matter!!! Now, what's the stress? Since he is a deep thinker and probably a melancholic, he might paint a beautiful picture of love for you in his heart and when you mess up with your hard-to-get stunts, he quickly gives up because you not only burst his bubbles; you spoil the beautiful picture he employs his creativity painting.

Good evening!

HungerBAD:
Bros.

If you jam better woman wey dey play hard to get,bros continue to pursue her oh.

Better women scarce.

CaroLyner:
what are you telling me.even intelligent guys chase girls.
teamhardtoget#

sage2:
Then you need to do more. You need to preach the message to all your Naija sisters. They are really turning things up, side, down.

HungerBAD:
Bros.

If you jam better woman wey dey play hard to get,bros continue to pursue her oh.

Better women scarce.

AyamConfidence:
Matthew 7:7 says 'ask and it shall be given you' she knew that and followed it...no harm in trying na

Fourwinds:
yes oooo... y are girls always insecure when a guy who is really serious with them ask questions.

Edipee:
Someone is dissecting me here. But I thank God for giving me a lady that understands me. Cc. Mznaett

Rapmoney:
There is always this misconception among our young Nigerian ladies of today that playing 'hard to get' is the sure way of identifying a guy who truly desires and cherishes them. This notion is not only fallacious, it also stands on a sinking foundation! There are guys who would play along with you to the end just to 'get down with you' and eventually show you the EXIT SIGN when it is time for them to take a leave It doesn't matter the method you use in playing the so-called 'hard to get'. If you like, do it in a Chinese style or Zimbabwean style!!! Dat nor be dia concern!!!
This speaks me. Though, not an introvert.

On a serious note, that a guy doesn't have time to start running after you like a kindergaten child doesn't mean he never desired you or liked you in sincerity. Different strokes for different folks, they say Below are the types of guys that find it difficult to tolerate 'hard to get' in romantic affairs:

1) Intelligent guys: These set of guys find it difficult to tolerate all the unnecessary rigmarole that comes with a lady playing hard-to-get. Do you think an intelligent person doesn't know he is? You cannot be the one to tell him; he knows it. He probably has some real brain-storming stuffs to do that can create wealth and help others as well other than chasing you up and down the road or calling your line several times without any response on daily basis!

2) Ambitious guys: When I say 'ambitious', I'm not talking of guys who wake up in the morning with huge wraps of indian hemp in their hands with loud talk of 'I go hammer, I go hammer'!!! I mean guys who have concrete dreams and are working towards it. They probably won't have time to chase you here and there when they know they have lot and lot of work to do. There's a difference between chasing women and dating a girl; you probably don't expect the latter to slow down his dreams! He might need you sincerely; he doesn't want to chase women

3) Guys that are emotionally strong: It takes an emotionally strong bloke to turn down the unreasonable request of a woman in a reasonable way. This means that guys who are emotionally strong have a greater possibility of saying 'NO' to the ritualistic torture or torment that goes with playing hard-to-get. They might easily back up. That doesn't mean they lacked sincere desires or are feeble-minded; it could mean that they are just too emotionally upgraded to start playing the role of a primary school boy in a movie directed by the lady!

4) Introverted guys: These people think very deeply because they spend much time alone. When a lady plays hard to get, it irritates them often times and they quickly dump her matter!!! Now, what's the stress? Since he is a deep thinker and probably a melancholic, he might paint a beautiful picture of love for you in his heart and when you mess up with your hard-to-get stunts, he quickly gives up because you not only burst his bubbles; you spoil the beautiful picture he employs his creativity painting.

Good evening!

tosyne2much:
I will surely register my presence on a thread like this. Rapmoney, nice write-up and thanks for the mention


Ladies who play hard-to-get are usually dumb skull, flirt, gold-diggers, delusional, indecisive, re.tard, arrogant, pompous, proud and full of over-bloated ego. These people don't know what they want in life. However, their decisions are usually based on the appraisal and interest of their so called friends which land many of them into late or failed marriage. Yoruba adage says "only a foolish person smells what he knows he will not eat


Lemme quickly add mine


*clears throat*

5. Guys with high self esteem

Guys who hold themselves in high self esteem don't go about gracing the floor just to have a lady playing one yeye hard to get. As for me, I have no atom of regard for ladies who act as if every potential suitor should be treated and screened like Multina Dance Hall Audition. I will smh 4 such a lady for being indecisive, I will therefore lose my respect for her and my chase for her will dwindle afterwards


