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AlexCk:
no need to get jealous, u guys are a team. it takes 2 to whisper quietly. just try to whop his ass in the competition shaaa. hehehehe.

Suigeneris93:

Aiit, thanks

Suigeneris93:
No I won't but my fear is if he starts applying for all the other competitions I'm applying for in future. I don't want to create that sense of competition in the relationship. I'm happy doing my thing away from him...we have other mutual interests, I don't feel comfortable with it being writing especially for contests and competitions.

Oliviaarims:
I get the scenario... The relationship might take an awkward tilt if he continues to apply for the same competitions as u... But for now, it hasn't happened. Just take this one in good faith, and see what happens from there... Goodluck.

MrsPhyno:
I'm actually not the person to ask about this subject because I've never experienced the emotion jealousy before in my life

Anyways, what I can say is to try to quash the emotion cause its really unhealthy for you. If you must compete, let it be friendly competition and of coz, make sure you "win"

Like other people have said, this isn't really a big deal, but little things can become real issues in relationships. Try not to have just one "thing"; one area of expertise. You should also get into "science" or whatever it is your guy is doing. So you can both be jacks of all trades and just be masters of different ones.

You really don't have an issue, just relax your mind. These types of things are all in the head

Dahveydson:
Rather too late, but I must comment!

Suigeneris93, if you feel that way, then I think there's a problem with the relationship. Regardless of the numerous advice on this thread, you should really assess the relationship and fix it.

Because I feel it should be a thing of joy for your bf/fiance/husband learning your craft and joining you in it to break boundaries and win trophies together as a team not competitors. And if you don't see yourselves as a team, then there is indeed a problem.

That's my 2Kobo. Again it's rather too late, but I must comment.

Suigeneris93:
Okay thanks, but we're past that now. The competition is for individuals and not teams. So from what I said earlier, I don't want to breed unnecessary competition...


Btw I see nothing wrong with my relationship, we were friends before we started dating and the last I checked we were individuals before we became a couple. So I have my interest and he had his, we support each other in our different fields. Anyways it turns out it was just a passing fancy

Dahveydson:
Great. I know it has passed. Just wanted to comment anyway.

valdes00:
Better question.... I swear u deserve 5k airtime for this question... jus chill mak I collect my contribution Dis month end

valdes00:
Better question.... I swear u deserve 5k airtime for this question... jus chill mak I collect my contribution Dis month end

DrTizzle:
In as much as you felt jealous, truth is you were only exhibiting a default behavioral pattern that revolves around an intrusion to one's territorial integrity. The best thing to do is make sure you stand your ground by putting in a double effort, so you stay five steps ahead of him always, otherwise, you'd be left questioning your sense of intelligence and before you know it, you might gradually start resenting him involuntarily. Psychology says, a rationally induced level of stimulus elucidates a genuine and involuntary sense of approach to an idea evoked by experience. Don't be a victim of ''delusions of immunity.'' Meaning, most people think themselves to believe they are physical, emotionally and mentally resistant to a thing, person, circumstance or a throbbing thought. As I said earlier, the fact that you felt the way you did, is normal because, ''behavioral psychology says it is.'' People that said, you shouldn't feel the way you did are naive and intellectually short sighted. finally, Behavioral psychology has an answer for you, which I already conveyed, so use it!

NemzySeries:
Even married pple get jealous of each orda @ times.......i tink u shd calm dwn & see him as a part of u & not a competitor.....on hiz part he shd av looked elsewhere.......probably hiz ignorant of d fact dat u guys heading dis way.......show ur selves more luv

Suigeneris93:
I'll try my best

So....who won?

Estharfabian:
So....who won?



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neither of us applied, I hope you weren't hoping for a follow up thread tho

chidiandre:
it shows he really cares... he's taking an Interest in what u do and u are still complaining

thanks but we're past that now

SINNZ:
What has writing got to do with your fuckship??

Decker:
It's normal for you to get jealous. Your writing was one thing you felt you were better than him at, it's what gave you the upper hand and made your feel special about yourself, and now it feels like he wants to take the shine away from you.

A dating/romantic relationship is just like your everyday friendship relationship, and those things that are applicable in a platonic friendship relationship, is also applicable in when dating.

It's just like you have a very close bestie who you both do everything together. And all through the years of your being together, you had big boobs while she had this small little onions. Then all of a sudden, her hormones kick in and she starts developing melons even bigger than yours. When this kind of thing happens, you are bound to get jealous, because although you love and care about her, the one thing that made you feel special about yourself is being slowly taken away from you.

Suigeneris93, like I said before, it's okay to feel jealous, but what you shouldn't do is breed this jealously. It's not healthy for you and for your relationship. When you make your mind a breeding ground for jealousy, you start developing hate and resentment.
One of the essential things a relationship needs for it's growth is support. You should learn to support your partner irrespective of whether he might turn out to be better than you or not in whatever field it is. Encourage him and take joy in the fact that you both now have something new in common. Something you can talk about and do together.