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sickstars:
wat does it take to find prince charming

I dont even care bou prince charming but sumone to love me in d right way

Creamish:
U are still very young...it's pointless for you now. Wait till u get to ur 30s..then it would make sense.

yinkeys:
Relationships ain't pointless if you're with the right one. Symbiotic relationships are d.ope.
Just be patient, you don't know what it feels like to find a diamond in this filthy world.
My experience: I've briefly being with someone that has everything I need in a woman, a good head on her shoulder, a good christian,she's genuine,really real, a motivator, i dont know how she does it but she tends to subconciously give biblical answers whenever i ask for her opinion on stuffs, all pretty & all brains too, a summa cum laude for that matter. I left because I wasn't financially ready for marriage. I'd run back whenever I'm ready hopefully she'll still be single

Rone16:
Yeah...You necessarily don't have to get a gf

mayonnaise:
First of all I am a healthy, attractive 22 year old male
that has lived a pretty ordinary life without too many
highs or lows in general, I guess you could say I've
glided through life without experiencing much
happiness or sadness which has caused me to become
very complacent or well just neutral I guess?
I did fairly decent in school with mainly B's in all of my
classes because I never went beyond what was
necessary to pass... anyways moving on... I have
dated 8 girls since the age of 14 but I never really
cared enough to ask them out, they took the initiative
instead and i was like uhm, ok, why not? But after a
week or so I would break up with them because I never
cared enough to call somebody every day and I like my
space, I mean hanging out/dating is okay but doing it
more than once a week is just a bummer in my
opinion, it's just such a drag.
I also have pretty much no interest in sex at all, I mean
it's O.K once in a while if a girl wants too but I don't
enjoy it enough to actually go out of my way to have it
if you catch my drift? It's definitely not worth working
for it at all, I would rather just drink a couple beers and
meditate under the sun or read a good book, maybe
even take a jog for a half hour or something lol. I just
think it's funny when girls are trying to be flirty around
me or call me hot/cute or whatever and I'm more or
less just zoning out and nodding my head to them and
wondering what I'm going to do after lectures so I can
escape my colleagues/people in general.

3rdlegxxx:
The only difference between this dude and myself is that i was once at where you are but at that point, i had gone through a whole lot of sex and straffing and being adventurous and then i got to that point when i just felt men sex is over rated, sometimes chilling, watching a movie, reading or writing and penning down thoughts of the life, people and the world in general seem more fun, then football, i use to tell my friends, what is with dating and must it be a must do? i love my space so much that even my mom or sis around for to long gets me pissed, weid ish but OP i feel you.

Creamish:
U are still very young...it's pointless for you now. Wait till u get to ur 30s..then it would make sense.

sickstars:
thats if i get that "real nigga" if i cant find him

I join the single's club

jamming single ladies by beyonce

mayonnaise:
i understand. I wish the girl understood that too. The 'not necessarilly dating' part

mayonnaise:
easy to say.

3rdlegxxx:
dude you really believe her, i am very sure she herself just said that for saying sake, a lot of people already understand happiness and love as having a good and caring boyfriend, girlfriend and it's a goal, changing that orientation is near impossible, we can deceive ourselves here but when we log off, it's back to hang outs, parties, calling or taking Instagram pictures to look good and all sort all for the opposite sex

mayonnaise:
a diamond in this filthy world. Goodness me that was a beautiful description. I hope your ex understood your reason. If she understood and you're ready financially and she's available why not? Goodluck though

Rone16:
Lol your reading of books is really rubbing off on you which is both good and bad.I think you're just in your own zone and you never want to leave there.Sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone to grow and experience things.Even birds fly out of their nests,they just don't stay there throughout their entire life because it's comfy.My opinion though

mayonnaise:
It was a sarcastic comment. Attention/validation is what everyone seeks and it's a pitiful cycle. You'll never be satisfied. Very few people understand that.

mayonnaise:
you used to be at this point? What happened later on?

3rdlegxxx:
Dude it's psychological, Nigerians level of thinking is still limited, we haven't tapped into the real meaning of happiness, all of nairaland, what rules is the GOD, a fine and sexy boyfriend, a rich guy that can buy her things and that would make her happy or the guys bedding the naughtiest girl here, dressing fine and taking pics with bae, this things are ok but happiness is should end there, everybody loves attention very few understand and crave solitude.

you my friend have at 22 have gone through self awareness and self discovery, for a non sociologist or psychologically minded Nigerian, that's odd; a lot of people just follow the trend, girls chasing the 'ideal guy' while loving the bad guy and player instead and get used in the process of having so much fun, the cycle is crazy, very few can take a step out of the box cos it's a very big box and many don't even see or know it exist.

sickstars:
Yes o relationship are pointless since i started dating my gain has been NOTHING!

ghostwritter:
if u ar d lady then u ar SMART
but if u ar d guy then u ar a FOOL. Hope u ar d lady?

mayonnaise:
Lol you were really blunt there but true. I believe we're not really exposed to what matters. Solitude might as well be an alien word for most if not all. But the majority of the problem is the outstanding level of hypocrisy.

mayonnaise:
getting married. That's a bridge i'll have to cross. Understood. I hope i'l meet a lady that sees the world the way i do. But, dating so many people as is the trend now is pointless or so i believe.

3rdlegxxx:
hypocrisy and hypocritical thinking and living is almost a natural way of life for most people, most Nigerians form a whole lot, non virgins forming virgins for acceptance, good guys forming bad guys and players online, offline they are quite the opposite, people asslicking, a lot of people.......... sorry work calls brback

irunooboo:
Come to ekiti

sickstars:
Im a lady

3rdlegxxx:
They was a time i use to feel, why do we have to get married, can't we just have kids and still live happy, marriage use to seem like an unthinkable and a not so important thing as i get bored easily, well sometimes and gosh sometimes i just love my space and maybe some time out like like minded friends, like minded could be naughty, open minded, adventurous or cool thinkers anyways seeing some married folks look so happy and understanding that sometimes meeting someone with a open mind, curious and understanding lady, fun and all then again, it doesn't sound that bad..

sickstars:
Yes o relationship are pointless since i started dating my gain has been NOTHING!

jonaifame22:
is ur hymen still intact? Jus askin though, I've taken cover already should in case you choose to throw one shoes at me for asking dis innocent question

sickstars:
If it was intact i wud av gained SOMETHING
Its too late for all dat
I av a place to be !!!!

Rone16:
Who the Bleep are you ,what is your buisness here and are you trying to be funny.Grow up and learn to mind your business.If you have an opinion which I know your empty brain doesn't have then drop it and learn to mind your business.Never quote me again if you don't have anything reasonable to say

mayonnaise:
Exactly! Exactly! Exactly! You can have a lady. Have kids with her. And be happy. Not necessarily get married. But be happy. Genuinely. But then, society will crucify you. There has to be a straightforward, open-minded, Real, independent and lady who loves her solitude in this lovely nation.

mayonnaise:
Lol you're just too real man!! People like you occupy my very small circle.