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I guess I should start this post by saying I lost my mojo...Nope! I never had one to begin with. I never had the skills of approaching ladies. All the girlfriends I have had in the past have always been by chance or the girls out-rightly walking up to me. Not that I am too shy to walk up to a girl, I just usually have the problem of how long it will all take to get the girl I walk up to to be my girlfriend. I have lived my life this way for the 34 years I have been on Earth, and I have been cool with it because my mind is always occupied with plans of achieving big things in life. Plans of being a best selling novelist...plans of being in the team of people that built a time machine...dreams of being a billionaire at 40...All these big dreams have made me put getting a girl to second place.


I know my story might sound like a pathetic case to a lot of people, but as they say- a problem shared is a problem solved. So, I am asking- How can I get a girlfriend.



A little about me. I am a graduate, in my mid 30s; I live in Lagos, work from home and also teach Secondary school students part-time; an introvert...

you dont need a girlfriend, you need a wife

Lemme get this straight...u came on NL to look for a girlfriend or wah?

At 34 you should be married with three kids.

Elosky20:
you dont need a girlfriend, you need a wife

Yes, I know. But she will be a girlfriend before she becomes a wife.

skarlett:
Lemme get this straight...u came on NL to look for a girlfriend or wah?

Nope. I came for advise on how to get a girlfriend.

christinie:
At 34 you should be married with three kids.

Thanks for your comment ma.

Approach any lady of your choice & say whatever that comes your mouth. Just be bold

IntrovertOlu:
Yes, I know. But she will be a girlfriend before she becomes a wife.

Said by who. my brother if u like marry ur girlfriend of 10 years or marry from your village and let love grow, it does nt extend the expiry date of ur union in God's eyes. Get a wife from the village and let God do the thinking please.

Chia ehya..Oh well don't rush things still.Maybe you have met anyone who makes you feel really different because if you see someone you really like,no amount of shyness will actually stop you.34 is quite late but still it's better to be happily married at 40 than to be in a failed marriage at 30 so don't rush.

futurerex:
Approach any lady of your choice & say whatever that comes your mouth. Just be bold

Okay.

Elosky20:
Said by who. my brother if u like marry ur girlfriend of 10 years or marry from your village and let love grow, it does nt extend the expiry date of ur union in God's eyes. Get a wife from the village and let God do the thinking please.

Thanks for your comment.

Rone16:
Chia ehya..Oh well don't rush things still.Maybe you have met anyone who makes you feel really different because if you see someone you really like,no amount of shyness will actually stop you.34 is quite late but still it's better to be happily married at 40 than to be in a failed marriage at 30 so don't rush.

Okay.

ehn......

EyaaaAa. Try on line dating facebook especially but look very well before you leap. All d best bro

IntrovertOlu:
Nope. I came for advise on how to get a girlfriend.

Phew! I almost tot that was u advertising yourself; slim, dark, stay in Lagos etc

You go like dis.
Hello watsup ,my name's john, I like ur color combination, it' matches ur body jus good, are you in 2 fashion styling,
Wow, so u're not a stylist and yet u cld combine colors dis good? Wow dat's really great,
, Guy jus meet the gal and start an interesting topic and ask her to join you in an outing some time soon and frm there tell her ur mind, gals don't eat people,I tell you they are the most wonderful creatures on earth! Believe me!

You are welcome sir.

IntrovertOlu:
Thanks for your comment ma.

Na wa for some guys here

at 34.....u try!

skarlett:
Phew! I almost tot that was u advertising yourself; slim, dark, stay in Lagos etc

I guess I wanted to give people a better picture...Let me remove that. Thanks for your comment.

Thanks for all the comments...insults and all. The thing about life is, everyone has a problem...Just because my own problem is not your problem doesn't mean you are better than me or that you don't have a problem. But it is all good. Have a great day people.