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Daniel2289:
Let her go. Her heart is not with you again! Listen to TD JAKES. And I believe with that, u can move on with ur life.

Do not let yourself think that you will never find someone better. There is always someone better.
Just try and have something doing before u make ur next approach. GOODLUCK.

jashar:
free da babe. Imagine if you get married to her. Is this how you'll be begging her?

Like seriously, you begged her to stay? Not cool bro; not cool at all.

Sad fact is babes like that, when the guy don hammer wella, their eyes go come clear 'mysteriously'.

kilode100:
Allow the woman to marry someone else na. You no get get money and That's because you are not ambitious!!

No make me vex for you now o..

Cut her some slacks biko.

Aromas:
what closes their eyes at initial stage?

' mumuism', 'foolishity', 'dumbassery', materialism....just to name a few.

Rooneyboy:
Shut up, he's obviously doing his best to stand as a man in life , it hasn't just cliqued .

Ladies like u don't deserve good guys.

kilode100:
Allow the woman to marry someone else na. You no get get money and That's because you are not ambitious!!

No make me vex for you now o..

Cut her some slacks biko.

jashar:
' mumuism', 'foolishity', 'dumbassery', materialism....just to name a few.

2sex:
I still dey wonder how u go send me PM and yet no reply the PM, even after I tell you I don reply ur PM. Na wa o

Aromas:
Definitely most gals are guilty of this. Oh God bless our parents. I wish I could be part of their modesty generation

amen ooo. But then, there are still modest ladies in this our generation. I've met quite a number.

elprint:
Friends, I would need nothing short of matured advise here as I'm being torn apart here.

We have been dating for almost 4years now; we fell in love while we were serving in Osun State. Our relationship was a very popular one as it got people talking. Without doubt, we loved each other at the time. Service came to a close in June 2012 as a result we parted ways physically. I returned to my base in Lagos while she left for PH. In spite of the distance between us, we still love each other as there was never a day we would chat or talk over phone. Intermittently, we would see in Benin. This situation carried up until July 2014 when I noticed changes in her disposition towards me. I would probe her to tell me about what amiss, she would say nothing was wrong however she wouldn't communicate me if I didn't. This was exactly what raised my suspicion. Towards the end of the same month, she shook me by telling me she had seen someone she wanted to get married. Words cannot describe how I felt that night. It was as if my life would end that night. For days, I went without food. I pleaded with her to rescind on her decision but she told me her mind was made up. I still didn't give up on telling her to be with me. Somehow, she changed her mind and we became good again.

In 2015, I was planning to leave the country for a job, she knows about it, our plan at time was: I'll be there for 2years then I'll come back for our marriage, but things didn't work out as planned. When it became obvious that the plan had collapsed, she began to change, I noticed it, I would probe, she would say there was nothing. She has been to my place a couple of times, my parents and siblings love her so much. I'm been loved by her people too.

Things became real bad in our relationship in August last year that I had to visit her without notice as she wouldn't permit me to come if I had told her I was coming. I told her elder sister what has been going on between us. She appeared to be shocked as she told me that she hasn't introduced anybody to them apart from me. She promised to talk with her about it and that she would change. After that visit, we became good for awhile. She was at my place December when we made beautiful promises to each other. However, things nosedived again in January. She wouldn't call me if I don't; she wouldn't discuss anything about her with me; she appears not to be interested in whatever I do anymore.

I know marriage is her problem but I have assured her that all things being equal, we would get married this year. I know her to be a staunch Catholic but now, she worships at the Winners Chapel. I had asked why she changed her denomination, she would tell me nothing. I'm suspecting she is seeing someone from that church.

Lastnite, I asked her to tell me if were still in a relationship she couldn't give me a definite answer. If I asked her whether to walk away, she would say no. I don't seem to understand her anymore. She has refused to take anything from me since this issue started. We had formerly agreed to see yesterday when she changed her mind about the meeting.

Friends, I really don't know what to do right now. I love her so much. This is the woman I have always wanted to be my wife. I have made a lot of sacrifices just so we can be together. Her attitude is tearing me apart and it is taking a serious toe on what I do. Socially, psychological I'm been affected.

Friends, what do I do? should I pretend as if nothing is wrong and continue with her or I should just let her go? Pls, I need your advice.

Thanks.

jashar:
amen ooo. But then, there are still modest ladies in this our generation. I've met quite a number.

Aromas:
I admit ur point buh the bad ones are edge above the good ones my opinion thou

jashar:
cuz the men keep going for the bad ones and ignore the good ones. If men behave sensibly and not pay attention to 'em bad uns, they bad ones will go extinct. They'll be there, but they won't be many.
How many men honestly want decent ladies with their present lifestyles?
You get what you want.

Aromas:
Don't tell mi men are guilty of this?

see ya head

jashar:
see ya head

Rooneyboy:
Baba , how far.

2sex:
I dey bro. I fit reach u via whatsapp with the number in ur sig?

Rooneyboy:
Shut up, he's obviously doing his best to stand as a man in life , it hasn't just cliqued .

Ladies like u don't deserve good guys.

kilode100:
"Good"man like you that scammed Mreverest of 1k mtn airtime?.. Idiot.

elprint:
I appreciate everyone that took out time to leave comment(s), both the sensible and the most insensible, here. From your comments, I have been able to figure out the best possible way to deal with this situation--- walking away.

Let me immediately cease this time to inform those that think I'm jobless and idle that I'm not. I'm not a lazy type.