6. Handsome Dudes

I have noticed that only below average looking guys (I don't want to use the word ugly) that usually force themselves on ladies. Since they don't look good and attractive, they withstand any poo and are always acting like a puppet even if a lady treats them like Dangote bag of cement. But when a dude is very handsome, swagful, sophisticated, wears good clothings and perfume, his market value will increase, so your hard-to-get will only haunt you

7. Nairaland Moderators

If you play hard-to-get to people like Lalasticlala, Mynd44 and Obinoscopy, I'm sorry your dad will end up placing you on OLX. This is because they've got so many nairaland babes at the tip of the fingers, so dem no get time


Guys let's do a survey


Click Like if you detest ladies who waste your time by playing hard-to-get, otherwise, click Share

SenatorJames:
Nice one brother. Hope this your survey is not another marketting strategy for likes. God is watching you in 3D.

Baba, na strategy I use oooo

Rapmoney:
There is always this misconception among our young Nigerian ladies of today that playing 'hard to get' is the sure way of identifying a guy who truly desires and cherishes them. This notion is not only fallacious, it also stands on a sinking foundation! There are guys who would play along with you to the end just to 'get down with you' and eventually show you the EXIT SIGN when it is time for them to take a leave It doesn't matter the method you use in playing the so-called 'hard to get'. If you like, do it in a Chinese style or Zimbabwean style!!! Dat nor be dia concern!!!

On a serious note, that a guy doesn't have time to start running after you like a kindergaten child doesn't mean he never desired you or liked you in sincerity. Different strokes for different folks, they say Below are the types of guys that find it difficult to tolerate 'hard to get' in romantic affairs:

1) Intelligent guys: These set of guys find it difficult to tolerate all the unnecessary rigmarole that comes with a lady playing hard-to-get. Do you think an intelligent person doesn't know he is? You cannot be the one to tell him; he knows it. He probably has some real brain-storming stuffs to do that can create wealth and help others as well other than chasing you up and down the road or calling your line several times without any response on daily basis!

2) Ambitious guys: When I say 'ambitious', I'm not talking of guys who wake up in the morning with huge wraps of indian hemp in their hands with loud talk of 'I go hammer, I go hammer'!!! I mean guys who have concrete dreams and are working towards it. They probably won't have time to chase you here and there when they know they have lot and lot of work to do. There's a difference between chasing women and dating a girl; you probably don't expect the latter to slow down his dreams! He might need you sincerely; he doesn't want to chase women

3) Guys that are emotionally strong: It takes an emotionally strong bloke to turn down the unreasonable request of a woman in a reasonable way. This means that guys who are emotionally strong have a greater possibility of saying 'NO' to the ritualistic torture or torment that goes with playing hard-to-get. They might easily back up. That doesn't mean they lacked sincere desires or are feeble-minded; it could mean that they are just too emotionally upgraded to start playing the role of a primary school boy in a movie directed by the lady!

4) Introverted guys: These people think very deeply because they spend much time alone. When a lady plays hard to get, it irritates them often times and they quickly dump her matter!!! Now, what's the stress? Since he is a deep thinker and probably a melancholic, he might paint a beautiful picture of love for you in his heart and when you mess up with your hard-to-get stunts, he quickly gives up because you not only burst his bubbles; you spoil the beautiful picture he employs his creativity painting.

Good evening!

YuckFou:
Not true at all. Mumu, anything that comes too easily ials not as appreciated. That's just human nature.

ehissi:
Backup plans............Haaaaaaaaa!!

Well that's your opinion, but I don't believe you are wrong.........I know you are wrong. Till today, there are folks who still try to woo her even as she is right now.

If she were someone who is fickle, or materialistic, I for nor even see her sef greet not to talk of date, not to even mention capture.

For those who try to woo her, who seem matured and understanding, all she has to do is sit them down and let them know that they came late; and that she's committed to someone else and that's all.........some of them sef end up becoming very good friends of us both when they hear our story. I'm talking about the matured ones among them Ooh, of which I still handle those kinda folks with great care.

As far as love goes well: a Man I respect told me something interesting.

Don't ever believe or say that you love someone or you are attracted to someone and that's why you are married to them or want to get married to them. You are very wrong, because in this world, there are over 6 billion wonderful created by God that you are yet to experience. You will marry and still find out that you love or attracted to someone else for one reason or the other - be it physique, special quality or attribute etc.

