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For those that marry on credit...u must pass tru this

Soskid:
Yeebos and their abysmal way of life sha.

I tell you..

I mean who does that... more reason why I av problem with them

uncivilzed set of people... na only dem get 'CUSTOM & ANCESTORS'... rubbish

This useless poor people with their barbaric tradition, u better run away from them if you don't want to be in trouble , and they only use religion to cover up their atrocities.

I laugh in chinese, You are suppose to atleast know her parent and if possible she knowing yours and if you guys are already sleeping together then expect a "baby".

Marriage right needs to be done before she starts having children for u. But these days all you see is crazy practices where the ladies starts staying over in a man's house almost every weekend and finally she moves in with him even before marriage.

Men watch out, this should be a lesson for men out there involved in shits like this.

Chai!!! Na wao. This life sha

God will see u tru Jus commit everything to him

olumide81:
Nigerians with cruelty, always taking advantage of a man's problem, while some political aspirants are using the opportunity to sell their candidacy, some family members want to enrich themselves not putting into consideration, the new born babies, the children she left behind , may God bless her soul.

inasmuch i sympathized with the widower, you should know that the man is at fault too why because he did not pay his girlfriend's dowry.

Some people and their bizarre culture. They even have time to be thinking of bride price instead of mourning their late daughter. Nonsense.

kelechiodo:
And for some of you that may claim DNA issue etc. Well no law protects the man now. He cant claim the kkids anywhere in Nigeria. The lady's family can easily allocate lands to them, gave the kids a new surname and claim them. Dont ever toy with customs because Nigeria lwa backs most of them.

well let them make the children bastards cus of money and tradition!
The man made a grave mistake, bur another mistake wunt make the first one right.
by the way, does traditional marriage supercedes legal marriage?

ckmayoca:
Was that suppose to be a second marriage or what? Cos the writer started it with husband and wife? Why another marriage after d woman's death?

Most likely they didn't complete or even do the marriage. If they did, he would have mentioned it.

Millions of couple that go by the title "husband & wife" are not actually married.

People who cannot even pay house rent are very unlikely to afford the expensive marriage ceremony that the family now insist on even in death.

Karlovich:
Pre-historic brain cells at work, smh for some traditons

if u didn't marry the woman properly and such tragedy struck some family may force u to marry the corpse.

Cutehector:
Like one female nairalander told me, always know the customs of d wife's hometown before getting married to her

exactly. oyibo beta pass African own. in this 21st century some part of African still pratice this fetish thing

So touching! R i p to the dead, my regards to my dad! God will surely take perfect care of the twins miraclously!

flokii:
I tell you..

I mean who does that... more reason why I av problem with them

uncivilzed set of people... na only dem get 'CUSTOM & ANCESTORS'... rubbish

And who gives a Bleep about your hate? Condemning a whole region because of the tradition of a group speaks volume about your civility

Don't just pick up someone's daughter and start producing. Children without fulfilling the traditional marital rites. If the woman dies u will be forced to marry the corpse. Breed officially.

There must be more to this issue, maybe the man has not been able to marry the woman cus the family demanded too much from the man initially.

kelechiodo:
Please sir, they are not overated and dont ever toy that line. The wife's family actually own all the kids as no dowry has been paid. What they did to him was just to give him the leeway to claim the children. Without dowry and no wedding of any sort, then the man is just absolutely childless.

Just that this matter is kind complecated. If the wifes famiky should take d children with them they will suffer! And the father of the children will not allow that!

I will have suggest they take thier children by the time the children are grown and start asking for wjom thier father is with cutlass that when you will know who the father is

must you marry from their side once u know that they are barbaric in nature, it is a must you marry from their side and they will be running their mouth about juju while they are pagans

Nicepoker:
Don't just pick up someone's daughter and start producing. Children without fulfilling the traditional marital rites. If the woman dies u will be forced to marry the corpse. Breed officially.

the daughter na item we dem they pick for road abi. she no get mind to think about wetin she want.

antispexish:
the daughter na item we dem they pick for road abi. she no get mind to think about wetin she want.

I hope u never start breeding unofficially

flokii:
I tell you..

I mean who does that... more reason why I av problem with them

uncivilzed set of people... na only dem get 'CUSTOM & ANCESTORS'... rubbish

Yes,am sure in your neck of the woods all you need to call a woman your wife is to pick her up from the street and start reproducing without going through the proper marriage rites,if insisting that a man marries a woman who has given him 4 children properly is primitive,then I would rather stick to my customs..the fear of repercussions for ones actions is what makes us to do the correct thing,so now you know the consequences of not marrying an Igbo woman properly..

Lubbish. They should take the children from the father naw. When the kids are old enough they will use matchete to ask for their father in anger. The man should call their bluff. Nonsense.

Nicepoker:
I hope u never start breeding unofficially

and if I do nko!

money issues can cause embarrassment sha

After i had four children and the unexpected now happened then one family will say i should come and marry corpse and pay bride price Join?

Questions that demands answer is

.During her days on earth? Dint the mother of father normally receive money i sent to them?

Can u question some sturborn pregnancy even if you use the best family planning methods?

I will suggest we start a bid battle!. I will not pay the bride price! So far i have her children in my custody

I will bury her in my house owned by me. And travel out with the children to churn away spoilers!

Ibo n barbaric marriage culture

[quote author=olumide81 post=42905270]Nigerians with cruelty, always taking advantage of a man's problem, while some political aspirants are using the opportunity to sell their candidacy, some family members want to enrich themselves not putting into consideration, the new born babies, the children she left behind , may God bless her soul.

He has himself to blame. He didn't pay her bride price yet took advantage of the woman and had her bore him kids. Traditions like this is used to checkmate corner corner and through the window marriage. I sympathize with him though

olumide81:
Nigerians with cruelty, always taking advantage of a man's problem, while some political aspirants are using the opportunity to sell their candidacy, some family members want to enrich themselves not putting into consideration, the new born babies, the children she left behind , may God bless her soul.

not all parts of Nigeria that you have such selfish and over conscious of money custom please.

donbenie:
Yes,am sure in your neck of the woods all you need to call a woman your wife is to pick her up from the street and start reproducing without going through the proper marriage rites,if insisting that a man marries a woman who has given him 4 children properly is primitive,then I would rather stick to my customs..the fear of repercussions for ones actions is what makes us to do the correct thing,so now you know the consequences of not marrying an Igbo woman properly..

Sorry to ask. Our forefathers how them they marry them self?. Any bride price? Ask some elderly ones.

afroniger:
Lubbish. They should take the children from the father naw. When the kids are old enough they will use matchete to ask for their father in anger. The man should call their bluff. Nonsense.

They can take the children and the man can't do sh!t about it,can't claim what is not legally yours..

More more reason why its gud to b single or marry a white woman..

Why didn't her so call people come and carry her from his house ever since wen she was producing not 1 or 2 kids...

If am d guy I will bury her in my village or the nearby cemetery anything dat wat to happen let it happen. .

Nonsense culture

antispexish:
and if I do nko!

money issues can cause embarrassment sha

if money is the issue. Then the breeding tool should be used with care

donbenie:
They can take the children and the man can't do sh!t about it,can't claim what is not legally yours..

Siddon there. When the kids become adults, if they are smart they will look for their REAL biological father. And if they like they shouldn't na dem sabi. Nonsense custom. Mschew.