This he believes, is why the Bible never teaches us to choose to marry who we love, but rather to love who we choose to marry.

This is why its wise to first consider the character of the person and the goals,plans and ambitions he/she has and you have for your own life; if the lady or guy's life or where the fellow is going with his/her life is desirable and there is love and an attraction to the fellow, then give the fellow a chance. And start observing the fellow and build a foundation of trust!

Some ladies just get close to a guy they feel can take care of them, after all he is working and after the wedding he insists you must drop ya degree and do housewife against your own God given dreams/goals. Quarrel in the home starts, meanwhile he is attracted to one lady with very big yansh - bigger that the one that attracted him to his wife - in his office whey dey cut eye for am; before you know it, he will say he loves that one better than his wife, after all his wife sef dey give am headache for house. Before you know the marriage start loosing it grips on them both, madam is systematically neglected, divorce/separation is just around the corner, simply because you guys no take time build trust and establish what your goals in life are and see if each other plans/character fits!!

This is exactly how purpose driven relationships and marriages are born.

For me Marriage isn't a relationship, its something that's supposed to reaffirm the relationship; and if the relationship isn't strong enough or both parties aren't totally committed to the relationship before the marriage. Then your wedding/marriage is just a waste of logistics. This is one reason I and the person I am with individually never believed in double dating or "sampling"!!

Focus on a fellow and totally observe the human being. No-one is perfect, no matter how trickish or smart the fellow is, time will reveal his/her true colour!! But when you have like 2 or 3 persons that you put on a list that you are trying to observe at the same time; you may just make errors!! Dating and observing one person is almost like a full-time Job, you na 3 U wan observe, say wetin happen!!?? U na INEC staff or are U an election observer!!

Rapmoney:
There is always this misconception among our young Nigerian ladies of today that playing 'hard to get' is the sure way of identifying a guy who truly desires and cherishes them. This notion is not only fallacious, it also stands on a sinking foundation! There are guys who would play along with you to the end just to 'get down with you' and eventually show you the EXIT SIGN when it is time for them to take a leave It doesn't matter the method you use in playing the so-called 'hard to get'. If you like, do it in a Chinese style or Zimbabwean style!!! Dat nor be dia concern!!!

On a serious note, that a guy doesn't have time to start running after you like a kindergaten child doesn't mean he never desired you or liked you in sincerity. Different strokes for different folks, they say Below are the types of guys that find it difficult to tolerate 'hard to get' in romantic affairs:

1) Intelligent guys: These set of guys find it difficult to tolerate all the unnecessary rigmarole that comes with a lady playing hard-to-get. Do you think an intelligent person doesn't know he is? You cannot be the one to tell him; he knows it. He probably has some real brain-storming stuffs to do that can create wealth and help others as well other than chasing you up and down the road or calling your line several times without any response on daily basis!

2) Ambitious guys: When I say 'ambitious', I'm not talking of guys who wake up in the morning with huge wraps of indian hemp in their hands with loud talk of 'I go hammer, I go hammer'!!! I mean guys who have concrete dreams and are working towards it. They probably won't have time to chase you here and there when they know they have lot and lot of work to do. There's a difference between chasing women and dating a girl; you probably don't expect the latter to slow down his dreams! He might need you sincerely; he doesn't want to chase women

3) Guys that are emotionally strong: It takes an emotionally strong bloke to turn down the unreasonable request of a woman in a reasonable way. This means that guys who are emotionally strong have a greater possibility of saying 'NO' to the ritualistic torture or torment that goes with playing hard-to-get. They might easily back up. That doesn't mean they lacked sincere desires or are feeble-minded; it could mean that they are just too emotionally upgraded to start playing the role of a primary school boy in a movie directed by the lady!

4) Introverted guys: These people think very deeply because they spend much time alone. When a lady plays hard to get, it irritates them often times and they quickly dump her matter!!! Now, what's the stress? Since he is a deep thinker and probably a melancholic, he might paint a beautiful picture of love for you in his heart and when you mess up with your hard-to-get stunts, he quickly gives up because you not only burst his bubbles; you spoil the beautiful picture he employs his creativity painting.

Good evening!

kuchikau:
...

It is forbidden that I approach a girl more than once.
A principle i adhere strictly to.

kuchikau:
...

It is forbidden that I approach a girl more than once.
A principle i adhere strictly to.